Interview

Topic: Experience of sadness in house wives

Interviewer: Assalam o Alaukum! Haal Chaal k bad, kya name hai apka?
Naila: G Walaukum salam thek hai Allah ka shukar hai G mera nam Naila Imran hai
Interviewer: Kitni umar hai apki?
Naila: 28 saal
Interviewer: Aap shadi shuda? Or kitne saal hog ye shadi ko?
Naila: G…9 saal hog ye hai or 3 bache hai 2 bete hai 1 beti hai beti 8 saal ki hai oe bete abhi
chute hai
Interviewer: Ap susral walo k sath rahi hai ya un se alag?
Naila: Nai me susral walo k sath hi rahti ho
Interviewer: Insaan ghar me rah rah kr kaye bar udaas ho jata hai to ap ne kabhi aisa
mahssos kiya?
Naila: Ha g kabhi kbhar ghar me koi aise waqiyat ho jate hai k insaan udaas ho jata hai,
udaaasi ho hi jati hai
Interviewer: To kya koi recent waqiya share kare gi jb aap ne khud ko udaas mahsoos kiya
ho?
Naila: Husband se koi bat ho gye ya bacho se koi bat hp gye to udaasi hoti hai, Jee, ek recent
waqiya share karti hoon. Kuch din pehle meri badi beti school se ghar aayi aur usne kaha ke
uske school ki performance mein mujhe ana chahiye tha. Mera dil bohot udaas ho gaya
kyunke main nahi jaa saki thi. Mera chhota beta bemar tha aur usko doctor ke paas le jana
zaroori tha. Mujhe laga ke main apni beti ke saath nahi ho paayi jab usko meri zaroorat thi.
Mujhe aksar aise mehsoos hota hai ke main apne bachon ke beech mein balance nahi kar
paati. Ek taraf ghar ke kaam hote hain, doosri taraf bachon ki zarooratein. Mere husband bhi
door hain, isliye mujhe sab kuch khud manage karna padta hai. Kabhi kabhi raat ko jab sab so
jate hain, main akeli baith ke sochti hoon aur aansu aa jate hain. Pura din itni masroofiat hoti
hai ke apne liye waqt hi nahi milta. Ghar mein joint family hai, toh kabhi kabhi lagta hai ke
meri zindagi sirf doosron ki khidmat karne mein guzar rahi hai. Apne liye kuch karne ka waqt
hi nahi milta. Sab ka khayal rakhte rakhte kabhi apne jazbat ko bhi daba leti hoon. Yeh sab
soch ke dil udaas ho jata hai. Iske ilawahusband mere saudiya rahte hai to un ki yaad aane par
bhi udaasi ho jati hai
Interviewer: Apki life me koi aisa waqiya hai jo apko sab se zayada udaaas kr deta ho?
Naila: G ek recent waqiya hova hai kuch din pehle meri badi beti school se ghar aayi aur
usne kaha ke uske school ki performance mein mujhe ana chahiye tha. Mera dil bohot udaas
ho gaya kyunke main nahi jaa saki thi. Mera chhota beta bemar tha aur usko doctor ke paas le
jana zaroori tha. Mujhe laga ke main apni beti ke saath nahi ho paayi jab usko meri zaroorat
thi. Mujhe aksar aise mehsoos hota hai ke main apne bachon ke beech mein balance nahi kar
paati. Ek taraf ghar ke kaam hote hain, doosri taraf bachon ki zarooratein. Mere husband bhi
door hain, isliye mujhe sab kuch khud manage karna padta hai. Kabhi kabhi raat ko jab sab so
jate hain, main akeli baith ke sochti hoon aur aansu aa jate hain. Pura din itni masroofiat hoti
hai ke apne liye waqt hi nahi milta. Ghar mein joint family hai, toh kabhi kabhi lagta hai ke
meri zindagi sirf doosron ki khidmat karne mein guzar rahi hai. Apne liye kuch karne ka waqt
hi nahi milta. Sab ka khayal rakhte rakhte kabhi apne jazbat ko bhi daba leti hoon. Yeh sab
soch ke dil udaas ho jata hai Ek taraf ghar ke kaam hote hain, doosri taraf bachon ki
zarooratein. Mere husband bhi door hain, isliye mujhe sab kuch khud manage karna padta
hai. Kabhi kabhi raat ko jab sab so jate hain, main akeli baith ke sochti hoon aur aansu aa jate
hain. Pura din itni masroofiat hoti hai ke apne liye waqt hi nahi milta. Ghar mein joint family
hai, toh kabhi kabhi lagta hai ke meri zindagi sirf doosron ki khidmat karne mein guzar rahi
hai. Apne liye kuch karne ka waqt hi nahi milta. Sab ka khayal rakhte rakhte kabhi apne
jazbat ko bhi daba leti hoon. Yeh sab soch ke dil udaas ho jata hai.
Interviewer: Apki life me koi aisa waqiya hai jo apko sab se zayada udaaas kr deta ho?
