Rees Hite (haainisnd Petron fe whale), i 4 Prychdogical, Apuic, Pied tty dail fasua Tehmina Durrani, a Pakistani English authoress who was raised in the privileged milieu of Lahore high society details her traumatic relationship with her second partner, Gulam Mustafa Khar, in her autobiography. This book is about the authoress, who was born into an affluent, well-off Pakistani family and has been ‘subjected to the repression of this same culture since early life. She was expected to marry a wealthy Muslim from a noble family, bear him many children, and live a luxurious lifestyle of air-conditioned solitude, as were all women of her status. She continued to move in the best channels after marrying Mustafa Khar, and she learned to maintain the image and reputation of a fashionable, well-educated wife and mother of four children. Mustafa Khar, an influential and trustworthy politician in the Zulfiqar Bhutto government who later became Punjab's chief minister, was not an egomaniac by birth; rather, he was "developed" by society's patriarchal attitudes against women. ; She suffered alone and in isolation for fourteen years of her marriage. She illustrates how she used words to educate us of her misery and agony, as well as to awaken the sleeping lioness inside her. Tehmina further emphasizes the partiality of the rhetoric, which views sex as an instrument of supremacy instead of just a form of reciprocal gratification and pleasure. Women have often been oe to social constraints that result in setbacks, to share her story following her divorce. When Pakistani publishers refused to print her manuscript because of its controversial character, she self- published it. The book was a shocking revelation that stunned Pakistani society to its heart. She, at last, was someone who had managed to reconcile her Islamic faith with her strong belief in women's rights.In this patriarchal and prejudiced culture, every woman, she emphasizes, must endure before she discovers her hidden lioness. Three parts in the book: - My Feudal Lord is divided into three sections, dubbed Lion of Punjab, Law of Jungle, and Lioness, respectively. Tehmina's transformation from an everyday aristocratichousewife to a liberated human being fighting for equal justice and women's liberation can be traced across these segments. IL. Lion of Punjab-She reveals the dark side of Mustafa in this section as she bears the brutality of being Mustafa's wife. Ione Womanhoodi? He smacked her both verbally and Psychologically. There are numerous moments in the plot that demonstrate that gender discrimination in society and familial bonds are the root of women's oppression. (Accordingito Tehminay? (HOSESP They talked about disobedient servants, apparel, jewels, and interior decorating over hours. Tehmina was no exception to this norm, and she meticulously fashioned herself to suit her husband's expectations, whether it was in terms of looks, attire, or cosmetics. Furthermore, she Welighted in the traditional societal norms of a married woman's conduct. Mustafa rapediTéhiminalinla)hostile’mannery He also tortured his ex-wife Sherezade and consequently cheated her with Tehmina thus wounding her for life. for her Her ability to endure Mustafa's tortures is due to an entrenched patriarchal value that instills a sense of dependence in the essence of womanhood. This includes the husband's physical dominance over the woman. Mustafa wore his manly ego in abusing the socially weak women. Law of the Jungle- Part Two of the novel is set in the politically contentious aftermath of General Zia's coup, which overthrew Prime Minister Zulfiqar Ali Bhutto's government and established a military regime. Mustafa, a Bhutto supporter, has fallen out of favor with the new administration following his immigration to London via Mecca, where he had an affair with Durrani’s younger sister ‘Adila.’ Mustafa promised General Zia's government that he will return from London with some valuable documents that will facilitate in the utter liquidation of the Bhutto government and thereby demonstrate Mustafa's adherence to Pakistan's current military regime. However, Mustafa's ambiguity is overcome after he arrives in London, and he agrees to remain committed to the Bhutto government.Tehmina makes some shocking allegations about Khar's links to India's RAW in a plan to assassinateIll. Zia. Since no one is with her — not even her family - Tehmina must withstand Mustafa's physical threats and attacks as a part of her existence. ering) on the other randh blames her sister for the affair and claims to her mother that her sister has been seducing Mustafa. Tehmina's one-sided complaint stems from her need to defend her husband's honor in her parents’ home. Mustafa, however, batters her with the butt of his double-barreled shotgun and strips her naked as a result.Tehmina's stories knock Off the stereotyped radical religious facade of Pakistani high society down, exposing the scummy underbelly of the country's clandestine privileged notions. Lioness-khar demonstrates oneself to be a man with many mood swings.He has so brainwashed her into fantasizing for a perfect future and seeing him as the champion of democracy that she fights dicslessly and successfully for his release.Hellchastises mina conducts monthly visits to Mustafa, who is imprisoned, and continues to rally social solidarity for him. He has no choice but to be with her, so he keeps his cool.JHis} ”, Tehmina is also healing from surgery and is physically ravaged by the wounds he inflicts/Hé rapes) This is the final edge, because she seeks the Islamic "Khula,” or