Your attachment style is…SECURE

Based on your questionnaire responses, your primary attachment style is Secure.

While research shows that attachment style remains relatively fixed over time, it can sometimes fluctuate––it’s entirely possible to shift your attachment
style depending on the nature of the relationship.

For example, you can be secure with your best friend, but anxious with your partner or spouse.

It’s helpful to think of attachment as a spectrum or a continuum, rather than a neat “box” or category we all fit into.

As you can see in the chart below, your self-reported results show how you score on all four of the attachment styles: secure, avoidant, ambivalent and
disorganized.**

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23.6%
27.1%

23.6%
25.7%

Because attachment patterns form so early in life, we cannot control which attachment style first developed.

Many of us don’t even remember much about that stage in our lives, which means that many of the unhealthy patterns we repeat in our relationships (with
ourselves and others) are mostly subconscious or unintentional.

Learning about attachment styles can help you understand how you think, feel, behave and communicate in all your relationships.

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And the more we know about ourselves and others, the more we can foster compassion and embrace acceptance, empathy and safety.

Don’t forget: no one can have a 100% secure attachment style all the time. But you do deserve to learn how to make your secure attachment skills more
dominant.

**Please note that the responses to this self-assessment depend on your current emotional state and perspective at the time you’ve taken the quiz. Depending
upon your specific situation, it may be a good idea for you to save or print out the results to share with a trained clinician.

SECURE ATTACHMENT STYLE

Estimates vary, but research suggests that approximately 50-65% of people have a secure attachment style.

Securely attached people tend to be more trusting of others, self-assured, positive, empathetic and have an easier time creating deep and lasting meaningful
relationships.

Secure attachment is rooted in both attunement and safety. If you have a secure attachment style, it’s likely that––growing up––your caregivers were attuned
to your emotions, were physically present and helped you feel safe by responding to your needs (or cues) consistently enough of the time that you felt
understood, comforted and valued.

The resulting secure attachment bond, primed your developing brain to create a foundation based on safety, calm and understanding.

That’s why children who are securely attached usually move into adulthood equipped with the ability to handle conflict and stress more easily, display a
willingness to try new things and are comfortable expressing their own needs, as well as meeting the needs of others.

Securely attached adults have positive and constructive beliefs and attitudes (of themselves and others). They see most problems as manageable––while
viewing stressful events as opportunities for learning.

Securely attached individuals tend to be comfortable with intimacy and they’re not worried about rejection or aren’t too preoccupied with the relationship.
They score higher on trust, open communication, prosocial behaviors and generally express greater satisfaction with their partner and the relationship itself.

Most importantly, they are flexible and willing to adapt––they can see things from their partner’s point of view, can accept feedback and can forgive their
partner (and themselves) for mistakes or misunderstandings.

Able to form connection with and trust others

Attuned, present, respond consistently
Self-aware
Active listening and clear communication
Comfortable with affectionate touch
Can address problems to repair and resolve conflicts
Feel loveable, cared for and respected
They support their partner, helping them feel safe and protected
Equally comfortable with close connection, mutual dependence or independence
Ability to express needs and emotions easily
Positive view of self, others and relationships

It’s important to remember: there is no right or wrong attachment style and no one can be securely attached 100% of the time. We all experience life and
relationships differently depending upon the nature of the relationship, our own individual personality, or changing life circumstances.

And as you can see by your own results breakdown, you may not fit neatly into a single category or match the attachment style description exactly. You can
even have more than one attachment style–it’s quite common (and perfectly normal) to have distinct relationships and connections with different people in
your life.

That means we don’t always need to be cheerful, peaceful or perfect (either in parenting or in a relationship). It does mean that we should be aware of and
respond to our own needs… and work to strengthen the secure attachment traits and skills we already do have

You may want to also explore the other attachment styles to help you better understand how you navigate and respond in any type of relationship.

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