How To Beat A Narcissist In

Custody Court So You Can Finally

Get Some Peace
With Judge Anthony
I’ve Watched People Do A
Lot Of Things Right…
But I’ve Also Watched Them
Do A Lot Of Things
WRONG…
 Through my 20 plus years of
experience, here’s what I discovered…
• Judges Don’t Understand The Issue.
• Attorneys can aggravate the tension.
• Parents Are Left To Figure It Out For
Themselves
• Meanwhile, The Narcissist Presses All
The Right Buttons Of The Innocent
Party.
• They Like To Put On The Show To Try
And Charm The Court (and everyone
else). And IT WORKS!
• Then Good People Are Left
Questioning “What Went Wrong?!”
 Most People Have To
Discover All Of This The
HARD Way…
 Most People Have To
Discover All Of This The
HARD Way…
(But I’m Going To Give You An Easier Way…)
 The Hard Way Against A Narc…
• Finally Get The Strength To Leave Or
They Leave You Broken Hearted
• Endure Threats, False Allegations,
Gaslighting, Lovebombing, Etc.
• Lose Friendships
• Spend Thousands To Hire A Lawyer
• Narc Presses All Of Your Buttons
• But Charms Everyone Else
• Judge, Attorneys, Evaluators, GALs
Take Their Side
• Spend Thousands More
• Case Continued Again
• Co-Parenting Is Impossible, You’re
Stuck In Court, And Life Sucks
Are You Ready To Say Hell No To
All That And Learn The Strategies
That Will Get You Results In And
Out Of Court?!
 The 3 Secrets…
• Secret #1 – How To Set Boundaries That Will
Protect Your Sanity In A Custody Case With A
Narcissist!
• Secret #2 – How To Communicate Effectively With
A Narcissist In A Custody Case!
• Secret #3 – How To Bring Up Narcissism In
Custody Court Without Looking Like An Idiot!
Secret #1 – How To Set Boundaries
That Will Protect Your Sanity In A
Custody Case With A Narcissist!
Secret #1: How To Set Boundaries That Will Protect
Your Sanity In A Custody Case With A Narcissist!
Secret #1: How To Set Boundaries That Will Protect
Your Sanity In A Custody Case With A Narcissist!

● How many of you have tried to

set boundaries but realize it
doesn’t change their
behavior?
Secret #1: How To Set Boundaries That Will Protect
Your Sanity In A Custody Case With A Narcissist!

● How many of you have tried to

set boundaries but realize it
doesn’t change their
behavior?

● It’s because their behavior is

not the point of boundaries!
Secret #1: How To Set Boundaries That Will Protect
Your Sanity In A Custody Case With A Narcissist!

● How many of you have tried to

set boundaries but realize it
doesn’t change their
behavior?

● It’s because their behavior is

not the point of boundaries!

● The boundaries are for you! To

protect your consciousness
and your sanity!
Secret #1: How To Set Boundaries That Will Protect
Your Sanity In A Custody Case With A Narcissist!
Here Are The Boundaries You Must Set In Your
Custody Case….
Secret #1: How To Set Boundaries That Will Protect
Your Sanity In A Custody Case With A Narcissist!
Here Are The Boundaries You Must Set In Your
Custody Case….

1. Physical Protection
Secret #1: How To Set Boundaries That Will Protect
Your Sanity In A Custody Case With A Narcissist!
Here Are The Boundaries You Must Set In Your
Custody Case….

1. Physical Protection

a. Family, Law Enforcement, Community,

Friends
Secret #1: How To Set Boundaries That Will Protect
Your Sanity In A Custody Case With A Narcissist!
Here Are The Boundaries You Must Set In Your
Custody Case….

1. Physical Protection

a. Family, Law Enforcement, Community,

Friends

b. PFA, Criminal Charges, Restraining Order

Secret #1: How To Set Boundaries That Will Protect
Your Sanity In A Custody Case With A Narcissist!
Here Are The Boundaries You Must Set In Your
Custody Case….

2. Court Order Boundaries

Secret #1: How To Set Boundaries That Will Protect
Your Sanity In A Custody Case With A Narcissist!
Here Are The Boundaries You Must Set In Your
Custody Case….