Naila: G meri life mein ek waqiya hai jo mujhe bohot zyada udaas kar deta hai. Jab mere
chhote bete ki paidaish hui thi, tab mere husband hamare saath nahi the. Woh us waqt bhi
abroad the, aur unka wapas ana possible nahi tha. Mera dil bohot udaas ho gaya tha kyunki
apni zindagi ke itne important lamhe mein main unke bina thi. Mujhe yaad hai jab main
hospital mein thi aur sab apne apne family ke sath khushiyan mana rahe the, tab main akeli
thi. Mere sath meri saas aur nand thi, lekin mere dil ko jo tasalli apne husband ke hone se
milti, woh nahi mili. Jab main ne apne chhote bete ko pehli dafa god mein uthaya, toh aansu
rok nahi paayi. Khushi ke aansu bhi the aur udaasi ke bhi, kyunki apne husband ko miss kar
rahi thi. Yeh waqiya mujhe ab tak udaas kar deta hai or Jb mere husband saudiya gye the to
me bari udaas ho gye thi q k saari zimadari phr akele hi uthani prti hai, ghar or bacho ki
zimadari saari akele ko karni parti hai, bache bimar ho gye kabhi kuch ho gya to kabhi kuch,
jb wo the to kuch bhi ho un k sath chale jate the lekin ab sab kuch akele krna prta hai
Umme Kalsom: Apke zaati talauqat pr saadnness kis tarah asar andaaz hoti hai?
Naila: Jb ghar me kisi se bahas ho jye to me buht udaas ho jati ho, ya bacho ko kuch ho jye
bimar wagera ho jye to sab kuch phe akele face krna prta haior phr istarh se buht zayada
udaasi ho jati hai, Jee, sadness mere zaati talauqat par kaafi asar andaaz hoti hai. Jab main
udaas hoti hoon toh meri apne bachon ke sath patience kam ho jati hai. Kabhi kabhi unki
chhoti chhoti baatein bhi mujhe tang karne lagti hain aur phir mujhe lagta hai ke main un par
gussa kar rahi hoon bina kisi wajah ke. Yeh sab dekh ke mujhe aur zyada udaasi mehsoos hoti
hai. Mere husband door hain, toh kabhi kabhi unse phone par baat karte waqt bhi main apni
udaasi unse share nahi kar paati. Unko fikar hoti hai aur main nahi chahti ke woh wahan
pareshaan hon. Isliye dil ki baatein andar hi reh jati hain aur mein zyada tanha mehsoos karti
hoon. Joint family system mein rehte hue bhi, kabhi kabhi lagta hai ke main akeli hoon. Mere
jazbaat aur udaasi ko sab nahi samajh pate. Udaasi ki wajah se mein apne saas sasur aur nand
se bhi zyada baat nahi kar paati. Mujhe lagta hai ke main unhe apni pareshaani se pareshan
nahi karoon, lekin is wajah se apne talauqat pe asar padta hai. kuch aisi cheeze zehn me aati
hai jo buht zayada udaas kr deti hai
Interviewver: Apke kuch zaati taluqat jo apki udaasi pe asar andaas krte ho?
Naila: Ghar me koi jaghda ho jye susral wali ki taraf se koi bat ya husband ki taraf se to phr
bari udaasi hoti hai, zaahir sin bat zehn pe asar hota hai udaasi hoti hai tension hoti hai Jab
ghar mein jaghda hota hai, toh iska asar har ek ghar ke har fard par hota hai. Har kisi ka apna
tareeqa hota hai is situation ka samna karne ka. Kisi ko toh shayad gussa aa jata hai, toh kisi
ko shayad dukh. Aur isse asar hota hai unke mizaaj aur unki rooh par. Udaasi ka ehsaas hota
hai, kyun ke koi bhi insaan chahta hai ke unki zindagi mein khushiyan aur aman ho, lekin jab
ghar mein jaghde hote hain, toh sab kuch ulta ho jata hai. Jab susral wale ki taraf se koi bat
aati hai ya phir husband ki taraf se koi masla samne ata hai, toh pehle toh insaan shayad
koshish karta hai ke woh chup rahe, lekin phir uske andar ki udaasi aur tension barh jati hai.
Insan sochta hai ke kyun yeh sab ho raha hai, kya koi hal nahi hai is masle ka, aur kis tarah se
isse deal karna chahiye. In sab sochon aur tension mein, insaan apni khushiyan bhool jata hai,
aur udaasi uske dil par chha jati hai. Is situation mein, sab se zaroori hai ke insaan apne aap
ko sambhale, aur samajhne ki koshish kare ke har musibat ka hal hota hai. Zindagi mein ups
and downs aate rehte hain, lekin zaroori hai ke insaan himmat na hare, aur hosla na haare.
Dost ya family member se baat karna, unse apni baat share karna, aur unki madad talab
karna, bhi ek aham tareeqa hai is udaasi ko kam karne ka. Unki saath mein, insaan ko apne
dard aur tension ka sahi samadhan milta hai, aur udaasi se nijaat milti hai.
