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Conflict Resolution Management
Conflict Resolution Management
- Conflict management is the practice of being able to identify and handle conflicts
sensibly, fairly, and efficiently. It is the process of dealing with (perceived)
incompatibilities or disagreements arising from, for example, diverging opinions,
objectives, and needs.
- Conflict is not a strange thing for people. Human beings experience it in their
day-to-day lives – with their friends, families, and more so their professional
lives. In the workplace, conflict causes a massive degree of frustration, pain,
discomfort, sadness, as well as anger. It is a normal life aspect. In the world of
today, organizations hire employees from diverse geographical locations with
dissimilar cultural and intellectual backgrounds, as well as various viewpoints.
In a working environment where people have disparate outlooks toward the
same problems, disagreements are bound to happen.
- Since conflicts in a business are a natural part of the workplace, it is important
that there are people who understand conflicts and know how to resolve them.
This is important in today's market more than ever. Everyone is striving to show
how valuable they are to the company they work for and at times, this can lead to
disputes with other members of the team.
Unclear responsibilities. Some team members may feel they do more work
than others, or resent those who seem to have fewer responsibilities. Blame
and frustration can build due to duplicated work or unfinished tasks.
Competition for resources. Time, money, materials, equipment, and
skillsets are finite resources. Competition for them can lead to conflict.
Different interests. People may focus on personal or departmental goals
over organizational ones. Or be held up and frustrated by others who they rely
on to do their jobs effectively.
When you find yourself in a conflict situation, these five skills will help you to resolve
disagreements quickly and effectively.
Keeping quiet only lets resentment fester. Equally, speaking with other people first can
fuel rumor and misunderstanding. So, whether you're battling over the thermostat or feel
that you're being micromanaged, be direct and talk with the other party.
However, if you're afraid of making that approach, or worry that it may make the
problem worse, speak with your manager first, or your HR department if the other party
is your manager.
Either way, be assertive (not aggressive) and speak openly. This will encourage others
to do the same – and you can get to the root cause of a problem before it escalates.
2. Manage Your Emotions
Choose your timing when you talk to someone about the conflict. If you're angry, you
may say something you'll regret and inflame the situation. Be careful to avoid playing
the blame game .
So stay calm, collect yourself, and ask, "What is it I want to achieve here?", "What are
the issues I'm having?" and "What is it that I would like to see?"
3. Show Empathy
When you talk to someone about a conflict, it's natural to want to state your own case,
rather than hear out the other side. But when two people do this, the conversation goes
in circles.
Instead, invite the other party to describe their position, ask how they think they might
resolve the issue, and listen with empathy .
Putting yourself in the other person's shoes is an essential part of negotiation. This
helps you to build mutual respect and understanding – and to achieve an outcome that
satisfies both parties.
To identify the source of the conflict you have to really listen. To listen actively:
Paraphrase the other party's points to show you're listening and really
understand them.
Look out for non-verbal signals that contradict what they are saying, such
as a hesitant tone behind positive words. Bring these out into the open
sensitively to address them together.
Use appropriate body language, such as nodding your head, to show
interest and to make it clear that you're following them.
5. Acknowledge Criticism
Some of the things the other person tells you may be difficult to hear. But remember
that criticism or constructive feedback is about job behaviors and not you as a
person.
So, keep an open mind and use criticism to help you to identify areas to improve,
perform better next time, and grow.
GLASERS' THREE-STEP STRATEGY FOR CONFLICT RESOLUTION
Imagine that the heads of two departments are in conflict. Product Manager Sayid
changed the price of a product without letting Marketing Manager Gayanne know. As a
result, the marketing team sent out an email to customers with incorrect prices. They
had to send out a follow-up email apologizing for the error, and make good on the price
some customers paid for the product.
Instead of blaming Sayid, Gayanne asks him how he came to make the decision. She
uses her questioning and listening skills to get the information she needs and to show
that she's truly hearing Sayid's response.
She discovers that Sayid was pressured by a major client to drop the price or risk losing
a contract. She empathizes , saying, "Yes, I've had difficulties with that client before,
too."
As Susan Glaser says, "Only when you believe that I understand you, will you be willing
to try to understand my perspective." [2]
If you're in conflict with someone, it's unlikely you're free of all blame. So admit your part
in it. This leads to mutual trust, a better understanding of one another, and makes it
easier to find a solution.
In our scenario, Gayanne could say to Sayid, "I should have shared our marketing
strategy and email send dates with you. I'll do that right away."
Despite the progress they've made, relations between the two managers remain frosty,
so Sayid calls Gayanne the following week. He says, "I was thinking about our
conversation, and I'd like to try again because I'm not happy with how it went. I've had
time to take your points on board, and I'd like to talk about how we can work together
better going forward."
Remember that you get more than one shot at resolving a conflict. Susan Glaser says,
"There's a myth that if we have a bad conversation with someone it's over. In fact, 'do
overs' are powerful." [3]
Key Points
Conflict is common in the workplace. The biggest mistake you can make is to do
nothing. Unresolved tensions can affect the health and performance of people and
organizations.
So, hone these five conflict resolution skills to pre-empt, manage and fix conflicts with
your co-workers:
3. Show empathy.
5. Acknowledge criticism.
Then try the Glasers' three-step conflict resolution strategy to resolve issues together: