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Dating Table
Dating Table
3. Veil. The Maid of Honor is in charge of keeping your The Dove: The dove represents peace and tranquility,
veil in place and neat during the ceremony. which is the hoped-for blessing between a man and
woman. If the dove holds a ring in its beak, the symbol is
4. Engagement ring. There are two ways of dealing connected with "the marriage made in heaven."
with the engagement ring during the ring exchange:
a. The ring stays on the left hand and the wedding band The Heart: Obvious in meaning, the heart represents
goes next to it. This indicates that the engagement came love. When used in pairs, two hearts represent the bride
first and then the wedding. This is a very common and groom in holy union
practice in many cultures and countries.
b. The ring goes to the right hand, the wedding band Traditions
goes to the left hand and then the engagement ring goes 1. Wedding Day…
next to it. This indicates that the wedding band is closer Monday for health,
to your heart. Tuesday for wealth,
c. Either way is fine. Do the one you feel more Wednesday's the best of all.
comfortable with. Thursday brings crosses,
And Friday losses,
5. Bouquet. You give it to the Maid of Honor after she But Saturday - no luck at all.
fixes your veil at the beginning of the ceremony. She will Tears from the bride or a child during the wedding
give it back to you after you sign your Marriage service is considered lucky.
Certificate.
2. Wedding dress…
6. Walking down the isle: father or stepfather. Your Married in white - You have chosen a right.
father is the one who should walk you down the isle. If Married in blue, Your lover is true.
he passed away or your relationship with him is not Married in pink, Your fortunes will sink.
good, your brother can take his place. If neither your Married in green, You will not long be seen
father nor your brother are available for any reason, your Married in red, You'll wish you were dead
stepfather can walk you down the isle. Bottom line: your Married in yellow, Ashamed of the fellow.
blood family should be considered first. Married in brown You'll live out of town.
Married in grey, You'll live far away.
Reception Etiquette Married in black, You'll wish you were back
The reception equals party. It is time to celebrate with It is good luck for the groom not to see the dress before
your family and friends your new life. There are some the wedding day. It will bring more luck if he does not
etiquette rules to follow glance at the dress as the bride walks down the aisle.
Entering the hall. The order to enter the hall is as
follows: 3. Something old, something new…
a. Parents of the bride This saying dates back to Victorian time and the full
b. Parents of the groom version is 'something old, something new, something
c. Bridesmaids and Groomsmen in pairs borrowed, something blue and a silver sixpence in her
d. Maid of Honor and Best Man shoe.
e. Flower girl and ring bearer
a) Something Old represents the link with the bride's couple to relax and spend a few blissful days away from
family and the past. A common solution many brides the reality of the real world.
choose is to wear a piece of family jewelry or their
mother's or grandmother's wedding dress. f. Carrying the Bride Over the Threshold: The ancient
Romans began this tradition based on a mythological
b) Something New represents good fortune and success story. It was believed that it was bad luck for the bride to
in the bride's new life. The wedding dress is often trip over the threshold. To make sure that this didn't
chosen as the new item. happen, the groom would lift her up and carry her over.
Carrying the bride over the threshold protects her from
c) Something Borrowed is to remind the bride that any evil spirits that may be lurking in the new home.
friends and family will be there for her when help is
needed. The borrowed object might be something such g. June Brides: Maybe you've heard the saying:
as a lace handkerchief or an item of jewelry. "Blessed is the bride on whom the sun doth shine." At
one time it was considered lucky to marry in a sunny
d) Something Blue symbolizes of faithfulness and loyalty month. The sun was considered a fertilizing power, and
and dates back to biblical times when blue represented the moon was supposed to be the guardian of lovers.
purity. Frequently the brides garter is the blue item. Since the moon shines brighter in June, the time was
ripe for a productive marriage.
e) Silver Sixpence in her Shoe is to wish the bride wealth
both financial and happiness. h. Cake Cutting and Sharing the First Toast: Cutting the
cake together is said to have several meanings:
4. Customary Traditions… It is considered to be the married couples first
a. The bride stands on the left of the groom during the joint act of hospitality, and in cutting it together,
marriage ceremony to allow his sword arm to be free the bride and groom are thought to be
ready to fight off other men who may want her as their announcing equal responsibility to serve one
bride. another's friends and family.
symbolizes sharing of all life's food to come,
b. Giving the Bride Away: Today marriage is a state while still others trace the custom to deeper
where man and woman freely choose to live their lives meanings rooted in the concept of man and
together. But, at one time, women were regarded as woman providing spiritual sustenance for each
property. Fathers sold daughters, bartered them off, or other.
