Interview

Topic: Experience of sadness in house wives

Interviewer: Assalam o Alaukum! Haal Chaal k bad, kya name hai apka?
Sajida: Mera name sajada Hai
Interviewer: Kitni umar hai apki?
Sajida:: 39
Interviewer: Aap shadi shuda? Or kitne saal hog ye shadi ko?
Sajida:: G, 8 saal hog ye shadi ko, 4 bache hai
Interviewer: Ap susral walo k sath rahi hai ya un se alag?
Sajida:: inlaws k sath rahti ho
Interviewer: ap ne kabhi khud ko udaas mahssos kiya hai?
Sajida:: han g
Interviewer: To kya koi recent waqiya share kare gi jb aap ne khud ko udaas mahsoos kiya ho?
Sajida: Family issues ki waja se udaasi hoti hai, wohi ghar k jaghde, susral ka mahool wagera or
Kuch arsa pehle, mere bachon ke school mein parents ka meeting tha. Main wahan gayi thi, aur
dekha ke dosri maayein apne bachon ke sath kitna involved hain, unki progress ke liye efforts
kar rahi hain. Mujhe acha nahi laga. Mere bachon ki taraf dekha, toh unka bhi chehra udas tha.
Unki ankhon mein woh chamak nahi thi jo doosre bachon ki ankhon mein thi. Unke chehron pe
woh khushi nahi thi jo ek pyar bhari parwarish se milti hai. Us din mujhe khud pe afsos hua, aur
main udaas mehsoos karne lagi. Mujhe laga ke meri yeh udaasi aur nafrat ka asar mere bachon ki
zindagi par pad raha hai. Unki khushi aur taraqqi ke raste mein main khud ek rukawat ban gayi
hoon. Ghar ke jhagde, susral ka mahaul, aur mere apne dukh aur parishaniyon ne mujhe itna
ghira liya tha ke main apne bachon ke bare mein sochna bhool gayi thi. Har din ka aik naya
masla hota, aur main usi mein uljhi rehti. Jabke mere bachon ko meri zaroorat thi, mujhe unki
madad karni chahiye thi, unke liye waqt nikalna chahiye tha. Lekin main apni hi duniya mein
kho gayi thi, aur unhe nazar andaz karti rahi. Un maayein jo wahan school meeting mein thi, woh
apne bachon ke liye itni kuch kar rahi thi ke mujhe apni kami mehsoos hone lagi. Mujhe ehsaas
hua ke agar main yeh sab continue rakhi, toh mere bachon ka bhi future unke chehron ki udaasi
ki tarah andhera ho jayega. Mujhe apne rawayya aur apne approach mein badlao lana hoga. Yeh
sochne lagi ke kaise main apne bachon ke liye behtar maa ban sakti hoon, kaise apni personal
problems ko ek taraf rakh kar unki taraf zyada focus kar sakti hoon.
Interviewer: Apki life me koi aisa waqiya hai jo apko sab se zayada udaaas kr deta ho?
Sajida: Haan, aik waqt tha jab mere susraal mein bohot maslay thay. Mere shohar kaam mein
masroof thay aur ghar pe unki maa aur behne control mein thay. Har roz unke sath jhagda hota
tha. Mein unse apni fikron ka izhar karna chahti thi, magar unki sun'ne ki koi tawajju nahi thi. Us
waqt mujhe mehsoos hua ke mein bilkul akeli hoon, koi samjhta nahi hai meri baat ko. Us
mushkil waqt mein, dil bohot udaas hota tha, aur aankhon mein aansu aate thay.Husband or ghar
wale moral support de, appreciate kare k aap hum logo k liye itna kaam kr rahi ho itna thak rahi
ho to wo khudi thek ho jye gi or udaasi khatam ho jye gi, moral support ghar walo k liye or job
wali oorat k liye buht zaroorat hai, Moral support ki buhot zaroorat hoti hai, khaaskar un aurton
ke liye jo job bhi karti hain aur ghar bhi sambhalti hain. Aksar log yeh samajhte hain ke ghar ka
kaam aur bachon ki dekhbhal asaan hota hai, lekin yeh sach nahi hai. Ghar ka kaam bhi utna hi
demanding hota hai jitna kisi office ka kaam. Agar husband aur ghar wale thodi si appreciation
aur moral support dein, toh bohot fark parta hai. Aik appreciation ka lafz bhi insaan ke liye buhot
ahmiyat rakhta hai, wo uski himmat aur hausla afzai karta hai. Mujhe aksar lagta tha ke agar
mere shohar ya ghar wale thodi si samajh aur empathy dikhatay, toh meri udaasi kam ho sakti
thi. Agar woh sirf yeh keh dete ke "Tum bohot mehnat kar rahi ho, hum tumhari qadar karte
hain," toh shayad main apne aap ko zyada important aur valued mehsoos kar sakti thi. Aksar log
samajhte nahi hain ke emotional support aur appreciation ka insaan ki mental health par kitna
gehra asar hota hai. Har koi chahta hai ke uski mehnat ko acknowledge kiya jaye, aur jab yeh
nahi hota toh udaasi aur nafrat ka ehsaas aur gehra ho jata hai. Moral support sirf ghar walon ke
liye nahi, balki job wali aurton ke liye bhi bohot zaroori hoti hai. Aik aurat jo office mein bhi
apni zimmedariyan nibha rahi hai aur ghar pe bhi apni family ka khayal rakh rahi hai, uske liye
yeh dohra burden aksar unbearable ho jata hai agar uske paas support system nahi hota. Mujhe
aksar yeh lagta tha ke agar mere shohar sirf thodi si himmat aur support dete, mujhe batate ke
woh meri qadar karte hain, toh meri udaasi aur tension kam ho sakti thi.
Interviewer: Apke zaati talauqat pr saadnness kis tarah asar andaaz hoti hai?
