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LESSON 2
LESSON 2
LESSON 2
/2024
TED
To Love Is to Be Brave
Speaker: Kelly Corrigan
This is for my mom, even though when I ðɪs ɪz fɔː maɪ mɒm, ˈiːvᵊn ðəʊ wɛn aɪ kɔːld hɜː
called her to say, "Hey, have you heard of tuː seɪ, "heɪ, hæv juː hɜːd ɒv tɛd, tiː-iː-diː?" ʃiː sɛd,
TED, T-E-D?" She said, "Oh my God, Kelly, "əʊ maɪ ɡɒd, ˈkɛli, ɪts nɒt əˈnʌðə ˈvaɪərəs, ɪz
it's not another virus, is it?" ɪt?"
(Laughter) (ˈlɑːftə)
As a 21-year-old, I was drawn to the word æz eɪ 21-jɪər-əʊld, aɪ wɒz drɔːn tuː ðə wɜːd
brave. I had a soft spot for ripping yarns and breɪv. aɪ hæd ə sɒft spɒt fɔː ˈrɪpɪŋ jɑːnz ænd ðə
the people who could tell them. So, Odyssey ˈpiːpᵊl huː kʊd tɛl ðɛm. səʊ, ˈɒdɪsi ɒn ðə breɪn, aɪ
on the brain, I went out adventure wɛnt aʊt ədˈvɛnʧə kəˈlɛktɪŋ. wɪˈðaʊt ˈnəʊɪŋ haʊ
collecting. Without knowing how to spell tuː spɛl ˈstɑːbəd ɔː wɪʧ saɪd ɪt rɪˈfɜːd tuː, aɪ ɡɒt
starboard or which side it referred to, I got ɒn eɪ 46-fʊt bəʊt ænd aɪ seɪld frɒm ˈmɔːltə tuː
on a 46-foot boat and I sailed from Malta to tjuːˈnɪziə tuː ˈsɪsɪli.
Tunisia to Sicily.
I smeared sunblock on their noses and aɪ smɪəd sunblock ɒn ðeə ˈnəʊzɪz ænd
Vegemite on their toast. I read them to sleep Vegemite ɒn ðeə təʊst. aɪ riːd ðɛm tuː sliːp æt
at night, I cleaned the counters. The heavy naɪt, aɪ kliːnd ðə ˈkaʊntəz. ðə ˈhɛvi ˈlɪftɪŋ wɒz lɛft
lifting was left for the truly brave, a man fɔː ðə ˈtruːli breɪv, ə mæn huː ˈɔːɡᵊnaɪzd hɪz
who organized his emotions and answered ɪˈməʊʃᵊnz ænd ˈɑːnsəd ðə ˈhɑːdɪst ˈkwɛsʧənz,
the hardest questions, such that his kids sʌʧ ðæt hɪz kɪdz ænd hɜːz kʊd fiːl ə ˈmɒdɪkəm
and hers could feel a modicum of safety in a ɒv ˈseɪfti ɪn ə ˈpeɪtᵊntli ʌnˈseɪf wɜːld.
patently unsafe world.
Questions like "what is cremation?" And ˈkwɛsʧənz laɪk "wɒt ɪz krɪˈmeɪʃᵊn?" ænd "wɒt
"what happens to us if you die?" ˈhæpᵊnz tuː ʌs ɪf juː daɪ?"
ænd səʊ ɪt ɪz ðæt aɪ stʊd ˈwɪtnəs tuː ði
And so it is that I stood witness to the
ˌʌnˈfəʊtəɡrɑːfəbᵊl, ˌʌnˈmɛʒᵊrəbᵊl ˈbreɪvᵊri ɒv
unphotographable, unmeasurable bravery
sʌm ɡaɪ neɪmd ʤɪm ɪn ˈsɪdni, ɒsˈtreɪliə.
of some guy named Jim in Sydney,
Australia.
(Laughter)
I've interviewed 228 people for my PBS show aɪv ˈɪntəvjuːd 228 ˈpiːpᵊl fɔː maɪ piː-biː-ɛs ʃəʊ
and my podcast, people with huge careers, ænd maɪ ˈpɒdkɑːst, ˈpiːpᵊl wɪð hjuːʤ kəˈrɪəz,
Grammys and Pulitzers NBA ˈɡræmiz
and ænd ˈpʊlɪtsəz ænd ɛn-biː-eɪ
championships. And I listened to their ˈʧæmpiənʃɪps. ænd aɪ ˈlɪsᵊnd tuː ðeə ˈstɔːriz
ænd aɪm ˈdjuːli ɪmˈprɛst.
stories and I'm duly impressed.