Interviewer: Udaasi apki ghar ki zemedari pe kis had tak asar andaaz krti hai?
Naila: Ghar ka kamm krte hove udaasi kam ho jati hai, masroofiyat ho jati hai or zehn dusri
taraf chala jata hai, istarah se thora relax ho jata hai or stress bhi kam ho jata hai udaasi meri
ghar ki zimmedariyon pe kaafi asar andaaz hoti hai. Jab main udaas hoti hoon toh mere liye
ghar ke kaam sambhalna mushkil ho jata hai. Mera dil nahi karta ke main subah uth kar
breakfast banau ya ghar ke kaam karoon. Phir bhi majbooran sab kuch karna padta hai, lekin
woh energy aur motivation nahi hoti. Kabhi kabhi udaasi ki wajah se main cheezon ko bhool
jati hoon. Jaise kabhi stove par kuch chhor dena ya phir bacho ke school ka kaam time par na
kar pana. Yeh sab cheezein ghar ke mamlaat ko mushkil bana deti hain. Mere bacho ki
zarooratein bhi complete nahi ho pati, kyunki jab main mentally thak jati hoon, toh unki taraf
poora dhyan nahi de pati. Saath hi, jab main udaas hoti hoon, toh ghar ka mahaul bhi bhari
bhari sa ho jata hai. Sab ko lagta hai ke kuch theek nahi hai. Mere bacho ko bhi yeh mehsoos
hota hai ke mummy udaas hain, aur woh bhi pareshaan ho jate hain. Is wajah se unki bhi
khushi pe asar padta hai, jo mujhe aur udaas kar deta hai. Udaasi meri ghar ki zimmedariyon
pe kaafi asar andaaz hoti hai. Jab main udaas hoti hoon, toh mere liye ghar ke kaam
sambhalna mushkil ho jata hai. Mera dil nahi karta ke main subah uth kar breakfast banau ya
ghar ke kaam karoon. Phir bhi majbooran sab kuch karna padta hai, lekin woh energy aur
motivation nahi hoti. Kabhi kabhi udaasi ki wajah se main cheezon ko bhool jati hoon. Jaise
kabhi stove par kuch chhor dena ya phir bacho ke school ka kaam time par na kar pana. Yeh
sab cheezein ghar ke mamlaat ko mushkil bana deti hain. Mere bacho ki zarooratein bhi
complete nahi ho pati, kyunki jab main mentally thak jati hoon, toh unki taraf poora dhyan
nahi de pati. Saath hi, jab main udaas hoti hoon, toh ghar ka mahaul bhi bhari bhari sa ho jata
hai. Sab ko lagta hai ke kuch theek nahi hai. Mere bacho ko bhi yeh mehsoos hota hai ke
mummy udaas hain, aur woh bhi pareshaan ho jate hain. Is wajah se unki bhi khushi pe asar
padta hai, jo mujhe aur udaas kar deta hai. Is situation mein, zaroori hai ke main apne aap ko
sambhaloon aur apni udaasi ka saamna karoon. Dosto ya family members se apne dard ko
share karke, unki madad talab karke, aur apne dil ki baat ko samjhe ke, main apni udaasi se
nijaat pa sakoon. Ghar ke kaamon mein masroof hona, apne mind ko distract karna aur apne
zehn ko busy rakhna bhi ek aham tareeqa hai udaasi ko kam karne ka.
Interviewer: Interviewer: Jab apka mood thek ho to ghar me kesa mahsoos krti hai, ghar k
kaam kese hote hai?
Naila: Kam krne ko dil nak are to thora relax kr leti ho khud ko calm krne ki kosish krti ho,
relax krne k bad dubara phr kaam me lag jati ho istarah se udaasi bhi kam ho jati hai or Jab
mera mood theek hota hai, toh ghar mein sab kuch bohot acha lagta hai. Subah uthte hi
energy feel hoti hai aur sab se pehle bacho ko pyar se uthaati hoon. Unke liye breakfast
banana, unhe school ke liye taiyaar karna, yeh sab kaam khushi se karti hoon. Ghar ke kaam
bhi efficiently ho jate hain. Safai karna, kapde dhona, aur khana banana, sab kuch time par
aur acchi tarah se hota hai. Mere mood theek hone se, ghar ka mahaul bhi bohot positive hota
hai. Bachon ke sath khelna, unki batein sunna, unke school projects mein madad karna, yeh
sab cheezein asaan lagti hain aur maza bhi aata hai. Mere husband se phone par baat karne
mein bhi khushi hoti hai aur unko bhi acha lagta hai sun ke ke sab kuch theek chal raha hai.
