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Secrets of the
Elite Woman
Module 3
Unveiling The Mystique
Of Elite Femininity
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EMOCLEW
We have arrived at Week 3 of Secrets of the Elite Woman program! This week
we will be covering femininity and boundaries in-depth. Do not skip the
exercises, because going through the videos without taking action in your
homework will reduce the effect of this entire program! Some exercises might
require you to "sleep on it", so take the time you need and don't rush to get the
homework done in Week 3!
Anna Bey
Your Mentor
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Module 3 Overview
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Femininity is a running theme throughout the course, but in Module 3
we will be setting the necessary foundation for our feminine mindset.
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It's difficult to succeed in life if you haven't developed strong
boundaries. When taking yourself to the top, boundaries will help to
protect you on your journey.
03
What's the secret code word if you want to join the elite community?
Discretion. Elegant ladies must master this skill to perfection if they're
going to lead with elegance, and get accepted into the upper classes.
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To fully understand the femininity mystique, we will be doing a case
study of Angelina Jolie in the movie "Tourist".
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FEMININITY
If you don't embrace femininity in your mind, it will be difficult to develop feminine energy in
the rest of your personal brand. The mind is the motor after all, and I want you ladies to
understand feminine energy, and how it works, so that you can allow it to be part of your
everyday life...without any excuses.
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FEMININITY CHECKLIST
Tick the box that applies to you:
I often feel feminine
I often feel seductive
I often feel like a goddess
I often feel girly
I often feel confident in my body
I often feel confident in my looks
I wear clothes that make me feel like a woman
I allow men to be masculine with me
I avoid masculine duties, tasks or actions
I feel proud of my feminine energy
People often tell me that I'm feminine
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SELF-DISCOVERY
For some ladies, femininity might come naturally to you. For others, you will need to do a lot of
work to allow that feminine energy to flourish. Please take this opportunity to think about your
feminine energy and where it is today. You might have an abundance of it, or you might not.
Regardless, complete these exercises to take your feminine temperature.
Describe how feminine / masculine you feel today:
Do you feel like you’ve lost your femininity? Or that you lack femininity? If yes, in what areas?
What is the reason behind why you feel out of sync with your femininity?
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If you would do an estimate of your feminine and masculine energy levels, what percentages each of
feminine and masculine energy would you say that you have?
What are some imposed cultural or societal expectations/roles that you feel has made you lose
touch with your femininity?
What are some reasons in your lifestyle that you feel has made you lose touch with your femininity?
Do you feel over burdened as a woman? If yes, in what areas in your lifestyle?
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What kind of lifestyle do you want to live that would allow you to step in to your most feminine
essence?
How would that lifestyle be structured?
Is there any immediate burden or tasks from which you would want to be released?
What can you change in your life in the short term future that would lead to you having less burden
on your shoulders?
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What are some false beliefs about femininity that are holding you back?
How do you feel when you hear that it's feminine to support men and to empower men? Do you feel
ready to do such a thing?
Do you have any blockages with your relations with men? Examples: Thinking men are bad, not
having met any great men, or not having had any positive male role models.
Write down an action plan on how you can improve your relationship with men. What could you do
to feel less negative emotion surrounding them?
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NOTES
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02
BOUNDARIES
Elite women must develop "thick skin" if they want to take themselves to the top. Boundaries
will help you achieve this, which is why anyone who plans to access elite society needs to
strengthen their boundaries to be able to successfully navigate this path.
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BOUNDARIES ASSESSMENT
Signs that you have weak boundaries:
YES NO
You often feel like you cannot say no to people/a person
You tend to overshare information about yourself to other

people
You conceal your true feelings
You push yourself beyond your limits to cater for others and
their needs
You often regret saying "yes" to people, but you don't express
this and instead follow-through your commitment.
You allow people to be sarcastic with you or comment in a