Sajida: bache baat na mane, husband time na de to buht preshani or udaasi hoti hai or meri zaati
taluqat mein sadness ka asar bohot hota hai. Jab mere shohar mere dil ki baat nahi samajhte aur
ghar ke mahol mein sukoon nahi hai, toh dil bohot udaas hota hai. Main apne bachon ko dekh kar
bhi afsos karti hoon, unke liye behtar mustaqbil chahti hoon, lekin unki pareshaniyan dekh kar
dil ko sakoon nahi milta. Kabhi kabhi mere apne dil ki sun'ne ki kami se mujhe andar se tootne
ka ehsaas hota hai. Aur phir, jab bachon kaafi masroof ho jate hain, unki parwarish aur unki
fikron se guzarna mere liye mushkil ho jata hai. Yeh sab cheezein mil kar mere zaati taluqat par
bohot asar daalti hain aur mujhe udaas kar deti hain. Meri zindagi mein yeh udaasi aur preshani
ek aisi daastaan ban gayi hai jo kabhi khatam hone ka naam hi nahi leti. Mere shohar ka kaam
mein masroof rehna aur ghar ke masail mein uninterested rehna, mujhe aur bhi tanha kar deta
hai. Mujhe aksar lagta hai ke agar woh sirf thoda waqt nikaal kar meri baat sun lete, meri fikr kar
lete, toh shayad yeh udaasi kuch kam ho sakti thi. Jab shohar apne partner ke feelings ko
samajhne ki koshish nahi karta, toh yeh distance aur udaasi ko barhawa deta hai. Yeh sab
cheezein mil kar mere zaati taluqat par bohot asar daalti hain aur mujhe udaas kar deti hain.
Mujhe yeh samajh aata hai ke har rishta cooperation aur understanding ka talib hota hai. Lekin
jab ghar ke mahaul mein sukoon na ho, jab bache baat na mane aur apna rasta khud apnane lag
jayein, toh ek maa ke liye yeh sab cheezein bohot takleef daai hoti hain. Mujhe apni mehnat aur
efforts ka asar na hota nazar aata hai, aur yeh soch soch kar meri udaasi aur barh jati hai. Main
chahti hoon ke mere bache ek behtar mustaqbil paayein, lekin unki fikr aur unki parwarish se
guzarna mere liye mushkil hota jata hai. Unki pareshaniyon ko dekh kar mujhe yeh lagta hai ke
shayad main unke liye woh sab kuch nahi kar pa rahi jo mujhe karna chahiye. Kabhi kabhi toh
yeh lagta hai ke mere dil ki sun'ne wala koi nahi hai. Main apne aap se larti hoon, apne dil ko
sambhalne ki koshish karti hoon, lekin phir bhi yeh udaasi aur tanhaayi ka ehsaas kam nahi hota.
Mujhe apne bachon ki khushi aur unka muskurata chehra dekhne ka dil karta hai, lekin jab unki
apni fikr aur problems mujhe dukhi kar deti hain, toh main aur bhi zyada udaas ho jati hoon.
Interviewer: Apke kuch zaati taluqat jo apki udaasi pe asar andaas krte ho?
Sajida: ha asar to dalte hai, sabse pehle, mere aur mere shohar ke darmiyan ki dooriyan mujhe
udaas kar deti hain. Jab humara rishta samajhne aur tawajju dene ki kami hoti hai, toh dil bohot
udaas hota hai. Main unse apni fikron aur khwahishon ka izhar karna chahti hoon, lekin agar woh
meri baat ko nahi samajhte, toh mujhe andar se tootne ka ehsaas hota hai. Yeh dooriyan mujhe
akeli mehsoos karne par majboor karti hain, aur iska asar meri udaasi par hota hai. Phir, mere
bachon ke saath rishta bhi mere udaasi par asar daalta hai. Unki pareshaniyan dekh kar dil bohot
udaas hota hai. Mein unki behtar mustaqbil chahti hoon, lekin agar main unki madad nahi kar
paati ya unki zarurat ko pura nahi kar paati, toh mujhe afsos hota hai. Unki masroofiyat aur unki
fikron se guzarna mujhe udaas kar deta hai, aur mujhe lagta hai ke main unke liye sahi tarah se
nahi samjhti. Ghar walo ki to yad aati hai, lekin ab to itna asar guzar chuka hai k banda use to ho
jata hai ab to ghar ka kaam bdh chuka hai zimedariya badh gye hai istah se ab ghar walo ki yaad
nai aati jaise pahle aaya krti thi ghar walon ki to yad aati hai, lekin ab to itna asar guzar chuka hai
ke banda use to ho jata hai. Ab to ghar ka kaam badh chuka hai, zimmedariya badh gayi hain. Isi
tarah se ab ghar walon ki yaad nahi aati jaise pehle aaya karti thi. Har waqt ka stress aur
responsibilities ne mujhe apne doston aur ghar walon se bhi door kar diya hai. Pehle jab koi
mushkil hoti thi, toh ghar walon ki yaad aati thi, unse baat kar ke dil halka ho jata tha. Lekin ab
aisa nahi hota. Ab to zindagi ke masroofiyat aur pareshaniyon ne mujhe itna gher liya hai ke ghar
walon ki yaad bhi nahi aati jaise pehle aati thi. Ghar mein kaam aur bachon ki zimmedariyon ne
mujhe itna busy kar diya hai ke apne liye waqt nikalna bhi mushkil ho gaya hai. Pehle jab
zindagi thodi aasan thi, toh apne ghar walon ke sath waqt guzarna, unse baat karna aur unke
saath apne dil ki baat share karna sab kuch mumkin tha. Lekin ab yeh sab kuch ek khwab sa lagta
hai. Ab to sirf apni zimmedariyon ko poora karne mein hi din guzarta hai. Har waqt yeh soch
soch kar udaas ho jati hoon ke ab woh din kab aayenge jab main phir se apne ghar walon ke sath
apne dukh-sukh share kar sakungi. Yeh sab cheezein mil kar meri udaasi ko aur barhati hain. Jab
mere shohar mere dil ki baat nahi samajhte, toh mujhe lagta hai ke main ek bojh bankar reh gayi
hoon. Mere apne dukh aur pareshaniyon ka asar mere rishton par bhi padta hai. Main yeh chahti
hoon ke mere ghar mein sukoon ho, mere bache khush rahein, aur mere shohar mere feelings ko
samjhein. Lekin jab yeh sab kuch nahi hota, toh main aur bhi zyada udaas ho jati hoon. Har raat
yeh soch soch kar guzarti hai ke kab aur kaise yeh sab theek hoga, aur yeh umeed mujhe zinda
rakhti hai.