divorce, which is granted to women who voluntarily give up alll title to property. |Mustafayy only hope of gettingyoutgof jail; When Hoag neta bea eia released pul prison, he reveals his true self: he is the same arrogant, greedy, egoistic, and possessive man who was imprisoned. He is envious of Tehmina’s national image and support, and he refuses to accept any of her sacrifices in his release from prison, and on the domestic front, he resumes his forbidden relationship with his sister-in-law Adila. Tehmina, on the other hand, is no longer docile, obedient, submissive, or receptive.She decides to terminate her relationship and bring an end to her life's sufferings. In this patriarchal and prejudiced culture, every woman, she emphasizes, must endure before she discovers her hidden lioness.Tehmina paid a hefty price for her rebellion: as a Muslim woman pursuing a divorce, she was signed away from all matrimonial support, lost custody of her fourchildren, and became estranged from her friends and shunned by her family. She felt compelled to share her story following her divorce. When Pakistani publishers refused to print her manuscript because of its controversial character, she self-published it. The book was a shocking revelation that stunned Pakistani society to its heart. She, at last, was someone who had managed to reconcile her Islamic faith with her strong belief in women’s rights. OPRESSION AND PREJUDICE AGAINST WOMEN AT THE CORE Emotionally scarring childhood-tehmina was constantly under pressure to live up to her mother’s expectations and in case of her inability to do so, made her suffer from inferiority complex. In in a Muslim country like Pakistan, a girl is required to stay within her constraints and suppress her childish excitement in order to grow up to be a decent woman. About the fact that Tehmina's father never controlled her mother, instead controlling him at all times, she made a traditional bargain with her daughter. That is, when culture and ideology pressured her to educate her children appropriately with absolute guidance, she may have found it too aificult to obey. [She also admitted that she wes embarrassed to Introduce y Writing is fundamentally an act of breaking a woman's silence all around the world (such as Toni Morrison, Zadie Smith, Virginia Wolf, Arundhati Roy, Jane Austen,) particularly in the Asian culture, because her oppressive patriarchal/racial culture has conditioned her to be socially mute. The feminine is fundamentally a suppressed consciousness that exists outside of patriarchal discourse. Tehmina Durrani's 'My Feudal Lord’ provides such an insight into the marginal self. In this patriarchal and prejudiced culture, every woman, she emphasizes, must endure before she discovers her hidden lioness. Take clues from opinion and her journey. Despite being from a wealthy family with a political history and eventually obtained quality education, Tehmina Durrani was subjected to brutal torment by her husband, Ghulam Mustafa Khar. Tehmina had been taught to avoid boys and men since she was a teenager, but a man was obviouslythe only option for a Pakistani girl's future. Such are the double standards of the Pakistani society. Tehmina's first marriage, at the age of seventeen, to Anees, was the culmination of this social tradition. Initially, it was her desire to leave her home's stiffening setting. FEUDALISM -tehmina Durrani attributes the severe form of torture on women to the feudal regime. ffeudalirulers//accordingitolTehminay believe! Feudalism offers men the strength and legitimacy to be cruel to the so-called lesser sex in its own crafted rules. espite Mustafa's claims that he is ant feudalism, it is his educated traits of a feudal lord that led to his catastrophic relationship with Tehmina Durrani, his sixth wife. Helalsovhadvextramaritalyy d was enabled to do so because feudalism val his impromptu deeds and choices. Sociopathic traits of Mustafa Khar A sociopath is a person who suffers from a personality disorder and lacks conscience as well as self-identity. This means that such a person will not have a unique identity and will modify his or her whole personality depending on circumstances. These traits predominate in a sociopath's personality: shallow sophistication and good intellect, deprivation of guilt and embarrassment, unreliability, absence of nervousness, misjudgment and inability to understand from experience, incapacity for affection, pathological egomania. Talk about Mustafa Khar from the three parts. In his personal affairs, he is the polar opposite of the charismatic figure he embodies in public. OPINION AND HER JOURNEYNriting is fundamentally an act of breaking a woman's silence all around the world(such as Toni Morrison, Zadie Smith, Virginia Wolf, Arundhati Roy, Jane ‘Austen,) particularly in the Asian culture, because her oppressive patriarchal/racial culture has conditioned her to be socially mute. The feminine is fundamentally a suppressed consciousness that exists outside of patriarchal discourse. Tehmina Durrani's 'My Feudal Lord’ provides such an insight into the marginal self. In this patriarchal and prejudiced culture, every woman, she emphasizes, must endure before she discovers her hidden lioness My Feudal Lord is divided into three sections, dubbed Lion of Punjab, Law of Jungle, and Lioness, respectively. Tehmina's transformation from an everyday aristocratic housewife to a liberated human being fighting for equal justice and women's liberation can be traced across these segments. Then write the key takeaway of the three parts. You may write about your observations