10 Mistakes That Turn Off the Men You Desire

August 16, 2011 at 5:00 pm

By Matthew Hussey, Get the Guy

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MISTAKE #1: Switching to ~Relationship Mode too quickly
Have you noticed how a guy completely changes when you get past the dating phase and the
issue oI having a relationship comes up?
OI course you have.
But let me tell you now, you can control exactly how he reacts to this.
A man`s desire Ior a relationship depends completely on the way you handle the early stages,
starting Irom the FIRST DATE!
The secret to getting a guy is not about wearing a man down until he Iinally gives in and submits
to a relationship. It`s about building so much intrigue and attraction in the early stages that he
literally begs you to be exclusive with him.
MISTAKE #2: Asking him where you stand
Don`t you hate it when you`ve been on a Iew dates with a guy but have no idea whether he sees
you as a girlIriend or just as someone he wants to sleep with?
Sometimes it`s so Irustrating that you even think: 'You know what, I`ll just ask him straight up
what he wants, and then I`ll know Ior sure.
NOT GONNA WORK
I want to save you Irom making this mistake now, because conIronting a guy in this way will
send his attraction Ior you plummeting to the Iloor.
In the early stages oI dating it`s vital to keep your high value status. Guys are prone to irrational
panic and this will just Ireak him out and make him Ieel the walls closing in.
MISTAKE #3: Listening to all of his relationship problems
I know what you`re thinking: 'II I listen to the problems with his past relationships, I can Iind
out how to be his perIect woman.
But take my word Ior this, IT WILL NEVER WORK! I know guys who have tried this too, it
never works.
Letting a man spill his guts to you about past relationship issues makes you his therapist. And
trust me, the therapist role is very UNSEXY.
And soon he`ll be sharing his NEW relationship problems with you. and you won`t be in them.
MISTAKE #4: Agreeing with everything he says
In an attempt 'not to make waves, you might think that all you have to do is agree with him and
nod along to whatever he says. I`ve seen this with both guys and women and it`s always a
turnoII.
This might make you a great Iriend, but it will never build sexual chemistry.
Only a 'challenging woman can turn a guy on mentally and sexually. By this I don`t mean
'play hard to get, which is the other huge mistake women make in order to get men to chase
them.
It`s so easy to have more choice in your love liIe, as soon as you hear the simple diIIerence
between being hard to get, and BEING A CHALLENGE. And trust me, once you do, you will be
EFFORTLESSLY ATTRACTIVE to men.
MISTAKE #5: Trying to logically convince him why you`re both right for each other
Ever tried to convince and show someone why you would be absolutely perIect Ior them?
Yup, we`ve all given it a try.
Only one problem..Attraction has NEVER been based on logic.
Think about it: How many times have you seen men go Ior women that logically he knows are
completely wrong Ior him?
I know I have (hell, I`ve done it myselI!).
Why do those women manage to attract guys so easily, even though he knows you would be
better Ior him in the long run?
Because these women understand that SEDUCTION is diIIerent to PERSUASION.
Falling in love isn`t about rational persuasion. Trying to convince someone they are right Ior us
will never work.
MISTAKE #6: Thinking that sex is your only tool of seduction
Ever had a guy who pressured you Ior sex and then wasn`t bothered about the relationship aIter
you had it?
Why? II he wanted sex, then surely iI you gave it to him, he would like you more, right?
AIraid not. Men might be simple, but we`re not THAT SIMPLE!
Because sex is NOT what a man is really aIter. Sex is a temporary need that men want to IulIill,
but it doesn`t hold them Ior very long. In Iact, a relationship that is only sexual will soon have a
man looking elsewhere.
Using your sexuality doesn`t mean simply having sex with a guy. A guy may think he wants sex
early on, but iI there`s going to be a later on you have to learn how to BE SEXY, which is a
whole diIIerent ball game.
MISTAKE #7: Dropping your plans for the guy you like
You remember those times when the guy you like calls you up, and you immediately want to
drop any plans you have to go and see him?
This is the epitome oI NEEDY behaviour.
I`ve coached lots oI women who are Iine with getting attraction in the early stages, but within a
couple oI weeks the guy seems to just 'go cold and loses interest.
What`s the deal with that??
It`s because once they decide they like him, they suddenly change those things that made them
so alluring in the Iirst place. They show their hand too early.
