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is what turns us on.
So try thinking ”inre-

study of parts of living things
verse" in terms ofanatomy.
able to read and write
A lot of women also prefera more literate
and emotional prelude to hard dirty talk.
Now we're not saying that women areem-

wade tofeel Lhlcomfortable
barrassed to get down and dirty, far from

thespoil of swin+n ing
it. But setting up the scene before diving
right into the vagina and breasts works bril-

in an extremely smart way
liantly. For example:
Oirty Talb #8ii. ”Ima@neyou're ona cruise
ship. Alone and looking out nt the sea. You're

stupicl from drinki=s alcohol
n bitfipzy nJ’ter thnt wine. Pou're dnncing
tothemxsicyox stiff hear comingfzom th#
inaide of the paHy room. Suddenlyyou feel
a strong malepresence behindyou.A man's

lackinga piece that is behincl
hand slips into the top ofyour bacbless

a tyoe of wom an’s top
halter and cupsyour breasts with hisfirm

hands. You don't bnow who it is, but his
hot brenth and deep breathing are turning

to search ina weird way
you on.As he beginsgropingj/our titsyou
realizeyou dox‘t Core. 7ox/xst woxt tobe
/uCBed. 7tepulls one hand outsotñat h#
cnuJngeryox, right there, in pxblic. Kox're
too turned on tosoy xo.7ou reach around

to stick out
and/eel hisbulging cocbgettingharder...“
something that is imagined
Now in this fantasy dirty talk, you notice

to give special attention to
not only isthat man emphasizing hisown
parts, but more important he's describing
the MOOD of
a scene. He's telling her how to
feel, what shefeels, rather than just telling
her how hard he's fucking her. Her mood is

to tools someone's attention
captivated at the "story" and the attention
to the environment. From that point on, he
can say "fuck" and "tits" all he wants be-

tomakea thing Score active
cause he's already stimulated her emotions
and involved her in the scene. And allit took

being so hot that it brJbbles
to put her on slow boil was just takinga

to use lJacl worcls
minute toset
a mood without swearing.
Of cowse, it's not justa woman's thing. Be-
lieve this, ifa woman takes the time to set
upa scene and a mood, theman will be just

to excite one with sex
as aroused and into it. The only real differ-
ence isthat whereasa woman canimagine

on ori nto something that is inJaginerl
hot sex aboarda ship, a man's fantasy might

tosearch forinformation very strange or unusual
usually delve deeper into outrageous sce-

to pers‹iaoe one to have sex
narios. He doesn't need tobe seduced...he's
ready to go!
Concentrate on the Imagery
When you're dirty talking to each other,

relating to the eai
you use both visual and aural stimulation

to cause to happen
as well as words that evoke allfive senses.

usecl to emphasizea statement
You won't literally smell or taste anything,
especially if you're talking on the phone or
online. So it's best to paint strong visual im-
ages through language. Besides, even ifyou
are having sex, you can do no wrong with

colGaininga strong taste
spicy visuals thrown inatkeyparts.
Focus on:
sexual actions clone before sex
• Sexual positions or foreplay
• Sights that he/she might see
• Expressions on his/her face
• The level of his or her excitement
• What he or sheisfeeling, and how

state of raised life activity
arousal intensifies
the act of gains throrJgh something
• Details about penetration
Two examples would be:

Dirfi Yalb #84: “Jpo/! my hard cocb out
to movea thing back and forth
and afnrt rubbing it all overyour hot

a motion that shakes
pizssy lips and then mb my head allover

a female sexual cart
your clit./ moB#you watch, gzabbingyour

to push \vitI1 force
hair, and mn#ingyox wotch usJahove

a forward or up ’/arcI t›ush
my cocb bacb inand thrtist deeper...”
Dirfi Yalb 587:”I'm ridingyou so hard
with my wet cxnt I'm shaking thebed. Afl

to wakeo long high souncl
you zan hear is the bed legs creakingbacb
end/orth...thet is until Jstert screaming

to force outa liquid
and squirting and no slowingdown one
bit. I'm going togrind on thia coc# until

to sriddetily Greak apart
yau explode!Allyou cox smell is my pizssy
and thot moée‹you crazy. You shoot t#x

amount that comes outsuddenly
spurts into me andI Sean backgivingyou

clean and orderly a smart plant
nJ'iifI view o/my n#ntly trimmed bxah...“

Details, including the ones not directly re-
the act of going through sonsething
lated to penetration, (such as the sound the

substance to makea thing slide
bed is making, orthe smell of her lubricant)
make all the difference!
By now you havea pretty good idea of how
to get started dirty-talking. You know the

tOC ar1Se to be fill ed With
anatomy and how toinfuse your chat with

a feeling of sexual desire
lust, emotion, imagery and mood. However,
you're not going to get itperfectly down

totoucli ina light way not happening akten
pat the first few times. Dori't let occasiorial

a snJaII nlistake or bad luck to wake one less confident
mishaps embarrass you or discourage you
from trying again.
to dii ect org uide
What might help steer you backtotheright
course isknowing what todo and what to
avoid. That's the subject of ow next chap-
ter.
Chapter 10:10 Dirty Talking Dos
and Don'ts (Phrase 88-109)
a rule ¿iven Ivy God to peo ale
Remember thèse 10 commandments of
dirty talking so you can avoid awkward-

c|uaIity of an enibarrassi ng act causing fear
ness, excessive laughter, or the dreaded

‹lisease with certain sym ›toms
dead bed syndrome. (Which iswhen your

tostop having oi cloing
partner just gives up on you because you've

in an rinconifortable manner
failed so miserably) Stick to thèse tips and
you should be fine:
DO 1: Use experiences from your normal

to move rapidly with sound the study où substances
life to zirig up the chemistry. lt puts your
heart into it and gives you the energy to fol-

S Olll et lai l1g th at is i l›1ag iI1ecl
low through witha new fantasy.
Oïrty Talb #88:”Remember that@ri wko
was hitting on you nt the store? whnt iJ

a group ofthree
1 invited her ouerfora čÎtreesome and we
both tooh turns tonguingyour cocb?“
Dirty Talb 589: “Remember that ííme

to go somewhere torelax
ívoniziøin7łoridaî Wejob#d about
havingsexright there inpxßIic infiont of
nIIthosepeople.I thinå we shoxld it next
tźme. Woułdn'tşou enjoş beingwatched
whiłeJiox ride ms in the hot txb?”
Or somethinga little more gentle like:
Dir;y finlš 590: “I saw you looking at

one who shouts fora team
thosec#ÆÆíŽÊbżłó# Maşbeł shoulâ dress

set of clothes wom together
up inn cheerleader's oxt/t and we can go

one who makes things white
beñind tñebleachers.just libe ołã tim#sî
inching Ii£e mad everywhere we wentî“
recently
Dirty Ta1b #91: “All this dressingup íately

having sexual excitement
hm gotme IìáÎÏUy. We shouldgo down on

eech other in the bathroom while keeping
our clothes on. See ifwe cnn doa quicb
fucb without anyone suRecting.“
to wove away due tofear
DO NOT: Be shy. Don't hold back. There's no
sense in getting dirty and extreme ifyou're

nervous abouti Jleeti ng others
too shy to say what you feel. And don't react

liking unusual sexual behavior
badly ifyour partner gets kinkier than you
imagined. Be happy that he/she trusts you

to tella trusted person
enough to confide. That doesn't mean you
have to do "everything." Just make compro-
mises asbest you can so that both ofyou are
happy.
helpf ul information
DO 2: Always give feedback. Don't just sit

not easy io deal with
there in awkward silence and don't just sit
there and enjoy it. Give your partner en-

something thatgives hope
couragement because he/she isbasing the

next few lines of the fantasy chat on your

honest reactions. You help tell the story, you
fire up the imagination. The stuff you like
react more. The stuff you're not crazy about
react less.
DirtJ? 7’nIA #P2- “Oh God! (HeSR•aks) Yeah
I libe thet! (He asbsa question) Yes, master.

to hit on the bf‹ttocks
Please spanb ruengnin. (He tnlha about
sexon thedesl) Ves,J'iicl me right on may
desb! Ooooh! (He asbsa qxeztion) Yesyes
yesyes! Don't ever stopfucking me!“
not real or honest
DO NOT: Interrupt, talk over or mock the
other person. Try to avoid laughing ifpossi-
ble. It's likea dance. When oneis leading the
other follows. If you do laugh or say some-
thing unsexy by accident just continue on
and don't dwell on it.

DO 3: Look into his/her eyes. Or if you're
not together in person then describe look-
ing into each other's eyes, or looking at each

sexual parts
other's body and genitals. This isa strong
visual and helps create bonding and inti-

a state of being close
macy, even through the power of sugges-
tion.
Dirty Talb #PJ: “ñoo# ot ne.I wnnfyox

the peak ofsexual pleasure
to orgasm looking into my eyes.I went

movement oftheearth’s surface
toJ’eelyou qun£e on topo/me rind Set
go, givixg meyour whole body. Look ot
me...fooé at m# while we cum tog#ther..."
Iowei“ing iM status or quality
DO NOT: Be demeaning or critical. Even if
you and your partner is into name call-

state of loss of self respect
ing and BDSM humiliation, that's still bet-
ter than being "helpfully“ critical of your

complete
lover's performance. That is the absolute

to steal from
worst thing you can do, because you rob

to make someone stop
them of allconfidence. Do not interrupt
your partner to tell him/her what's wrong.

helpfuli nformation
Instead, use POSITIVE feedback and en-

something that gives hope
couragement toreward good behavior.
DO 4: Always tell your partner that he or

attt”active ina sexual way
she is sexy. And don't just do it once, but re-

to make one feel less afraid
assure them throughout the whole session.
This builds confidence. There are some

showingu lack ofi esgect
BDSM activities that involve insulting your
partner, but for the most part, this is not

one who is new to a field
recommended fornovices. Make him orher

a small fault or weakness
feel confident in their body, flaws and all.
Dirty Talb #94: “Oh God you're so aux/
whenyou touchyourselfand fools nt
me. I loveyour body. You turn me on so
much when loob me in the eyes...“

made with great care
DO NOT: Gettootechnical or too elaborate.

a very clirty state
This is usually what messes you up and
tongue-ties you. Don't take too much time
describinga strange sexual position or the
various items arounda room. Those are

notrelevant
irreÎevant details.A simple statement de-
scribing what's happening in one sentence
lsjust fine, as in:
Dirty Talè #9S: “Jpushyou down onthe

with one side faciMg forwaid
desk and/ucb ou sidewa/s, restiny/our
legon my shoulder whileI enteryox...“
DO S: Use your partner's name. Even ifit's

formed by the imagination
a play name ora fictional character, call-
ing someone's name and making theemo-

involving sexual relations very strongly felt
tion more intimate, always hasa profound
effect.
Dirty Talb #9a: “Oh Veronica...1 wont to
mn£e love toyox li£e mud. £verji timeI
thin# oJ’j/our name, Ueronicn, the sound

to shakes lightly
sendsa shiver down my spine...“
the peak ofsexrial pleasure
DON'T: Feel pressured to have an orgasm or
do things/say things that make youuncom-

causing unease
Portable. The whole experience will be mis-

very sad
erable ifyou force yourself to do anything.

the act of investigating
This isabout no pressure, experimentation
and having fun.
to tae liked Dy someone

DO 6: Tell yourlover how appealing they are
to allsenses. You know bynow youhave to

to say nice things about
compliment your lover's beauty. But don't
stop there. Take time to comment on his/

the waya thi•s feels
her smell, taste, their texture and skin, and
their voice. Involving allfive senses helps

very great in degree
keeps things alive and intense.

DiHy Talb 597:”Mmmyoutaste so goodI
to oass the tongue over a long thin piece of leather
just wnnt tolicbyou up libe cool whip. Taste

a narrow openi ng ina rock very pleasant to taste
every crevice ofyour delicious body.“
DON'T: Talk too much. You should talk fre-

to give all attention to
quently but don't get fixated on perfectly

a skil Ifoil or planned movement
describinga scene ora certain maneuver.
The images and the mood iswhat counts,

the way words arerisecl
not the word usage or the exact position.

happeningg raclually over time
Stick toa number ofshort and progressive
sentences rather than trying to keep telling
the same sentence ina different way.
DO 7:Keep your lover updates about your

state of raised life activity the peak ofsexual pleasure
level of arousal. Timing your orgasms close
to each other is alwaysa better idea than

happening too soon
coming prematurely or taking too long.
Rather than saying it matter-of-factly, tell

attractive ina sexual way
them ina sexy way how you feel, and let it
be clear what this means. Forexample:
Dirty Tałb 498: “My pussy's getting
so dripping wet hearingyou taJb
fź4e that..." (Sfztry źsOK)
airy Talb #99: 0hyou're going tomo4#

thehighest point driring sex
me cum soon... (n!moat tociYśiźiźiJ
Dirty Talb S100: “Oh God,you're mabing

xc toońorny...I wnnt tocrnyou nround
axd fucbyou now...(This can be xsed asa
sexy way of saying tochangepositionsjust
incose the moc is too c/ose to coming)
ab1e to change
DO 8: Ask moge operi-ended questions.
While masters and doms usually ask

asked fornlakinga statefiient
rhetorical questions, you might needa little

soicething that gives hope
more encouragement this early on. Open-

ended questions can help guide your lover
to where you need tobe forhim/her to or-

the peak aTsexrial pleasurea remark to show disapproval
gasm. Knowing that criticism is not a good
thing, give your lover the opportunity to

able to change
answer open-ended questions forbetter un-
derstanding, not just yes or no questions.
For instance:
Dirt3* Talk SI O1: “Where dOJO2f
fi£e to be touched, slave?“
Dirfi Yalb #102:”Where oreyox mos

to order not to do sonsethi ng
sensitive? Wh#r# rimZ/orbidd#n to touch?”
Dirfi Talk 5103: “Tell me whereyou want
tocum, lover. You cnn cum anywhere.“
In these instances, notice that even when

more important than others
asking for information, the dominant
lover didn't break the mood. He/she just

willing to obey
asked where the submissive wanted to be
touched, as if offering an option, but still

a recjuest for money orfood
controlled the session. No begging, no ask-
ing permission.
a special quality
DON'T: Use physical haracteristi s that are
simply not true. While "big cock” or "big

relating to sex
tits" are nice for an erotic fantasy, if your
partner has average size parts, then you're

not showing true feeliI gs
only going to sound insincere. Instead, try
using neutral-size words like firm cock, lus-

very appealing
cious breasts, wet pussy, and so on.
DO 9: When indoubt, move slower. Dirty
talking should be about slow-boil and about
extending the moment into an all-nighter.
Don't start off too rough, don't use too

a large hammer
many sledgehammer vulgarities in the first
five minutes. Work your way towards it.

