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31 Day Shadow Work Journal
31 Day Shadow Work Journal
Work Journal
Have you ever tried to quit a bad habit like watching porn, smoking or
listening to K-pop - only to fail and be back at square one?
Do you have recurring negative emotions like anxiety or depression
that come and go seemingly for no reason?
Is there a consistent pattern in your relationships that sabotages
them and you have no idea why?
Are you currently procrastinating on doing something you KNOW is a
good idea but you just can’t get yourself to do it?
It’s strange, isn’t it? I mean, surely since you’re ONE person with ONE goal,
achieving it should be as simple as just doing the thing until you have a
six-pack and 12 Bugatti’s. But it isn’t.
If you truly want change (& maybe you don’t) you need to connect with,
heal and integrate all the parts of you that don’t want to change. Will this
make life easy? Absolutely not. But wounded parts make it much harder
than it needs to be.
But this journey is not just about facing our inner darkness. There are also
dormant parts of you that are immensely positive. Shadow Work is about
discovering and integrating these parts, too. The shadow, while often
seen as a source of negativity, also holds powerful qualities that we've
yet to embrace. By integrating our shadow, we can unlock new levels of
creativity, vitality, and authenticity.
Oliver Cowlishaw
Day 1
What are three strengths you believe you have?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
"The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are." - Carl Jung
Day 3
What quality do you admire in others that you wish you had?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
"In each of us, there is another whom we do not know." - Carl Jung
Day 4
Write about a time you felt misunderstood.
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
"He who looks outside dreams; he who looks inside awakes." - Carl Jung
Day 5
What are your top three fears?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
"Fears are like shadows, unable to withstand the light of clarity." - Alan Rufus
Day 6
Reflect on an incident where you wish you had reacted differently.
What would you change?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
"The shadow escapes from the body like an animal we had been sheltering."
- Gilles Deleuze
Day 7
Describe a minor issue that irritates you more than it should.
Why do you think that is?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
""Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding." - Kahlil Gibran
Day 9
Think of a time when you remained silent but wish you had
spoken up. What held you back?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
When the world crashes around you, turn within. When you feel abandoned and rejected,
turn within. When all hope for the future vanishes, turn within. I wait for you there.
– Sitting with God, Allen C. Liles
Day 13
What do you find hardest to forgive in others?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. - Brené Brown
Day 15
What negative pattern do you find repeating in your life?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
"Do I contradict myself? Very well, then I contradict myself, I am large, I contain
multitudes." - Walt Whitman
Day 16
Reflect on a relationship you've outgrown.
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
One of life's challenging realizations is that sometimes you outgrow your friends.”
― Steve Maraboli
Day 17
What aspect of your personality do you often hide from others?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
"People will do anything, no matter how absurd, to avoid facing their own souls."
- Carl Jung
Day 19
What are your thoughts on your own mortality?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
"It is the most natural thing in the world to die, and the fact that we refuse to
acknowledge this is just one more piece of evidence for our real and basic neurosis."
- Carl Jung
Day 20
Write about a time you hurt someone else.
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
"The shadow is the greatest teacher for how to come to the light." - Ram Dass
Day 21
What is something you've never told anyone?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
“Above all, don't lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that
he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself
and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love.”
― Fyodor Dostoevsky, The Brothers Karamazov
Day 22
How do you handle feelings of anger and frustration?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
"The most intense conflicts, if overcome, leave behind a sense of security and calm that
is not easily disturbed." - Carl Jung
Day 23
What part of your past do you try to avoid thinking about?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
"I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become." - Carl Jung
Day 24
In what ways do you see your father's influence in your own
behaviors or attitudes, especially those you wish to change?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
“When one has not had a good father, one must create one” - Friedrich Nietzsche
Day 25
Reflect on a moment you felt truly at peace. What was it like?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
"The mother wounds are passed down through generations, but so is healing. Breaking
the cycle is a gift to our children." - Unknown
Day 27
What qualities did you wish your father had when you were
growing up?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
“No one is going to come help you. No one's coming to save you.”
― David Goggins, Can't Hurt Me
Day 28
Write a letter to your younger self. What words of comfort,
wisdom or advice would you offer?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
"In every real man a child is hidden that wants to play." - Friedrich Nietzsche
Day 29
What did you need most as a child that you didn't receive? How
can you provide that for yourself today?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
Don’t underestimate the power of vision and direction. These are irresistible forces, able to
transform what might appear to be unconquerable obstacles into traversable pathways
- Jordan Peterson
Day 31
Imagine writing a letter to your future self. What would you say?
How did writing about this make you feel? What new
understanding did you gain?
You did it. You went into the cave of your own mind and emerged
victorious. My hope is that from this workbook you gained many useful
insights that will serve you in your growth journey going forward.
Read on...
What’s next?
If you’ve gained something from this process, I invite you to consider
going further in your journey. Don’t stop here. There’s still much to
uncover.
There are a couple of things I offer in the way of helping you do that:
If none of these options appeal to you right now, feel free to check
out the resource list on the next page where I give you options for
further exploration and reading.
Greater Than the Sum of Our Parts: Discovering Your True Self
Through Internal Family Systems Therapy - Richard C. Schwartz
Knowing Your Shadow: Becoming Intimate with All That You Are -
Robert Augustus Masters
Real Play: No Bad Parts & How To Do IFS with Dr. Richard C.
Schwartz (Podcast Episode)