Interviewer: Udaasi apki ghar ki zemedari pe kis had tak asar andaaz krti hai?
Sajida: Udaasi ghar ki zimmedariyon par kaafi asar daalti hai. Jab main udaas hoti hoon, toh
ghar ki har cheez mujhe bohot zyada mushkil lagti hai. Mere bachon ki tarbiyat, unki taleem aur
unki sehat, sab cheezein mere liye bohot ahem hoti hain. Magar jab udaasi mujhe gher leti hai,
toh main apne bachon ke saath theek se waqt nahi guzaar paati. Meri pareshani aur bechaini
unhein bhi asar daalti hai, aur yeh mere liye bohot bari zimmedari ban jaati hai. Ghar ki aur bhi
zimmedariyan, jaise ghar ka intizam, khaana banana, aur ghar ke maahol ka khayal rakhna, sab
udaasi mein mujhe mushkilat mein daal deti hain. Jab udaasi hoti hai, toh main apne aap ko
motivate karne mein mushkil mehsoos karti hoon. Ghar ka kaam karne ki himmat nahi hoti, aur
mujhe lagta hai ke main apne ghar ki zimmedariyon ko poori tarah se nahi nibha paungi. Agar
mere husband meri baat manna shuru kr de or mujhe time dena shuru kr de to udaasi khatam ho
jye gi, dekhe aurat ghar k halat ko bhtr jaanti hai wo bacho k masal ko ache se understand krti
hai to wo shuhar se kuch farmaish kare to shuhar ko use pura krna chahye, Jb me or mere miya
me understanding ho gi to hum bacho k faaisle mil kr kare ge, bacho ki tarbiyat buht ach oho gi
Interviewer: Jab apka mood thek ho to ghar me kesa mahsoos krti hai, ghar k kaam kese hote
hai?
Sajida: Jab mera mood theek hota hai, toh ghar mein mahool bohot hi behtar aur khushgawar
mahsoos hota hai. Main apne ghar ke har kona ko hansi aur pyaar se dekhti hoon. Ghar ka kaam
bhi mujhe asaan lagta hai aur main usko dil se anjaam deti hoon. Main apne bachon ke sath waqt
guzarna pasand karti hoon, aur jab mera mood theek hota hai, toh hum sab mil kar kuch achhay
kaam bhi karte hain. Bachon ke saath khelna, unke saath padhai karna, yeh sab mujhe khushi aur
sukoon deta hai. Main unki khushiyon mein apni khushi paati hoon. gussa buht aata hai jb bhi
mood thek nah o, phr kaam krne ko bhi dil nai krta Lekin jab mera mood theek nahi hota, toh sab
kuch ulta lagta hai. Gussa bohot aata hai aur choti choti baatein bhi dil ko chubhti hain. Aise
waqt mein kaam karne ko bhi dil nahi karta. Har kaam musibat lagta hai aur zara si baat par
gussa aata hai. Bachon ki choti choti shararatein bhi bardasht nahi hoti aur un par bhi gussa
nikalta hai. Unka padhna, khelna aur unki baatein sab kuch pareshaan karne lagta hai. Mujhe
lagta hai ke yeh udaasi aur gussa mere bachon ki khushiyon par bhi asar daal raha hai. jab mera
mood kharab hota hai, toh mujhe lagta hai ke mere andar ki energy khatam ho gayi hai. Main
thakawat mehsoos karti hoon aur har cheez se dil churaati hoon. Ghar ka kaam bhi bojh lagta hai
aur main usko talne ki koshish karti hoon. Ghar ke mahaul mein bhi ek ajeeb si bechaini aur
tanhaayi mehsoos hoti hai. Jab main apne bachon ke chehron pe udaasi dekhti hoon, toh mujhe
aur bhi zyada afsos hota hai ke main unhein woh khushi nahi de pa rahi jo mujhe deni chahiye.
Yeh sab cheezein mere apne mental aur emotional health par bohot bura asar dalti hain. Mujhe
lagta hai ke agar mera mood theek rahe, toh main apne bachon ke liye, apne shohar ke liye aur
apne ghar ke liye behtareen kar sakti hoon. Lekin jab mera mood kharab hota hai, toh yeh sab
kuch mushkil ho jata hai. Mujhe apne gusse par qabo paana seekhna hoga taake main apne ghar
ka mahaul behtar bana sakoon. Main yeh samajh gayi hoon ke apne mood aur emotions ko
balance karna bohot zaroori hai. Agar main apne gusse ko control kar paoon, toh shayad ghar ka
mahaul hamesha khushgawar reh sake. Mujhe yeh sochna hoga ke mere gusse aur udaasi ka asar
sirf mujh par nahi, balki mere pure ghar par padta hai. Main apne liye aur apne bachon ke liye ek
positive aur healthy environment banana chahti hoon, aur yeh tabhi mumkin hai jab main apne
emotions ko achi tarah se handle karoon. Har raat yeh sochti hoon ke kaise apne mood ko theek
rakh sakoon. Shayad mujhe kuch activities aur hobbies mein apna mind engage karna hoga taake
mujhe positivity mile. Main yeh bhi sochti hoon ke shayad kuch relaxation techniques, jaise
meditation ya yoga, meri madad kar sakti hain. Mujhe apne liye waqt nikalna hoga taake main
apne mood ko better kar sakoon aur apne ghar ka mahaul hamesha khushgawar bana sakoon.
Interviewer: Agar kaam ko bilkul dil na kare to kya krti hai?