You could even spenda lotoftime focusing
on breast play and give her an orgasm be-
fore the really dirty stu£begins.
Dir(y Talb #104:"7’m goingtoslide my

woman's clothing under clothes
fingers intoyour braand touchyour
nipples. S!owIy etJ2rst, gent!ji tracinga

straight up and down
circ/e with my finger. Yhen tnp3ioxr erect

to say mean things to one
nipple mabingit taunt. Thenpinch it

sIightl3i, gettingyou aroused...“ (Step by

to ask ina vein seiious way
step xntil she's beggingfor more infensi{ji)
DON'T: Don't repeat yourself. This may be
challenging attimes, especially ifyour lover

toa great degree
istaking an unusually long time to orgasm.
Don't pressure them anddon't keep repeat-

writed ifferently
ing the same sentences or rewriting them

sonJethi ng that is imagined
either. If you try to extend the fantasy
longer than itshould go,hoping to match

thepeak ofsexual pleasure
your lover's timing of orgasm, you may get
tongue-tied and run out of things to say. In
general, this is why it's better to start slow
and progress slowly rather than jumping

the highest pointf bring sex
into finishing clirrlaxes. If you run out of
sentences, then simply change the position

of the fantasy, or concentrate on another
part of her body. That way, you're changing
theidea and the current, without losing the
scene itself. Don't starta brand new scene,
to avoid losing the mood youhave sofar.
Dirty Talb 510$: “Didyou libe beingfucbed

a kind of small animal to face the oppos ite way
doggy style? Now turn over becauseI wnnt
toloob atyourface whileI fucbyou spread

a large bird
eagle.E want toseemy cocbgo in deep..."
Dirfi)i Talb #106: Now there‘s another

strange or unknown
mysterious ztrnnger who walbs uR

behindyau.I tell him to/ucüyox too.
We're allgoing toxaeyox asourplay

royement oftheearth's srirlace
toj/. Cet read3/ to quo#e ond quo£e.
DO 10: Remember tofocus on your tone:

speed atwhich one moves
your pitch, power and pace in your voice.

not coniDIeteIy or extrenlely
A sexually charged voice has moderately

loud volume which iricreases when orgasm
happeni ng very soon having interesting qriolities
is imminent. You can also have a sexier
voice my lowering your pitch and taking

to becgiiJ to deal with strenge ol unknown
ona deeper, more mysterious and more

showing sexual des ire
lustful tone. Finally, if you're just getting

relating to sexual pleasrire
started and feeling sensual then talk slower
showing strong interest
than average. As you become excited, your
breathing increases and your words come

tooesaicl ina certain way
out faster from your mouth. To some ex-
tent all of this is involuntary when you're

to excite oMe v/it1a sex
aroused. But just in case you're talking too

behindyau.I tell him to/ucüyox too.
We're allgoing toxaeyox asourplay

royement oftheearth's srirlace
toj/. Cet read3/ to quo#e ond quo£e.
DO 10: Remember tofocus on your tone:

speed atwhich one moves
your pitch, power and pace in your voice.

not coniDIeteIy or extrenlely
A sexually charged voice has moderately

loud volume which iricreases when orgasm
happeni ng very soon having interesting qriolities
is imminent. You can also have a sexier
voice my lowering your pitch and taking

to becgiiJ to deal with strenge ol unknown
ona deeper, more mysterious and more

showing sexual des ire
lustful tone. Finally, if you're just getting

relating to sexual pleasrire
started and feeling sensual then talk slower
showing strong interest
than average. As you become excited, your
breathing increases and your words come

tooesaicl ina certain way
out faster from your mouth. To some ex-
tent all of this is involuntary when you're

to excite oMe v/it1a sex
aroused. But just in case you're talking too

without excitement to make less severe
dryly or at an even temper, you can pur-

ina planned way ofthe voice
posely exercise your vocal chords fora hot-
terexperience.
Dirty Talb 5107: “£#t me touch

to produce flowers
you...righi there...onyourbudding
a female sexual part to bend intoa curved shape
cISt... notice how your bacb is arching

inAhi/&Es .YoxcAn*me...*oA##p
full of warm wetair
downfora stenmi#r introdxction)
Today,you'regoingtodo whntev#rI say.“(A
firm voice with slightly higher volume)
Dirty TalbS JO9: “Oh yesyesMore!£’oster!

to pass the tongue over
Sihethnt ohh Atopgoing Aeepgoingfuck
me oh God moé# me cxm!{Fest sext#xC#s

that evextuolfy become run an sentences
the peak ofsexual Dleasure state of having great force
as orgasm cornes; the ixtexsïty o/the
a feeling one's body gets reasonable
sexsotïoc breaès dowc Ïo@coÏ secte/tces

v/i1cI with feara acl \vorry
to JŸnntic exclamations of emotion)
DO NOT: Take chances by saying something

fornied by agreement
you haven't agreed upon yet. Don't risk it,
even ifit's something you figure "everyone"

to breaka lew
isdoing. That violates trust and WILL make

noteasy to deal with
things awkward for

a long time to come.
Now that we understanda bitmore about
what to avoid and what to do,let's talk
about making dirty talk "your own" by

very special or unrisual
bringing your unique voice into the equa-

very special or unusual
Chapter 11:Finding Your Unique
Voice (Phrase llo-116)
So much of dirty talking comes from
what we hear other people say, whether in
movies, TV or books. And that might work
fora time, especially if you're just start-
ing out. However, as you improve your
technique and gain practice in this won-

activity done during free ti we
derful "pastime", you will start to turn all

relating to sex
your erotic "borrowed" ideas into your own
unique pattern.
As you realize that yes, it really is YOU dirty

leaving interesting qualities
talking and not Mr. Pornstar or Mr. Sexy
Billionaire that isonly going tofill you with
self-confidence and turn your partner on.

Sex and dirty talking is about the personal
experience, the honest and unfiltered com-
munication between two people who have
found each other. This isa great connec-
tion of spirit, mind and soul and it's time
toexplore every inch and every idea in each
other's company.
So remember:
• Be yourself. If something doesn't feel
right when yousayit, stop saying it. If

a fantasy doesn't turn you on,just letit
go and try something else. Sex is likea
menu andyoucanhave anything you
want!
• Borrow your ideas from others but re-
write them inyour own words. Don't

familiar with so‹+Jethi‹1g
use words you're not accustomed to.
Instead, translate them into your own

very special or rinrisual
unique language — like something your
partner can imagine you saying.
o bit loud
• Practice by yourself, whether aloud or
silently. Practice makes perfect and you

to be in the process of i»aking
can work on your sex talking tech-
nique privately so you can impress your

someone who is married seeming like real life
spouse next time with some vivid de-
scriptions.
• Make sure your emotions arealways in-

something that is iiJJagined
vested. Ifit's your spouse's fantasy try
to summon up your own feelings and
focus on the details that turn you on.
Don't just tell your partner what you
think they want to hear—make your-
selfpart ofthe fantasy and own the mo-

a nervous feeling
ment, losing your inhibitions justa lit-
tle bit.
Changing Romantic Talk Into
Something Kinky
lacking experience or training
One challenge for nexper enced dirty talk-

one who talksa certain way
ers is to turn their romantic feelings into

something kinky and dirty. If you're not

having disrespect for religion almostI ever
naturally profane and hardly ever swear in
normal life, and are not into anything too

having 1sany tight bends
kinky, dirty talking will not come naturally
to you.
If this is the case it's time to "transform"
some ofyour innocent observations about

caDable of being use‹T
love into somethinga little more usabie for

the benefit of one soinethi1ag that is imagi1aed
the sake of your partner's fantasies. For ex-
ample...
a nervous feeling
ment, losing your inhibitions justa lit-
tle bit.
Changing Romantic Talk Into
Something Kinky
lacking experience or training
One challenge for nexper enced dirty talk-

one who talksa certain way
ers is to turn their romantic feelings into

something kinky and dirty. If you're not

having disrespect for religion almostI ever
naturally profane and hardly ever swear in
normal life, and are not into anything too

having 1sany tight bends
kinky, dirty talking will not come naturally
to you.
If this is the case it's time to "transform"
some ofyour innocent observations about

caDable of being use‹T
love into somethinga little more usabie for

the benefit of one soinethi1ag that is imagi1aed
the sake of your partner's fantasies. For ex-
ample...
Innocent Remark:
"I love my partner with my whole heart."
Becomes:
Dirf¿i Talb #1 JO:"/woxtyox sobad.../’ff
fet3iox do ANYTHING tome.An3ithing!“
Innocent Remark:
"Every timeI seeyou, you make me smile."
Becomes:
tocause to oecome clependent
Diry Talb #111.- ”f'x addicted toyour
cocb/pussy.I want totasteyou.I want
tofucbyou always.I NEEDyounowt"
Innocent Remark:
"I want tohavea family with you."

Becomes:
DiAy Tałk 5112: “Giveyour hot
jizz, baby. F:ii me xp uth th«t»«»y
maber andfeed if ałJ to mc!“
Innocent Remark:
very attractive
"I love your adorable smile."
Becomes:
pretty/nce whenyou de#pthront my cocb.“
Oźrty PoI4 #114:“Iśooó ot me. Don'tyou

liquid of fruits or vegetables
dare stop loobing at mc. £nt my pus¿yjuic#s

showing hunger or desire
whileyoufucś me with those ęry #yes."
Innocent Remark: ”I feel so close to you
right now."
Becomes:
a licjuid substance
theinside.I want ourbodiea and fiuids to

to cause tofit or work a liquid formed on the skin
mezh together.I wnn yoxr cxm, awen,

theliquid mncle in one's mouth
tee» and zpif. fjust went iodrinbyou uR-“
Innocent Remark: "We should go out to the

a meal enten outside
park and havea romantic picnic."
Becomes:
Dirty Talk #J lS: “We should go tosome

toseparate fron› others
iaolnted nren. £nt, drinh rind then/uch

the numbers 13 through 19 a small plant
libe crnzj/ teens behind thebushes.“
As you can see, dirty thoughts are noth-

positive remark write differently
ing more than compliments rewritten to
be sexual. So learn to use your normal

food given to animals
thoughts as fodder for making some truly

relating to the use of images
graphic and X-rated conversation. We know
youhavea filthy mind! Everyone does...
Speaking of which, just how helpful are all

malerial that shows sex acts
these other outside sources like porn, erot-

to become aware of
icabooks, movies and thelike? Let's find out
in Chapter 12.
Chapter 12:Free Sources of Dirty
Inspiration (Phrase 11 7-129)
Ifyou're still feelinga bit shy about practic-

an angry and critical speech
ingyour X-rated diatribe then there's noth-
ing wrong with samplinga bit of the old
"blue material" to see how everyone else
does it. You can find everything you need
from PG-13 rated movies and TV shows

attrncti ve ina sexr‹sl way having strong emotions
talking about sexy feelings arid passionate

very strange or unusual
love making...to a little more outrageous

material that shows sex acts
imagination by way of porn and erotica.
Lessons We Learn From Porn
Most people think of dirty talking as porno-

showing people as sex objects
graphic and not erotic. That's because porn

to ca use to be included
has been dirty-talking for ages, while main-

having special qualities
stream "classy erotica" isjust now realizing
that you can say "fuck" and not to have to
clean it up for sensitive audiences. We're
just not THAT sensitive anymore.
material that shows sexacts
However, porn is not the "ideal" because it
tends tobe male-centric and over-the-top in

something that is in›agi ited
terms offantasy and bad acting. It also has

an unrJsual desire
a number offetishes that may or may not
be allowed in your bedroom like anal sex,

to take in t1Ji-o\.igh the mouth
cumshots totheface, cum swallowing and

to force liquid front the mouth
spitting and lesbian gangbangs.
If you and your partner are okay beinga
little wild, then it might work foryou. But
even ifporn doesn't quite do it for you,
there are some great lessons to learn. Such
as:
relating toa sexual peak
Exaggerate your orgasmic intensity and

nromnl and it W/LLJ"eeI better.
stop! You'refucking me sogood...I can't beep

to collapse
cxmming nI! nigh£!I'm going toJ’nint!“
(Assuming your partner knows you're exag-
gerating, this can bea hot thing to saythat's

basecl on what is real
not exactly realistic, but still f\in)
to treata person as an object
It's okay toobjectify yourpartner's body.
clothifg wornu never clothes
Dirt;y 7nIh II 18: “Tabe oJfyour underwear.
Cet me seeft. Now bend over.7woxr to
seeallofyou.I want toseeyou touch