Or your husband blew the big deal at work, ɔː jɔː ˈhʌzbənd bluː ðə bɪɡ diːl æt wɜːk, ɔː jɔː
or your mom won't wear the diapers that mɒm wəʊnt weə ðə ˈdaɪəpəz ðæt wʊd ˈrɪəli hɛlp
would really help her get through mahjong hɜː ɡɛt θruː mahjong ɒn ˈwɛnzdeɪz.
on Wednesdays. (ˈlɑːftə)
(Laughter)
And how should we calibrate the exquisite ænd haʊ ʃʊd wiː ˈkælɪbreɪt ði ˈɛkskwɪzɪt ˈbreɪvᵊri
bravery to respond productively when tuː rɪˈspɒnd prəˈdʌktɪvli wɛn ˈsʌmwʌn ɪn ˈaʊə
someone in our family looks at us and says, ˈfæmᵊli lʊks æt ʌs ænd sɛz,
Bravery is the great guts to move closer to ˈbreɪvᵊri ɪz ðə ɡreɪt ɡʌts tuː muːv ˈkləʊzə tuː ðə
the wound, as composed as a war nurse wuːnd, æz kəmˈpəʊzd æz ə wɔː nɜːs ˈhəʊldɪŋ aɪ
holding eye contact and saying these seven ˈkɒntækt ænd ˈseɪɪŋ ðiːz ˈsɛvᵊn wɜːdz:
words:
tɛl miː mɔː.
Tell me more.
wɒt ɛls?
What else?
ɡəʊ ɒn.
Go on.
ðæts haʊ ðə breɪv ʃaɪn, ðæts ɔːl ðeɪ duː. ðeɪ seɪ,
That's how the brave shine, that's all they "tɛl miː mɔː.
do. They say, "Tell me more.
wɒt ɛls?
What else?
ɡəʊ ɒn."
Go on."
Because where there's love, there's bɪˈkɒz weə ðeəz lʌv, ðeəz əˈtæʧmənt. ænd aɪ
attachment. And I don't care what the gurus dəʊnt keə wɒt ðə ˈɡʊruːz seɪ, wɒts ˈhæpᵊnɪŋ tuː
say, what's happening to them is also ðɛm ɪz ˈɔːlsəʊ ˈhæpᵊnɪŋ, æt liːst æt sʌm ˈlɛvᵊl,
happening, at least at some level, to us. tuː ʌs.
And all that can accidentally put us center ænd ɔːl ðæt kæn ˌæksɪˈdɛntəli pʊt ʌs ˈsɛntə
stage. No longer the coach or the minister, steɪʤ. nəʊ ˈlɒŋɡə ðə kəʊʧ ɔː ðə ˈmɪnɪstə,
but rather one of the afflicted. But these bʌt ˈrɑːðə wʌn ɒv ði əˈflɪktɪd. bʌt ðiːz ˈɡrɪti
gritty endurance types I've been admiring ɪnˈdjʊərᵊns taɪps aɪv biːn ədˈmaɪərɪŋ hæv nəʊ
have no self and no needs and no agenda. sɛlf ænd nəʊ niːdz ænd nəʊ əˈʤɛndə.
Leave.
liːv.
And I think it's a miracle that man stays ænd aɪ θɪŋk ɪts ə ˈmɪrəkᵊl ðæt mæn steɪz wɪð
with me. But, you know, he's not untouched miː. bʌt, juː nəʊ, hiːz nɒt ʌnˈtʌʧt baɪ taɪm ˈaɪðə.
by time either. (ˈlɑːftə)
(Laughter)
ænd ðæts ʤʌst ðə ˈfɪzɪkᵊl. aɪ miːn, huː hɪə
And that's just the physical. I mean, who ˈhæzᵊnt ˈwɒntɪd tuː biː wɪð ˈsʌmwʌn huː ˈhæzᵊnt
here hasn't wanted to be with someone who siːn ʌs ˈiːtɪŋ ɒn ðə ˈtɔɪlət ɔː ˈbɪʧɪŋ æt ðə
Comcast ɡaɪ?
hasn't seen us eating on the toilet or
(ˈlɑːftə)
bitching at the Comcast guy?
(Laughter)
And in this imaginary space her ænd ɪn ðɪs ɪˈmæʤɪnᵊri speɪs hɜː ˌsʌbˈkɒnʃəs
subconscious created, there was one rule. kriˈeɪtɪd, ðeə wɒz wʌn ruːl. juː kʊd wɒʧ jɔː ʧaɪldz
You could watch your child's life unfold, but laɪf ʌnˈfəʊld, bʌt juː kʊd ˈəʊnli ˌɪntəˈviːn wʌns.
you could only intervene once.
The reward for all this bravery? ðə rɪˈwɔːd fɔːr ɔːl ðɪs ˈbreɪvᵊri?
nɒt ɡəʊld ˈmɛdᵊlz, nɒt ˈhɪərəʊ ʃɒts fɔː Strava, nɒt
Not gold medals, not hero shots for Strava,
ˈrɪŋɪŋ ðə bɛl æt ðə njuː jɔːk stɒk ɪksˈʧeɪnʤ, ɔːr
not ringing the bell at the New York Stock
ˈəʊnɪŋ ðə ˈdɪnə ˈpɑːti wɪð ˈbɜːnɪŋ mæn ˈstɔːriz,
Exchange, or owning the dinner party with
aɪ θɪŋk juː nəʊ huː juː ɑː.
Burning Man stories, I think you know who
(ˈlɑːftə)
you are.
(Laughter)
We, who, untrained and always a little wiː, huː, ʌnˈtreɪnd ænd ˈɔːlweɪz ə ˈlɪtᵊl ɒf-ɡɑːd,
off-guard, still dare to do love. stɪl deə tuː duː lʌv.