Attachments

Secure Attachment Statements

This assessment will include statements related to thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in close
relationships. Rate how much you agree with each statement on a scale of 1-5. Based on
your scores, you can get an indication of your predominant attachment style. Make sure to
complete all four assessments to help determine your attachment style.

Strongly Strongly
Disagree Neutral Agree
Disagree Agree

I feel secure and comfortable in my

relationships.

I can easily rely on my partner when I

need support.

I am confident that I am valued in my

relationships.
I can maintain my independence
without feeling distant from my
partner.
Sharing my feelings with my partner
feels safe and natural.
I am optimistic about my
relationships lasting.
I feel comfortable with both intimacy
and autonomy.
My partner and I can openly discuss
any issues that arise.
I trust that my partner will be there
when I need them.
I don't struggle with jealousy or fear
of abandonment.

Scoring Scale:
1 = Strongly Disagree 2 = Disagree 3 = Neutral 4 = Agree 5 = Strongly Agree

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Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment
This assessment will include statements related to thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in close
relationships. Rate how much you agree with each statement on a scale of 1-5. Based on
your scores, you can get an indication of your predominant attachment style. Make sure to
complete all four assessments to help determine your attachment style.

Strongly Strongly
Disagree Neutral Agree
Disagree Agree

I often worry about my partner leaving

me.
I need frequent reassurance of my
partner's love.
I feel anxious when I don't receive
immediate responses from my partner.
The thought of losing my partner is
terrifying.
I sometimes feel desperate for my
partner's attention and approval.
I frequently wonder whether my
partner truly loves me.

I worry that I am not enough to keep

my partner interested.

I obsess over my relationships more

than I would like.
I fear that my need for closeness
scares people away.
My mood depends heavily on how my
partner is treating me.

Scoring Scale:
1 = Strongly Disagree 2 = Disagree 3 = Neutral 4 = Agree 5 = Strongly Agree

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Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment
This assessment will include statements related to thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in
close relationships. Rate how much you agree with each statement on a scale of 1-5.
Based on your scores, you can get an indication of your predominant attachment style.
Make sure to complete all four assessments to help determine your attachment style.

Strongly Disagree Neutral Strongly

Agree
Disagree Agree

I prefer to keep my distance in

relationships.
I value my freedom and independence
above all.
I am uncomfortable with emotional
intimacy.

I tend to keep my feelings to myself.

I see myself as self-sufficient and don’t

need a relationship to be happy.

I feel uneasy about relying on

others.

Commitments and dependencies

make me nervous.

I often feel that relationships are

more trouble than they're worth.

I prefer not to share my personal

struggles with my partner.

I avoid getting too attached to others.

Scoring Scale:
1 = Strongly Disagree 2 = Disagree 3 = Neutral 4 = Agree 5 = Strongly Agree

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Fearful-Avoidant Attachment
This assessment will include statements related to thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in close
relationships. Rate how much you agree with each statement on a scale of 1-5. Based on
your scores, you can get an indication of your predominant attachment style. Make sure to
complete all four assessments to help determine your attachment style.

Strongly Strongly
Disagree Neutral Agree
Disagree Agree

I am torn between wanting intimacy

and fearing getting too close.
I find it difficult to fully trust or
depend on my partner.
I worry about being hurt if I get too
close to someone.
Even when I'm in a relationship, I
feel somewhat isolated and alone.
I desire closeness but worry I’ll get
hurt.
My relationships tend to start intensely
but become very complicated.
I am wary of opening up fully to
anyone.
I have a fear of rejection that
sometimes keeps me from getting
close to others.
I struggle with feelings of
unworthiness in relationships.
My desire for independence conflicts
with my need for connection.

Scoring Scale:
1 = Strongly Disagree 2 = Disagree 3 = Neutral 4 = Agree 5 = Strongly Agree

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Interpretation
Scoring and Interpretation
After completing the assessment, calculate your total score for each attachment style
category: Secure, Anxious-Preoccupied, Dismissive-Avoidant, and Fearful-Avoidant. Your
highest total score indicates your predominant attachment style. This self-assessment is a tool
for introspection and understanding your relationship patterns. Recognizing your attachment
style can be a valuable step toward fostering healthier relationships. If you find this exercise
insightful and wish to explore your attachment style further, consider seeking feedback from a
therapist who can provide personalized guidance and support.

High Score in Secure Attachment Statements: Indicates a tendency towards

secure attachment, suggesting comfort with intimacy, ease in relying on others,
and confidence in being valued by partners. Securely attached individuals
typically have healthy, trusting relationships and a positive view of themselves
and their partners.

High Score in Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment Statements: Suggests an

anxious-preoccupied attachment style, characterized by a strong desire for
closeness and constant worry about the stability of relationships. Individuals
with this style often seek reassurance and fear abandonment.

High Score in Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment Statements: Indicates a

dismissive-avoidant attachment style, marked by a preference for emotional
distance, independence, and self-sufficiency. People with this style may avoid
deep emotional connections and struggle with intimacy.

High Score in Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment Statements: Indicates

a dismissive-avoidant attachment style, marked by a preference for
emotional distance, independence, and self-sufficiency. People with this
style may avoid deep emotional connections and struggle with intimacy.

It's important to note that this self-assessment is a reflective tool rather than a
diagnostic test. People may exhibit characteristics of multiple attachment styles
depending on the context, their relationship history, and personal growth over time.
Understanding your predominant attachment style can offer valuable insights into your
relationship dynamics and areas for personal development.

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Attachment
Attachment StylesStyles

Secure Anxious/Preoccupied

Low Avoidance
Can trust others easily Has a sensitive nervous system

Comfortable being alone and with Struggles communicating needs

others directly

Can communicate needs directly Depends on other for self-worth

Attuned to emotions Tends to act out when triggered by

partner
Cooperative and flexible in
relationships

Low Anxiety High Anxiety

Dismissive/Avoidant Fearful/Avoidant
Downplays importance of Values intimate relationships
relationships
High Avoidance

Strong fears of rejection

Self Reliant

Emotionally distant Has low self-esteem

Positive view of self High anxiety in relationships

Leaves or avoids conflict Both seeks and avoids closeness

with others

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