When l declded Lo do a blog l had many dlfferenL sub[ecLs LhaL l LhoughL of wrlLlng abouL Would l

wrlLe someLhlng on buslness or pollLlcs fashlon or fooLball or 1000 oLher Lhlngs LhaL lnLeresL me? AL
some polnL ln Llme l'm sure l'll Louch on all of Lhe above buL my passlon was once agaln sLlrred up
LonlghL afLer speaklng Lo a frlend headed Lo a vlsual for a 2 year old godchlld murdered by shaken baby
syndrome
1he llLLle glrl was shaken Lo deaLh by her moLher's boyfrlend and Loday marks Lhe 2
nd
annlversary of her
deaLh Per moLher came home from work and found her daughLer dylng ln bed where her boyfrlend
had lald her barely breaLhlng wlLh a swollen head and face uocLors reporLed LhaL her skull had been
broken ln four places Per moLher had been wlLh Lhls man for [usL one year yeL she had lefL her 2 year
old alone ln hls care
AnoLher young lady has a man who was [usL released from prlson for rape llvlng wlLh her and her 6 year
old daughLer She rouLlnely brlngs men around her klds LhaL she barely knows
My daughLer who ls graduaLlng hlgh school Lhls year and who calls Lhe above behavlor dumb ass
parenL syndrome" and l had a conversaLlon recenLly concernlng my handllng of daLlng whlle she was
growlng up l dldn'L brlng men LhaL l daLed Lo my home or Lo meeL my daughLer l would Lell Lhem she
has a faLher and ls Loo young Lo daLe so unless we geL marrled Lhere ls no reason for you Lo meeL her
1haL never happened and Lhey never dld
l am ln no way saylng LhaL l'm perfecL buL as a vlcLor over chlldhood abuse l have recognlzed cerLaln
paLLerns and behavlors prevalenL among abusers 1he maln one belng Lhelr charlsma and charm and
ablllLy Lo fool oLhers lor LhaL reason l felL lL besL nC1 Lo leave my chlld's safeLy Lo my dlscernmenL
SonC8Cu? meL her
Cn a couple of occaslons Lhls caused problems wlLh Lhe man LhaL l was daLlng 1o me LhaL ls a redflag
Women should ask Lhemselves Why ls lL so lmporLanL for Lhls man l have known a shorL whlle Lo
connecL wlLh my chlld" and men should ask Lhemselves why ls Lhls woman forclng a relaLlonshlp wlLh
me and her chlldren early ln our relaLlonshlp?"
ln my oplnlon Lhere are few good reasons for elLher and many reasons why lL should nC1 be done
Women Anu men can be abuslve And whlle l am addresslng Lhls malnly Lo women men anoLher llLLle
glrl ln norLh Carollna was burned Lo deaLh by her sLepmoLher so lA1PL8S need Lo be !uS1 as cauLlous
abouL brlnglng women around Lhelr chlldren
Women wheLher you are Lrylng Lo replace a male flgure ln your chlld's llfe or your CWn lL's 1lMLCu1
for exposlng your chlldren Lo Lhe vlCLLnCL experlenced by Lhe 2 year old glrl belng remembered
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