gave them away as gifts. As time passed, marriage
became an arrangements between families, and then DEATH and FUNERAL
finally, marriage became a free choice. The custom of
the father giving the bride away is a direct descended Funeral - is a ceremony marking a person's death.
tradition from the reality of the father actually giving his - often officiated by clergy from the decedent's
daughter as property. Today, the tradition is connected or bereaved's church or religion.
with the love between a father and daughter. The father
symbolically passes the responsibility of caring for his A funeral may take place at either a funeral
beloved daughter to the man which she has chosen to home or church. A funeral is usually held three to five
marry. days after the death of the deceased. Some people
consider it important to conduct the funeral exactly three
c. Throwing the Bouquet and Garter: In 14th century days after the death.
France, the garter was valued as a charm which would
bring good fortune. Guests rushed to gain possession of Funerary customs comprise the complex of
the garter and in the scuffle, they were getting hurt. beliefs and practices used by a culture to remember the
Soon, the bride decided that it would be safer to remove dead, from the funeral itself, to various monuments,
the garter and throw it to the crowd. The custom of prayers, and rituals undertaken in their honor. These
throwing the bouquet is said to have originated from this customs vary widely between cultures, and between
practice. The bouquet is now considered to bring a religious affiliations within cultures.
marriage proposal to the maiden who catches it.
Funeral services:
d. Throwing Rice: Rice, birdseed, or confetti throws are prayers
symbols of wishes for fertility. Throwing rice or birdseed readings from the Bible or other sacred texts
is a way of wishing the couple healthy and happy hymns (sung either by the attendees or a hired
offspring. Today, brides usually choose birdseed vocalist)
because of the environmental hazards caused by rice.
and words of comfort by the clergy.
e. The Honeymoon: Like the tradition of giving the bride
Frequently, a relative or close friend will be asked to
away, the honeymoon is vested in the ancient custom of
give a eulogy, which details happy memories and
kidnapping the bride and carrying her away. For the
accomplishments; often commenting on the deceased's
flaws.
sandwiches, certain fruits, olives, celery, dry cakes and
During the funeral and at the burial service, the casket cookies.
may be covered with a large arrangement of flowers,
called a casket spray. If the decedent served in a branch Which glasses go with what drinks
of the Armed forces, the casket may be covered with an
American flag. It is considered inappropriate to use both. The glass also needs to taper properly toward the top so
that it captures the bouquet yet allows for sipping. In
Mourning - is in the simplest sense synonymous with general, the stem of a glass should be long enough to
grief over the death of someone. keep hands from touching the bowl, which can affect the
The word is also used to describe a cultural complex of wine's temperature, and therefor its bouquet.
behaviors in which the bereaved participate or are
expected to participate.
Etiquette
a. Water: full body glass with short stem. Hold the glass
Distant relatives and acquaintances may be by the stem to preserve its chill.
called upon to attend the visitation. b. Brandy: brandy snifter. Roll the snifter between both
The decedent's closer relatives and local friends hands and then cup it in one hand - warming the glass
attend the funeral or memorial service, and brings out the bouquet in brandy.
subsequent burial (if it is held immediately after c. White wine: slightly smaller glass with wider bowl to
the memorial service). capture the bouquet. Hold the glass by the stem to
The bereaved and other attendees at a funeral preserve its chill.
wear semi-formal clothing—such as a suit and d. Burgundy Reds and Pinot Noirs: a wide bowl to
tie for men or a dress for women—in a darker bring out their complexity. The glass is slightly taller than
color (usually, gray, dark blue or black). Women the white wine glass.
who are grieving the death of their husband or a e. Champagne: a narrow fluted glass, which reduces
close partner sometimes wear a veil to conceal the wine's surface area and keep the bubbles from
the face, although the veil is not common now. dissipating.
It is a distinct rudeness to leave a mobile f. Red wine: the bigger of the wine glasses. Hold the
telephone on audible mode at a funeral service, glass at the bottom of the bowl where it meets the stem
as its ringing automatically interrupts the service.
Sandwiches
13) Do not smack your lips. Making noises while eating
is very unpleasant and it is a lack of consideration
towards the other people at the table.
15) Do not saw your food. This also gives the impression
you are having a hard time cutting your food. Just make
one stroke towards you.
19) Do not wipe your face with the napkin. Eat carefully
enough to just pad your mouth if anything at all.
22) Do not rock the chair. The four legs of your chair
must be on the floor at all times.