Guys may not always be that perceptive, but they have a sixth sense Ior noticing when a woman
is desperate Ior a relationship.
As soon as he senses it, he`ll slowly drop oII the radar.
MISTAKE #8: Sharing all your insecurities and relationship issues
Sharing your worries about your weight, or your relationship issues, or apologizing Ior your
outIit being inappropriate, all spells insecurity.
Some women will share this stuII in order to FISH FOR COMPLIMENTS, which is completely
poisonous to a guys chances oI genuinely liking them.
Guys love COMPLIMENTING, but they hate REASURRING women.
II you spill about all your personal hang ups and insecurities, you`ve lost all the sexual
chemistry, because suddenly he`ll NOTICE that you don`t Iind yourselI sexy. Give yourselI
more credit!
MISTAKE #9: Waiting for him to make all the moves
Even though we are in the 21st century, still many women think they have to adopt a passive
role, waiting Ior the guy to make all the next moves.
GET WITH THE TIMES!
But hold on, you don`t want to seem desparate right? I mean, you can`t be just waltzing up to
guys and tell them you Iancy them, can you?
Fortunately, there are some ridiculously simple ways to pick out the guy you really want, and
STILL make him think he`s done all the chasing.
Sounds, good right?
All you have to do is give him OPPORTUNITIES, and make him think it was ALL HIS IDEA.
This way, you aren`t leIt waiting Ior a guy to ask you out, but you also don`t seem desperate. It
all just happens naturally.
MISTAKE #10: Getting advice from the wrong sources
Ever notice how we oIten take advice Irom people who have the worst love lives?
Most oI us get our advice Irom our best Iriends, despite the Iact that we KNOW they are
HOPELESS and just as CLUELESS as we are!
It`s like the blind leading the blind out there!
When you get advice Irom bad sources, you can end up struggling around Ior years trying to get
it right, and then wondering why the same problems seem to reoccur over and over again.
Your love liIe becomes like a broken record, and you hope that somehow things will just
magically be diIIerent one day.
UnIortunately, they won`t.
Not unless you CHANGE YOUR APPROACH. Who wants to keep Iumbling around in the dark
Ior another 10, maybe 20 years??!
When you learn the right techniques Ior creating instant attraction, your love liIe takes leaps that
would have taken you years to make on your own (and chances are, you wouldn`t even do it
then!).
I don`t want you to make mistakes I`ve seen so many women make.
Let me tell you a bit about myselI and how I started coaching women with their love lives.
My Iemale cousins were my best Iriends growing up, so oI course I got to know all oI their
Iemale Iriends as well. I would go to their house and have sleepovers with them (because I
wanted to meet them).
I would watch how these smart and beautiIul women who were amazing souls just ended up with
the completely wrong guys. Over and over again, I`d see these women who I loved dearly keep
getting the wrong guys and get their hearts broken.
It Irustrated the hell out oI me because I knew they deserved better.
At the same time, because I was so close to so many girls Irom a young age, I learned deep
insights about women`s psychology that very Iew men knew about.
I eventually became really good at reading women and understanding what makes them 'tick. It
even got to a point where I became so good that I became the 'go to guy whenever my Iriends
had just about any kind oI girl problems.
As word spread around, it eventually evolved to a point where I started to take on private clients.
And that led to speaking gigs, and then speaking gigs all over the world!
AIter giving advice to tens oI thousands oI men, I started to notice clear patterns in men`s
behaviors. I started to understand their reasons and stories. I Iound out why one guy would
commit to a woman, while the other didn`t. Why some treat their woman badly, while others
treated them like princesses. It wasn`t long beIore I quickly became an expert on the male psyche
too.
Suddenly all oI the pieces came together Ior me. I could now see the whole dating puzzle clearly
Irom both sides oI the Ience. I now understood WHY my Iemale cousins never stood a chance in
the Iirst place, and I could actually help the women I cared about Ior a change.
So there came a point where I made the risky decision to make a complete 180 degree turn to
stop coaching guys and share what I`ve learned with the world oI women instead.
Since the day I`ve decided to take my message to the world oI women, it has become a personal
mission oI mine to help as many women as I could to get the love lives they wanted. I`ve now
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