Ghar ke doosre members, jaise saas sasur aur nand, unse bhi zyada ache se baat hoti hai. Hum
sab mil ke baithte hain, baatein karte hain aur hassi mazaaq bhi hota hai. Jab mera mood
theek hota hai, toh ghar mein sab kuch bohot acha lagta hai. Subah uthte hi energy feel hoti
hai aur sab se pehle bacho ko pyar se uthaati hoon. Unke liye breakfast banana, unhe school
ke liye taiyaar karna, yeh sab kaam khushi se karti hoon. Ghar ke kaam bhi efficiently ho jate
hain. Safai karna, kapde dhona, aur khana banana, sab kuch time par aur acchi tarah se hota
hai. Mere mood theek hone se, ghar ka mahaul bhi bohot positive hota hai or Bachon ke sath
khelna, unki batein sunna, unke school projects mein madad karna, yeh sab cheezein asaan
lagti hain aur maza bhi aata hai. Mere husband se phone par baat karne mein bhi khushi hoti
hai aur unko bhi acha lagta hai sun ke ke sab kuch theek chal raha hai. Ghar ke doosre
members, jaise saas sasur aur nand, unse bhi zyada ache se baat hoti hai. Hum sab mil ke
baithte hain, baatein karte hain aur hassi mazaaq bhi hota hai jab mood theek hota hai, toh
zindagi mein khushi aur sukoon ka ehsaas hota hai. Ghar mein positivity ka mahaul bana
rehta hai, aur har ek member ki khushi ka khayal rakha jata hai. Aur jab ghar mein aisa
mahaul hota hai, toh har insaan ka dil khush hota hai aur udaasi door ho jati hai.
Interviewer: Agar kaam ko bilkul dil na kare to kya krti hai?
Naila: Farig time soch aa jati hai bacho k future ki inki aage parhai ki, husband ka phone na
aye to ye tension ho jatyi hai pat nai q phone naye aaya kya baat ho sakti hain istarah k
khayalat aa sakte hai, bacho ki parhai ki tension kya ho ga in k sath aage Phir, agar husband
ka phone na aaye toh bhi tension hoti hai. Shayad woh kaam mein masroof hain ya phir kuch
urgent kaam mein busy hain, lekin is tarah ke situations mein insaan ko dar lagta hai. Kya
kuch galat hogaya hai? Kya koi pareshani ka samna kar rahe hain? Ye tarah ke sawal insaan
ke dimagh mein aate rehte hain aur tension ko barhate hain. Bacho ki parhai ki tension bhi ek
common worry hai. Har maa chahti hai ke uske bachay ache marks laayein aur aage ki parhai
mein bhi successful hon. Lekin kai baar, bachon ki studies mein kuch na kuch rukawat ya
pareshaniyan aa jaati hain, jinhe solve karne mein maa ko tension hoti hai. Kya bachay parhai
mein focus nahi kar rahe? Kya unko kisi cheez ki samajh nahi aa rahi? Ye tarah ke sawal bhi
farig time mein maa ke dimagh mein aate hain aur unhe pareshan karte hain. In sab worries
ko handle karne ke liye, zaroori hai ke insaan apne zehan ko busy rakhe aur apni energy ko
positive cheezon mein lagaye. Bachon ke future ki tension ko handle karne ke liye, unke sath
regular communication maintain karna aur unki progress ko monitor karna important hai.
Husband ka phone na aane ka tension ko handle karne ke liye, communication mein openness
aur understanding hona zaroori hai. Aur bachon ki parhai ki tension ko handle karne ke liye,
unhe support aur guidance provide karna zaroori hai, taki wo apni studies mein focus kar
sakein aur successful ho sakein.
Interviewer: Ghar me free time me kya krti hai?
Naila: Mujhe silai aur bunai wagera ka shauq hai, toh free time mein sweater ya shawl buna
karti hoon. Isse mujhe sukoon milta hai aur kuch naya banane ka maza bhi aata hai. Bachon
ke liye bhi chhoti chhoti cheezein banati hoon, jaise sweaters ya caps. Kabhi kabhi TV
dekhna bhi acha lagta hai. Apni pasand ke drama serials ya cooking shows dekhti hoon.
Cooking shows dekh kar naye naye recipes seekhti hoon aur phir unhe try karti hoon. Isse
mere cooking skills bhi improve hote hain aur ghar walon ko bhi naye dishes ka maza milta
hai.Agar thoda aur time mil jaye, toh kabhi kabhi friends ke sath phone par baat karti hoon.
