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The Ultimate Guide To Disciplining Without Damage For Every Age
The Ultimate Guide To Disciplining Without Damage For Every Age
The Ultimate Guide To Disciplining Without Damage For Every Age
t i m a t e
The
U l
GUIDE TO DISCIPLINING
WITHOUT DAMAGE
FOR EVERY AGE
ARABELLA HILLE
TOP
ELLER
S
Reduce Defiance & Increase
Cooperation For Every Age
"It's helped me more than any other parenting book" - Jen H
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Table of Contents
Introduction..........................................................1
Table of Contents
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Introduction
Dear Caregiver,
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1. “If you don’t like it, you have the power to change it.”
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“If you don’t like it, you have the power to change it.”
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Succinctly…Parents worry.
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This time…
This time…
This time...
Hmmm... Maybe next time things will be better!
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In this book, you will learn a lot about the core needs
of your child by working backward. You will look at
their behavior and work backward to find the root
cause and the need it communicates. Once the need
is fulfilled, then you will see behavioral change.
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Of course not. You get a new tire. It’s the same in life.
Just because it looks like you’ve come to the end of
something doesn’t mean it’s not worth pursuing.
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I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase, “life only works if you
do,” or “practice makes perfect.” This book will work if
you do. Diligent, consistent practice in the pursuit of
becoming Victorious will yield the results you desire.
Use all of your senses and your intuition. Along with
these strategies, I know you will become Victorious
and Transform Your Home-Life!
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Arabella Hille
BSocSc(Behavioural
Studies) Swinburne
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All behavior is a form
of communication.
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Ar e
Hill
Chapter 1
Disciplining Without
Damage
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We tend to think...
Samuel Butler was wrong and for the last 300 years,
we have had it wrong. Knowing that is freeing
because now we can choose a different path.
I am pro-unification.
I am pro-family.
Whatever that family looks like.
No matter the size, religion, or beliefs.
I am pro-family.
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Why?
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You might say “Get out of the kitchen now, it’s not a
place for you to play in!”
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Write it down.
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Discipline means to
guide and correct.
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Ar e
Hill
Chapter 2
The Four Styles
of Parenting
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1. Authoritarian
2. Authoritative
3. Permissive
4. Uninvolved
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Authoritarian Parenting
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How confusing!
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Style:
Unresponsive.
Strict rules.
High expectation with little support.
Expects obedience at any cost.
Punishment, threats, fear, intimidation to elicit
control.
Demands respect rather than cultivating it.
A top-down approach to communication.
Unpredictable and fickle.
Authoritative Parenting
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Style:
Fair and open-minded.
Communication flows in all directions.
Warm, and nurturing, but firm.
Encourages critical thinking, and negotiation.
Are astute listeners, they make their children.
feel seen, heard, and understood.
High expectations with high responsiveness to
their children’s needs.
Consistent and true to their word.
Steers away from name-calling, blame, shame.
Disciplines instead of punish.
Disciples their children.
Flexible and adaptable but not unpredictable
or fickle.
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Permissive Parenting
Style:
Nurturing and loving.
Consult with their children about their
opinions and ideas.
Value freedom at any cost.
Avoids placing expectations and responsibility
upon their child.
Inconsistent with boundaries and rule setting.
They give into demands for toys, food etc.
Their goal is to befriend their child.
The child is left to themselves to regulate their
own behavior without the tools to do so, with
no real consequences for inappropriate
behavior.
Uninvolved Parenting
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Style:
Children raise themselves with little support.
Unaware of their children’s inner lives.
Little or no expectations.
Limited time with their kids.
Kids are left to their own devices.
Demonstrate a lack of emotional intelligence,
warmth or nurturing behaviors.
Is unaware of their child’s academic.
performance, achievements or anything that
the child is interested in.
Dismissive of their child’s emotional needs.
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“You have the power to
choose and experience
your desired outcomes –
So choose wisely.”
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Ar e
Hill
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Obedience & Conformity
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It’s like the age-old saying “if you run after money, it
will run away from you”.
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Conformity is a relational
way of helping your
children to comply with
the rules you've set.
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Ar e
Hill
Chapter 4
What To Do When
You Lose It
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Breathe deeply.
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Happy?
Sad?
Neutral?
Tired?
It doesn’t matter, feel it, and notice it. Don’t fight it,
or try to change it just notice it.
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I am here to tell you that you can cope with it. It’s
ok. Everybody runs from how they feel at times.
However, running from your feelings amplifies
them. What you resist will persist. The key is to
allow yourself to feel how you are feeling and not
bottle it up inside. If you feel sad it’s ok, you are
not going to fall apart because you are sad. Just
notice it.
Is it soft or hard?
What do you like or dislike about it?