2. Court Order Boundaries

a. Exchange Location
Secret #1: How To Set Boundaries That Will Protect
Your Sanity In A Custody Case With A Narcissist!
Here Are The Boundaries You Must Set In Your
Custody Case….

2. Court Order Boundaries

a. Exchange Location

b. Phone Calls
Secret #1: How To Set Boundaries That Will Protect
Your Sanity In A Custody Case With A Narcissist!
Here Are The Boundaries You Must Set In Your
Custody Case….

2. Court Order Boundaries

a. Exchange Location

b. Phone Calls

c. Communication Type
Secret #1: How To Set Boundaries That Will Protect
Your Sanity In A Custody Case With A Narcissist!
Here Are The Boundaries You Must Set In Your
Custody Case….

3. Communication Boundaries
Secret #1: How To Set Boundaries That Will Protect
Your Sanity In A Custody Case With A Narcissist!
Here Are The Boundaries You Must Set In Your
Custody Case….

3. Communication Boundaries

a. Boundaries You Set For Your Own Method Of

Response
Secret #1: How To Set Boundaries That Will Protect
Your Sanity In A Custody Case With A Narcissist!
Here Are The Boundaries You Must Set In Your
Custody Case….

3. Communication Boundaries

a. Boundaries You Set For Your Own Method Of

Response

b. Covered In Next Section

Secret #1: How To Set Boundaries That Will Protect
Your Sanity In A Custody Case With A Narcissist!
Here Are The Boundaries You Must Set In Your
Custody Case….

4. Boundaries For Your Heart And Mind

Secret #1: How To Set Boundaries That Will Protect
Your Sanity In A Custody Case With A Narcissist!
Here Are The Boundaries You Must Set In Your
Custody Case….

4. Boundaries For Your Heart And Mind

a. Self Love
Secret #1: How To Set Boundaries That Will Protect
Your Sanity In A Custody Case With A Narcissist!
Here Are The Boundaries You Must Set In Your
Custody Case….

4. Boundaries For Your Heart And Mind

a. Self Love

b. Self Enrichment
Secret #1: How To Set Boundaries That Will Protect
Your Sanity In A Custody Case With A Narcissist!
Here Are The Boundaries You Must Set In Your
Custody Case….

4. Boundaries For Your Heart And Mind

a. Self Love

b. Self Enrichment

c. Meditation-Affirmations-Visualizations
Secret #2 – How To Communicate
Effectively With A Narcissist In A
Custody Case!
Secret #2: How To Communicate Effectively With A
Narcissist In A Custody Case!

There Are 4 Categories Of Communication You Will Deal With

Secret #2: How To Communicate Effectively With A
Narcissist In A Custody Case!

There Are 4 Categories Of Communication You Will Deal With

1. False Allegations
Secret #2: How To Communicate Effectively With A
Narcissist In A Custody Case!

There Are 4 Categories Of Communication You Will Deal With

1. False Allegations

2. Harassing/Gaslighting/Non-Important
Secret #2: How To Communicate Effectively With A
Narcissist In A Custody Case!

There Are 4 Categories Of Communication You Will Deal With

1. False Allegations

2. Harassing/Gaslighting/Non-Important

3. Communication Regarding Health And Well-Being Of Children

Secret #2: How To Communicate Effectively With A
Narcissist In A Custody Case!

There Are 4 Categories Of Communication You Will Deal With

1. False Allegations

2. Harassing/Gaslighting/Non-Important

3. Communication Regarding Health And Well-Being Of Children

4. A Mixture Of All
Secret #2: How To Communicate Effectively With A
Narcissist In A Custody Case!

There Are 4 Categories Of Communication You Will Deal With

1. False Allegations
Secret #2: How To Communicate Effectively With A
Narcissist In A Custody Case!

There Are 4 Categories Of Communication You Will Deal With

1. False Allegations

● You will respond with this phrase and this phrase only:
Secret #2: How To Communicate Effectively With A
Narcissist In A Custody Case!

There Are 4 Categories Of Communication You Will Deal With

1. False Allegations

● You will respond with this phrase and this phrase only:

○ “You know that’s not true.”