Sajida: kaam hi karti ho, gussa ayah o to bhi kaam hi krti rahti ho or Jab kaam ko bilkul dil nahi
karta, toh mujhe kuch aur cheezein karna pasand hoti hain. Sabse pehle, main apne bachon ke
saath waqt guzarna pasand karti hoon. Unke saath khelna, unki taleem mein madad karna, ya
phir unke saath koi nayi cheez explore karna mujhe khushi aur sukoon deta hai. Phir, agar kaam
ko bilkul dil nahi karta, toh main kuch naye cheezon ko seekhne karne mein hoti hoon. Kitaabon
ko parhna, koi naya recipe try karna, yeh sab mere liye refreshing hota hai aur mera mann khush
hota hai Phir, agar kaam ko bilkul dil nahi karta, toh main kuch naye cheezon ko seekhne mein
apna waqt guzarti hoon. Kitaabon ko parhna mujhe bohot pasand hai. Kitaabein sirf ilm ka zariya
hi nahi, balki mere liye ek escape bhi hain. Jab main kitaabein parhti hoon, toh main apne aap ko
ek nayi duniya mein mehsoos karti hoon jahan har cheez perfect hoti hai. Yeh mujhe stress se
door le jaati hain aur mere mood ko acha banati hain. Main aksar fiction novels parhti hoon,
kyun ke unki kahaniyon mein ghus kar main apni udaasi aur pareshaniyon ko bhool jati hoon. Ek
aur cheez jo mujhe bohot pasand hai woh hai nayi recipes try karna. Cooking mere liye sirf ek
zaroori kaam nahi, balki ek therapy hai. Jab main nayi recipes try karti hoon, toh yeh mere liye
ek creative outlet hota hai. Ingredients ko mix karna, naye flavors ko discover karna, yeh sab
mujhe ek satisfaction aur khushi deta hai. Jab main apne hath se kuch tasty aur unique banati
hoon, toh yeh mujhe bohot acha lagta hai aur mere mood ko instantly lift kar deta hai. Family ke
liye kuch special banane aur unhein khush dekhne ka ehsaas hi alag hota hai. Iske ilawa, mujhe
gardening bhi bohot pasand hai. Apne baghiche mein phoolon aur podon ka khayal rakhna,
unhein paani dena, aur unhein dekh kar khush hona, yeh sab mere liye bohot relaxing hota hai.
Nature ke kareeb rehne se mujhe ek inner peace mehsoos hota hai jo mujhe kahin aur nahi milta.
Interviewer: Ghar me free time me kya krti hai?
Sajida: Ghar mein free time mein main kuch alag cheezein karti hoon jo mujhe khushi aur
sukoon deti hain. Free time mein mujhe sabse zyada pasand hai apne bachon ke saath waqt
guzarna. Unke saath khelna, unki kahaniyan sunna, ya phir unke saath koi creative activity karna
mujhe bohot khushi aur sukoon deta hai. Kabhi kabhi free time mein main kuch naya seekhne ka
mauka bhi dhundhti hoon koi nayi recipe try karna, ya phir kuch naye kapde banana, yeh sab
mujhe bohot pasand hai aur mere free time ko acha krta hai.
Interviewer: Farig ooqat me kis kisam k khayalat or sooche aati hai?
Sajida: bacho ki tarbiyat keso ho gi, unka mustaqbil ko le kar preshani hoti hai or Farig waqt
mein meri zehan mein kayi tarah ke khayalat aur soch aati hain. Kabhi kabhi main apne bachon
ke mustaqbil ke bare mein sochti hoon, unki taleem aur tarbiyat ke liye kya behtar hai, ya phir
unke saath kis tarah ka waqt guzarna chahiye. Kabhi kabhi farig waqt mein main apne apko
improve karne ke liye sochti hoon. Kuch naye skills ya hobbies seekhne ke baare mein ya phir
kisi naye kaam ya project ke baare mein sochti hoon. Kuch dafa mere zehan mein apne rishte aur
ghar walon ke saath behtar taluqat banane ka khayal aata hai. Kabhi kabhi farig waqt mein main
apne aap ko improve karne ke liye sochti hoon. Mujhe lagta hai ke agar main khud ko behtar
bana loon, toh apne bachon aur ghar walon ke liye bhi behtar ban sakti hoon. Main sochti hoon
ke kuch naye skills seekhun, jo meri zindagi aur mere ghar walon ke liye faidemand ho sakein.
Jaise ke cooking mein naye recipes try karna, gardening mein naye plants ugana, ya phir
technology ke latest trends ke baare mein jaan'na. Yeh sab activities mujhe khud ko behtar
banane mein madad deti hain aur mujhe ek nayi energy aur motivation deti hain. Kuch naye
hobbies seekhne ke baare mein bhi sochti hoon. Jaise ke painting, knitting, ya phir writing. Yeh
sab cheezein mujhe apne creative side ko explore karne ka mauka deti hain aur mere zehen ko
fresh aur active rakhti hain. In hobbies ko seekh kar mujhe lagta hai ke main apne aap ko aur
zyada productive aur happy mehsoos kar sakti hoon.
Kisi naye kaam ya project ke baare mein sochti hoon, jo mujhe professionally grow karne mein
madadgar sabit ho sakein. Yeh projects meri skills aur knowledge ko enhance karte hain aur
mujhe apne field mein aage badhne ka mauka dete hain. Main yeh sochti hoon ke kaise main
apne life ko balance kar sakti hoon, taake main apne ghar walon aur bachon ko bhi waqt de
sakoon aur apne career ko bhi aage le ja sakoon. Kuch dafa mere zehen mein apne rishte aur ghar
walon ke saath behtar taluqat banane ka khayal aata hai. Main sochti hoon ke kaise main apne
shohar ke saath apna rishta aur mazboot bana sakti hoon, apne bachon ke saath apni bonding ko
strong kar sakti hoon, aur apne extended family ke saath bhi achi understanding rakh sakti hoon.
