PARENTING STYLES

The family is the most important parenting context in the first years of our children's lives, where the
first skills and habits are acquired that will allow them to master autonomy and behaviors that are crucial for
life.
WHAT ARE PARENTING STYLES?

Parenting styles describe how parents react and respond to their children's emotions, that is, it is
related to the way they feel emotions.

The family is the main source of information about one's own worth, roles and norms. Therefore, the
involvement of both parents in raising children is important, as well as the availability, good communication
and the degree of instrumental and emotional support.

WHY ARE PARENTING STYLES IMPORTANT?

Parenting styles are important because we have a great influence on the behavior of our children,
because, according to how we interact with them, we will form the basis of their future social and emotional
development, and therefore, their well-being.

Parenting styles will affect the way our sons and daughters perceive themselves, their values,
resources and strengths. As well as the way they perceive others and adapt to their environment .

. Read the following chart and identify which style best describes you and also how you were raised.

Parents Sons and daughters Example

Style -They are capable of showing
Discard affection and being affectionate but
they do not consider it important to
“Neither deal with their children's “negative”
demanding nor emotions. That is, they tend to
flexible” ignore feelings and try to “distract”
children from them.
They see the excitement coming
and become protective because
perhaps they are not sure what to
do and miss the opportunity to
connect with them when they need
it most.
Disapproval -They believe that some feelings are
Style “good” and others “bad.”
-They tell their children to sit
"Rigid" differently, that is, they treat
feelings as behaviors.
-They do not value emotions and
believe that they should not allow
negative emotions to happen.
-Does not understand that
emotions are natural reactions to
our experiences.
Style -They are compassionate parents
No and aware of their children's
Interventionist emotions, they show unconditional
love.
“Permissive” -They are afraid to set clear limits
on their children's behavior
because they believe that they can
make them think that love is only
related to good behavior.
- Responsible but not demanding
parents.
Emotion -They value the moments they
Training Style share emotions with their children.
-Empathic parents try to put
“Assertive” themselves in their children's
shoes, show that they understand
them and guide their behavior.
-Training your emotions requires
practice, each emotional event is
different and therefore needs
flexible training.
-They can't do it all the time but
they do it every time they can, they
help study their children's emotions
since it lays the foundation for
strong and healthy relationships.
-They teach that all feelings are
good but not all their behaviors are
-They think that it is only good “I know you
to feel happy. miss dad, but
-They learn that certain let's go do
emotions cannot be trusted something
(sadness, anger, etc.) fun like watch
-They try to “avoid or movies.”
“overcome” certain emotions
instead of understanding
them.
-They learn to hide emotions
and that they will not become
evident until they intensify.
-They think that some “You don't
emotions can be “turned on” have to be
or “turned off” by will. afraid of the
-If they feel emotions such as dark, go to
sadness, anger or fear, they your room
tend to think that something is and sleep.”
wrong with them.
-Less probability of sharing
their emotions.
-They believe they can disguise
emotions so that others do not
notice.
- They learn that their feelings “I'm so sorry
are valuable and they have the your friends
ability to express them. don't want to
- They believe that it may be play with
normal to throw tantrums or you.”
act out when they feel strong
emotions.
- Difficulty acting appropriately
in one's environment and
maintaining friendships.
-They learn that emotions are “Sit with me
important and that they can and let's talk
be trustworthy and trust about how
others you feel right
-They know how to name now.”
certain feelings and
understand them.
-They know that they are not
alone with their feelings, that
they can trust their parents
with the assurance that they
will be loved and comforted.
-They learn to solve everyday
problems.
-They know how to calm
themselves when they have
strong emotions to be able to
 good. concentrate better.
-They learn about their
feelings and about others,
forming strong bonds.
WHAT CAN WE DO?
Tener en cuenta que aunque existen cuatro estilos de crianza,
la mayoría tenemos un estilo dominante pero utilizamos una
combinación de todos. Incluso los entrenadores de emociones
sólo usan este estilo el 30% del tiempo, lo cual es suficiente
para hacer una gran diferencia en el vínculo de padres – hijos.

No olvidar que los sentimientos son naturales y que los niños

no pueden controlar como se sienten.

Es muy importante enseñar límites de comportamiento, a

ellos les gusta conocer sus límites y saber que es aceptable o
inaceptable.

Dejar que sientan sus emociones y reconocerlas es el inicio

para ayudar a nuestros hijos a entenderlas.

No evite o ignore a su hijo por sus emociones, cuando surjan

hay que explicarle y enseñarle como manejarlas. De esa
manera tendrán una relación más estrecha.

Ayudar a nuestros hijos a saber qué hacer cuando

experimentan emociones fuertes.