Secret #2: How To Communicate Effectively With A
Narcissist In A Custody Case!

There Are 4 Categories Of Communication You Will Deal With

1. False Allegations

● You will respond with this phrase and this phrase only:

○ “You know that’s not true.”

● No counter punch. No clap back.

Secret #2: How To Communicate Effectively With A
Narcissist In A Custody Case!

There Are 4 Categories Of Communication You Will Deal With

2. Harassing/Gaslighting/Non-Important
Secret #2: How To Communicate Effectively With A
Narcissist In A Custody Case!

There Are 4 Categories Of Communication You Will Deal With

2. Harassing/Gaslighting/Non-Important

● ABSOLUTELY NOTHING
Secret #2: How To Communicate Effectively With A
Narcissist In A Custody Case!

There Are 4 Categories Of Communication You Will Deal With

3. Communication Regarding Health And Well-Being Of Children

Secret #2: How To Communicate Effectively With A
Narcissist In A Custody Case!

There Are 4 Categories Of Communication You Will Deal With

3. Communication Regarding Health And Well-Being Of Children

● Respond with whatever is in the child’s best interests, not yours.

Secret #2: How To Communicate Effectively With A
Narcissist In A Custody Case!

There Are 4 Categories Of Communication You Will Deal With

3. Communication Regarding Health And Well-Being Of Children

● Respond with whatever is in the child’s best interests, not yours.

● Two Reasons:
Secret #2: How To Communicate Effectively With A
Narcissist In A Custody Case!

There Are 4 Categories Of Communication You Will Deal With

3. Communication Regarding Health And Well-Being Of Children

● Respond with whatever is in the child’s best interests, not yours.

● Two Reasons:

○ It’s the right thing as a parent.

Secret #2: How To Communicate Effectively With A
Narcissist In A Custody Case!

There Are 4 Categories Of Communication You Will Deal With

3. Communication Regarding Health And Well-Being Of Children

● Respond with whatever is in the child’s best interests, not yours.

● Two Reasons:

○ It’s the right thing as a parent.

○ Positive Reinforcement
Secret #2: How To Communicate Effectively With A
Narcissist In A Custody Case!

There Are 4 Categories Of Communication You Will Deal With

4. A Mixture Of All
Secret #2: How To Communicate Effectively With A
Narcissist In A Custody Case!

There Are 4 Categories Of Communication You Will Deal With

4. A Mixture Of All

● False Allegations/Gaslighting/Harassment/Child’s Best Interests

Secret #2: How To Communicate Effectively With A
Narcissist In A Custody Case!

There Are 4 Categories Of Communication You Will Deal With

4. A Mixture Of All

● False Allegations/Gaslighting/Harassment/Child’s Best Interests

● Give Them An STD:

Secret #2: How To Communicate Effectively With A
Narcissist In A Custody Case!

There Are 4 Categories Of Communication You Will Deal With

4. A Mixture Of All

● False Allegations/Gaslighting/Harassment/Child’s Best Interests

● Give Them An STD:

○ Sleuth
Secret #2: How To Communicate Effectively With A
Narcissist In A Custody Case!

There Are 4 Categories Of Communication You Will Deal With

4. A Mixture Of All

● False Allegations/Gaslighting/Harassment/Child’s Best Interests

● Give Them An STD:

○ Sleuth

○ Take Your Time

Secret #2: How To Communicate Effectively With A
Narcissist In A Custody Case!

There Are 4 Categories Of Communication You Will Deal With

4. A Mixture Of All

● False Allegations/Gaslighting/Harassment/Child’s Best Interests

● Give Them An STD:

○ Sleuth

○ Take Your Time

○ Discipline
 Secret #3 – How To Bring Up
Narcissism In Custody Court
Without Looking Like An Idiot!
 Secret #3: How To Bring Up Narcissism In Custody
Court Without Looking Like An Idiot!

I Get These Questions All The Time:

 Secret #3: How To Bring Up Narcissism In Custody
Court Without Looking Like An Idiot!

I Get These Questions All The Time:

● Can A Judge See Through A Narcissist?!