Yeh sab khayalat mujhe motivate karte hain ke main apne aap ko aur apne rishtey ko behtar
banaoon. Main sochti hoon ke apne shohar ke saath zyada waqt guzaroon, unki baatein sunoon,
unke interests mein interest loon, taake humare darmiyan achi understanding ho. Main apne
bachon ke saath zyada interactive activities plan karne ki koshish karti hoon, jaise ke unke sath
games khelna, unke school projects mein madad karna, ya phir unke sath outings par jana. Yeh
sab cheezein humare rishtey ko mazboot banati hain aur ghar ke mahaul ko khushgawar banati
hain, family ke sath bhi time spend karna, unki zaruraton ka khayal rakhna, unke sath occasions
par milna julna, yeh sab cheezein mere liye bohot important hain. Main yeh sochti hoon ke kaise
main apne extended family ke sath apne taluqat ko behtar kar sakti hoon, taake hum sab mil kar
ek doosre ke saath khush rahein.
Interviewer: Ghar k halat se mutmain hai?
Sajida: Alhamdulillah, ghar ke halat se main khush aur mutmain hoon. Chaahe ghar mein chhoti
moti mushkilat hon, Main apne bachon ko dekh kar aur unke saath waqt guzar kar bhot mutmain
hoon. Unki muskurahat aur khushiyan meri dil ko bhar deti hain. Hum ghar mein ek doosre ka
saath dete hain, aur har mushkil ko saath mein hal karte hain.
Interviewer: Apki zaroorto k pura hone na hone ka udaasi pe asar prta hai?
Sajida: Meri zarooraton ka pura na hona mujhe udaas aur pareshan kar deta hai. Jab main apne
zarooraton ko pura nahi kar pati, toh dil bohot udaas hota hai aur mujhe bechaini mehsoos hoti
hai. Mujhe apne bachon ki taleem aur sehat ki zarooraton ka khayal rehta hai. Agar main unki
zarooraton ko pura nahi kar paati, toh mujhe afsos hota hai aur mujhe lagta hai ke main unke liye
sahi tarah se khayal nahi rakh pa rahi hoon. Shohar aur ghar ke doosre afraad ki zarooraton ka
khayal rakhna bhi mujhe ahem hai. Agar main unki zarooraton ko pura nahi kar paati, toh mujhe
ghar ke mahol mein pareshani mehsoos hoti hai aur mujhe lagta hai ke main apni zimmedariyon
ko theek se nibha nahi pa rahi hoon. Meri zaroorat sirf financial nahi, balki emotional aur mental
support bhi hain. Jab main dekhti hoon ke mere bachon ko koi mushkil darpesh hai aur main
unke saath nahi hoon, ya unhein guide nahi kar pa rahi hoon, toh mujhe bohot afsos hota hai.
Unke saath waqt guzarne ka maqsad sirf unhein entertain karna nahi, balki unhein life ke lessons
sikhana bhi hai. Unki har choti badi zaroorat ko pura karna, unki khushi aur kamiyabi ke liye
zaroori hai.
Shohar ke saath bhi aise hi kuch challenges hotay hain. Jab main unki zarooraton ko pura nahi
kar paati, toh unki wajah se ghar ka mahaul bhi mukhtalif ho jata hai. Shohar aur biwi ke
darmiyan agar samajh aur tawajju ka farq ho, toh rishta kamzor ho jata hai. Mujhe yeh lagta hai
ke agar main unki zarooraton ka khayal nahi rakhoon gi, toh unka dil bhi mere se toot jaye ga.
Unki khushiyon aur comfort ka khayal rakhna meri zimmedari hai aur agar main yeh nahi kar
paati, toh yeh meri zindagi mein udaasi aur pareshani barha deta hai. Ghar ke doosre afraad, jaise
meri saas, sasur, dewar ya nanad, unki zarooraton ka khayal rakhna bhi zaroori hai. Unki
expectations aur meri responsibilities ko balance karna mushkil hota hai, magar main koshish
karti hoon ke unki har zaroorat ko pura karoon. Jab main in sab responsibilities ko poora nahi kar
pati, toh mujhe lagta hai ke main apni zimmedariyon se kaafi door hoon. Is mushkil waqt mein,
mujhe yeh lagta hai ke agar mujhe proper support milay, toh main apne sab responsibilities ko
behtareen tarike se poora kar sakti hoon. Main yeh samajhti hoon ke agar ghar walay mujhe
emotional support dein, mujhe appreciate karain aur mere efforts ko sarahain, toh main apne farz
aur zimmedariyon ko aur behtareen tarike se nibha sakti hoon. Agar mujhe unka moral support
milay, toh meri udaasi aur pareshani door ho sakti hai. Main apne aap ko har din motivate karti
hoon ke sab kuch better ho sakta hai. Apni zarooraton ko pura karne ke liye main naye tareeqay
dhundti hoon. Kuch time management techniques apply karti hoon taake main har ek zaroorat ko
theek se address kar sakoon. Agar main apne aap ko aur apne kaam ko achi tarah manage
karoon, toh shayad main apne aur apne ghar walon ki zarooraton ko pura kar sakoon. Har din
main apne liye aur apne ghar walon ke liye kuch naya seekhti hoon. Yeh seekhna aur samajhna
mujhe behtar insan banata hai aur meri udaasi aur pareshani ko kam karta hai. Apni
responsibilities ko poora karne ka satisfaction mujhe ek nayi energy aur motivation deta hai.
Main yeh koshish karti hoon ke har din apne liye aur apne ghar walon ke liye kuch naya aur
behtar karoon, taake hum sab mil kar khush aur kamiyab zindagi jee sakein.
Interviewer: Ap k khayal me bahir aana jana or logo se milna julna apki udaasi ko krta hai?