Apni dost se dil ki baatein share karna aur unka hal chal lena mujhe acha lagta hai. Isse
dimaag halka hota hai aur khushi mehsoos hoti hai. Bachon ke liye bhi chhoti chhoti cheezein
banati hoon, jaise sweaters ya caps. Unke liye kuch banane ka mauka milta hai, aur yeh unhe
bhi khushi aur pyaar ka ehsaas dilata hai. Jab wo mere banaye hue kapde pehente hain, toh
mujhe bada acha lagta hai. Kabhi kabhi TV dekhna bhi acha lagta hai. Apni pasand ke drama
serials ya cooking shows dekhti hoon. Cooking shows dekh kar naye naye recipes seekhti
hoon aur phir unhe try karti hoon. Isse mere cooking skills bhi improve hote hain aur ghar
walon ko bhi naye dishes ka maza milta hai. Naye recipes try karte waqt mujhe ek sense of
adventure aur creativity ka ehsaas hota hai. Har nayi recipe try karte waqt, main naye flavors
aur combinations explore karti hoon, jo mujhe khushi deta hai. Agar thoda aur time mil jaye,
toh kabhi kabhi friends ke sath phone par baat karti hoon. Apni dost se dil ki baatein share
karna aur unka hal chal lena mujhe acha lagta hai. Isse humara bond strong hota hai aur
mujhe ek sense of connection mehsoos hota hai. Dosto se baat karte waqt, main apne dard aur
khushiyan unke sath share karti hoon, jo mujhe relief aur contentment deta hai. In activities
se mere dimaag halka hota hai aur main khushi mehsoos karti hoon. Jab main apne interests
aur hobbies mein masroof hoti hoon, toh meri udaasi bhi kam hoti hai. Isse mujhe ek sense of
purpose aur fulfillment milta hai, jo meri mental aur emotional well-being ke liye zaroori hai.
Interviewer: Farig ooqat me kis kisam k khayalat or sooche aati hai?
Naila: Free waqt mein aksar mujhe bohot se khayalat aur soch aati rahti hain. Sab se pehle
toh apne bachon ke bare mein sochti hoon. Unki parhai, sehat, aur future ke bare mein
khayalat aate hain. Sochti hoon ke kaise unki tarbiyat aur ache tarike se kar sakoon aur unhe
zindagi mein successful bana sakoon. Apne husband ke bare mein bhi bohot sochti hoon.
Unki kami mehsoos hoti hai aur yeh sochti hoon ke kab woh wapas ayenge aur hum sab mil
kar ek sath reh payenge. Unki doori ki wajah se jo challenges hain, unke bare mein bhi sochti
hoon aur unhe kaise manage kar sakoon, yeh plan karti hoon. Kabhi kabhi apne bare mein bhi
sochti hoon. Sochti hoon ke kaise apne interests aur hobbies ko aur time de sakoon. Apne
future ke bare mein bhi sochti hoon, ke aage jaa kar khud ko bhtr karo Ghar ki zimmedariyon
aur daily routines ke bare mein bhi sochti hoon. Kaise ghar ko aur ache tarike se manage kar
sakoon aur sab ke liye behtareen environment create kar sakoon. Ghar ke budget aur financial
planning ke bare mein bhi khayalat aate hain, ke kaise paise ko ache se use karoon aur
savings badhaoon Apne husband ke bare mein bhi bohot sochti hoon. Unki kami mehsoos
hoti hai aur yeh sochti hoon ke kab woh wapas ayenge aur hum sab mil kar ek sath reh
payenge. Unki doori ki wajah se jo challenges hain, unhe kaise manage kar sakoon, yeh plan
karti hoon. Unke sath future ke plans ke bare mein sochti hoon aur unhe support karne ka
tareeqa sochti hoon. Kabhi kabhi apne bare mein bhi sochti hoon. Apne interests aur hobbies
ko aur time de sakoon, yeh sochti hoon. Kaise apne liye bhi time nikal kar apne passions ko
pursue kar sakoon. Apni mental aur emotional well-being ke liye self-care activities aur
relaxation techniques ko kaise incorporate karoon, yeh bhi sochti hoon. Apne future ke bare
mein bhi sochti hoon, ke aage jaa kar khud ko bhtr karo. Apne career aur personal growth ke
liye kaise opportunities explore karoon, yeh sochti hoon. Kaise apne skills aur knowledge ko
enhance karke apne professional aur personal goals ko achieve karoon. Ghar ki
zimmedariyon aur daily routines ke bare mein bhi sochti hoon. Kaise ghar ko aur ache tarike
se manage kar sakoon aur sab ke liye behtareen environment create kar sakoon. Ghar ke
budget aur financial planning ke bare mein bhi khayalat aate hain, ke kaise paise ko ache se
use karoon aur savings badhaoon
Interviewer: Ghar k halat se mutmain hai?
Naila: G ghar k halat se to mutmain hai lekin husband ko pass hona chahye, husband pass
hote hai to phe kisi qisam ki preshani nai hoti ya kisi qisam ki preshani ka samna nai krna
prta or baqi ghar k halat se to me mutmain hi ho lekin husband pass hi hona chahye Husband
ke pass hone se kisi bhi tarah ki preshaniyon ka samna nahi karna parta. Unki presence mujhe
ek sense of strength aur confidence deti hai ke saath mil kar hum kisi bhi mushkil ko face kar
sakte hain. Unke support aur guidance se, main apne halat ko behtar taur par handle kar sakti
hoon. Kabhi kabhi ghar ke halat achhe bhi hon, lekin agar husband ke pass na hon, toh bhi
kuch kami mehsoos hoti hai. Unki maujoodgi ghar ko ek pur sukoon aur khushgawar mahol
banati hai. Unke saath hona ek sense of companionship aur camaraderie deta hai, jo ki bina
unke presence ke nahi milta. Husband ke pass hona mere liye ek priority hai, kyunki unki
maujoodgi se mera dil sukoon se bharta hai. Unka support aur affection meri mental aur
emotional well-being ke liye zaroori hai. Jab wo mere saath hote hain, toh har mushkil asaan
lagti hai aur har khushi dugni ho jati hai.
