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Research Paper Ghosting
Research Paper Ghosting
Ghosting has become more prominent with the increased use of online communication,
social media, and dating apps. The definition of ghosting is when one person in a relationship
suddenly stops answering and replying, with no explanation as to why; they disappear and thus
become a ghost. Ghosting can occur in both friendships and romantic relationships, contrary to
what LeFrevre and Koessler believed. According to a study by Forrai, ghosting in a romantic
the most important predictor is self-esteem problems (Forrai, 2023). The study states that
friendship ghosting has a bigger negative and long-term effect on the ghostee (the person
ghosted) and the ghoster (the person that ghosts) compared to romantic relationships.
Because of the rise of technology and the COVID-19 pandemic, in-person interactions
have decreased. Emotions like anger and sadness are easier to see through face-to-face
interaction, while in online situations, these feelings are not as obvious. The anonymity allowed
by technology and the diffusion of responsibility in an online environment causes the ghoster to
feel less guilty. With the increased use of dating apps, there are more opportunities for people to
interact with one another online, so the ghoster might justify their action by saying that the
they can avoid problematic situations. There are many reasons people resort to ghosting, but
most have to do with avoiding responsibility and not wanting to participate in difficult
conversations. For example, ghosters can fear confrontation and feel stressed and anxious when
facing a conflict, making ghosting a much safer option that causes little discomfort. People who
have trouble communicating might also have an increased fear of confrontation because they are
scared they won’t be able to communicate their feelings and thoughts, making the conversation
hard for both parties. If someone can’t end the situation respectfully, or can’t deal with
disagreements, they can avoid the conflict altogether by ghosting. Another reason for ghosting is
having an avoidant attachment style; this happens when people don’t have a strong bond with
their parents when they are young, which causes them to be extremely independent. So they don't
have to face emotional closeness, they can use ghosting to distance themselves more easily and
prevent bonds from happening. This is related to commitment issues, where someone could
struggle to develop strong relationships, and when they get overwhelmed, they might turn to
People with dark triad traits like narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy are
more likely to ghost others. They don't feel empathy for the situation of others and try to avoid
pain to themselves. Someone with low empathy doesn’t understand how their actions might
negatively affect others, so it’s easier for them to ghost. A study done by Jonason says that men
with Dark triad traits are more likely to be ok with ghosting in short-term relationships, and men
with Machiavellian and psychopathic traits find it acceptable to end any relationship by ghosting
(Jonason, 2021). He also concludes that the interpretation of the seriousness of the relationship
influences ghosting. The more the person cares about it, the less likely they are to use ghosting to
break up with someone. Ghosting likelihood also varies depending on mindset. Freedom
discovered that people who have a growth mindset and are willing to understand that
relationships take effort and communication are 38% less likely to think ghosting is acceptable,
but people with a fixed mindset (think the relationship is either doomed to fail or work out) are
because it depends on each situation and reasoning. Narcissistic people might feel pride for
controlling a situation, others might feel nothing, while some feel relief for avoiding conflict.
When recalling the event, some people might regret how they handled the situation and wish
they’d taken more consideration for the other person and been more mature, especially if they
feel guilt by hurting and confusing someone else. When ending a relationship/friendship, it's
important to be honest and communicate with the other person to avoid negative consequences
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