 Secret #3: How To Bring Up Narcissism In Custody
Court Without Looking Like An Idiot!

I Get These Questions All The Time:

● Can A Judge See Through A Narcissist?!

● Does The Judge Know Who Is The Narcissist?!

 Secret #3: How To Bring Up Narcissism In Custody
Court Without Looking Like An Idiot!

I Get These Questions All The Time:

● Can A Judge See Through A Narcissist?!

● Does The Judge Know Who Is The Narcissist?!

● How Do I Bring It Up In Court?!

 Secret #3: How To Bring Up Narcissism In Custody
Court Without Looking Like An Idiot!
Two Points To Remember About Narcissism In Court:
 Secret #3: How To Bring Up Narcissism In Custody
Court Without Looking Like An Idiot!
Two Points To Remember About Narcissism In Court:

1. Proving Someone Is A Narcissist:

 Secret #3: How To Bring Up Narcissism In Custody
Court Without Looking Like An Idiot!
Two Points To Remember About Narcissism In Court:

1. Proving Someone Is A Narcissist:

a. To actually prove the diagnosis, you need an expert.

 Secret #3: How To Bring Up Narcissism In Custody
Court Without Looking Like An Idiot!
Two Points To Remember About Narcissism In Court:

1. Proving Someone Is A Narcissist:

a. To actually prove the diagnosis, you need an expert.

i. Don’t bring up the word if you don’t have one.

 Secret #3: How To Bring Up Narcissism In Custody
Court Without Looking Like An Idiot!
Two Points To Remember About Narcissism In Court:

1. Proving Someone Is A Narcissist:

a. To actually prove the diagnosis, you need an expert.

i. Don’t bring up the word if you don’t have one.

ii. Even if you prove the diagnosis, you still need to remember....
 Secret #3: How To Bring Up Narcissism In Custody
Court Without Looking Like An Idiot!
Two Points To Remember About Narcissism In Court:

2. The Behaviors And Impact On Child Are What Matters:

 Secret #3: How To Bring Up Narcissism In Custody
Court Without Looking Like An Idiot!
Two Points To Remember About Narcissism In Court:

2. The Behaviors And Impact On Child Are What Matters:

a. Prove their behaviors with:

 Secret #3: How To Bring Up Narcissism In Custody
Court Without Looking Like An Idiot!
Two Points To Remember About Narcissism In Court:

2. The Behaviors And Impact On Child Are What Matters:

a. Prove their behaviors with:

i. Your Own Testimony;

 Secret #3: How To Bring Up Narcissism In Custody
Court Without Looking Like An Idiot!
Two Points To Remember About Narcissism In Court:

2. The Behaviors And Impact On Child Are What Matters:

a. Prove their behaviors with:

i. Your Own Testimony;

ii. Other Witnesses;

 Secret #3: How To Bring Up Narcissism In Custody
Court Without Looking Like An Idiot!
Two Points To Remember About Narcissism In Court:

2. The Behaviors And Impact On Child Are What Matters:

a. Prove their behaviors with:

i. Your Own Testimony;

ii. Other Witnesses;

iii. Physical Evidence;

 Secret #3: How To Bring Up Narcissism In Custody
Court Without Looking Like An Idiot!
Two Points To Remember About Narcissism In Court:

2. The Behaviors And Impact On Child Are What Matters:

a. Prove their behaviors with:

i. Your Own Testimony;

ii. Other Witnesses;

iii. Physical Evidence;

iv. Cross Examination Of The Narcissist.

 Secret #3: How To Bring Up Narcissism In Custody
Court Without Looking Like An Idiot!
Two Points To Remember About Narcissism In Court:

2. The Behaviors And Impact On Child Are What Matters:

 Secret #3: How To Bring Up Narcissism In Custody
Court Without Looking Like An Idiot!
Two Points To Remember About Narcissism In Court:

2. The Behaviors And Impact On Child Are What Matters:

a. Impact On Best Interest Of Child:

 Secret #3: How To Bring Up Narcissism In Custody
Court Without Looking Like An Idiot!
Two Points To Remember About Narcissism In Court:

2. The Behaviors And Impact On Child Are What Matters:

a. Impact On Best Interest Of Child:

i. Must Review And Become Familiar With Local And State

Custody Laws/Factors;
 Secret #3: How To Bring Up Narcissism In Custody
Court Without Looking Like An Idiot!
Two Points To Remember About Narcissism In Court:

2. The Behaviors And Impact On Child Are What Matters:

a. Impact On Best Interest Of Child:

i. Must Review And Become Familiar With Local And State

Custody Laws/Factors;

ii. Tie Their Behaviors To Those Factors In A Negative Light.