the feeling of being entertained
yourselffor my nmxsement.“
(Love and sex don't have to be the exact
same thing. It's okay to treat your partner

like an "object" since this isjusta game and
you're not bringing it outside the bedroom)
You don't have to be grounded in reality. /t's
OK to indulge your partner's naught:y tnboos
Dirfi Talb #119: “I'mgoing torideyour cocb

attractive ina sex dial way
a female sexual part
my clit. Is this whet3iox Sibe, baby? Two girls
fucking each other right on top ofyou?“
Porn isn't realistic but dirty talking doesn't
have tobe ultra-real. It just has to be sexual

a brief act of sex
and sometimesa "quickie" short story about
random fucking will do just fine.
Lessons We Learn From Erotica

able to read and write
Erotica has always had the literate angle, as

q uality that causes one to like
sexual content that appeals to the mind. We

glad works dealing \•zith sex
can be thankful that erotica has given us the

speecl at which one moves material that shows sex acts
gift of plot, pace and timing, whereas porn

feeling \voriy or concern
has never been so concerned with effec-

act of clescrihing qualities
tive moods or harac eria n From erot-

of or relating to the mind
icawe getthe psychological intensity and

fear that makes one Ives itate
the slowly rising trepidation that turns into

forbidden lust slowly but surely. It starts
witha mood andthen lightsa fire that must

tocause to step b‹Jming
be extinguished at all cost.
a state of excitement
Dirty Talb #12O: “Youfeela fiutter injiour
stomach. You #now it's wrong. But my hand

stomach
onyour Mmmy isfirm, andyou bnow that
I'm notgoing nn3iwher#. I'm tired of rezizting

a pleasant st1ieII
j/ou.f can't !ive withoutyou..J/oxrscent is

to toxic la gently
driving me crazy. Jjxst wnnt tocaressyou,

act of rubbing another’s body
massageyou, and mabe love toyou. £ight
here. Right now.E can't wait till we go bocé
totheroom.I needyou now.I slowly reach

a piece oT women's underwear
inrind dropyourpanties to the/oor...“
works dealing with sex
It is also thanks to erotica that we have
the ability to ”lose ourselves" and go well

involving right and wrong
beyond our ordinary moral/ ethical be-
havior, just so we can entertain some red-

something that is imagined an act of betrayinga panner
hot fantasies involving group sex, infidelity,

a tight bend in something
and BDSM master-slave kink. We don't even
have to“act". We can just reada story, or tell

relaTeci io IiTeraryflcton
our own story with fietional characters. The

relating to sex
erotic novel has given us permission to live

felt tlJroug f1 others' actions
vicariously through other people that have

burning with nriglst light leaving strange sexual clesires
flaming libidos much more perverted than
our own. Let's enjoy it.

Dirty Talb S1ii1:”You've always been
mrious nbout how it wouldfeel to hnve
two new making love to you ct the same
time. Well, now it'syaur lucéy day because

one who travels withouta plan
I've taben inn sexy drifter and he thinhs

very beautiful
you’re gorgeoxs. 74aybe we should all haue
a few drinbs and you can dnnc# /orus...“
Lessons We Learn from Phone Sex
Phone sex was big business back in the
1980s and 1990s, even though it's slowed
down somewhat thanks to free Internet

porn. But the interactive talk and non-vis-
ual element has affected our culture and

a secret plan
our ability to experience intrigue, arousal

iJiost exciting part ofa story the quality of being needed
and climax even without the necessity ofa
physical encounter.
Phone sexisall about firing up your imag-
ination and using your hearing and speak-
ing ability to create strong mental images

M1ate rİ aI that SixOWS S eX aGtS
that arejust as good asporn butfarmore in-

verygreaT in degree
tense because YOU'RE the star of the show.

to oay attention to
Couples can take heed from this and keep

makea deep aid loud sound
their sex life booming even when separated
by miles or in some cases, in a completely
different time zone.
to for-ma mental picture of
Phone sex gave us great visualizing dialog
that still work today. With suggestions and

time state o1 İeei 9 sat isfied
sexual fantasy fulfillment we learned great
lines like these:
Dirty Talb #122: “Whnt areyou

a piece of women's unclerwear
uearingî What coíor are yourpantiesî

a [Painting sculpture etc. that showsa nric\e person
Areyou sleeping in the nudeîAre you
touchźxgyoursef/Ńght xowî”
Dir{y Talb #123: “Pox wnnt tocum
together? £et’s stroée at the som#
time and thin£ o/each other...“
something ttiat is in aginecl
Dirty Talb 4124: “Tel/jioxrJ’nntna3i. Tetl me
all the diriy ihingsyou do whenyoujnc# oQiI

bad
wnnt tohear whntn unity fittse boy you are.“
Lessons We Learn from Cyber Sex
The main difference between cyber sex arid
phone sexmay well have been that in the
old day, people that had phone sexNEVER
intended on meeting in person. It was an

relating to sex
erotic fantasy, with no intention of the two

notnamed oriclentitied
anonymous lovers ever meeting each other
fora physical encounter. The cyber sex ses-

to grow sriccessfLilly
sion, on the hand, thrives off the idea of
actually meeting in person some day and

soiJiething that is imagined
getting to experience all of these fantasies
in person. People often use the Internet for
serious dating and so make Internet sexa

a very important part existing oM conlpritei's
mainstay intheir virtual relationship.
to what is aheadin space

This can continue onwards, even after you
meet in person, and sometimes couples
continue to have virtual sex even after mar-
riage when they're separated on business or

a state of being close
family travel. There isa sense of intimacy
in cyber sex that is lacking in the business
model ofphone sex.
Therefore, cyber sex isall about the expec-
tation, the emotion and feeling of what you
want todo toand with your partner when
you meet in person. This teaches us the

a feeling of¿ reat excitement
thrill of preparing our partner, and building

excitement about the future showiflg sex or vioIen ce
anticipation through phrases and explicit
visuals. Such as:
Dirty Talb S1!tS: “When wefinally me#tI
ÿwt want tomoÂesweet Io»e toyoufor hours
on end.I could zpend all day betweenyour

to eat slowly very beautiful
legsjust nibbling ntyoxrgorgeous body.“
Dirfi Talk P126.'I wnnt toplacea IOO hisaes

a part of the foot
all oueryou,from head toto#.7’m tired of
waiting.I just wnnf toreach oxt und tabe

not wearing any clothes
you into my nrms...to be nab#d withyou in
b#d, in the pool, in the kitchen, #v#r3iwher#!“
Rather than phone sex, which works be-
cause of high emotion, multiple changes
in voice tone, and the ability to hear each
other's voice, text cyber sex works best in
describing what we are FEELING, in the

PRESENT. You don't just share fantasies or

to touch your sex parts
masturbate together, but actually tell your
lover exactly how to feel with your simu-

made toseem like something
lated actions. As in:
Diny Yalk SI:tY:”f'm touchingyour breaso
right now...canyoxJ°eeI how my hands

tocontinue to exist wonder to make one feel excitement
igger there, in owe of you, eeslng.yoxr

a round part on one's chest larger than normal
nipples xntil they're nice and pu;ff'y.”
Dirfi Talb 5128: “Yougive me n wet and

very violent
viciow handjob. And/loue it. /tefIyox

the liquid made in one's mouth
todoyour worst. You stroée mv, spit

to pull into one's mouth toplay ina rough way
on me, and?$l1ic me and grouse
metoyoxr henrt's desire.I wnnt tolose
COittrol of myself, all inyour hands..."
to push with force
Dirt¿y Talk S1E9:I snter fh# room and shove

to eat large amounts offood
yox down onthebed,sfZzk!i3Dg

# away at
full of air balls
thnt benotiJii! bubbly assofyours.I hiss it,

to have sex witha virgin the soft parts of the body
deJ2oweringyour innocenfJiesh. fpxllyour
aszzheebz aparigearinga good look aiyour
pussy and asshole.I sticb my face right in

bei ng inflrJenced by alco hol
J0iff‘QttSSJ Iff**. drxnl on theteste ofyou,
wanting togo deeper.I ask you to spread

to cloa cof›srnand
your legs nndyou obey,just as eager to sur-

to hanCl over control to take control of
render to me, usI am eager to conqueryou.“
a pan cfa n›achiIe
True, by the time the web cam came along,
Internet sex combined the best of three
technologies: phone sex, text sex and even
visual sex, thanks to high resolution dis-
plays that letlovers see each other in real
time.
However, by the time the cell phone and

to change very nJLich
tablet PC evolution
edchat, we were in
a tli ng that can be studied
for another social phenomenon: texting, or

shall we say, SEXTING. This went one step
without any other's incl uded
beyond cyber sex, and was exclusively fo-

excitement about the future
cused on building anticipation—in many

tocook below the boiling point
cases, keeping your lover simmering on sex-
ual thoughts forhours while atwork.
That's the focus of the next chapter.

Chapter 13:How to Give Him
or Her the Best “Sexting“

c|roup of two or more worcls
Ever (Phrase 130-155)
very clear and conJglete
It's just not that easy to go into explicit
detail when sexting your partner witha

being extremely Dad
mobile phone, including those awful vir-
the set of keys ina computer
tual keyboards that are nearly impossible to
type with...not to mention the difficulty in
sexting with one hand!
easy to see or notice
Yes, it's fairly obvious that sexting isnot the
same thing as cyber sex or phone sex, since

a state of tieing close
the time and place for intimacy is imprac-

not practical
tical. However, sexting is allabout sharing
THOUGHTS rather than full experiences.

excitement about the futLire
Another way to increase your partner's an-

ticipation for sex later on, keeping themin
a
continuing forever having sext al excitement
perpetual state of horny desire.
Of course, there are rules to sexting, and
the most important ones are justa matter

good and moial oehavior
of decency and respect, since your part-

to search fora thing
ner will likely be rummaging through these

being reasonable°
text messages atwork. Itisadvisable to not

having no clothes on
show your face ifyou're sendinga nude pic-

to move slowly and quietly
ture and not to creepa new potential date
out by "sexting" before you've had a chance

very closely related
to get intimate in person or on the phone.

leaving good manners
It's also not polite to keep your partner
waiting forhours just for one reply, nor is it
polite to send more thana few textsa day.

to cause to lie concernecl
(After all, your hot and bothered spouse still
has to work!)
That said, sexting isa great tool to keep your
partner's imagination fired up throughout
long hows ofall work and no play. Usu-

a set time to play inc lurch a sweetly innocent quality
ally the best sext messages arevery coy and

the act of bothering someone
teasing. They're not actually about having
sex with words, but making your partner

to havea desiie for to laugh at an‹I ci iticize
crave real sex later on with teases like:
Oirty Talb #130:”7yustgot ou something

of sex ina playful way to cause to tuna
very xoughty.7thixéyox’r#goingto@i/* the
fuck outwhenyou seeme init tonigh ... O“
Dirty Talb #131:”Oh GodI cen't stop
thi2thing nbou yolt fund lust night.I
cnnj"eefyox on my hands,I can smell
you all over.I needyou now!“

Dirty Talb 5132: “Jxst sitting hereJontesiz-
to imagine doing things
ingoboutyou...wonderinghowwe eoufdget
iehere o/terhours oxd/ücè ox thedesB."
muIÉpSes withyou.”
Dirty Talb #134:I thoxght nboxt
you todoy...i/t the shower. ;)
In allof these examples, you notice the tex-
ting doesn't really go into great detail, as

with the fantasy sharing dirty talking we

soivetlzil1§ that is suggestecl
discussed earlier. Just the implication that
something mind blowing is going to hap-
pen isenough tofire him/her up.
Infact, you can get away with saying things
on texting that are probably hard to say

face to face without laughing. You can say
of ooor quality
cheesy sexual one liners like:
act of rubbing another’s body
Dirty Talb S13S: “Ineeda massage. But
not so mucha full body massage. Just
your hands working their nagic.“
i»ateriaI that shows sex acts
Dirty Talb #136:"I dox't needporn. Ijizst
!**R ihinbing ofyou in ihe nude and touch-
ing myself. God, I'msupposed to be working!“
of sex ina playfulI way
stu@I really thiné aboutyou...yox
coxldn't even fooh me in the ey#!“
a cfish of ice crea +J
Dirty Talb 5138:”I wanta sxndae...and
I want toeatit of;fyour body.“
Dirty 7’nf£ 5139: “Nice tie in thntpicture.
ButI thoxgh ofa mxch better usefor it.“

Another possibility is to use sexting asa
means of making plans, or more specifi-

more important than others willing to obey
cally, playing õominant and submissive.

a substance used in foods
You could do vanilla style commands like:
DiWş 7ałë #140:"ł want totoBeyou to
a hotel room, tieyox xp, and mabeyou
scream. But no one will h#arşou. ž'm

to laugh at and criticize
goingíococb teeseyoxJor hours.“
Dírtş 7alb #141:"7ełł me the

a piece of women's underwear
a picture made bya camera
Dirty Talb #J4ü: “Iwant a cochpic. NOW.“
Oźr@ PofÂ #143:"Shocb me witñ

your‹źcÂ#‹t/ontzzsyever."
be mş toş tonight."
Dir(y Talb #145:”Felf me the dirti#st
thingyou'ue e»er thought about me."
Dirfi Tałk 414d: “J'mjxat thinhing

a very dirty state
going iobe iomorrou morning...“

to become greater or higher
Oz you could escalate the teasing intoa full

not afraid of danger
game oftruth or dare with bold suggestions
like:
Dir¡y Talś #147:"F#xt me opźcture

area betweena woman's breasts
ofyour ćieavage.I need my fix.
Your body b#epa my going.“
Dirpy Talb #148: “Go into fhe bathroom next

totouch your sex parts
breab and mostxróote.7 will ifyou wźff.“
Ożr§y Tałś #149:”7 have ajOB to
$;iveyou...ifyou bnow whatI mean.
7xterested in the POSżTłOM?"