Interviewer: Apki zaroorto k pura hone na hone ka udaasi pe asar prta hai?
Naila: G jb koi cheez na mile to udaasi hoti haithjora tension bhi hoti hai k ye cheez mujhe
chahye thin nai mili, agar kisi cheez ki khawahish ho or wo mil jye ti Khushi bhi hoti hai k jo
chaha tha mil gya hai, bas Khushi gami chalti rahti hai, meri zarooraton ka poora hona ya na
hona meri udaasi par bohot asar dalta hai. Jab meri zarooratein poori nahi hoti, toh dil bohot
udaas ho jata hai. Aksar lagta hai ke main apni khwahishat aur zarooratein poori nahi kar pa
rahi. Mere husband door hain, toh unse financial support milti hai lekin emotional support ki
kami mehsoos hoti hai. Jab unse kuch kehna hota hai ya unki zaroorat hoti hai aur woh yahan
nahi hote, toh bohot udaasi hoti hai. Ghar mein apni personal zarooratein, jaise thoda rest ya
kuch apne liye waqt chahiye hota hai, woh poora nahi hota toh bhi udaas hoti hoon. Kabhi
kabhi lagta hai ke main sirf ghar aur bacho ki khidmat mein lagi rehti hoon aur apni
zarooratein poori nahi kar paati. Jaise agar mujhe kuch naya kapra lena ho ya apne liye koi
chhoti si cheez bhi chahiye ho, toh sochna padta hai. Apni zarooratein poori na hone ki wajah
se kabhi kabhi lagta hai ke meri apni khushiyan aur comfort kaam ho gaye hain. Agar bachon
ki zarooratein bhi poori nahi hoti, toh bohot udaasi hoti hai. Jaise agar unhe koi cheez chahiye
jo mein afford nahi kar sakti, toh mujhe bohot bura lagta hai. Unki khushi meri khushi hai,
aur agar unki zarooratein poori na hoon, toh dil bohot udaas ho jata hai.
Interviewer: Ap k khayal me bahir aana jana or logo se milna julna apki udaasi ko kam krta
hai?
Naila: Mere khayal me ye bahtr haibahar aana jana kisi se milna kisi k pas baithna is se stress
kam ho jata hai zehni tension nai hoti, batie kr k time pass bhi ho jata hai , istarah se tension
bhi kam ho jati hai or stress bhi kam ho jata hai or udaasi bhia nai hoti Logo se milna julna
aur unke sath baat cheet karne se dil ko sukoon milta hai. Apne dil ki baatein share karna, kisi
aur ki sunna aur unke sath hassi mazak karna, yeh sab cheezein mujhe khushi deti hain. Jab
main logo se mil kar ghar aati hoon, toh mujhe lagta hai ke mera dil light aur khush ho gaya
hai. Bahir jaane se naye experiences bhi milte hain, jo ki meri life ko enrich karte hain. Naye
logon se milna, unke sath unke life ke baare mein jaanne ka mauka milna, yeh sab mujhe
bahut inspire karta hai. Kabhi kabhi kisi ki kahani sun kar, apni own perspective change hoti
hai aur mujhe kuch naya seekhne ka bhi mauka milta hai. Iske alawa, bahar jaane se mujhe
thodi break bhi milti hai apne ghar ke routine se. Thodi dooriyan bana kar, apne aap ko aur
relax mehsoos hota hai. Yeh mujhe apni udaasi ko kam karne ka mauka deta hai aur mujhe
fresh energy aur motivation bhi deta hai
Interviewer: Kabhi udaasi ko barhane wali cheezo ko dhoondne ki kosish ki?
Naila: Mere khayal me wo istarah udaasi mahsoos nai krti jaise hopusewife krti hai,
houisewife kam kajh k bad farig or tarah tarah kisooche aati hai, kaam wali saara din to kaam
me busy rahti hai stress unhe kaha se aye ga Dhyan dena zaroori hai ke housewives bhi apne
emotions ko control karne ke liye kai baar apne needs aur desires ko side mein rakh deti hain.
Unka apne passions aur hobbies ke liye time nahi hota, kyunki ghar ke kaam unhe busy
rakhta hai. Isse unki mental health par bhi asar padta hai aur kabhi kabhi udaasi ka ehsaas
hota hai or social pressure bhi ek factor ho sakta hai. Agar ghar mein unki mehnat aur koshish
ko samjha jaaye aur unki efforts ko appreciate kiya jaaye, toh unka confidence aur self-
esteem bhi boost hota hai. Lekin agar unki mehnat ko nazar andaaz kiya jaye ya unka kaam
nahi samjha jaye, toh isse unka dil bhi udaas ho sakta housewives ko bhi apne emotions ko
acknowledge karne aur unhe express karne ka mauka milna chahiye. Unhe bhi apne mann ki
baat kahne ka haq hai aur unka stress bhi genuine hota hai. Isliye, unki feelings ko ignore na
kiya jaye aur unhe support aur encouragement milna chahiye taki wo apne kaam ko aur bhi
behtar taur par kar sakein.