And Here’s A Very
Important Point...
 And Here’s A Very Important
Point...
• If your sole focus in your case is
that they’re a narcissist...
 And Here’s A Very Important
Point...
• If your sole focus in your case is
that they’re a narcissist...

– YOU
 And Here’s A Very Important
Point...
• If your sole focus in your case is
that they’re a narcissist...

– YOU

– WILL
 And Here’s A Very Important
Point...
• If your sole focus in your case is
that they’re a narcissist...

– YOU

– WILL

– BE
 And Here’s A Very Important
Point...
• If your sole focus in your case is
that they’re a narcissist...

– YOU

– WILL

– BE

– DISTRACTED!
 And Here’s A Very Important
Point...
• If your sole focus in your case is
that they’re a narcissist...

– YOU

– WILL

– BE

– DISTRACTED!

– AND...
 And Here’s A Very Important
Point...
• If your sole focus in your case is
that they’re a narcissist...
 And Here’s A Very Important
Point...
• If your sole focus in your case is
that they’re a narcissist...

– YOU
 And Here’s A Very Important
Point...
• If your sole focus in your case is
that they’re a narcissist...

– YOU

– WILL
 And Here’s A Very Important
Point...
• If your sole focus in your case is
that they’re a narcissist...

– YOU

– WILL

– LOSE!!!!!!!
 Your Path To Results And Peace Of
Mind...
You MUST Learn How To Do The Following Effectively:
 Your Path To Results And Peace Of
Mind...
You MUST Learn How To Do The Following Effectively:

A. Evaluate Your Evidence;

 Your Path To Results And Peace Of
Mind...
You MUST Learn How To Do The Following Effectively:

A. Evaluate Your Evidence;

B. Document Your Evidence;
 Your Path To Results And Peace Of
Mind...
You MUST Learn How To Do The Following Effectively:

A. Evaluate Your Evidence;

B. Document Your Evidence;
C. Organize Your Evidence;
 Your Path To Results And Peace Of
Mind...
You MUST Learn How To Do The Following Effectively:

A. Evaluate Your Evidence;

B. Document Your Evidence;
C. Organize Your Evidence;
D. Communicate With The Court, Staff and Attorneys;
 Your Path To Results And Peace Of
Mind...
You MUST Learn How To Do The Following Effectively:

A. Evaluate Your Evidence;

B. Document Your Evidence;
C. Organize Your Evidence;
D. Communicate With The Court, Staff and Attorneys;
E. Present Your Favorable Physical Evidence;
 Your Path To Results And Peace Of
Mind...
You MUST Learn How To Do The Following Effectively:

A. Evaluate Your Evidence;

B. Document Your Evidence;
C. Organize Your Evidence;
D. Communicate With The Court, Staff and Attorneys;
E. Present Your Favorable Physical Evidence;
F. Keep Out Negative Evidence;
 Your Path To Results And Peace Of
Mind...
You MUST Learn How To Do The Following Effectively:

A. Evaluate Your Evidence;

B. Document Your Evidence;
C. Organize Your Evidence;
D. Communicate With The Court, Staff and Attorneys;
E. Present Your Favorable Physical Evidence;
F. Keep Out Negative Evidence;
G. Testify In Court Persuasively;
 Your Path To Results And Peace Of
Mind...
You MUST Learn How To Do The Following Effectively:

A. Evaluate Your Evidence;

B. Document Your Evidence;
C. Organize Your Evidence;
D. Communicate With The Court, Staff and Attorneys;
E. Present Your Favorable Physical Evidence;
F. Keep Out Negative Evidence;
G. Testify In Court Persuasively;
H. Endure Cross Examination...