Dirty Yalb 5150: “Wear something with
easy access tonigh. I've wnit#d long
enoughfora goodfuzb inpublic.“
Dirt::y Talk 11 SI: “Iwnnt tobeused byyou.“
to accept with pleasure
All in all, sexting is about embracing the
fantasy, which will make thereality later
that night so much hotter thana regular

driedg rass fcr anii›iaI foocl
roll in the hay. You can push the limits of
good taste in sexting because it's alla game.

praise that is not honest a positive remark
It's all flattery and X-rated compliments.
You don't even have toput asmuch thought

a settime to pray in church
intoa good sext as you mighta full phone
conversation.
not wear ingany clothes
Naked sexual desire shines through here.
Sure, you'rejoking. You're being over the top
and you're sometimes silly. But all you're re-

ally saying is that you desire your partner.
to cause to l3e concerned
You're so hot and bothered that you can't
even goa whole day or day anda half with-

tendi ng to s[JreacI
out sending your wonderfully invasive sex
fantasies.
to improve
You can even enhance your sex texts with
semi-nude pictures, with sex toy pictures

li king unusual sexual behavior
or kinky captions, or simply remark about
your partner's photo and say something

ver-y or extremely
wildly inappropriate and NSFW.
Try:
an electronic sexual aid
Dirl¿i Talb #1ii2.-“I libe this vibrator.
ButI don't thinb it's powerj°xI enough
tocO*•*R•te with my tongue.“

havinga pleasing appearance
Dirty Talb SI $3: “Loob how cuteyox loob in
thispictxr#! Oops...I stared so long atyour
cute eszI have iochange ny clothes now.“
Dirty Talb #144: “Up shirtpicture
foryou.Jusi remindingyou of
whereyou're goingtonight.“
Dirty Talb SU $:“NowI'mjiut sending

an object that is easy to see
yoxroxdompicMres oflandmarks
secret wolds tousea comgLiter
Thankfully, only you have the password to

a mobile ratio telephone
your cellphone so allof this is locked away

involvi Mg right and wrong
forgood. In short, this is legal and ethical

a feeling of anger
sexual harassment. Have some funwith it.
In fact, you should try to push thebound-

havi ng sexual excitement
aries justa little bit and see how horny you

canmake your partner withbadboy/badgirl
texts.
Don't respect your partner so much that
you're afraid to be silly, or immature oreven

concerned only about oneself
a little selfish and crude. In fact, the more
ill-behaved you are in sexting, the more

toleavea clesire for
your partner seems tocrave it. It gives each
having many tight bends
of you something nice and kinky to look
forward toinbetween calls, tasks and lunch
breaks.
Yes, sexting isa wonderful treat, something

romantic acts before marriage
that reminds us how much funcourtship
and dating can be...even ifyou've been mar-
ried for eons!
Speaking ofwhich, it's time todiscuss some

a way ofreachinga cjoal
other great avenues for dirty talking that

you might not have considered yet. It is an
almost or nearly
art that can be used inpractically every sit-
uation you might encounter in this roller
coaster ride we call life. Let's proceed into
Chapter 14.
Chapter 14:Dirty Talking forEvery
Situation in Life (Phrase 156-157)
What's nice about dirty talking, asa regu-

continuing to exist
lar part of your ongoing sex life, is that it

easily changed
isflexible to whatever living situation you

part of something
have. Couples use dirty talking in all aspects
of their active lives including:
• Sexting at work
toadd interest to something sexual actions done before sex
- Spicing up their sexual foreplay with
dialog
• Using dirty talking during sex, to

toi ncrease the amount of
heighten orgasm
a Drief act of sex
• Enjoying quickies with toys and a
shared fantasy
sexual relations
• Enjoying intimacy while away from
each other, through web cam, phone or
texting
• Helping to boost each other's confi-
dence
the aloility to make new thinc|s
• Improving creativity and keeping sex
spontaneous
a strong urge or desire
• Resisting outside temptations since

son ietlJing ileal is imag in ed
dirty talking and fantasies address
these needs and desires
• Boosting your lover's self-esteem with

attractive illa sexual way
a funny or sexy text when he orsheis
feeling down.
- Improving communication and your
overall relationship
Yes, relationships are built on good commu-
nication and stay strong through constant

honest-to-goodness sexual technique, just
sexual contact between people
as valid as intercourse, oral sex and mu-

touching of one's sex parts o state of being close
tual masturbation. It isa form ofintimacy
and sexual behavior, and many lovers are
completely satisfied to just have sexting or

fantasy sharing than they are actual inter-
course. Sometimes our imagination is all

to make one excitecl
that needs tobe stimulated.
Some men and woman suffering from dis-

condition that limits aoility the absence oflegfeelings
abilities, such as paralysis or paraplegia,
take joy in dirty talking, as it's a form

a type oT sexual activity
of sexual stimulation that doesn't require
physical or mental effort
physical exertion. People who cannot enjoy
sex due to illness or age-related condition

a sexual quality the Ieeling of lieingin love
can still enjoy eroticism and romance, by
exercising their brains and using their wild

a description ofa possibility
imaginations inbrand new scenarios.

Bonus #2:“Wou!dyoxJxch me ina car?
Wouldyou tick m# inn bar• Wouldyou

to have sex
ride me ona bout? Wouldyou screw ne on

a hard hitor blow
afloat? Wouldyou bangme ona plane!

to hiton the buttocks a short stick foi walking
WouldyO2fSR*•b me witha cnne? Would

words ending in sirn ilar sounds
you mabe lo»e to me in rhyme! Would
you do me untis the end of time?“
Bonus #3:"Fell meyour deepest and
most hidden thoughU. Nothingyou
could ever say would shock me. JnJ’nct,
z'dprobably say, ‘JSet's try it once.“
the peak ofsexual leasriie
Besides, did you know that orgasm isan
entirely mental process? We all think of
it asa physical response. And while it is

a type of sexual activity
brought on by stimulation, many people
can actually "think” their way to orgasm

by entertaining sexual fantasies and focus-

relating to sex
ing on their erotic sensations. Dirty talking,

very great or large
with itslimitless possibilities and no-holds-
barred approach to honest communication,

thepeak ofsexual pleasLire
is certainlya way to help enhance orgasm—
inthebedroom and out.

sexual actions clone before sex
Too early in foreplay might distract from
themood ofthemoment. Ifyou're kissing
your partner, necking them, or whispering
tothem, it might work better to take things
slow and think of"softer" language touse at
the start, describing what's happening. For
example:
Dir§y T’o/# #Z:“ fmn...f fove fhe wey
yourahinJeefs ngninst mine...“
Dirl¿i Talb #8:"7ox fiBe my hand

area where thelegs join
on your crotch? Getting closer... and
closer to your zocb? It's so hard...“
You don't have to avoid the word "fuck"
or "cock." You simply describe feelings arid
actions of the present. Ifa woman hasn't
started oral sex yet, there's no reason forher

to pull into one's l:outh
to scream "I want tosuck your cock!" before

soft ancl quiet speech
she's set the right mood. As inwhispering:
Dirfi Tn!# #P:”Pour dick isgetting so
hard. You libe whenI touchyour cocb?"
When she's ready, and things progress to
the next stage, usinga "harder" sentence

to helpa thing greatly
will work wonders.
Diri::y Talk 510: “Give me thnt cocb.I
woxt tosucé ir.../woftt to deepthroot

cloth to prevent speech
thntJuching cocb rindgng on it...“
So it's all about pacing yourself and talking
dirty in "real time," not using the best stuff
you have too early on.
Remember to think in terms ofa sexual
menu ortimeline:
af interesting quality
• The spark, the attraction
• Flirtation
• Making a move (Requesting permis-
SiOTl)
permission
• Kissing (Giving consent)
• Kissing
• Foreplay (Breasts, removing clothes,
body massages)
• Prelude to Sex (oral sex, fingering,

ancl so for th
handjobs, etc.)
sexual contact between people
• Inter ur e l y then r gre Singt
harder and faster)
• Orgasm and Ejaculation
• Afterglow
somewhat orslightly
Start planning out, vaguely, how your dirty
talking progresses and take it according to
the mood ofthemoment. You can also use

notvild
tamer words atthe start, such as "breasts"
instead of"tits" or "penis" instead of"cock."
Something like this would bejust fine:
DiNy Talb #11:”That's whnt3/ou
Sike...touchingyour breasU...putting
my fingers throxgh yoxr brn...tensing

a i ound part on one's chest
your hard ni“pples...“

trousers
Dirty Talb 412: “Tabe of;fyourpants...show
me yourpenis...yeahI want toseeit, baby...“

And eventually it would escalate into
very clear ancl complete
more explicit detail. There's no need to

nervous about nieeti ng others
be shy...but then again, there's no need to

tostate very strongly
"prove" how bad-ass you are by swearing
too much atthebeginning. Let's play it by
ear and have some fun...just like real sex,

sexual actions done Defore sex
plenty of foreplay isgood!

There's a bit more to consider than just
anatomy ofour bodies. We know all

about
the cocks and pussies...now how about the
anatomy ofa sentence? Is therea certain
way to write these X-rated sentences so that

of poor quality very great in degree
they sound less cheesy and more intense?
That's the subject of the next chapter...

Chapter 3:Your Motivation Behind
DiMy a ing(h sel3-34)
Just as in acting, there's a certain level
of ”method" when it comes to creating

sexy dialog. You're not just ad libbing this.
You're entertaining. You're performing arid
putting ona great show foryour partner. So
takea little while to think about your moti-
vation.
What doI mean by motivation? Think
about what your partner wants tohear arid
what you want togive. Sex isa process of
both giving and taking. Sure, you can be
an excellent lover focused on helping your

mate achieve orgasm. But atsome point you

want tofeel pleasure just as you've given it.
attractive ina sexual way an aim or purpose
Therefore, in sexy talk, your intent isto:
• Say what you want todo toyour part-
• Say what you want to take from your

desire to act ina certain way
.
partner (your basic instinct, your tak-
So yes, that'sa safe ”filter“ to consider when
thinking of sentences you should say and
should not say.
oxt.J wnnt toheeryox orgasm whiteZ loob

energy
žxtoyour e;yes, tasbngyour hotjuices."
to pull into one's mouth

Both ofthese are an example ofgiving and
taking, and are in line with whata woman
wants tohear, depending on who's giving at
the moment.
A woman's version might be:
Dirfi Talb #1S:"I'm goin'g to'Iichyoxr
balls and lick up and down theshaft...then
stuQthet bigcocb down my throet...“
Dirty Talk #J 6: “Such me IiheJox menu
it...fil1 me up and let me feel that huge
cocb rammingagainst my wet pussy...“
Dirty Tn!£ #J 7:“£ic# my c/it...teste my
wet pussy and mabe me cum, baby...“
She's focused on giving and receiving plea-
sure.
On the other hand, saying something not
related to giving and receiving pleasure

not easy to ileal with
sounds awkward and unsexy. Like:
•I want tobite you!

a group ofthree
• We should havea threesome!
•I can't believe this is happening! Isn't
this crazy?"
• Our sex life is so hot, isn't it?
• Are you enjoying our time together?
• Or worst of all, "How's your mom
doing?“
Sure, there's alwaysa time to ask questions
like that, but it's not in the heat of the mo-
ment. Stay focused.
You might have noticed that the man and
woman speaking these lines alternative be-

tween past tense, present tense and future
tense. Sometimes they even speak in terms
of what they "want," or what they're going
to do. Just like writing and conversation,
this isleft up to your imagination. But itcan

:3 DI0i1 showing the orclei”
help to think of the natural timeline pro-

a statement that tells about
gression of sex as regards description:
• I/You want...(what you desire)
•I am/You are...(describing the present;
no need to say "I am" as this sounds

group oftwo or more words
formal, but phrase it as a question ora
feeling)
• I'm going to.../ You're going to...(telling
about what's going to happen)
•I did.../You did...(telling what just hap-
pened)
All of these can work and be mind-blow-
having interesting qualities
ingly sexy, at any given time, provided

the process of developing
there'sa natwal progression from start to
finish.
wearing no clothing
Dirfi Yalb 518: “I wnntyou togA undressed.

not wearing any clothes
Jwnnt toseeyou nabed.I wantyour cocb.“
Bírty Taíb 519: “You íike the wny I
cr#nm ałłoveryour cocb, hxh? Oh,
you'refucking me so hard!“
to force outa liquid
Dírtş FofÂ #20:"ž'm going tosęuźrt mypuss;y

liouid of fruits or vegetables
)uice alloveryour/ece, how doşou łièe thatî"
Dirty 2’nlè #21: “Oh God,you made me
cum sohnrd. Your hottongue made
me sowet...Ifiooded our sheetsì”
using too many words
How Wozdy Do YouHave toBe?

behaving badly
In general, it's best to create naughty dialog
in the same way you construct grammat-

with core ect word use
ically correct sentences. There isa noun,
a direct object,a verb, and if you're really

a word rlescrihinga no un
good, an adjective. So witha sentence like:
Dirt::y Talk 422: ”Oh God...I want

toprII into one's mouth
£oteatejiour cxm, baby.“
You have the subject (I), the direct ob-
ject (your partner and your partner's body
part), and a powerful action verb like SUCK
and TASTE. You'll notice these are action
verbs that involve one of our five senses.

