How to End Self Sabotage

DEFINITIONS
self de·stroy
/self/ /dəˈstroi/
noun
verb
noun: self plural noun: selves
verb: destroy 3rd person present: destroys past tense:
destroyed past participle: destroyed gerund or present
1. a person's essential being that distinguishes them participle: destroying
from others
1. put an end to the existence of (something) by
sab·o·tage damaging or attacking it

/ˈsabəˌtäZH/
verb dam·age
verb: sabotage 3rd person present: sabotages past tense:
sabotaged past participle: sabotaged gerund or present /ˈdamij/
participle: sabotaging noun
noun: damage plural noun: damages
1. deliberately destroy, damage, or obstruct
(something), resistance 1. physical harm caused to something in such a way
as to impair its value, usefulness, or normal
function

de·lib·er·ate·ly
/dəˈlib(ə)rətlē/
ob·struct
adverb /əbˈstrəkt,äbˈstrəkt/
adverb: deliberately verb
verb: obstruct 3rd person present: obstructs past tense:
obstructed past participle: obstructed gerund or present
1. consciously and intentionally; on purpose
participle: obstructing

1. block (an opening, path, road, etc.); be or get in the

way of

People call it sabotage, but it’s actually just people living

according to their ‘unidentified values & purpose’, with fantasies /
infatuations of trying to be somebody they’re not… YET.
HOW IT HAPPENS
● You see the finish line, but stop short
● You feel the urge to make the call, but you don’t
● You procrastinate
● You find reasons to do other things
● You do things you know you shouldn’t be doing
● Trying to make everything perfect before you “launch” or do a thing
● Blaming someone else as the reason why a goal isn’t achieved
● There are always reasons for coming up short
● Logical “reasons” why ‘it’s not done” or “we’re not there yet” or “I couldn’t make it happen” are frequent

WHY IT HAPPENS: A
You’re actually “right on purpose”... it’s just a purpose that isn’t serving your goals. A purpose that isn’t
designed or clear… You’re operating based on a hierarchy of “purposes”, priorities or values that conflicts
with the priorities or values that you think you “should have”

EXERCISE:
What are the top 5 things you do you do to sabotage yourself?

SABOTAGER ASSOCIATED VALUE WHAT I SHOULD DO ASSOCIATED

VALUE
What is the thing you What must you be valuing in What action must you do (or What must you value in
do (or don’t do) that is order to do (or not do) that stop doing) to get to your order to achieve your
the sabotaging action thing? goals? goals?
(or inaction)?

Eating junk Convenience, flavor Eat clean Health

Not saving Poverty, comfort Automate Savings Wealth

Not making calls Comfort Make calls Growth, Finances

Drink Escape Be sober Clarity of mind

4
 5

Rank what your top 5 values need to be in order to get to your goals:

TOP 5 VALUES
Write your values from above in order of importance

🌟 Alter your Values in the Create Your Future Section of this Program 🌟

DO THE LINKING PROCESS

TO LINK THESE 5 VALUES TO YOUR GOALS

“Every decision you make is based on what you believe will give you the greatest
advantage over disadvantage, greatest reward over risk to your highest values.”

- Dr. John Demartini, The Values Factor (book)

WHY IT HAPPENS: B
You feel unworthy of your goals because you’re currently doing (or have done in the past) unethical things in
your life or business that you feel guilty for...

If you feel unworthy of your goals, you will find a way to stop yourself.

LIST OF CHARGES
CHARGES ITEMS
😡ANGER ●

😠RESENTMENT
● Person who told you what you should value & how you should
operate (list all)
😤FRUSTRATION ● Keep sabotaging myself

● Never going to change

● Having responsibility
😬FEAR&ANXIETY ● Having power
● Mishandling power
● Mishandling responsibility

😟SELFDOUBT
● Doubt I can fulfill my vision
● Be an example of what’s possible

● Having the wrong purpose / vision

🤕FEELINGJUDGED ● Not far enough along
● Sabotaging myself
😨GUILT&SHAME ● Chose the wrong direction / purpose
● Things I shouldn’t have done
● Mishandled responsibility
● Let a client down
● Let a team member down
● Cheated / otherwise unethical
● Saying something I shouldn’t have
● Not saying something I should have
● Not taking responsibility for (x)
● Ruining my family
● Ruining my business
● Not doing what I know I need to
● Doing things I know I shouldn’t do
● Screwing someone over
● Making fun of someone
● Belittling someone
● Ruining a gathering
● Starting a fight
● Not being as loving as I should have
● Not being as caring as I should have
● Judging others
 ● Stealing something
● Selling drugs
● Murdering someone
● Not spending time with children, parents, grandparents
● Unpaid financial obligations
● Failed friendship
● Not taking an opportunity
● Taking the wrong opportunity
● Making a wrong judgment
● Physically abusing someone
● “Sinning”
● Giving into a craving
● Not calling family / friends enough
● Not sticking to my routine / plan
● Not going to the gym
● Not taking my own advice
● Punishing myself
● Hitting the snooze button
● Being lazy
● Not recycling
● Lying to someone
● Going in debt
● Not finishing something
● Scrolling through social media
● Masturbation
● Sex
● Hiding something from someone
● Taking advantage of someone

😰GRIEF&LOSS ● Lost opportunities

😞DEPRESSION ● I don’t like where I’m at

● Doing everything perfectly

👅 INFATUATION
● Financial Freedom
● Time Freedom
● Perfect delegated team