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Targeted Parent
Columnist Needed!
pg 4
Introducing
Alienated Children
First pg 7
Mother’s Day, UK
and Ireland pg 9
Adult survivors of
severe parental
alienation (SPA)
experienced as
children pg 10
Recent
publications pg 15
March 2022 T A B L E O F C O N T E N T S Volume 7 • Issue 2
Feature Articles
Columns
13 What do I do when a parent consults with me and says their child is alienated from them…?
Dr. Mandy Matthewson
15 Recent Publications
Compiled by Robert Ferrer
Departments
WELCOME TO THE SECOND ISSUE of the Parental Alienation International for 2022. We have
another exciting issue for you full of announcements and updates from around the world.
This issue begins with a call for a new Targeted Parent Columnist. If you are interested in this role,
please contact us – Dr. Mandy Matthewson Mandy.Matthewson@utas.edu.au and Donna-Maria Logue
donnamaria.vita@gmail.com.
We have an update on PASG2021. We are excited to inform you that many of the PASG2021 presentations
are available now on the PASG YouTube channel. We are also thrilled to announce that PASG2023 is
coming to Australia! Get ready to come to the land down under in 2023. More details to come.
Amanda Sillars from the Eeny Meeny Miney Mo Foundation requests your signature on a petition to have
parental alienating behaviours legislated against in Australia. We also introduce you to the outstanding
work of Alienated Children First in Ireland.
Alyse Price-Tobler shares an update on her hopes in recruiting adult survivors of severe parental alien-
ation experienced as a child. If this interests you or someone you know please mind too complete the
“expression of interest form”. Also it would be a great help to Alyse Price-Tobler if you could share this
call out among your colleagues.
Dr. Matthewson paints a picture of her work with targeted parents and Robert Ferrer provides a summary
of the latest parental alienation publications from around the world.
Donna-Maria Logue shares insight into the preparations that are underway at La Dolce Vita Project for
Mothers Day (Ireland and UK) at the end of March.
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signatures and we really want to reach 25, 000. Please show your support by signing and
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sharing out petition. You can find it here.
Since then, members of the group individually influenced the Roman Catholic church to
Introducing Alienated Children First
have a homily throughout Ireland on Parental Alienation see
By Paul Anderson
https://www.vaticannews.va/en/church/news/2021-04/family-parental-alienation-peace-
amoris-la etitia.html
ALIENATED CHILDREN FIRST (ACF) is an Irish non-government organisation made up of alienated parents
who aim to work towards the recognition and prevention of parental alienation, early intervention and reduction
In 2021, ACF had a media coup when over 3 weeks a local radio channel, East Coast Radio,
of parental alienation. ACF also recognises the need for support services for parents and especially for children
broadcast interviews with alienated parents, a now-adult alienated child, representatives from
such as for reunification, counselling and legal supports.
NGOs, a politician plus the present Minister of Justice about parental alienation. Most of these
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other jurisdictions and the following public consultations on parental alienation.
We have been active in one form or another since one of our founding members began a petition to make
We believe it is important you understand that you are not alone. We believe the
‘Parental Alienation a Crime in Ireland.’ The petition reached nearly 4000 signatures. After discussion with a
traumatic experience you are living through, is sadly not unique.
councillor, they and parents throughout Ireland ran the successful Council Campaign where between 2019–21,
31 of the 32 councils in Ireland passed motions calling on the Irish Government to recognise and address
For more information about Alienated Children First please contact ACF on
parental alienation.
info@alienated.ie or visit our website on www.alienated.ie
La Dolce Vita Project was crucial in presenting on Parental Alienation in Donegal that helped influence
Councillors cross-party to pass the first motion on Parental Alienation in the Republic of Ireland.