Sajida: Udaasi ko kam karta hai zaahir si baat hai, ghar mein reh kar banda udaas hota hai, lekin
jab bahir jaata hai aur kisi se baat karta hai, to faraq to padta hai. Manzil milta hai, kuch naye
tajurbe hote hain, aur dil mein nayi Umeed shuru hota hai. Bahir aane se na sirf dil ko taza hawa
milti hai balkay dimagh bhi taaza ho jata hai. Naye log, aur naye mulaqatay insaan ko fresh krti
hain. Ghar mein ruk kar toh insaan apni sochon mein uljha rehta hai, lekin bahir jaane se zehan
khula rehta hai, aur naye soch milte hain. Is tarah, har mulaqat ek nayi raah dikhati hai aur
zindagi ko rangin banati hai. Jab main udaas hoti hoon aur ghar mein ruk kar apne hi khayalon
mein gum rehti hoon, toh meri udaasi aur barh jati hai. Lekin jab main bahar nikalti hoon, hawa
khane jaati hoon, ya phir dosto aur rishtedaron se milti hoon, toh mere dil aur dimagh par ek
naya asar hota hai. Har nayi mulaqat mujhe ek naya perspective deti hai, aur main apne masail
ko ek nayi nazar se dekhne lagti hoon. Naye logon se mil kar unke tajurbe sunne se mujhe yeh
ahsas hota hai ke main akeli nahi hoon, aur duniya mein har kisi ko kuch na kuch mushkilat ka
samna karna padta hai bahar nikalne ka ek faida yeh bhi hota hai ke mujhe apne waqt ko
constructive tarike se guzarna ka mauka milta hai. Kabhi kabhi main coffee shop mein ja kar sirf
kitaab parhti hoon, aur yeh mujhe bohot relax karne ka mauka deta hai. Kabhi main park mein ja
kar walk karti hoon, aur nature ke kareeb rehne se mujhe apne stress ko kam karne ka mauka
milta hai. Is tarah ke chote chote activities mujhe bohot relief dete hain aur mere mood ko
instantly better kar dete hain. Social interactions bhi udaasi ko kam karne ka ek behtareen zariya
hain. Doston ke sath outing par jaana, unke sath apne dil ki baat share karna, aur unse mushkil
waqt mein support lena, yeh sab cheezein bohot madadgar sabit hoti hain. Jab main apni
problems ko kisi ke sath share karti hoon, toh mujhe lagta hai ke mere kandhon se bojh halka ho
gaya hai. Doston ke sath hansna, unke sath acha waqt guzarna, yeh sab cheezein mujhe ek nayi
energy deti hain aur main apni zindagi ko aur positive nazar se dekhne lagti hoon.
Interviewer: Jo oorte job krti hai un pe udaasi ka kya asar hota?
Sajida: Jo aurtein job karti hain, unpe udaasi ka asar hota hai kyun ke unhe ghar aur kaam ke
darmiyan balance karna hota hai. Kaam mein busy rehne ki wajah se unhe ghar ke zimmedariyon
ko pura karne ka waqt nahi milta, jisse unka dil udaas ho jata hai. Job karte hue bhi agar unke
kaam mein mutmain na ho, toh bhi udaasi ka ehsaas hota hai. Agar unhein kaam mein
mukammal faragh nahi milta ya unka kaam unki expectations se milta nahi, toh unka dil udaas
ho jata hai aur wo pareshan mehsoos karti hain. Kabhi kabhi job ke pressure aur stress ki wajah
se bhi unpe udaasi ka asar hota hai. Agar kaam mein bohot zyada pressure ho, kaam ka dabaav
ho, ya phir ghar or kaam me balance nahi ho, toh unka dil udaas ho jata hai aur wo udaas
mehsoos karti hain. Har aurat hi aisi udaasi mahsoos krti hai jaise me krti ho, q k jo middle class
tabqa hai waha yahi saari masail hote hai or sabhi oorte aik tyarah k masail mki waja se preshan
hoti hai, middle class families k bacho ko le kar hi issues hote hai or husband se understanding
time ka na milna , ya time ka na milna , susral ki taraf se combine family k issues ye sab masail
hote hai middle class family k
Interviewer: Kabhi udaasi ko barhane wali cheezo ko dhoondne ki kosish ki?
Sajida: kabhi kabhi main main koshish karti hoon ke apne dimaag ko distract karoon aur kuch
aise kaamon mein masroof ho jaoon jo mujhe khushi aur sukoon de.Sab badi udaasi ki waja to ye
hai combine family me kisi ne kuch acha pahna ya pakaya to bacho ne aa k kahna hame bhi le kr
do, ham ne bhi fala cheez khani hai, baz dafa bacho ko samjhaye to maan bhi jate hai lekin kabhi
kbhar wo zid karte hai me jab iudaas hoti hai to iska asar bacho par bhi aata hai Bachon ki yeh
demands mujhe udaas aur pareshan kar deti hain. Baz dafa bacho ko samjhaye to maan bhi jate
hain, lekin kabhi kabhar wo zid karte hain. Jab bachon ki zid barh jati hai, toh mujhe aur bhi
stress hota hai. Main apne bachon ko har khushi dena chahti hoon, lekin combine family ke
limitations aur resources ke hote hue, har demand ko pura karna mushkil ho jata hai. Iska asar
sirf mere mood par nahi, balki mere bachon ke mood par bhi hota hai. Jab main udaas hoti hoon,
toh mere bache bhi udaas ho jate hain, aur ghar ka mahaul nafrat aur tension se bhar jata hai.
Main jab udaas hoti hoon, toh iska asar bachon par bhi aata hai. Unka chehra udaas ho jata hai,
unka shauq aur khushi kam ho jati hai. Bachon ki khushi aur mustaqbil ke liye mujhe apne aap
ko positive aur happy rakhna padta hai. Iske liye main koshish karti hoon ke apne dimaag ko
distract karoon aur kuch aise kaamon mein masroof ho jaoon jo mujhe khushi aur sukoon de.
Main painting karti hoon, gardening karti hoon, ya phir kuch naye recipes try karti hoon. Yeh sab
cheezein mere mood ko better karti hain aur mujhe fresh mehsoos hota hai. Main apne bachon ke
sath waqt guzarti hoon, unke sath khelti hoon, unke school projects mein madad karti hoon, aur
unke sath quality time spend karti hoon. Jab main unke sath khush rehti hoon, toh woh bhi khush
rehte hain. Unki khushi aur hansi dekh kar mujhe sukoon milta hai aur meri udaasi door hoti hai.
