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ATTN 04 11 SocialChallenge
ATTN 04 11 SocialChallenge
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THE SOCIAL IMPACT OF ADHD CAN TAKE A TOLL, not only in personal life, but also in the workplace.
Especially in this time of job loss and uncertainty, it would benefit everyone to be mindful of
the social challenges ADHD can sometimes present in the workplace.
Many times a job is spared or someone is promoted not just be- be compared to investing money. You might decide to not
cause of their workplace performance, but rather because of their invest your money right now. You have it under your mattress.
ability to form and maintain social relationships in the workplace. You are however still investing your money. You are choosing
Fortunately, there are strategies, structures, and supports to help to invest it at zero percent interest under your mattress. Or,
mitigate many social errors and missteps. It is also equally im- if you take your hands off a wheel and choose not to steer a
portant to lead with your strengths. moving boat, you are still responsible for the direction of the
boat. If you are not actively paying attention to relationships
Lead with your strengths in the workplace, you are less likely to be doing well—espe-
Everyone has strengths. Sometimes with ADHD there is so cially with ADHD onboard.
much emphasis on what is not working well that strengths are The Relationships generally require
overlooked or placed on the backburner. What strengths do you workplace work for individuals with ADHD to
bring to social relationships? What relationship skills have people IS manage well. Challenges with fluctuat-
acknowledged either in or out of workplace in the past? Are there ing attention span, impulsivity, and (at
ways to use those strengths more in the workplace? While it is a social times) hyperactivity generally need to
important to manage your challenges, it is also important to environment. be actively managed. It is understand-
exploit and build on your strengths. able that adding these social skills to job
Try this: performance skills feels like an additional burden. However, if
Each day intentionally set out to build or improve a workplace relationships are not managed well, your job per-
relationship at work though an area of your strength. formance may not matter as much as you think.
If you are kind, find a situation to demonstrate your
kindness. If you are funny, brighten someone’s day.
16 Attention
PPIRKIWEX<SVO FOR MORE INFO
Check out the Job Accommodation Network
for more tips on workplace accommodations:
http://askjan.org/media/adhd.html.
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Late again When in doubt about what to say,
Running late is common for individ
individu-
idu
id u- asking a question about the other
als with ADHD. Time management nt iis person will usually save the day. Most
also a relationship management iss issue.
ssue
ue.
ue folks enjoy talking about themselves.
frustrate
Running late is a quick way to frustrarate
ra te
Subtext and picking up social cues
and alienate relationships. It can even
eve
ven
ve n
It would be great if people always
cost you your job. One of my clienclients
ents
en ts
said exactly what they meant. It is
was fired for lateness even though he
difficult enough for individuals with
was an outstanding employee. It wa was
ADHD to hear all that is said. In the
demoralizing to the team to have h himim
workplace, more often in than non-
arrive whenever he pleased.
work environments, people often
When you are late at the wor work-
orkk-
or
drop subtle hints and clues. Office
person-
place, others often take it person on-
on
speak is often dialed back due to oth-
ally. In addition to thinking that yyou ou
ers’ navigating relationships—play-
don’t take your job seriously, to them em
ing the game.
it could also means you don’t valu value
lue
lu
Individuals with ADHD need to
their time. Whatever you wanted d to
develop ways to not only hear what is
do was more important
po than
to yyou thahan
ha n
said, but to also pay attention to the
hold-
what they wanted to do. You are hold
ho ld-
ld
subtle
btle clues
lu that
ha would
uld let
le them
th kknow
ing them hostage waiting for you you.
ou.. It
if what was said
sa is actually what is meant.
may also leave others picking up the the sslack. None of these
are endearing qualities for building
ng sucsuccessful
ucce relationships.
cessful rela
lationships. Try this:
Try checking
checki
king
ng your understanding of a meeting or
Try this:
conversati tion with someone who seems to navigate
conversation
Redefine your concept of “on time
time.”
me.”
me.” F
For most,t, if you
relationshship
relationshipsip well. Run your understanding by them
have a nine o’clock meeting you wowoul
uld aim to be at
would
to see if th
that
at is also their understanding.
the meeting at nine o’clock. Cha
hang
nge yo
ng
Change your targe
get to at
target
least ten minutes ahead. Plan to bbe at the nin
ine o’clock
nine Watch part
part of a television show that is prerecorded
meeting at eight-fifty. Bring som
omet
om ethi
hing to do, or better
something without sound.
soun By only looking at the faces and body
so
yet, plan to connect with people aand
nd build rel
elationships
relationships languagege,, see
language, se what you can pick up. Replay that section
in the few minutes before the me
meet
etin
ing.
meeting. and checkk your
yo accuracy. Replay a few times if needed
to see what
wha
hatt you might have missed.
If the meeting
ng involves travel,
el, ad
add d ad
additi al time
additional im to
you arrival. Allowing an eextxtra
xt
extrara thirty mi
minutes can
your team?
Who is on your
save you in the event of a ttra
raffi
ra ffic delay.
traffic
You
Y ou are want to work with an ADHD coach or psy-
You may want
playing
playying i
chologist to improve your ability to navigate relation-
Talking too much or too lilitt
ttle
le
little
the
the wo
ships. This would be especially important if you have
Regulating speech can ofofte
ten feel like a full-time
te
often
“game.”
“g
game.” en alerted that there are concerns about your
already been
job for individuals with A
ADHDHD. Somee have been
DH
ADHD.
performancnce and need to make changes as quickly as
performance
accused of talking too much,
muc
uch,
uc h, w
while oth
others
thers for not
Ther
Th er are also a few books available as well as
possible. There
jumping in enough.
rs on
teleseminars o the topic to help.
Try this if you talk too much:
It’s difficult to build and maintain
maint
ntai
nt ain relationships
relationsh
ships if you It’s worth it
use monologues rather than dia dialogues.
ialo
ia gues. Use a vibrating
logu relatio
ions
Good relationships in the workplace can translate into
settingg on your
y cell p phone orr watch
watc
wa tch to cue
ue yyou every
ry more money ey for
f you and your employer—and more job
few minutes to remind you
you to stop talking.
talk
lking. security It’s
security. ’s probably
p worth the extra time and energy
Consider askingg someone
meone you
some
so yo trust to pl the game well. You might even find a few
to learn to play
prompt you with a glance,
glan
glance, pen tap or even alon
ong the way. ●
friends along A
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