Interviewer: Kabhi udaasi k factors ko khatam krne ki kosish ki?
Naila: Udaasi kam krne k liye kaam me masroof ho jati ho, jb bilkul ksi cheez ko dil nak are
to phr rone ko bhi dil krta haitb phe me apnea ap ko kaam me masroof kr leti ho kabhi bacho
k kaam me kabhi ghar k kaam me kabhi kapre salai kr liye kabhi bacho k sath khel liya
istarah se udaasi kam ho jati hai Jab mere dil ko kisi cheez ko dil nakara hai, toh mujhe rone
ka dil karta hai. Lekin main apne aap ko kabhi bhi aise halat mein nahin dekhti hoon. Main
apne aap ko busy rakhti hoon aur kuch na kuch kaam mein masroof ho jati hoon. Kaam mein
masroof hona mere liye ek tarah ki therapy hai. Jab main apne ghar ke kaamon mein lag jati
hoon, jaise ke bachon ke kaamon mein ya ghar ke chores mein, toh mujhe ek sense of
accomplishment aur satisfaction milta hai. Main apne bachon ke saath waqt guzarna pasand
karti hoon aur unke saath khelna, unke saath padhai karna, ya phir unke liye koi creative
activities plan karna, yeh sab mujhe khushi aur sukoon deta hai. Ghar ke kaam mein masroof
rehna bhi mujhe udaasi se door rakhta hai. Kapde silai karna, ghar ka saaf-safai karna, ya phir
kisi naye dish ko try karna, yeh sab cheezein mujhe refresh karte hain aur mera mood uplift
karte hain. Bachon ke saath waqt guzarna bhi mujhe udaasi kam karne mein madad karta hai.
Unki muskurahat, unki khushiyan, aur unka pyaar mujhe ek sense of joy aur fulfillment deta
hai. Jab main unke saath waqt guzarti hoon, toh mere dil mein khushi aur sukoon ka ehsaas
hota hai.
Interviewer: Aap kese apni udaasi ko overcome krti hai?
Naila: Ab bacho ki taraf dekhti ho unhe khelta dekhti ho to shukar krti ho k mere pass mere
bache hai to in k sath time guzarne se udaasi kam ho jati hai Bachon ke sath waqt guzarna
mujhe khushi aur sukoon deta hai. Unke saath khelna, unki batein sunna, aur unke sath
quality time bitana, yeh sab mujhe ek sense of fulfillment deta hai. Jab main unke sath hoon,
toh meri udaasi khud ba khud kam hoti hai aur mera mann khushi se bhar jata hai. Unki
masoomiyat aur pyaari harkaton mein mujhe ek sense of joy aur contentment milta hai.
Bachon ke saath waqt guzarna, unki tarbiyat aur unka connection banane ka ek important
tareeqa bhi hai. Jab main unke sath hoon, toh unhe ek sense of security aur love ka ehsaas
hota hai. Unka presence meri zindagi ko roshan aur colorful banata hai. Isi tarah, bachon ke
sath waqt guzarna mujhe unki tarbiyat mein bhi madad karta hai. Main unhe sahi aur galat ke
beech farq samjhati hoon aur unki values ko shape karne ka mauka deti hoon. Unki innocence
aur curiosity dekh kar mujhe ek sense of wonder aur excitement milta hai.
Interviewer: Kya udaasi aik aam se cheez hai ya koi khatarnaak bat hai?
Naila: Kabhi aam si bat lagti hai k ye itni bari cheez nai k hum is k bare me sooche or kuch
batie aisi hoti hai jo agar zehn pe sawar ho jye to wo udaas kr deti hai Udaasi aam hai, lekin
yeh khatarnaak bhi ho sakti hai agar ise ignore kiya jaye ya agar lambe time tak iska asar
rehta hai. Thoda udaas hona ya kuch dino tak low mood mehsoos karna normal hai, lekin
agar yeh hamesha rehta hai aur daily life ko affect karta hai, toh yeh khatarnaak ho sakta hai.
Lambi arse tak udaasi ka samna karna, zehni sehat ko bura kar sakta hai Thoda udaas hona ya
kuch dino tak low mood mehsoos karna to har kisi ke saath hota hai. Zindagi mein upar
neeche chalne wale phases hote hain, jinmein hum kisi bhi samay udaas ya thoda low feel kar
sakte hain. Yeh samanya hai aur ismein koi badi baat nahi hai. Lekin agar yeh udaasi
hamesha rehti hai aur hamari roz marra ki zindagi ko affect karti hai, toh yeh khatarnaak ho
sakta hai. Lambe arse tak udaasi ka samna karna, hamari zehni sehat ko bura kar sakta hai.