demeaning, degrading or undermining way
You often feel responsible to solve other people’s problems
If someone needs help, you will drop what you have going on
to go and help that person
You don’t speak your mind even if you have strong feelings
about something
You often feel uncomfortable asking for what you want
You feel easily guilty or selfish if you’re note catering for the
needs of others when they ask you for things/help
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SELF-DISCOVERY
The work towards strong boundaries might not happen overnight. For the ladies with very weak
boundaries, you will most likely need some therapy work or in-depth guidance on this subject.
But I want everyone to take an honest look at where they are standing right now.
Do you have weak or strong boundaries? Evaluate your boundaries
Think about if there are any instances in your life where you've become aware that you were
violating your own boundaries?
Do you know why you do it?
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Are you a people pleaser? Do you have people pleasing tendencies?
How would it feel to you to be called selfish?
Do you have any patterns on lack of boundaries?
Ask yourself where they might be coming from?
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What are some auto-pilot behaviours that you have where you don't place any boundaries?
Can you remember a time when someone set a strong boundary with you? How did it feel?
How many times have you crossed your own boundaries by not living up to commitments you’ve
made to yourself?
Describe how you expect people to treat you? How do you want to be treated?
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How can you communicate this to people so that they treat you accordingly? (If you don’t know the
answer to this question yet, you can re-visit later in the program)
How can you practice being more selective?
Do you have anyone in your life that you know might be manipulating you to push their agenda on to
you? If yes, write down some ideas on how you can stand up for yourself against that person.
How can you set boundaries with yourself? Do you have any weak boundaries with yourself?
Example: poor discipline, not valuing your own time, not treating yourself with respect etc.
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Write down a list of your new healthy boundaries
Write down how you will be choosing yourself first
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NOTES
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03
DISCRETION
An elegant woman is a discrete woman: the elite value discretion. As you start associating
yourself with the affluent community, you will notice how being discrete will give you more
access, and benefits. Not all women understand the power of discretion, but those who do
more easily access the elite inner circle.
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DISCRETION ASSESSMENT
Are you a discrete lady?
YES NO
You enjoy showcasing your glamorous life on social media
You namedrop important people's names from time to time

to make a name for yourself
Status symbols are important for you & you will wear them
with pride
You happen to ask the question "what do you do?" even if you
know it's not good manners to do so
If you meet an important person, you will tell everyone about

it later (your friends, family etc)
When you happen to see a celebrity from a distance, you

will secretly take a photo of him/her
You enjoy asking many questions about people's lives
You would rather buy a designer handbag with a visible logo

than spending money on a bag where the logo is hidden
You enjoy discussing people's lives & if you have

information on someone, you will share it with the others
When spending time with the elite, you will often take
pictures to showcase this part of your lifestyle
When you meet a celebrity, you always ask to take a picture

together
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SELF-DISCOVERY
Let's think a little bit about how discrete we actually are. In this exercise, it's important to be
brutally honest with yourself, even if it feels "shameful" to admit that you might not be 100%
discrete. Remember that humans are not perfect, so it's okay to have flaws. See this as a great
opportunity for growth in an area highly valued by the elite community.
Are you a discrete lady or are there any areas that could be improved?
What areas do you think could be improved? Describe your current weaknesses.
If you ever would choose to act without discretion, why do you think you do that? What do you gain
by acting without discretion?
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Write down an action for what you will do when it gets tempting to violate your boundaries with
discretion. Example: when you feel tempted to share information about people, or when you feel
tempted to ask someone intrusive questions.
Are you currently seen by others as a woman who is discrete? If yes, explain why. If no, explain why
and how you could improve that vision?
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NOTES
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WEEK 3 - ACTION PLAN
GOAL ACTION STEPS
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GOAL ACTION STEPS
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GOAL ACTION STEPS
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WEEK 3 PLANNER
MON DATE:
PRIORITIES
TUE
WED
TO DO
THU
FRI
SAT
SUN
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WEEK 3 - TO DO
ACTION STEPS / PRIORITY TASKS

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WEEK 3 - VISION BOARD
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MODULE NOTES
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"Set healthy
boundaries &
always prioritise
yourself first!"

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Secrets of the

I often feel feminine

I often feel seductive

I often feel like a goddess

I often feel girly

I often feel confident in my body

I often feel confident in my looks

I wear clothes that make me feel like a woman

I allow men to be masculine with me

I avoid masculine duties, tasks or actions

I feel proud of my feminine energy

People often tell me that I'm feminine

Describe how feminine / masculine you feel today:

How would that lifestyle be structured?

You often feel like you cannot say no to people/a person

You tend to overshare information about yourself to other

You conceal your true feelings

You allow people to be sarcastic with you or comment in a

You often feel responsible to solve other people’s problems

You often feel uncomfortable asking for what you want

Do you have weak or strong boundaries? Evaluate your boundaries

Do you know why you do it?

Are you a people pleaser? Do you have people pleasing tendencies?

How would it feel to you to be called selfish?

Do you have any patterns on lack of boundaries?

Ask yourself where they might be coming from?

How can you practice being more selective?

Write down a list of your new healthy boundaries

Write down how you will be choosing yourself first

You enjoy showcasing your glamorous life on social media

You namedrop important people's names from time to time

If you meet an important person, you will tell everyone about

When you happen to see a celebrity from a distance, you

You enjoy asking many questions about people's lives

You would rather buy a designer handbag with a visible logo

You enjoy discussing people's lives & if you have

When you meet a celebrity, you always ask to take a picture

WEEK 3 - ACTION PLAN

GOAL ACTION STEPS

GOAL ACTION STEPS

GOAL ACTION STEPS

ACTION STEPS / PRIORITY TASKS

WEEK 3 - VISION BOARD

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