Main koshish karti hoon ke unhe har wo cheez dun jo unke liye zaroori hai, lekin agar kabhi kisi
cheez ka intezam na ho sake, toh main unhe pyar se samjhati hoon aur unke sath waqt guzarti
hoon taake woh zyada udaas na hon apne shohar ke sath bhi waqt guzarti hoon, unse apni baatein
share karti hoon, unke sath apne dil ki baat karti hoon. Unke sath baat karne se mujhe emotional
support milta hai aur mera dil halka hota hai. Main unhe apni mushkilein batati hoon, aur woh
mujhe samajhte hain, mujhe support karte hain. Yeh sab cheezein mere mood ko better karti hain
aur mujhe udaasi se door rakhti hain apni family aur doston se bhi milti hoon, unke sath waqt
guzarti hoon, unke sath apne dil ki baatein karti hoon. Unke sath baat karne se mujhe ek nayi
energy milti hai, unke sath hansne bolne se mera mood better hota hai. Kabhi kabhi main apne
doston ke sath outing par jaati hoon, ya phir unke sath coffee peeti hoon. Yeh sab cheezein
mujhe relax karti hain aur mujhe apne udaasi se door karti hain.
Interviewer: Kabhi udaasi k factors ko khatam krne ki kosish ki?
Sajida: Maine apne aap ko samjha aur apne dil ki baat ko apne ghar walon ke saath share kiya.
Unse khul kar baat kar ke, maine apni feelings aur problems batayi aur unke saath mil kar hal
talash kiye. Fir, maine khud ko samjhaya main ne apni kamzooriyo ko jaan kar un par kaam krne
ki kosish ki, Har problem ka hal hota hai. Maine har mushkil ko face kiya aur uska hal talash
kiya. Main ne har ek masle ko thande dimaag se aur hosla afzai ke saath hal kiya. Kabhi kabhi,
maine apne doston ya family members se madad maangi.
Interviewer: Aap kese apni udaasi ko overcome krti hai?
Sajida: Mujghe jab udaasi feel hoti hai to shopping bhi kr lo to koi faraq nai prta , udaasi jis
waja se hai jb tak wo waja na khatam ho mujhe sakoon nai milta Udaasi hoti hai to me bacho se
baat krti ho, bacho k sath movie dekh leti ho, bacho k sath cartoon dekh leti ho, istarh tawajja but
jati hai me baz dafa apni nando or jaithani deewrani se bhi baatie weagera kr letio ho is se dil
halka hon jata haiShopping ek aam tareeqa hai jo log apni udaasi ko door karne ke liye istemal
karte hain. Jab main shopping karti hoon, toh mujhe temporary relief milta hai. Lekin jab main
ghar laut kar aati hoon, toh udaasi phir se wapas aa jati hai. Ismein mujhe sirf dikhawa ka sukoon
milta hai, asal mein udaasi ka asar nahi khatam hota. Isi liye main apne bachon ke saath waqt
guzarti hoon, unke saath activities karti hoon, taake unki khushi mujhe khud bhi khushi de. Unke
masoom chehre dekh kar mujhe dilasa milta hai ke zindagi mein bhi khushi hai, sirf humein usse
dekhne ki zarurat hai. Bachon ke saath waqt guzarna mujhe sach mein sukoon deta hai. Unki
masoomiyat aur unki muskurahat mujhe har mushkil waqt mein bhi roshni ka ehsas dilati hai.
Jab main unke saath movie dekhti hoon, toh mujhe unki khushiyan dekh kar khud bhi khushi
milti hai. Unke pyare pyare sawalon aur baaton se mujhe distraction milta hai, aur meri udaasi
dheere dheere khatam hoti hai. Unke saath cartoon dekh kar bhi mujhe bada maza aata hai, aur
main unke saath mazeed waqt guzarna chahti hoon apni nando aur jaithani se baatein karne ka
bhi apna alag hi maza hai. Unke saath guzra waqt mujhe dilasa deta hai ke main akeli nahi hoon,
mere paas apni family aur pyare rishtedaar hain jo mere saath hain. Unki baatein sun kar mujhe
bada sukoon milta hai, aur unki hansi aur muskurahat mujhe apni udaasi ko bhoolne mein madad
karti hai. Is tarah ke chhoti chhoti interactions mere dil ko halka kar deti hain, aur mujhe
mehsoos hota hai ke zindagi mein phir se rang aa gaya hai. Shopping ya aur kisi bhi temporary
distraction ka asal hal nahi hai. Haqeeqat mein, asal sukoon toh unhi cheezon mein hai jo hamare
dil ko sach mein khushi deti hain. Mere liye wo cheezein mere bachon ke saath waqt guzarna,
unki muskurahat mein kho jana, aur apne rishtedaaron ke saath baatein karna hai. Yeh hi
cheezein hain jo mujhe asal sukoon aur khushi deti hain, aur mujhe udaasi se bahar nikalne mein
madad karti hain.
Interviewer: Kya udaasi aik aam se cheez hai ya koi khatarnaak bat hai?