a statement that tells about seeming like real life
That makes thedescription more vivid and
causing feelings
emotionally evocative.
As opposed to "I want you to be pleasur-
ing me." Or "I want tobe there, inside your
pussy, pleasuring you." Sentences should

lettinq things happen on its own
not contain too many words, or passive
words. Stick to emotion. To nouns, verbs

\ ery clear and complete
and explicit actions.
And yes, it always helps ifyou can throw an

a ward clescribi ng a noun
adjective in there, because this helps paint

seeming li ke real life
more vivid imagery.
Diry TofA #2J: “Iwent topxtmj/hands

having more than enough
alloveryour ample bosom...I want to

very tight to grab between thefingeis
rub your tnxt nipp/ea rind pinch them,

notstonq orsteady
listening toyoxr shaby»oice cracb

shaking caused oy at emotion
andyour tense body qxiver..."
That's not a bad sentence, but it is the
type of sentence that's easier to write than

speak. You might gettongue tied ifyou try
to say allthat in one sentence. Or you might

ofa minor nature a work describinga noun
accidentally usea funny adjective and kill

relating to sex
the mood. Reading erotic novels might ac-

attractivein a se xrial way
tually bea little less sexy than you thought,

veryr Jusrial or strange
if you get all sorts of bizarre literary de-

a statement that tells aDout
scriptions for what should be a simple
"Fuck", "Suck", "Grab" and so on.
For example, this isa somewhat over-the-
top description with too many creative ad-

unusual or strange
jectives and weird metaphors. "I can't wait

with an intense passion ›Ieasaft to taste or smell
to fervently sample that delectable taste
to flow out slowly a type of small gun
oozing out of your spunk-filled pistol likea
volcano!"
Way too many adjectives and a rather
strange set of images painted with inap-

not right fora situation
propriate words. When indoubt SIMPLIFY!
to make more difficult
There's no need to complicate basic sen-
tences with one dollar words. Sometimes

telling whata thing is like
the most obvious ñescriptive adjectives are
the best. As in:
^ï^•/ •*!t êfiê'''ê*-s°r*P"**/ is šê

tight! Kas, give it țo me. I wnnț o/eel
the state of having liquid
Øírty ’”o’Â#‘ñ'"Mmmș°s,your*ocã
'*° h.°yğ,.pytï? ï^.ye,n*Â.!^ê--?

beating strongly
. -.
íove thefeelingofyour Throbbing cock
sli’di’ngup an -d iJown my ți‘ps.*”
hard to understand or explain
Nothingtoocomplicated, just basic descrip-

a statement that tells about
tions of what ishappening and the feelings
we have in the moment. And yes, you can
geta little creative and come up with some

instance of last strong movement
great words to use, such as:throbbing, or

to build full of energy
erect, or bouncy, or whatever else comes to

words known and used by one
mind. Just try to keep your vocabulary com-
mon. Ifyour partner has to think about

relative to poetry
whata word means, or about what poetic

a word riseCI to show similarity
metaphor you're going for, it creates dis-
traction.
praise that is not honest
Flattery Adjectives
showing to one’s ahvaf tage
You can never go wrong with flattering ad-
jectives. In fact, it'sa safe and effective al-
ternative to trying to think up fancy words

a statement that tells about to praise too nsrich
and descriptions. Just flatter the hell out

given forfree
of your partner with complimentary adjec-
tives of their body and you can't miss.
Oirty 7ofB #24:”Ohputyour thicé
cocb inside my mouth! Facefucb

\ ery pleasing to the taste
DirJji Talb #2 7:“Oh my God,I can't help
to tearc uickly
. . G
myae-J/iI Just waz¡t to ripyourshirt .oJfand
causing gi”eats urprise
R^•*•› ñot lips all oueryour amazing tits./

attractive ina sexLi0I way
waxt tohiss every inch o/thnt sexy belly.”
Almost needless to say, but yeah let's say it...
Don't mention any "big" part of your lover

nervous about other's opinions
that he or she might be self°-conscious

joint between thewaist ancl leg
about. Big butts, big bellies, big hips are

nervous about meeting ot1aei”s
obviouslya no-no. Some women areshy
about the size of their large breasts or small

to judge something
breasts, so men might want togauge how

exon essing praise
much they like "complimentary" dirty talk-
ing in this manner.
telling whata thing is like
This is why a less descriptive adjective
might work some ofthetime, such as:

very pleasing
"Put that delicious cock in my mouth..." (no
mention ofbig, just to be safe)
attractive ina sexual way to hit hard
"I want to grab that sexy ass and smack
it!" (sexy is alwaysa safe word when you

full of e nergy
don't want touse, "big", "flat" or "bouncy")
Of course, ifyou make your lover feel com-

having no clothes on
Portable with his/her natural nude state, it
shouldn't matter. If you show your lover
that you likea "big ass" or in the case ofa

somewhat fat
chubby man,a "strong" body, then the idea

to continue to exist
will carry through without incident.
You can also play it safe by describing

a word describinga noun
emotional adjectives that speak about how
you're feeling or your partner isfeeling. For
instance:
Dirty Z’of£ #28: “Putyour hot lips all
a female sexrial put
over my swollen clit, baby..."
Dirfi TefA SZ9: “You libe the way I suck thet

bad to producea steady pain
nasty warm cumoutofyour achingdicb?"
beating strongly
• I”
Dirty Talk #3O: My throbbing cocé
I have to/uchyou right now!“
clifficult to bencI or move
Di'rpy Talk #31.- “Now rfd# my stiJf
cocb withyour ñotwet;pizss)i...“
a word clescril›inga noun

As you can see, adjectives are usually not
a problem. Say what comes natural rather
than over thinking it.
a grammar term
Adverbs and Exclamations
Be careful about using too many adverbs or

being sudden and strong going beyond what is usual
exclamatory descriptions. Using excessive

adverbs or adjectives for that matter can be
totake away one's attention
distracting. All your partner needs to know
isthat:
wiil ‹g re at desire
Dirty Talb #32: “I'mgoing tohxngrisy such
that bigcocb whenI geihoxe tonight...“
win grea+desire
Dirt::y Talb 433: “I'mgoing togreedily cut
kind treatment
ihat cunt untifJ/ou screamfor nercy.“
These statements will work, provided you
don't go into much more detail than that.
"Hungrily" isa good word because itshows
desire. "Greedily" also shows desire and

lust. "Powerfully" might also work, since it
paints an image and an emotion. Just don't

not relevant
get too carried away with irrelevant ad-

Titian intense passion
jectives like "dramatically" or "fervently" or

havinga Deau|ñJ quarry
anything too poetic. If it comes natural to

the words formi nga language
your vocabulary, you can try it, but forcing

to rnahe more diiticut
it out will only complicate matters. Dirty
talking isnot about being complicated!
a carp or +ddenrry
Exclamation sentences and words, as well

a word used to add force to cause to be filled with
as intensiliers work toinfuse the dirty talk-
ing with some emotion. You can't go wrong

onewho helms in an emergency
with oldstandbys like:
• "Oh God"
• "Jesus!"
• "Shit!"
• "Fuck!"
• "Goddammit!"
• "Motherfucker!"
And so on. However, avoid swearing inces-

without being stopped
a y f r aCk f a better rd. There' n
reason to say "I'm going to enjoy fucking

to destroy completely
pulverizing you all over that fucking bed.

to oriII into one's mouth a thing in excess
Suck my f\icking dick." That's overkill.
But a more simple approach:
Dir;ji Talb 434: “I'mgoingtocum
elf overyourJuchingJece!“
It works because it's in the heat of the mo-

a word used toadd force
ment andit's using just one intensifier fora

most exciting can ofa story to use bad wolds
climax. Simple isgood, but repeating swear

a major effect
words toooften loses the impact ofa great

to speak qLiietly
"Fuck!" muttered attheright moment.
Now that you havea good understanding

of"anatomy," both sentences and your part-
ner's hot cock/pussy, it's time tofocus a lit-

the study of the mind
tlebitmore on thepsychology ofdirty talk-
ing, and more importantly, the roles you
must play asa man ora woman. Let's move

Chapter 4:Whata Man
Wants (Phrase 35-50)
to walk in an awkward way
You may find yourself stumbling occasion-
ally if you're not sure whata man wants

ofa iJiinor nature
to hear from you. You may accidentally say
something funny or too over the top, just
trying to fit with the mood. That's fine and
there's nothing wrong with saying some-
thing quirky and havinga laugh. You can al-

attractivein a sexual way
ways gobackto"sexy" within seconds. Prac-
tice makes perfect and the more often you
dirty talk the better it can be.
That said, understandinga little bit about

the study of the mind
the psychology ofa man will help you

in coming up with the hottest dirty talk
they've ever heard.
First, understand thata man desires to be

a slrony sad feeling
attractive. He doesn't want pity from you,
impossible to resist
he wants to feel irresistible. Feeling his

tte qualities tyoical of men
masculinity is what makes him hard. So

not limited or controllecl
don't be afraid to play the part of a wanton,
a feeling of sexual desire always wanting more
lust-filled lover who is insatiable for every
member ofhisbody.
Dirty Talb #35.- “You're mabing me sohorny!
Oh Godyou moée me sohot/oryou. Ohfucb
baby,yoltJtfst know how tomake me cxmi"
Dirty Talb #46:"I lo»e the way

a kind of small animal
youfucb me doggy style. 2tard oxd
roxgh. Itdrives me wifd!“

Dirfi Talb 537: “I !ove the way you
sm#ff. /loue tñe way you taste.I
juar wnnt todrin#you up...“
Dirty Talb #38:"Giue meyour everything.
fium inm3/mouth. Cun on my
tita. Cum inside me.”
In all these instances, what the woman is

showing to one's advantage
actually doing is flattering the man's ego.
She's saying that she loves how he makes
herfeel, that she enjoys what he does, and
that he has permission to do what feels
goodforhim. Even when shetells him what

praise that is not I honest
to do, the message isflattery—that he can
do anything and she'll enjoy it.
Traditionally, the woman enjoys being
dominated bya man. Not all men will nat-

notaTraid o{danger
urally play the part ofa bold lover, so you

nervors about meeting others
may have tohelp the shy ones along, and let
them feel likea take-charge kind ofguy.
Sometimes reacting to their touches and ac-

totreat with importance
tions iswhat they like best. Playing up your

state of breathing heavily
moans and groans, panting and squealing
right when they enter you...these are all

one’s opinion about oneself
good ideas to butter up his ego.
Sometimesa simple stream of conscious-
ness like:
Dir{y Tnlh #3#: “Pou'reJxchingme so
deep with that hxge cock, bnbj/...“
Dirty Talk #4O: “You libe seeingyour
cock wrappeduR inmy bigti%ies?"
Dirfi Tnlh #4J: “Ohyou're mnhing me so
net!I'm gaing tocum all overyour cocb!“

Works wonders because all the man really
wants to hear ishow he's doinga great job
and how you want more ofthesame.
Sometimes flattery during sexisalsoa good
idea:
Dirt_y Talb #42: “Your cocb is so
beautiful...you kiss me so nice...you

to pass tile tongue over
Sicb no soooogood...“
This gives him the encouragement he needs

to make stronger oi extreme
to keep going and to intensify his efforts.
It's alsoa great way "romantic” way to tell
him what you want, rather than clinically

to give an order
instructing him.
Rather than saying "Now touch my clitoris
here and put your mouth there..."

Works wonders because all the man really
wants to hear ishow he's doinga great job
and how you want more ofthesame.
Sometimes flattery during sexisalsoa good
idea:
Dirt_y Talb #42: “Your cocb is so
beautiful...you kiss me so nice...you

to pass tile tongue over
Sicb no soooogood...“
This gives him the encouragement he needs

to make stronger oi extreme
to keep going and to intensify his efforts.
It's alsoa great way "romantic” way to tell
him what you want, rather than clinically

to give an order
instructing him.
Rather than saying "Now touch my clitoris
here and put your mouth there..."

It's better to guide him along with your
sexy sounds.
Dirty Talk #43: “Ohhhh shit! Jt
feels sooofucbinggood withyou

a female sexrial onrt
touch my clit righi there...”
r sed to show sr‹rprise

Ožrty Talb #44: Eolyfitcb! Y£S! Eat my
pussssssy! Eat my piusyjust libe that!“
a slzarp or sudden cry
Using exclamations works very well here,

qrJality of an embarrassing act
and eliminatesa lot of the awkwardness of
telling him exactly what you want. He will
immediately sense what turns you on and
respond tothat.
Reprogramming Him
However, formost women there will come
a time when their man goes ina different

direction than she's comfortable with. This
an unusr‹aI clesire
isn't always about anal or about fetishes,
but sometimes it's just about what doesn't
feel good toyou. For instance, ifyou like cli-

a type of sexual activity an ainJ or purpose
toris stimulation but he's interit on firiding
the G-spot then it's not going to feel that
great for you. He must be educated as to
what youlike.
The best way to reprogram him is to tell
him what you like. You can do this by sug-
gestion or by command. Forinstance:
Dirty 'Pnfb #4a: “Ilove it whexJox

a female sexual part
sucb my c/it ond łich it et the same

being so lsot that it bubbles
time...it mabes my błood boil!“
an act of pressing firmly
Dirfi Tałk 446: “Płease squeeze my nippI#s.

/ust the thought o/źt mabes me sohorny..."

