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Next, when we’re getting ready to hang up, I say

something like, “Great, it’s going to be nice to get to

know you better. And if nothing else, we can just be

FRIENDS.”

It’s taken me and a good friend of mine a long time to

get this piece. From here on out, I constantly drop hints

about just ‘being friends’ and how I really ‘like her as a

friend’ and how ‘it’s nice to meet someone that I like as a
friend’.

Trust me on this one… this messes them up soooooo

hard that they literally don’t know what to do.

This is most likely the first time IN THEIR ENTIRE

LIFE that this has happened to them. It continually

triggers their insecurity and makes them wonder why

they’re not attractive enough to you. It also disarms them

completely. (You have to really possess the mindset that

you are qualifying them and that they’re going to be your

friend for this to work)

I personally like to use the friendship jargon because

I have decided that it’s better to enter any new

relationship in a ‘NOT NEEDY’ frame of mind. Talking

about being friends reminds ME to pay more attention

and to remember that I don’t need anything and to stay

focused on learning.

When You Meet

When they arrive at your place, say ‘hi’ and invite

them in for a minute while you get your coat or shoes.

Then walk out and seem like YOU’RE IN A HURRY TO

LEAVE. Most guys would try to get them to stay and get

cozy with them. You want them to think that you’re not

overly interested and that you want some coffee.

Total indifference.

Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo ©2001-2005, All

Rights Reserved

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At coffee, just sit and be the funny and cocky self,

make jokes, and in general lean back and make ‘friends’.

I used to analyze handwriting, do palmistry, do hand

massages, and touch women when I first meet them. Not

anymore (I save these things for later).