here. This book rests on my bookshelf, as well as several other shelves, files, and collections, reminding me that there are countless shoulders that lean and ache with the stigma of femaleness, while I have the luxury of trumpeting it as I compose my answers in an exam or post content on social media exerting feminism, pointing out misogyny, and flaunting my privilege, ‘destiny’, and independence. Women are seen as subhuman in Pakistani culture, where Islamic patriarchs rule the roost, both intellectually and socially. Her primary purpose appears to be to fulfill the sexual desires of men and to ensure the survival of the species. Mustafa becomes bolstered by his father-in-approval laws and demeanor, and to make matters worse, he begins seducing Tehmina's younger sister Adila while repeatedly harassing Tehmina. Tehmina reconciles with her brute of a husband once more as she is left with no financial and emotional resources and the prospect of a grim future. The final nail in the coffin comes when Tehmina gets pregnant again and is forced to see a male doctor due to unforeseen circumstances. Mustafa's pride is wounded, and he regards Tehmina's visit to a male doctor as an unforgivable transgression. This is a glimpse into the sexual vanity of a feudal lord who views his woman as a possession. For the first time in her life, she considers divorce, but she knows she will have to choose her daughter's right over her own. I felt the crippling darkness of the corner Tehmina Durrani was thrust into, which prompted her to reveal “spicy” descriptions of her life for public display, as a resident of a patriarchal society where the societal default forwomen is to shut up against oppression. Patriarchal rhetoric views sex as a weapon of dominion rather than a form of mutual sexual gratification. This is why Tehmina wants to keep her marriage to Mustafa alive, knowing full well that a divorced woman is the most despicable of the human race in her community. Her only solace is in the Almighty's influence, to which she prays continually for relief from her sufferings and for her husband to see his flaws. Tehmina’s identity and persona are limited and transcribed by patriarchal rhetoric, but she overcomes traditional and family restraints to evolve as a modern individual. She tries to avoid all kinds of essential categorizing that make subaltern or minority women both victims and unwilling offenders of damning derogatory metaphors by her Islamic society's patriarchal commandments, the power politics in Pakistani Government and the social ethos of a quintessential Pakistani marital life. itless manner to which feminism h conservative upbringing turns This novel spoke to me of the almost can be corrupted, the extent to w' women - both the survivor and her mother in this case — into facilitators, embracing such inhumanity as “destiny,” struggling to reconcile with reality, and the farfetched extent to which she endures it in secrecy, careful not to injure her man's "honor," and the implausible extent to which she endures it in secret pushing everything into her stride until her soul is stained with her own ‘subhuman' blood. LEARNINGS AND KEY TAKEAWAYS Tehmina Durrani has articulated many of the oppressions she has faced since childhood, as well as the motives behind others’ perceptions of her as inferior or subhuman. Her mother didn't adore her because she had a dark skin. Tehmina was worried about her mother's process of keeping her do chores and she was scared of losing anything, which her mother would not tolerate. Moreover, the crippled environment at home and the obligation of remainingan obedient child without having any enjoyment or space, made her somewhat sick and fearsome. By divorcing Mustafa, Tehmina was able to develop her own identity and be regarded as a unique human being. She began interacting with people after she was liberated from the oppressive regime, or in other words, she was learning to be social. As a passive observer, she loved social events and parties and was influenced by other strong female characters. When she was married to Mustafa Khar, she missed all of this throughout her life.(he also stepped away from politics and began painting as a way of describing her insights of the world. Her works now depicted the graphic descriptions of women being exploited in the targets. | Furthermore, while Mustafa humiliated Te convictions when they were married, Tehmina, on the other hand, seized true religious beliefs and used them as a foil against Mustafa. During her crisis, she remained true to her beliefs and prayed to the Creator often, using her prayers as her force and courage to confront the tormentor. Her ‘autobiography, My Feudal lord, may be the most major impetus of her autonomy since it shattered the common silence of Muslim women in general. hmina in the name of false religious This is her social message of women who are marginalized. She went on to campaign for women's rights later on. As Mustafa told her that she has "no name" or significance of her own, that she is just Tehmina, Ghulam Mustafa Khar's "ex- wife,” shea felt vulnerable because his comments had stung her deeply and she had no good response for him at the stage. “Well, Mustafa, now the world will soon know you as Tehmina Durrani's ex-husband,” she responded to Khar's previous comment, with absolute bravery and confidence, when the newspapers revealed the Spending international publication” of her autobiography My Feudal Lord. She had completely liberated herself and established her new independent identity as Tehmina Durrani with these few expressions.