Yeh hamare self-esteem ko kam kar sakta hai, hamare relationships ko nuksan pahuncha sakta
hai aur hamari daily functioning ko bhi prabhavit kar sakta hai. Isliye, agar kisi ko lambi arse
tak udaasi ka samna hai, toh usay isse nipatne ke tareeqon ko explore karna chahiye. Yeh
shayad counseling, therapy, ya phir lifestyle changes ke zariye ho sakta hai.

Interviewer: Kya har oorat udaasi ko mahsoos krti hai?

Naila: Bilkul, har aurat apne zindagi mein udaasi ka ehsaas karti hai, lekin iska samna har
shakhs ke liye aur zindagi ke mizaaj par mukhtalif hota hai. Kisi ko udaasi zyada hoti hai jab
unke saath koi challenging ya stressful situations hoti hain, jaise ke family issues, financial
problems, ya health concerns. Kuch auratein apne hormonal changes ke doran, jaise ke
delivery ke waqt, udaasi ka samna karti hain. Family issues ek aam wajah hain jo auraton ko
udaas kar sakti hain. Ghar mein jaghde, susral ka mahool, ya phir bachon ke saath
pareshaniyaan, yeh sab situations mein udaasi ka ehsaas hota hai. Har aurat apne ghar ko
sthaapit rakhna chahti hai, lekin jab ghar mein maslay uthne lagte hain, toh unhe dil ko
sakoon nahi milta. Isi tarah, financial problems bhi ek badi wajah hai udaasi ka. Paise ki
kami, job loss, ya phir debts, yeh sab cheezein kisi bhi insaan ko udaas kar sakti hain, aur
khaaskar auraton ko jo ghar ka bojh uthati hain. Health concerns bhi ek important factor hain
jo udaasi ka karan bante hain. Kisi ko bhi bimari ho sakti hai, chahe wo khud ki ho ya phir
kisi aur ke ghar mein. Aurat jab apne parivar ki sehat ke liye zimmedar hoti hai, toh unke liye
unki family ke health concerns bhi unke liye udaasi ka sabab ban sakte hain. Isi tarah,
hormonal changes, jaise ke pregnancy ya menopause, bhi ek badi wajah hote hain jo auraton
ko udaas kar sakti hain. Hormonal imbalances ke wajah se mood swings hoti hain jo udaasi
ka ehsaas paida karte hain.
Interviewer: Koi asia mashwara dena chahe jo udaasi ko khatam krne me madadgar sabit
ho?
Naila: Ek mashwara jo udaasi ko khatam karne mein madadgar sabit ho sakta hai, woh hai
apna khayal rakhna. Har aurat ko apne aap ko priority dena chahiye. Apni zarooraton aur
khwahishat ko importance dena, apne liye time nikalna zaroori hai. Apne hobbies aur
interests k kaamo me lagna Regular exercise bhi udaasi ko kam karne mein madadgar hota
hai. Rozana kam se kam 30 minute ki walk udaasi ko kam karne mein madadgar hota hai.
Sehatmand khanay pine ka khayal rakhna bhi zaroori hai Achi neend lena bhi udaasi ko kam
karne mein madadgar hai. Kam se kam 7-8 ghante ki neend lena zaroori hai. Neend ki kami
udaasi ko barhata hai, isliye ispar dhyan dena zaroori hai. Dost aur family se baat karna aur
unke saath time spend karna bhi udaasi ko kam karne mein madadgar hai. Apne dil ki baatein
share karna aur unki support se apni feelings ko express karna bhi zaroori hai. Regular
exercise bhi udaasi ko kam karne mein madadgar hota hai. Rozana kam se kam 30 minute ki
walk udaasi ko kam karne mein madadgar hoti hai. Exercise karne se endorphins release hote
hain, jo stress aur anxiety ko kam karte hain. Iske alawa, physical activity humare mind ko
fresh rakhta hai aur humein energetic mahsoos karwata hai. Sehatmand khanay pine ka bhi
khayal rakhna zaroori hai. Achi aur balance diet se humare sharir ko zaroori nutrients milte
hain jo mental health ke liye bhi zaroori hote hain. Junk food se parhez karna aur zyada se
zyada fruits, vegetables, grains, aur protein ko shamil karna udaasi ko kam karne mein
madadgar hota hai.Achi neend lena bhi udaasi ko kam karne mein madadgar hai. Kam se kam
7-8 ghante ki neend lena zaroori hai. Neend ki kami udaasi ko barhata hai, isliye ispar dhyan
dena zaroori hai. Ek regular sleep schedule maintain karna aur neend ko priority dena bhi
udaasi ko kam karne mein madadgar sabit ho sakta hai. Dost aur family se baat karna aur
unke saath time spend karna bhi udaasi ko kam karne mein madadgar hai. Apne dil ki baatein
share karna aur unki support se apni feelings ko express karna bhi zaroori hai.