Since then, ACF members have lobbied the media politicians. In one year ACF had over 30 Parliamentary
questions asked on the issue see
https://www.oireachtas.ie/en/search/?q=%22parental+alienation%22&sort=relevance
https://www.eastcoast.fm/podcasts2/podcasts/the-morning-show/
In addition to this work ACF have run seven webinars that have included the top International and Irish experts
on parental alienation including Dr. William Bernet, Dr. Jennifer Harman, Dr. Amy Baker, Richard Hogan,
Judge Philip Marcus (retired), Dr. Craig Childress and Dorcy Pruter.
The aim of this work is to not only educate professionals but to help parents too. These champions have all
been excellent and have all given their precious time free.
On 30th March ACF are delighted to announce that we will host parental alienation expert Karen Woodall. You
can see these webinars and will be able to book for our forthcoming webinar at http://alienated.ie/
ACF are in the meantime fervently awaiting a governmental report on parental alienation in other jurisdictions
and the following public consultations on parental alienation.
We believe it is important you understand that you are not alone. We believe the traumatic experience you are
living through, is sadly not unique.
For more information about Alienated Children First please contact ACF on info@alienated.ie or visit our
website on www.alienated.ie
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ALYSE PRICE TOBLER is seeking to recruit adult survivors of severe parental alienation (SPA)
experienced as children.
This study is not looking for targeted parents, I’m sorry. Instead, I have decided to include a personal message
and a bit about myself as a researcher to allow you to understand why I believe this research is so important.
My name is Alyse Price-Tobler, and I am a Ph.D. candidate at the University of the Sunshine Coast (USC) in
Qld, Australia. I am a private practice clinical psychotherapist (MCAP) and an adult survivor of severe paren-
tal alienation. I also work clinically in private practice near Sydney, Australia, with adult survivors of parental
alienation and targeted parents.
Part one of my concurrent study interviews adult survivors of SPA on their perspectives of the therapy they
have received from mental health practitioners. I am researching stories about treatments adult survivors may
have received while going through the family court as children and adolescents (willingly or unwillingly) or
later in life when they have looked for help on their own. This includes perspectives of mental health profes-
sionals they sought out, did any counselling help, and if not, why? This is part one of a two-part study, with
mental health practitioners as the second study group. However, at this point, I have completed my interviews
with mental health practitioners. Thank you to everyone who helped to distribute the EOI for mental health
practitioners. Thank you if you are a mental health practitioner who participated in the research.
Data from this study will be used to develop a treatment protocol for a clinical trial. Currently, to my knowl-
edge, no treatment protocol exists that deals specifically with adult survivors of SPA (not children or reunifica-
tion programs or camps) for front line mental health practitioners.
Adult survivor participants report that they have seen practitioners who are not trained to look for or treat SPA
symptoms associated with their childhood trauma. This lack of professional knowledge has left participants
feeling much worse, sometimes even suicidal. Seeing untrained practitioners has also come at a financial cost.
Many also report that they do not have the energy to keep fighting lifelong untreated SPA symptoms and the un-
relenting campaign of alienating family members. They worry that they may die by suicide to get some peace.
However, other participants have reported being helped by exceptional practitioners. I want to know what these
exceptional practitioners do to help.
I hear stories from adult survivors about their childhood SPA trauma daily in my private practice. However, as
a frontline mental health practitioner, I can tell you that the stories still play out in their lives as adults as if it
was yesterday, as well as the profoundly ingrained pattern within the families and how they need to manage this
ongoing story from childhood. I am also aware that the family dynamics in this space never stop, and they are
lifelong and far-reaching.
The stories I hear in session are shocking. The message that I want you to know is that children of SPA often
grow up to be very distressed adults, and we need to offer them the best practice that we can design.
In my world, it is not enough to just focus on children anymore, as many of these children have now grown up
and are pleading for help. This work is not for the faint-hearted or the untrained practitioner. We need more
For my Ph.D., I have had to perform an extensive literature review in both the academic peer-reviewed and grey
literature on treatment protocols currently available for mental health practitioners to use with adult survivors.
The results were interesting, to say the least.
