relationship in a ‘NOT NEEDY’ frame of mind.

Talking

about being friends reminds ME to pay more attention

and to remember that I don’t need anything and to stay

focused on learning.

When You Meet

When they arrive at your place, say ‘hi’ and invite

them in for a minute while you get your coat or shoes.

Then walk out and seem like YOU’RE IN A HURRY TO

LEAVE. Most guys would try to get them to stay and get

cozy with them. You want them to think that you’re not

overly interested and that you want some coffee.

Total indifference.

Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo ©2001-2005, All

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At coffee, just sit and be the funny and cocky self,

make jokes, and in general lean back and make ‘friends’.

I used to analyze handwriting, do palmistry, do hand

massages, and touch women when I first meet them. Not

anymore (I save these things for later).

Also, I used to be more ‘touchy feely’ with women at

the very beginning. As I mentioned, I’d massage their

hands and touch them a lot, etc. leading to kissing, etc.

early on.

I’ve now learned that if I lean back and almost don’t

touch them at all on purpose, it creates this tension so

that when I do actually touch them, they respond

powerfully. In communication they call this ‘Building

Response Potential’.

Sometimes I’ll massage hands or touch, but I don’t

overdo it.

I’m just sitting there ACTING LIKE WE’RE BEST

FRIENDS. When you act like they’re a best friend, they

will rapidly get comfortable with you. I make fun of

people, whatever. I just totally lean back and relax. I’m

cool, relaxed, and constantly making comments about

how we’re going to be friends, etc.

I’ve learned never to compliment a hot woman on her

looks, period. I still mess up and forget, and I’m always

reminded why I don’t do it. I try to find one thing that