Oïrty Talb #47:”Oh CodyesI Iïüe that!
a JensaIe sexual pam
Keep rubbing mjicliijxst /ihe thnnnnti“
In all of these situations you ARE telling
him what todo.Butby making it seem like

having sexual exc itement one's opinion abouto neself
you're getting horny it's flattering his ego.
By saying, "try to do this..." you're offeringa
suggestiori rather thana command. Not all
men like being told what todo inbed; some

tomake afraid
find it intimidating. They feel they should
be the master lover guiding you.
Ifyour man seems to know what he wants,

to say sonlething is false
there's no sense in denying him that. Let
him play with your breasts or look forthe G-
spot or whatever he wants. But after letting
him take his pleasure, it's time sethim back
on course by pointing out what does feel
good.
to makea lowsound in pain
And believe this, once you start moaning
and telling him what ismaking you orgas-

i eluting toa sexual peak
mic he WILL respond toit because he wants
to send you over the edge. Making you or-

gasm ishismission!
Dominant Women
Many women will be making love toa less
dominant lover, and there's nothing wrong
with this. Not all men are naturally confi-
dent or dominant inbed, (even though the
next chapter explains how you can improve
inthis ifyou'rea man).
Ifthe man enjoys you taking the lead then

lo allow one to do anytYng
lethim and indulge yourself, by telling him
exactly what you want from him. Many
men, particularly those raised in a sup-

to makea lowsound in pain
And believe this, once you start moaning
and telling him what ismaking you orgas-

i eluting toa sexual peak
mic he WILL respond toit because he wants
to send you over the edge. Making you or-

gasm ishismission!
Dominant Women
Many women will be making love toa less
dominant lover, and there's nothing wrong
with this. Not all men are naturally confi-
dent or dominant inbed, (even though the
next chapter explains how you can improve
inthis ifyou'rea man).
Ifthe man enjoys you taking the lead then

lo allow one to do anytYng
lethim and indulge yourself, by telling him
exactly what you want from him. Many
men, particularly those raised in a sup-

little boy. Pox Itch my cont unti!I
tellyou to stop. Understand?"
a cited expression
In all of these quotes, it's clear what the

always active or changing
shift in dynamic is: the woman isCOM-
MANDING herman what todo.Shelikes it
and he likes being dominated, or even “se-

to persuade one to leave sex ready anal willing to‹ s!‹
duced" by the more aggressive lover.
study of |Jarts of livi Mg tlli Mgs
This isthe second part of the anatomy of
dirty talking. The first part was express-
ing emotion and desire. The second part is

to accept with pleasure
commanding your lover and embracing the
power you have.
Yes, men are usually supposed to be dom-
inated in bed and most women respond
more tomen that are aggressive and more

making one do or want mole important than others
seductive. However, some men like domi-

nant and commanding women. Some men
arejust "switchers" and enjoy playing both
"top" and "bottom" at different times. One
day he might want to be the bad boy se-

back person who gets other to clobad
ducer. Other days he wants to be theinno-
cent kid corrupted bya temptress. Knowing
how toplay both roles is always useful.
Of course, if you are making love to your

I avidg the most power
"alpha male" lover then he's probably not

going to enjoy the dominant woman role.

ti oubling one through fear
He might even find it intimidating or off-
putting. Ifthat's the case it's time to surren-

to hand over control
der yourself to his desires and let him take
the lead. That's our next chapter. The role of
the take-charge man.

Chapter 5:Whata Woman
Wants (Phrase5 1-61)
A man who isnaturally confident, or who at

having the most pa\ver
least is trying to play the role of alpha male,

more in1 portant thaf1 others
does not wanta dominant woman butin-

wiIIinJ to obey
stead prefersa submissive woman who fol-

one who attacks others
lows hislead. He wants tobe the aggressor

had person who gets other to do bacJ
and the seducer. The woman doesn't start
to feel pleasure until he wants herto.He is
the “master” and she isthe “submissive.”
You don't have to be into kinky BDSM to

beingbased on natrJral ideas
understand the naturalness of these roles.

being burdened
Manywomen, oppressed sexually bya judg-

tend ing to judge cjriickly
mental society, are more comfortable with
men telling them what they want and then

feeling the pleasure that comes from sub-
sitting to the dominant partner.
Ifyou area man and are not naturally confi-

the benefit of one
dent then forthe sake of role playing get in
a male with excess pride
touch with your cold, macho andaggressive
side. This iswhat most women want tosee

nervous shout meeting others
becausea confident lover makesa shylover
feel more atease. You remove theawkward-

quality of an embarrassing act
ness and the "question" of whether sex is
the right thing to do, and MAKE ITSO.You
command. You give orders. You tell your
lover when youtofeel pleasure and when
togive you pleasure. And guess what? She
does. She responds toyour commands right

a sitn for one to clo something
on cue, provided you mean them andfollow
up.
lasting forever
That's why usingtimeless classics like these
lines work:
Diriy TeIh #JJ: “Te£# offyour clothes.
to move witha lot of energy

.
Bounceyour tifaJor ne. Spreadyour
legs and show me your openpussy.“
to pull into one’s mouth
into mji eyes whjleyou such my cocb.
Understand? Sucb it hord#r. Useyour

hands tostroke it. Gag on thnt cock.“
Dirfi Talb SSS: “Pox libe it roxgh?I bnow
you do.Voxlaybazb and you toAe every inch
of thnt bigcocb. Don't yox zeya word. Your

to bea part of
a citecl expression
In these quotes, you notice that all of

the dominant male's statements are com-

lasting forever
That's why usingtimeless classics like these
lines work:
Diriy TeIh #JJ: “Te£# offyour clothes.
to move witha lot of energy

.
Bounceyour tifaJor ne. Spreadyour
legs and show me your openpussy.“
into mji eyes whjleyou such my cocb.
Understand? Sucb it hord#r. Useyour

hands tostroke it. Gag on thnt cock.“
Dirfi Talb SSS: “Pox libe it roxgh?I bnow
you do.Voxlaybazb and you toAe every inch
of thnt bigcocb. Don't yox zeya word. Your

to bea part of
a citecl expression
In these quotes, you notice that all of

the dominant male's statements are com-

mands. He doesn't ask permission. His only
asked formakinga statement to take the time to clo
questions are rhetorical. He doesn't bother

permission
asking for consent because it's assumed. He

to ask ina very serious way
doesn't beg and he knows EXACTLY what
hewants from her.
He also knows how togive her pleasure but
instead of asking her how she likes it, he

to give an orcter
simply instructs her how to feel the plea-
sure he allows her. It'sa role playing and it's

a supporter of women'si ights
not really politically correct or "feminist" at
all, but it works. Because in the bedroom all
rules are relaxed. You don't have to mind
yourself so as long as you have an under-
standing.
not certain
You can still ask questions ifyou're unswe

w il li ng to a bey
about how your submissive partner feels
abouta certain technique. (We'll cover more

on this later) For now, just stick to non-per-
mission based questions that establish your
full control. Like:
Dirty Talb #$4: “You libe watching
my cock go in and oxt o/thntpussy
hole? YeahI ânowyou do.”
Dirty 7’nS# 4S5: “Areyou a bad girl
todo3i? You went me tospanbyour
nn#ed esz? zihe thu, huh?“
Dirty Talb #56: “Vox sure libe sucking
on ihnt bigcocb, don'tyox? Now tabe
it out of your mouth and lich my balls.
Pou Ii#e how that mabesyou gag? You
filestuf ngyour mouth with coch?“
None ofthese questions actually need her
response, but her yes responses only eri-

courage him to talk dirtier, which makes
toexcite one with sex
her feel more aroused. Questions arejust as
powerful as statements, but are usually ob-

relying on experi1+J ent
servational, mocking oreven lecturing, asa
Sexual Teacher. As in:
Dirty Talb SS 7:“Nowyoufeel how big thnt
innées m3i dicé? Putting it in3zoxr moxth

libe thot? Keep sHckiag on my cocb head.“
Dirl¿i 7alb #58:"Holdyour bigtiM together
while Ifñcb them. You libe wrapping a
bigcocb in those wet tittiez, hxh? Isthis
whatyou were hintingnboxt, hxh?ñ1e
tit/ucbixgyox whenyox/rst saw me7"
A teacher not only asks questions but gives
the student an answer. Questions are actu-
ally used as "control" statements, making

willing to obey
sure the student remains submissive. There
isnot really any permission expressed. It's

assumed. And that's what makes it sexy.
more imnortant than others
Role Playing with theDominant Female
i eady and willing to fight
If you're not naturally aggressive in sex,
or if you simply like switching it up and
letting the woman take control, then your

tostoo doing
statements will cease being as domineer-

to rule or exercise power over
ing. Instead, you will be helping the domi-
nant woman achieve control and will be fol-
lowing her orders.
Your statements will be more along the
lines of:
Dirfi Talb 559: “Ohyou'repussy tastes
so good. Please fetme sticb m3i tongue

topass the tonpue over
inyour cunt and Iichj•ou c/can.“
used to speak toa woman
Oirty Talb #60:"Oh ma'am, please shaw me

a round part on one's chest
your nipples. Oh Cod,yesputyour bigtiMin

to pull into one's month
my face. You Jihe the wny I sucA on ihem?“
Dirty Talb #61:"7jwt want tobissyou
op tobottom. Put mj/Sipa aI! overyour

a person’s stomach area
noxth, yoxr breasts, your belly, your
nas,yoxr/eet.I wnn to teste every

a small piece of food very t›eautifriI
morsel ofyourgorgeoxs body.”
This dominated male lover does the exact

more ini{Jortant than others
opposite of the dominant. He seeks to

please, asks questions and begs permission.

to praise too much a positive rework
He flatters her with compliments and she
gives him commands. He responds happily
to her demands and doesn't mind being lec-
tured. Even his"commands" aresoft, such
ashisrequest to "let me..."

Of course this dominated lover role play
only works ifthefemale assumes the posi-

nervous about meeting others
tion of Domme. Ifboth lovers are shy and

a request formoney orfood
begging, the sex is still good, but it's not as

of or relating to the mind
sychologica ly intense as when oneisse-

tooersuacle one to clo
ducing the other. The best sex results when
onelover isin control and guiding the other
lover towards pleasure—his and hers.
Now the next chapter is going to go into

to think of ina certain way
more detail regarding role play, and in par-

ticular BDSM andall that extra kinky stuff
that makes forbetter sex. You will find

thata lot of your "Dorn" (dominant) and

wiIIi‹Jg to obey
"sub" (submissive) ideas in power play can
be expanded upon when you introduce
these fetishistic elements.

quality of being daring to increase the amount of
Your gg essveness can be heightened and

your partner's response can be escalated

sti”ange or unusual
into something freaky and well beyond that
of normal sexual encounters. But this also
gives you the opportunity to explore new

the peak ofsexrJal pleasure
types of love play, escalate your orgasms

son ethincg that isin agif ed
and fulfill some ofyour darkest fantasies.

Chapter 6:BDSM Kinks and Role
Play Reversals (PLase 62-70)
Really good dirty talk is always a little

belief in magic cowers ofitems
fetishistic. This is because fetishism is all
about finding your "weak spot", what you

find very sexy and taboo, and then focusing

to increase the amount of thepeak ofsexrJal pleasure
on it for heightened arousal and orgasm.
BDSM stands for Bondage, Dominance,
Sadism and Masochism. While much of

relating to sex
what you seeinerotic novels is considered

leavinga specific taste
"vanilla" BDSM, there's really no limits to
how much funyoucanhave.
Most of that fun comes from the erotic
dialog you and your partner create. Some
couples are into role playing and assum-

Chapter 6:BDSM Kinks and Role
Play Reversals (PLase 62-70)
Really good dirty talk is always a little

belief in magic cowers ofitems
fetishistic. This is because fetishism is all
about finding your "weak spot", what you

find very sexy and taboo, and then focusing

to increase the amount of thepeak ofsexrJal pleasure
on it for heightened arousal and orgasm.
BDSM stands for Bondage, Dominance,
Sadism and Masochism. While much of

relating to sex
what you seeinerotic novels is considered

leavinga specific taste
"vanilla" BDSM, there's really no limits to
how much funyoucanhave.
Most of that fun comes from the erotic
dialog you and your partner create. Some
couples are into role playing and assum-

sexual actions done before sex
inga different character in foreplay and in
sex. Sometimes this works best because you

nervous nborJt meeting others
or your partner might be too shy to actu-

relating to sex
ally say the things that you find exotic. So

a way something is seen
through the guise ofa game ora role play,
you can get away with saying something
you would never tell your partner in real
life.
For example ifyou don't like swearing in

li king unusual sexurI behavior
general then you might find it kinky to role
play and say something totally out of char-
acter. Like:
DiNy Talb 565: “Oh baby,I wantyou to/xcé
my ass. Fill my hole up with that cocb!"
not goocl to discuss or do
This anal sex taboo topic might make your
male partner really hot and it might make

you just as hot. But that doesn't necessar-
ilymean youhave to actually try anal sex

relating to sex
if you don't like it. Sometimes an erotic
idea and a role play story isall you need to

toi ncrease the anlount of
heighteri your orgasm. You can talk about
anal fucking while fingering each other or

the act of going throughs on›ething
even through vaginal penetration. What
counts isthat you're both into it, not that
you're doing it "by the book."
to use bad words
Sometimes swearing at your partner, as if
you're having sex with someone you hate,

always active or cl anging
isanother dynamic worth trying. That's all

a clivision in two groups
part of the Sichotomy of being the ideal

a woman kept bya carried man
spouse and the "mistress" or lover that sat-
isfies your non-marital desires. Through
role playing you can have both.
As in something like:
Dirtji Talb 463: “You libefucking me,
esahoIe?Jiist tnhe whatyou wnnt rind
thenget thehell our ofñere!“
DiAy Talb S64: “Oh God, don't
;you dare cum inm+i. Oh Gad,I coit‘t
believeyou're mabing m# cum!“
to act as if something is true
This BDSM role play pretends as if you're
coming against your wishes, as if you're