This research is timely and important because if we do not listen and understand what the adult survivors are
saying about their experiences with practitioners (now as adults and when they were children), I believe we
are missing a large piece of the puzzle we are trying to solve. Also, suppose we do not figure out a treatment
protocol for the practitioners who work with the adult survivors of SPA? Then, will the next generation of
children be further exposed to all the untreated symptoms from the current adult survivors, and the problem
will continue along as an untreated, unchecked intergenerational trauma pattern? In my own family, this has
definitely been the case! Unfortunately, I often feel that my work focuses on child abuse and suicide prevention
combined.
I will attach my ‘Expression of Interest’ flyer for adult survivors of SPA as children. This may seem strange that
I am asking for help to recruit adult survivors when I work with them every day, but ethically I cannot ask my
clients to be part of my study.
For more information, don’t hesitate to get in touch with me at: alyse.price-tobler@research.usc.edu.au
IN MY CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGY PRACTICE, I often see parents who describe experiencing parental
alienating behaviours from their ex-partner. Some of the parents have no contact with their children, others
have limited contact, and some are embroiled in parenting disputes that are playing out in a court. Regardless
of the details of the experiences of the parents, how I work with them is the same. In many respects, the way I
work with the parents is the same as the way I work with any other client needing psychological support.
I listen. I listen carefully. I listen to try and understand their experience, their feelings, their thoughts, their
behaviours, their motivations for their behaviours. I listen to the things they say to me verbally, I observe what
they’re saying non-verbally and I pay attention to what is not being said but is noticeable in the room. I let them
know I’m listening, and I do not judge. Because by the time many parents come to see me, they feel as though
they have not been listened to and that they have been judged by others who have not walked in their shoes.
When parents are navigating the complex and distressing roller coaster ride of a parenting dispute in a court,
the need for me to listen in a non-judgmental manner is paramount. This is because the processes involved in
legal disputes are all about judgement. The details of their personal lives are judged by judges or magistrates,
lawyers, expert witnesses, and anyone else who is asked to provide or feels the need to offer an opinion. My
job as a therapist is not to provide an opinion. My job is to listen, understand, help the client to understand their
experience and to offer therapeutic support.
I help the client to understand their experience by sharing with them my observations based on the psycholog-
ical assessments I have conducted. These assessments always consist of information gathering through inter-
view. It can also include information collected from more formal assessments using surveys, questionnaires
and/or structured interview schedules.
Based on the information I discover about my client I develop a plan to support them. I will teach my clients
coping strategies. I will provide them with psychoeducation, which is a special form of information transmis-
sion designed to help a person to make sense of their situation in a way that changes their thinking, behaviours,
and the way they manage their emotional reactions to experiences. I respectfully and empathically challenge
them to address unhelpful ways of coping, behaving, and thinking. These conversations are not the same as
“just having a chat.” These are carefully thought out, carefully constructed and skilled conversations psycholo-
gists are trained to have.
I sit with them and hold space while they grieve the loss of their children or the loss of the parenting role they
thought they would have. Holding space is not the same as just sitting there with someone while passing the
time. It involves being completely focused on only the person in the room with you. It involves being physically
and emotionally present with that person. It involves sitting in their pain with them while quietly and strategi-
cally using therapeutic skills to bring about co-regulation. Co-regulation in a therapeutic relationship involves
the psychologist sharing their calm and steady focus with the client to help the client to feel calmer.
I am also on the lookout for any issues of risk. Through the conversations I have with these parents and the
observations I make I’m always checking to see if they are thinking about suicide as an option for ending their
distress. I do this in subtle ways and sometimes I need to do this in more direct ways in the conversation. I do
this because I know the suicide rate is high for this group of clients. I do this because I care and not just
because I’m obliged by my profession to do no harm.
This work is not easy. It is emotionally exhausting, but it is most rewarding. To be allowed into a person’s
life and trusted to support and guide them through the hardest times in their life is a privilege. I cannot help
everyone. I am just one person and there are so many parents trying to survive this painful experience.
For more information about parental alienating behaviours and how to cope with them, go to
www.emmm.org.au
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