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What you run from
will persist
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Ar e
Hill
Chapter 5
How to Manage
Defiant Behavior
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Then you might say, “So, Jenny is the girl whom you
enjoy playing ball with the most." "Playing ball makes
you happy and spending time with Jenny is fun."
"When she broke her promise to you it meant that the
fun you expected to have with her today didn’t
happen.”
She might say, "I told her that I hate her now." At
this point, you might want to jump in and say, well
that’s a bit over the top, or rude, or say something
along those lines but don’t. Instead, help her think
deeply by saying, “Have you ever broken your
promise to Jenny or anyone else?”.
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Make small adjustments
to encourage more of the
good.
abel la
Ar e
Hill
Chapter 6
Toddlers 1-3 Years Old
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They might just nod their head and say yes. It's a
good start, but you must train them like this every
day until you see a change. Remember behaviors
are habits that communicate needs. Toddlers at
this stage are developing habits fast.
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You can just sit with them and let them cry and
exhaust themselves out. It can be hard when they
do this in public especially when strangers
comment. Just ignore what people say and do
what’s right for your toddler in the moment.
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Say the object's name, i.e Milk. “Do you want some
milk?" Then make sure your toddler can clearly see
your lips moving and your entire face. Get on their
level eye to eye and say, “Please mommy can I have
some milk”?
abel la
Ar e
Hill
Chapter 7
Preschoolers 3-5 Years
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Childhood is the training
ground for a long journey -
the journey is life.
abel la
Ar e
Hill
Chapter 8
Middle Childhood
6-12 Years
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I’d say,
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abel la
Ar e
Hill
Chapter 9
Teens 13-19 Years
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Remember;
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“If not, you can leave, and I will inform your parents.”
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1.Mood swings.
5.Ego-centric behavior.
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·Sweats
·Trouble sleeping
·Pain
·Grumpiness
·Moodiness
·Craving for more food
·Lethargy
Hormones!
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1. Mood swings.
2. Argumentative behavior.
3. Staying up late.
4. Not cleaning their room.
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Sharing stories about your
teen years will help your
adolescent to feel better
about the changes they
are going through.
abel la
Ar e
Hill
Chapter 10
Self-esteem, Emotional
Intelligence & Discipline
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1. Self-esteem
2. Discipline
3. Emotional Intelligence
1.Self-awareness
2.Emotional regulation
3.Self-motivation
4.Empathy
5.Social Intelligence
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Self-esteem & Emotional
Intelligence go hand in
hand with Disciplining
Without Damage.
abel la
Ar e
Hill
Chapter 11
Abusive Behavior
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Nothing.
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One of the girls said, "I don't care I've been arrested
before!" I said, "Ok, stand right there and you will be
arrested again in just a few minutes."
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They may have started the war, but you must end
it by refusing to participate by their rules.
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I let him rant it out. I didn't stop him and tell him
to calm down. I stood there Grey Rock Style and
in a low, calm tone. I said to him, "I understand how
it feels to be frustrated like that, but ranting at the
top of your voice makes it worse, and you've made
me feel stressed out too."
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I said, "Let this feeling sink in deep, really feel it. This
is how it feels to sit with your frustration and work
through it until you solve the problem."
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Sit down with the whole family and set out the
new standards and consequences. Ask each
member of the family how they would feel if they
were abused in this way? Agree upon a standard
together. Make a pact. Unify yourselves.
abel la
Ar e
Hill
Bonus Content
Downloadables & More
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Podcast Episodes
Here you'll find my podcasts relating to self-esteem
and other behaviors.
https://anchor.fm/victoriousparenting/episodes/E3
8-When-Your-Child-Hurts-Your-Feelings-e18qpl0/a-
a6n46k4
Overcoming Worry
https://anchor.fm/victoriousparenting/episodes/E3
4-Overcoming-Worry-e18eg2c/a-a6lj0v5
https://anchor.fm/victoriousparenting/episodes/E3
1-Effort--Reward-euns0e/a-a4d8vjo
https://anchor.fm/victoriousparenting/episodes/E2
5-The-Fallacy-of-More-et69np/a-a4d8vjo
Blog Posts
Here you'll find my blog posts relating to self-esteem
and other behaviors.
https://victoriousparenting.com/blog/5-ways-
parents-can-build-confidence
https://victoriousparenting.com/blog/a-formula-
for-kids-who-won-t-listen.
https://victoriousparenting.com/blog/8-tips-to-
boost-your-child-s-self-esteem
https://victoriousparenting.com/blog/overcoming-
the-fear-of-failure
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The Sphere of Control - A tool for Anxiety
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control
Self-esteem Quiz
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Digital Notebook
https://victoriousparenting.com/victorious-
parenting-digital-notebook
Logical Consequences
https://victoriousparenting.com/logical-
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https://victoriousparenting.com/behavioral-
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