to persuade one to leave sex
being seduced. It's taboo but it creates an
i eluting to sex normal foi one
erotic sensation beyond that of typical sex.
You're experimenting and having fun with

a cles cription ofa gossihili ty
the scenario. There really are no limits to
what you cando.
touse th
i ents against
The blackmail and non-consent scenario is
very popular in non-vanilla BDSM, and role
plays that you have special power over your

lover. That you arethe "master" and he/she
the "slave." The slave doesn't want to do

todo acommand
what themaster says but has to obey, less
the master become angry. For instance, the
master could havea secret or could have

controlling others
strong manipulative powers over the slave.
Pretending to "resist" your master can lead

having sexual exciterrtent
to some extra horny and erotic dialog. Such
as:
Dirfi Talk ##J: You may fuck my body...but
thnt's all. You’ll never hnve my heart!”
Dirfi Talb #56.- “Shxt up and suck
my cocb! Or else I'll tellyour secret
In this role play, you can see that the man is

a |oerson who does bad things
clearly playing the "villain", and the woman

Dirtji Talb 463: “You libefucking me,
esahoIe?Jiist tnhe whatyou wnnt rind
thenget thehell our ofñere!“
DiAy Talb S64: “Oh God, don't
;you dare cum inm+i. Oh Gad,I coit‘t
believeyou're mabing m# cum!“
to act as if something is true
This BDSM role play pretends as if you're
coming against your wishes, as if you're

to persuade one to leave sex
being seduced. It's taboo but it creates an
i eluting to sex normal foi one
erotic sensation beyond that of typical sex.
You're experimenting and having fun with

a cles cription ofa gossihili ty
the scenario. There really are no limits to
what you cando.
touse th
i ents against
The blackmail and non-consent scenario is
very popular in non-vanilla BDSM, and role
plays that you have special power over your

lover. That you arethe "master" and he/she
the "slave." The slave doesn't want to do

todo acommand
what themaster says but has to obey, less
the master become angry. For instance, the
master could havea secret or could have

controlling others
strong manipulative powers over the slave.
Pretending to "resist" your master can lead

having sexual exciterrtent
to some extra horny and erotic dialog. Such
as:
Dirfi Talk ##J: You may fuck my body...but
thnt's all. You’ll never hnve my heart!”
Dirfi Talb #56.- “Shxt up and suck
my cocb! Or else I'll tellyour secret
In this role play, you can see that the man is

a |oerson who does bad things
clearly playing the "villain", and the woman

relating to sex
the victim. It's straight out of an erotic
novel, but it doesn't have to be that elabo-

to cliscuss something fully
rate. Sometimes short stories of hot sex and
"resisting" are all you need to havea glori-

very beautiful
ous night ofrole playing.
Degrading Words
a substance used in foods
One of BDSM's most popular vanilla activ-
ities is using degrading words to describe
your partner. This is not for all tastes, but
some people enjoy the feeling of acting like

one who has sex for money
a "whore" ora "slut." Prostitutes and strip-

performer who re‹coves clothes
pers are common roles that women like to

leavinga legal power
play since they areempowered, uninhibited
and hard-edged. Once again, the opposite

relating to marriage
of the usual marital love that can geta bit
boring aftera while. These girls get paid to

be fucked roughly and without love. And
that's what theman may find attractive in

relating to an e xperiment
an experimental role play since, of course,

to breaka rule or law
he's never going to cheat in real life. But the

the any people c›e1aave together
dynamic isintense and fun to try.
So if the man talks down tothewoman as
Dirfp Talb #67:”7ox’re justa cum-
guzzling slut. Do you want me tofucb
you harder, yox little whore?“
All the woman hastodo isplay "slave"
and agree with themaster's "discipline" and
name calling. She may even take the lead if

iJei vous abotJt meeting others
the man is too shy to "get into the role." As
in:
Dirty Talk 568: Oh yeah baby! Call
to hit on the buttocks
mea whore! Spanb my assand use
me Iibeyourfucb-sIa»e!"
more in ponant thai others
If the male is playing the dominant he
might not want thesubmissive to speak so
much. However, ifthe woman istaking the
lead and letting her man know it's okay to

to attract
"act" then she might entice him by writing
her own dialog.
a descriotion ofa possiloility
And yes, you can easily reverse this scenario
and have a powerful woman "ordering"
arounda young man to do what she says.
Dominant female characters might be a

a woman who rulesa country
teacher,a mother's best friend,a rich queen,
a business woman andsoon.Shebuysa

a man paid to act asa lover
gigolo fora night and orders him around,

giving commands andtelling him what to
do.
A lotof guys will like this, as they still

to happen or apt›ear again
might have recurring fantasies ofa pow-

to persuade one to have sex
erful woman seducing them when they're

easily hLirt
young and vulnerable. Ifyour man isnota

one with an assured maisizei
natural charmer or"player", trust us,he will

making one do or want
find the idea ofa seductive older woman
very hot.
a kind of sexual activ ity a sr bstance usecJ in foods
Bondage is another fairly vanilla activity,
though some couples do get very carried

a long thin piece of leather to I«righ nt ancl criticize
away with the whips, ropes and teasing
toys! BDSM is not the main concern of this
book, but yes, dirty talking can always be

escalated using references to bondage and
tying your lover up. As in:

Dirty Talb 569: “I'mgoing toteheyou
home, tieyou up and fucbyou. You're

to make twisting movements
going iosquirm and vy toescape but
you'll be hog-tied down. I'mgoing to

fucbyou untilyou begfor mercy."
Dirty Yalb ST0:”You libe me riding thnt
hard cocb withyour hands tied up, pretty
boy? Hxh? Now there's nothingyou can do
togetaway. I'mgoingtomabeyou cum
inzide of me. Whnt doyou hinb of that?“
Of course, these dialogs are not as powerful

and arousing unless the other partner takes

a sign for one to do something a prisoner
the cue and "resists” his or her captive. Pre-

io act as ifs omettiing is true one who captures others
tending, for example, thata kidnapper ora
crazy ex has tied them up and is going to

to laudh at and criticize
sexually torture and tease them hours on

relating to sex
end. It's an erotic story for sure, and ifyou

a set of metal rings to put one's hands in devices
can use handcuffs and ties you cuff your
lover, by allmeans tryit. What's great about
BDSM dirty talking however is that you

a kind of sexual activity
don't actually have touse bondage gear. You

could even share your bondage fantasies
over the phone ifyou'd like.
The point is, keep your mind open.

nervor1s about meeti ng others
Rather than shyly dismissing your partner's

to order not to do scn ething
hottest and most forbidden fantasy, give it
to him or her! Enjoy the role play and give
yourselfa memory that will last fora life-
time!
not good todiscuss or do
Speaking oftaboo don't be surprised ifyour

partner has an extra kinky fantasy involv-
ing another person. Read thenext chapter if
you dare!
Chapter 7: Bisexuality and
Taboo Fantasies in Dirty
Talking (Phrase 71-78)
It should come asno surprise to know that

e xisting for many years
yourlover, even your longtime faithful hus-
band orwife, has thought about having sex
with other people. Yes, it happens. And no,
your partner is not going to talk about it or

to talk too much about oneself
brag about it, because he/she knows in"real
statecJ clearly
life" that'sa definite no-no.
a group ofthree a growp of form
That's why the threesome oreven foursome

something that is iiJiagined
fantasy is so popular in dirty talking and

the state of feeli n; satisfied
fantasy fulfillment. We all have extramar-

happening outside the mari iage
ital desires at times, when we meet an
attractive new person, or perhaps havea

friend we've always found attractive in the
showing steady srpgort
past. Surveys show that most faithful part-

to order not to closomething
ners do think about forbidden fantasiesa
lot, and sometimes even during sex with
you.
a grouD ofthree a group offour
Yes, threesomes, foursomes, gangbangs,

careless to have sex with others
casual affairs, swinging, cuckolding, and
sometimes even non-consensual kidnap-

crime of capturinga perscf
ping fantasies rank high on the list of fan-
tasies we all have but never seem to talk
about. So you have one of two choices: you
can never discuss itand keep allthose fan-
tasies forever in the dark or you can have
some funwith it and give your lover the gift

of a taboo fantasy that drives him or her
wild.
friend we've always found attractive in the
showing steady srpgort
past. Surveys show that most faithful part-

to order not to closomething
ners do think about forbidden fantasiesa
lot, and sometimes even during sex with
you.
a grouD ofthree a group offour
Yes, threesomes, foursomes, gangbangs,

careless to have sex with others
casual affairs, swinging, cuckolding, and
sometimes even non-consensual kidnap-

crime of capturinga perscf
ping fantasies rank high on the list of fan-
tasies we all have but never seem to talk
about. So you have one of two choices: you
can never discuss itand keep allthose fan-
tasies forever in the dark or you can have
some funwith it and give your lover the gift

of a taboo fantasy that drives him or her
wild.
As we'll discussa bit later, there isa proper
nOt gOOCI tOd i sCUSS OF CIO
way to introduce taboo fantasies and an im-

not proper
proper way. But assuming your lover is into
a nlovenient going down
it, then go ahead and dive right into the sur-

very strenge or unusual
real world offantasy sharing.
lo pedornn
You can act out the fantasies with role play-

to tell
ing or you can even narratea short story
describing the taboo encounter. Deciding
which "voice" to use will be a matter of

toj udge soiveth ing
taste, and you can also gauge how much
your partner likes the idea by paying atten-
tion to the reactions.
The role playing game is simple. It would
be dirty talking usinga different charac-
ter voice, perhaps someone you know, or
if that's a bit too much forthe green-

a meta ›hof forjealorisy
eyed monster, then you can simply create

relating toa whole group
a eneriC hara ter i jart y ur lOVer'
fantasy.
Dirty Talk 571: “Hey baby, it3 me, your

a sweet dish
bossfrom worb. Now whip outthnt cocb
oJ'¡f. Don't tell me no or J'If/reJiou!“
In this example, the woman isassuming the
role of the husband's real life boss. It's the
same dirty talking routine but witha new

taste ofa thing
flavor, since the image inhismind is now of

a I3rief attraction
his latest crush.
If that's a bit extreme (and granted, not
everyone isgoing to be that all-embracing.

feeling bad aborJt othei s’ happiness
Sometimes we really are too jealous to go

of the way of tellinga story
there!) thena narrative format might work
better. As in:
DiHy Tałb S7Z: “You come and see
wńot's waitingforyou. ł'»e broughtyou

a very attractive man
home oyoung6tud who’6 /tixe icches
łongand hard asa rocb. Don'tyou
want tosucb hisyounghard cocb?“
It's not as threatening because it's not
"about someone you know". It's just an

relating to sex
erotic fantasy involving the man letting his
wife pleasure someone else. It may never
happen in real life at all, but in your

seemi ng like real life
dirty talking fantasy, you can createa vivid
image and heighten orgasm x 10!
Instead of second person, as in "You feel this
and you feel that", you can also describe
your own fantasy and seeifit turns on your
lover. You could say:

Dirÿy Talb 573: “Jinvite my sexy $¡irJfriend

one who has had excess alcohol
fzom college over. And we allget àŸÎÎiÏiÉ.
And then on ri dure, she ziarts iabingyour

trousers
panM o@and strobingyour hard dïCÂ. Fhex
I toÂ# ït and @veyou a blowjob. And th#x she

joins it and we both licbyour stif;fshaft...“
Fantasies in the 1st person might work
better if you want to "control" the fantasy

area that belongs to the govt
and keep it within confortable territory.

of the way of tellinga story
Finally, third person narrative might work

nervous about meeting others
better ifyou're too shy to use "yourself" asa
character in the fantasy. For example:
Dirÿy Tnlè #Z4: “Deve tnêesXnr#n tori
a»ingerparty. And theyfa‹cb ix/ronE of
/ve otJtsrpeoJ,J#. 7’hen the other men_Join
in and Karen tnh#s two dichs, one in each
hole, and the othæ inhermouth..."

Your partner may have different tastes, so
it's fun to experiment.
woman attracted to other \von›en
Gay and Lesbian Experiences
in Fantasy Sharing
This may bea challenge especially ifyou are
not gay or lesbian and yet your partner is

demanding something a group ofthree
very insistent on having this hot threesome

a false threat cr claim
fantasy. Don't bluff. If you're not having fun
it's not even worth it. Remember though
that even ifyou're not comfortable touch-
ing and pleasuringa member ofyour own
sex, there are ways todescribea threesome
fantasy that arejust as hot. For example:
Dir¡p raI# #7J: “We fa#e mrns auc#ingjiour
cocb...I passyour dicA to Amanda andshe

topass the tongue over
blowsyou whileI licbyour tight balls...“

a top wom by women
Oirty Talb #76:"7 ripyour blouse o@and

a type of ground meat link
ifegets to do whntever he wnnts toyox,
that was our den. So pullsyour tits out

ofthat hotpinb 2i/7z and mabes me watch.