Sajida: Udaas aam bat to nai hai, kuch hova hota hai tabhi wo udaas hota aise toi ni udaas hone
laga, bas jb udaas ho to chup ho jye ya gussa nikal de dono waja se udaasi thek ho sakti hai
Banda waqt k sath khud ba khud tajarbakar ho jata hai, udaasi ko kam krna seekh jata hai,
Bande ki ssoch pe bhi udaasi depend jrti hai, kuch logi ki sooch positive hoti hai wo itna kuch
hone k bawajood thek rahte or kuch zara sa kuch hone pr shoor macha dete hai Waqt ke sath,
insaan tajarba kar ke apni zindagi ke challenges aur udaasiyon ka saamna karta hai. Is tajarbe se
hi woh samajhne lagta hai ke kis tarah se udaasi ko kam kiya ja sakta hai. Zindagi ki har aik
situation mein seekhne ka mauqa milta hai aur har udaasi ek naya sabak sikhata hai. Kuch log
udaasi ke mukhtalif asoolon se guzarte hain, jabke doosre apni apni tareeqon se iska samna karte
hain. Banday ki soch bhi unke udaasi par asar daalti hai. Kuch logon ki soch hamesha positive
hoti hai, aur woh chun ke musibaton ko saamne lata hain. Unka yeh mindset unhe har mushkil ke
baad taraqqi aur kamiyabi ki taraf le jata hai. Lekin kuch logon ki soch thodi si bhi musibat ya
pareshani par shoor macha deti hai, aur unka yeh rawayya unhein aur unke aas paas ke logon ko
takleef mein daal deta hai. Udaasi ko kam karne ke liye, zaroori hai ke insaan apni soch ko
positive aur optimistic banaye rakhe. Zindagi mein aane wali har mushkil ko ek naya mauqa
samjhein, aur uss se sabaq seekhein. Apne andar ke dard ko share karna bhi ek aham tareeqa hai
udaasi ko kam karne ka. Dosto aur rishtedaaron se baat karna, unki madad aur saath mangna, ye
sab cheezein hamare dil ko halka karti hain aur hamari udaasi ko kam karti hain.
Interviewer: Kya har oorat udaasi ko mahsoos krti hai?
Sajida: Bande ki personality nature bhi udaasi me aham krdar ada krti hai, k wo kese cheezo ko
dekhta hao or zaahir phr uske cope krne ka tariqa bhi wesa hi hoga Har aurat udaasi ka ehsaas
karti hai, lekin har ek ki udaasi ki wajah aur uska asar alag hota hai. Har kisi ki zindagi mein
mukhtalif challenge hote hain jo unhe udaas kar sakte hain. Kisi ki udaasi ki waja ghar ke masail
ho sakte hain, to kisi kaam mein ya rishto mein pareshaniyaat ho sakti hain. Kuch aurton ko
mental health issues jaise depression ya anxiety bhi ho sakte hain jo unke mood par asar daal
sakte hain. Kuch aurtein apni udaasi ko zahir nahi karti, lekin unka dil andar se udaas hota hai.
Dusri aurtein apne jazbat ka izhaar karti hain aur support ki talash karte hain. Har aurat ki udaasi
ka tareeqa alag hota hai Har aurat udaasi ka ehsaas karti hai, lekin har ek ki udaasi ki wajah aur
uska asar alag hota hai. Zindagi mein har kisi ke mukhtalif challenges hote hain jo unhe udaas
kar sakte hain. Kisi ki udaasi ki wajah ghar ke masail ho sakte hain, jaise ke financial problems,
family conflicts, ya health issues. To kisi kaam mein ya rishto mein pareshaniyaat ho sakti hain,
jaise ke job stress, career struggles, ya interpersonal conflicts. Kuch aurton ko mental health
issues jaise depression ya anxiety bhi ho sakte hain, jo unke mood par asar daal sakte hain. In sab
challenges aur masail se guzarte hue, har aurat apni udaasi ka samna karti hai, lekin uska tareeqa
alag hota hai. Kuch aurtein apni udaasi ko zahir nahi karti, lekin unka dil andar se udaas hota hai.
Wo apne dard ko chupate hain aur apne aas paas ke logon ko pareshan nahi karte. Unka ye
rawayya unhe zahir se shaayad kam udaas dikhaye deta hai, lekin andar se unka dil dukhta hai.
Doosri aurtein apne jazbat ka izhaar karti hain aur support ki talash karte hain. Wo apne dard ko
share karte hain, dost ya family members se baat karte hain, aur unki madad talab karte hain.
Unka yeh rawayya unhe apne dard se nikaalne mein madad karta hai aur unhe sukoon deta hai.
Interviewer: Koi asia mashwara dena chahe jo udaasi ko khatam krne me madadgar sabit ho?
Sajida: Apni zindagi mein chhoti chhoti khushiyon ko dhundhna aur un par focus karna. Har din
mein kisi chhoti khushi ko ya achhay moment ko yaad karna aur un par shukar guzaar rehna.
Iske alawa, kisi aise kaam me khud ko masroof krna jo aapko khushi aur sukoon deta hai. ya phir
kuch bhi jo aapko pasand hai aur aapke dil ko khush rakhta hai. Isse aap apne zehan ko busy
rakhte hain aur udaasi ka asar kam hota hai. Aur kisi bharose wale dost ya family member se
apne dil ki baat share karna. Unse apni baat problem ko discuss karna in sab se udaasi ka mho
jye gi or daily walk krne se bhi kafi farq parta haiIske alawa, kisi aise kaam mein khud ko
masroof karna jo aapko khushi aur sukoon deta hai, bhi udaasi ko kam karne ka behtareen
tareeqa hai. Har insan ki pasandidgiyan alag hoti hain, kuch logon ko likhna pasand hota hai,
kuch logon ko painting karna, kuch logon ko gardening, aur kuch logon ko music sunna ya gana
gana pasand hota hai. Jo bhi aapko khushi deta hai, usmein apna waqt guzarna, apne dil ko khush
rakhne ka tareeqa hai. Isse aap apne zehan ko busy rakhte hain aur udaasi ka asar kam hota hai.
Aur phir, kisi bharose wale dost ya family member se apne dil ki baat share karna bhi bohot
zaroori hai. Dost ya family member se apne dard ya udaasi ko share karna, ek aham tareeqa hai
usse kam karne ka. Unki saath mein apni baat share karne se, aapko ek acha mehsoos hota hai,
aur aapko lagega ke aap akela nahi hain, kisi hai jo aapko samajhta hai aur aapke saath hai. Unse
apni baat problem ko discuss karna, aapko naye nazariye se dekhne ka mauqa milta hai, aur
aapko lagta hai ke aapki pareshani hal hone wali hai. Isi tarah, daily walk karne se bhi kafi farq
parta hai. Halki phulki exercise karne se dil ko sukoon milta hai, aur zehan ko taza hawa ka
ehsaas hota hai.