Him sxcking on your titties is foo mxch to
trousers
out. 7henjabe comes inand pulls hispoxts
down. You suck him too,finally becoming the
littlegangbangslutyou énowyou are..."
These are examples of male-male-female

a group of three
and female-female-male threesomes that

are not gay, but still very kinky and may be

hot enough foryou to turn intoa fantasy
even ifyou can't give your partnera gay

a description ofa possibility
scenario. Sometimes just having sex in the

presence of someone else, or letting them
toattract
join in,can be enticing.
sexual actions do ne before sex
Sometimes foreplay witha same sexpart-

happening asa minor part of
ner or incidental touching may be enough
to turn your cwious partner on. For in-
stance:
Dirty Tnlh #77:”f tn£e oQDnnieI/e's bro

to movea thing back and forth
exposizig her tits tayou. 7hexł start mbbing

a round part on one's chest
her big pp s with oźl, gettźxgh#r tits
ali nice and wet/oro double titf¿ifucb.“
Dir§y 7alb #78:”My hotblacśfżiend with
his ten inch cocb isjust dying tofucbyour

never having had sex before
uir@n ass. So7’mgoingtofi‹cbyourpus¿§i

to fill or cover with
and h#’z goingo bend over andp ug that
esshol# np. You Ii#e thet?FeeJingboth
ofour dicbsgoing inand oxt ofyou,just

barely touching, which increases the
the act of dubbing
friction...you're rend3i to cum so hard...“
Dirty talking is reallya matter of nego-

fofTi1a I CI iSC LlSSiOi1
tiation and compromise. And who knows?
Maybe you can summon up thenerve to

give your partnera same sexfantasy. You
never know ifyoulike something until you
try!
Thus far, we've revieweda lotof ideas on

seasonings rised to add taste
how to spice things up and "turn up the
volume." But dirty talking is not just about
cole-playing. Sometimes it's all about speak-
ing what feels honest to you.
Ifyou're feeling the fantasy, and not feeling

state of lJaving great force liking unusual sexual behavior
the intensity of emotion, thena hot kinky
fantasy means nothing.

It's time tolearn how to communicate hon-
ina genuine way
estly and let your emotions flow in Chap-
ters8 and 9.
to juclge something
Chapter 8:How to Gauge
What Yow Partner Likes and
Doesn't Like (Phrase 79-80)
Above all else, dirty talking is about com-
munication, not just the taboo and outra-

very strange or unusual
geous. Ifthere isa lack of communication,

li king unusual sexual behavior to resolve something
no kinky fantasy is going to make up for
it. The heart, the mind andthetrue feeling
of the moment iswhat makes dirty talk-

works dealing with sex
ing hot. You can read erotica all day long or

material that shows sex acts
watch porn, and still not be ready to give
your lovera hot session of dirty talking.

not easy to deal with
Maybe things are awkward or he/she just
isn't feel the fantasy.
What gives?
Preparation
This is truly one of the most important
lessons in dirty talking—communicating in
advance of the actual dirty conversation.
Don't ever "surprise" your lover witha non-

u group ofthree
consent or threesome fantasy, just assum-

relating to sex a written story
ing that your erotic voice and narrative will
make him/her hot. You can't do that and
that's only going to lead to tension. At best,

to try to Please
your lover will "humor" you but not feel
it. At worst, you may even start an unsexy
fight!
in advance
Always discuss beforehand what your part-
ner likes. You can talk about it in bed, right
before the fantasy begins. Or you could talk

reasonable
about it in broad daylight, ina very logical
sense with honest yes or no answers.
Since this is the "pre-interview" of dirty
talking, you don't have to be romantic,

li king unusual sexual behavior
kinky, or sexy. You just need information.
All the kinky talk comes later once you
learn what your partner wants. You needto
know:
• What fantasies appeal to them

sexual actions done before sex
• What sexual foreplay and techniques
they like
• What kind of person they find attrac-
tive
• What kind ofsetting theyfind arousing
• What dirty words they like
• What words they don't like (i.e. "slut is
too much” or"asshole" istoo much)

a rule against doing something
• Whattaboos arejust right (i.e. "teacher-

not wanted or identified
student ishot, anonymous sex)
• What sexual behavior is way over the

a wilcl parfy with sex act of rubbing anothei“s body
line (i.e. no orgies, no prostate massage)
• What kind of person is OK to use for

something that isi magineo
fantasies (i.e. no real life friends, no

crime of forcing to have sex
rape or toilet stories)
In fact it's best to discuss ALL of the above
well in advance ofeven creating the fantasy.
And don't be satisfied withjust "I like every-
thing..." Because that's not specific.
s horild
You ought to share with your partner your

a tight bend in soicethi ng
DOs and DON'Ts, what kind ofkink you like,
what you arecurious about, and what you
would NEVER do.This gives you the ammu-

tile objects shot front weapons exciting
nition needed to createa titillating fantasy
with alltheright words.

not easy to deal with
If bringing this up seems awkward then
agree to make a list of all types of sex-
ual behavior that you can find through re-
search. The both ofyou can check offwhat
behavior isoverthe line and whatisn't. This

toagree by discussing
will help you negotiatea compromise that
works forboth ofyou. Sometimes theprob-
lem isnot knowing what types of sex other

ina direct and honest way
people are having! Discussing it openly al-
ways helps.
Putting Emotion Into It
Putting real emotion into your dirty chat

very important
is paramount, because without it, sex—yes

liking unus ualsexual behavior
even that kinky thing you're thinking—is
empty. No, we're not talking about love,

state of having great force
we're talking about emotion and intensity.

a feeling one's l›ody gets
Sensation and excitement.
Are you putting yourself in the moment
and"letting go" of your inhibition or are you
still protecting and hiding? Your lover can
sense it, believe itor not.
For example, consider two very different
samples:
Dirf¿i Talb #Z9:"7hec we/ucé on thebeach.
There arepeople around us butwe don't

to force against each other
care. AllI wont todois grind againstyou,
itoldingyaur handsfirmly and whispering
into your ear.I cnn/#eI myself inside of

to press firmly
you,yourptissJ writ/s squeezing hard on

the long part ofa tool
my shafl and forcing me to cxm...“

Dirfi Talb 580: “ThenI te£eyou down
onth#@oor, God, 7,just wont tobury
mj/mouth inthose beautiful tits ond

to cover thickly
smother m_yaeJ/. Pxlf3ioxr tits oxt. 2.#t
me see, oh Cod let me‹ee. Yes, ohI got

to pull into one's month
tosuch them...let me sztcé them..."
Both ofthese lines are OK but the former is
calm and centered, written for the female
lover, and for her pleasure. The second ex-
ample isgrittier and more high-emotion,
almost stream ofconsciousness and feeling
the emotion ofthe encounter.
Ideally, you want tofinda balance between
telling your partner what you think they
want tohear (which is not always fun for

you) and also describing your own arousal
and losing control. Your partner DOES want

tocause feelings of delight
to see you hot and excited. So if you tell

sometlsi s that is imagined
him or her a certain fantasy that doesn't
twn you on personally, the emotion will be
lacking in the story. On the other hand, if

showing strong interest state of raised life activity
you're so excited about your own arousal

not aware
and oblivious to her pleasure, it's goingtobe
a one-sided fantasy.
The answer iseasy. Get excited about the
fantasy your partner wants tohear. You can
take turns sharing one-sided fantasies, but
eventually it's your turn to entertain your
partner. You have to make thestory about
her (orhim) and not just your own eroti-

a sex Lial quality to become aware of
cism. Besides finding out your lover's secret

a rule against doing something to cause to be fillecl with
taboo, there isa way to infuse the fantasy

able to show feelings freely
and dirty talk with genuine, uninhibited

emotion. Even ifit's all about your partner
and not you.
That's the subject of our next chapter—

somelhing that is in ag ined
committing to the fantasy and knowing
how to turn ANYTHING into a hot and

fLiII of warm wetair
steamy good time.

Chapter 9:How to Feel What
YouSpeak (Phrase 81-87)
First, understand that sexual excitement is
always going to be male or female-centric.
You can't really know what it's like to be

a sexually aroused woman ifyou're a man,
oran aroused man ifyou'rea woman. You
can guess but it's not the same as actually
BEING theother sex.
So assume that what turns you on isprob-
ably reversed for your partner, since you're
most likely two heterosexuals. We know
that on average most men like visual stim-

an action to make one react
ulation, whereas women prefer emotional
stimulation.
So ifyou'rea woman feedinga fantasy toa
man, expect that he likes it in that Hustler

material that shows sexacts dishonest and unfair
pom style, which is visual-cenCic, cynical
and raw.
As in:
Dirty Tnlb 481: “Ohyeah,you want my
bigueititties nII overyoxr coch?Js thnt
to force liquid from the mouth
spit on it and get źt ali xźCe and wet so7
can tif|fscbyox. ł'm going towrap my tźts

the long part ofa tool to pull into one's mouth
around theshafl and thm sucb on the

one with weird sexual behavior
head.just tibeyou want it, per»ert!"
to press firmly
soft squeezingyour cochhend. ćfy ctim

to fali in orops
is dripping aJłoverJioxr coch...Jżou’r#

to force outa liauid
goingtomaśe me sqanrt ali overyou!"

tog ive special attention to
And you notice she's emphasizing her own
body parts, knowing that's what turns him
on. She mentions his penis in passing but
her breasts, vagina and lips are the key im-

to hold the attention of
ages that enthrall him.
Men have to adapt to the female-centric
view of sex, emphasizing their body parts

to talk with others
and how he interacts with her. Such as:
Dirfi Talb #85: “Now tabe my cocb inside
you. Feel how hard my dick is? My throbbing
cocb slides in and out oJyou nndyou can

frienrlly jokes about someone
feel every vein ribbing againstyour wall. My

to now a thing back and forth
cocbhead rubs againstyoxrsweet spot and

to shake a loud so uncl i+ ade by hitting
you feela shxdder. MJ balls slap againstyour

to push with force
‹iss usI stnrt iñrxsting harder and harder...“

Dirfi Talb #84:I eotyou outasyou sitin
your oQice chair, looking up atyou, keeping
hard eyecontact.I woxtyou toseemy eyez,

to cause to fall over
seemy passionforyou, whileyou spill onto
me. £ooh ct me whenI mnh#jiox cum. I.ooh

ot ny tongue teasingyou. Yeah thnt's if,

to push with force
grab my hair and shove me deeper inside. I'm
going £ongue-/xchJo2t 2tntiSJox scream...“
He's focusing his attention on his male
parts, and his face, all of his body, as he in-

to talk with others
teracts with hisfemale partner. You might

toointeresied in oneself
think it's elf cente ed to talk about your
own body instead of your partners, but it's

to make oneaware of needs
actually more attune with their natural in-

stincts. Women knowwhatparts they have.

to make onei nterested
But they're fascinated by the penis. Men are
fascinated by breasts and the vagina. This

Dirfi Talb #84:I eotyou outasyou sitin
your oQice chair, looking up atyou, keeping
hard eyecontact.I woxtyou toseemy eyez,

to cause to fall over
seemy passionforyou, whileyou spill onto
me. £ooh ct me whenI mnh#jiox cum. I.ooh

ot ny tongue teasingyou. Yeah thnt's if,

to push with force
grab my hair and shove me deeper inside. I'm
going £ongue-/xchJo2t 2tntiSJox scream...“
He's focusing his attention on his male
parts, and his face, all of his body, as he in-

to talk with others
teracts with hisfemale partner. You might

toointeresied in oneself
think it's elf cente ed to talk about your
own body instead of your partners, but it's

to make oneaware of needs
actually more attune with their natural in-

stincts. Women knowwhatparts they have.

to make onei nterested
But they're fascinated by the penis. Men are
fascinated by breasts and the vagina. This

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is what turns us on.

So try thinking ”inre-

verse" in terms ofanatomy.

able to read and write

A lot of women also prefera more literate

and emotional prelude to hard dirty talk.

Now we're not saying that women areem-

barrassed to get down and dirty, far from

it. But setting up the scene before diving

right into the vagina and breasts works bril-

liantly. For example:

Oirty Talb #8ii. ”Ima@neyou're ona cruise

ship. Alone and looking out nt the sea. You're

n bitfipzy nJ’ter thnt wine. Pou're dnncing

tothemxsicyox stiff hear comingfzom th#

inaide of the paHy room. Suddenlyyou feel

a strong malepresence behindyou.A man's

hand slips into the top ofyour bacbless

halter and cupsyour breasts with hisfirm

hot brenth and deep breathing are turning

you on.As he beginsgropingj/our titsyou

realizeyou dox‘t Core. 7ox/xst woxt tobe

/uCBed. 7tepulls one hand outsotñat h#

cnuJngeryox, right there, in pxblic. Kox're

too turned on tosoy xo.7ou reach around

and/eel hisbulging cocbgettingharder...“

something that is imagined

Now in this fantasy dirty talk, you notice

not only isthat man emphasizing hisown

parts, but more important he's describing

feel, what shefeels, rather than just telling

her how hard he's fucking her. Her mood is

to the environment. From that point on, he

can say "fuck" and "tits" all he wants be-

cause he's already stimulated her emotions

and involved her in the scene. And allit took

to put her on slow boil was just takinga

Of cowse, it's not justa woman's thing. Be-

lieve this, ifa woman takes the time to set

upa scene and a mood, theman will be just

as aroused and into it. The only real differ-

ence isthat whereasa woman canimagine

hot sex aboarda ship, a man's fantasy might

usually delve deeper into outrageous sce-

Concentrate on the Imagery

When you're dirty talking to each other,

you use both visual and aural stimulation

as well as words that evoke allfive senses.

especially if you're talking on the phone or

online. So it's best to paint strong visual im-

ages through language. Besides, even ifyou

are having sex, you can do no wrong with

spicy visuals thrown inatkeyparts.

sexual actions clone before sex

• Sexual positions or foreplay

• Sights that he/she might see

• Expressions on his/her face

• The level of his or her excitement

• What he or sheisfeeling, and how

• Details about penetration

Two examples would be:

and afnrt rubbing it all overyour hot

pizssy lips and then mb my head allover