Sumptuously Soulful Coaching Pie - The Secret Ingredients To Creating An Evergreen And Lemony Fresh High-End Transformational Coaching Practice That I Wish I'd Known Before Enrolling My First Client.: A Coaches Profound And Permanent Change, #1
character go for it hi everybody what's up and welcome back to another coffee talk conversation today I'm sipping on some chamomile lavender tea thank you to all of you guys who reached out and told me that peppermint tea reduces your breast milk supply I had no idea so i've switched over to chamomile lavender let me know what you're drinking or doing down below as you listen or tune into the podcast you are the biggest project that you are ever going to work on this is a quote that I stumbled across the other day and it hit me because I'm working on a lot of things right now I mean it's both personally and professionally I'm working on a lot of things and the way that i've navigated working through a lot of these things is really trying to follow my intuition and follow my moral compass and it made me think a lot about choices that i've made in the past choices that I'm making today and how all of it ultimately every choice we make feeds into the biggest project that we ever work on which is ultimately The Becoming of ourselves the being of ourselves and you can be and become at the same time another quote a work in progress and a masterpiece at the same time but we are always evolving we are always growing in everything we do from the smallest decisions in our day to the biggest decisions in our lives they all feed into what it is that we're we're working on which is always ourselves it doesn't matter if you take a business venture if you choose to study something in school if you take up a hobby or if you go through a hard phase in your life all of it is part of the making of who you are everything that we do everything we say everything that we go through is all part of building us into the person we're meant to be coming we ultimately have control a little hat tilt to last week's conversation over what we decide to do with each choice that we're confronted with throughout the project of ourselves something that I i've witnessed happened a lot and i've also felt it happen within myself is this idea of the things that we end up working on or putting a lot of time and energy into in our existence sort of become part of our identity for instance i've been working on all things codes since 2017 this is the fifth year which feels very Sim sorry baby sneeze which feels very symbolic to a lot of things because one five years is kind of a milestone but also two there's a lot of changes going on in the background which is part of the project I'm working on that I was talking about more professionally and part of that is in having to almost work through the idea of Letting Go letting go of this thing that i've built to where it is or or moving it and changing it into something new and it got me thinking a lot about well i've put so much work into this and you know it it there was so much weight on it I felt like I was putting a lot of weight on it because there was a lot of energy there was a lot of passion there was a lot of time put into this and I realized like we'll wait through the making of codes through the workings of codes as much as I was working on this business and this brand and what it grew into what it's turned into I was ultimately working on myself no matter what happens to it no matter what it changes into or grows into it's still always going to be just a mirror of the work that I'm doing on myself everything we do everything we say everything we move through work on is ultimately a mirror for the work we're doing with ourselves and on ourselves so the growth that we're making internally it doesn't do me any justice to attach to it because it's external to me the only thing that we can really come back to is the idea that everything that happens on the external is really only moving us through what we're meant to go through on our souls Journey internally and there's so much motivation that can come from this idea that you are your greatest project don't sleep on yourself do yourself Justice give yourself the work and the passion and the time and the energy that you deserve and yes that means doing that through the things you love through the things that you have signed up for the responsibilities that you have or the priorities in your life but know that it is ultimately all a reflection of the work you're doing on yourself not to be like oh that all that matters is my own growth all that matters is my own development on this planet or on this in this life because everything we do causes a ripple effect you're a fiber I'm a fiber we're all a piece of a fiber through a giant tapestry or we're all a drop in a giant ocean and like your drop definitely creates a ripple effect but ultimately as you have manifested on this planet as the energy that is encompassed inside of your body moving through your timeline in life you really only can to a certain extent focus on your solo Drop in the Ocean but the more clear you make your drop of water the more strong you make your piece of fiber the better the whole tapestry becomes it's this idea that your vibration affects the vibration of the whole planet and we can raise it collectively it's not self-consumed at all if you're doing it in the right energy that bettering yourself will allow you to be a better person with and around other people it'll also hopefully Inspire the people that you are around to also be better people or give that energy around and like Karma it'll come back and you know people will receive it well and then they will have that good energy and want to also Ripple it out to other people so working on the project of yourself makes the biggest difference and when I say don't sleep on yourself what I mean is like you have we all have we're all born with so much foundation so much material someone much potential we all have special unique gifts none of us are the same none of us are alike and I think we spend so much time focusing on what other people are doing or what other people are thriving in or the things that other people have the attachments other people have that we have like an invisible ghostly attachment to it's like we want what other people have and it drives so much of our focus and our attention away from what we already have what we already have been gifted and given and that potential material that is in your hands right now the time that you have the energy that you have the things within your life already as it is because when you Zone in on that and you look at your life you look at yourself as a project and not that you always have to be working on yourself again coming back to you can be a project and a completed piece at the same time you can be a work in progress and a masterpiece at the same time but when you look at your life like a project of who you are it can make your life feel so it's exciting so motivating it's this idea of like wow I have a morning every single day that I can choose to do whatever I want with I can choose to you know move through the certain routine that's going to ultimately work on that project of myself or I have a fresh day every day I wake up or I have this new idea that I'm just waiting to start I'm going to start it now even if it's just the brainstorming process I'm going to start it today because ultimately all of this is part of the project of you no matter how you decide to spend your time your energy or your efforts it'll never be a waste everything is part of your growth of your process of your project so even the times where you feel like you have like slept on yourself in a sense it's not wasted because you learned from that experience or you might still be learning from that experience I know that there's times where I feel like i've definitely wasted my time or wasted my energy had all these ideas I wasn't acting on felt really crappy about myself was really down in the dumps my mindset wasn't right I was not motivated I just needed to just be a flop or I needed to just flop in general and as much as it was painful at the same time in hindsight I realized wow that rest was what I needed I needed the Flop so that I would force myself to rest I needed to chill and sit on that time so that I could really do the inner work to know exactly what project I wanted to work on in regards to myself what was worth my time and energy what was the right decision to make next what was right for me so I could hear my intuition because life got so loud that I wasn't sure what I was doing because I felt it was right anymore or what I was doing because I thought that it was what was supposed to be right even if you look at the patterns in your life from good patterns to specifically bad patterns when you have to keep relearning the same life lesson over and over again even that is part of the project so what about when you're working on that life project you're working on yourself and you face things like rejection you face things like hardships how do you work through that how do you find that motivation to keep working on your project when things aren't going according to plan well friends I have some insight to that which I will talk about right after this short little break this episode is supported by wireframe an original podcast from Adobe this season of wireframe is geared towards small business owners who handle all The Branding content design and social on their own for their businesses each episode features one small business order that they pair with a mentor who has built their own successful brand and then a designer to help them execute a plan to solve their problem these mentors include Chris doe Courtney Quinn AKA color me Courtney Hilton Carter Ellen Marie Bennett and many more the season features many episodes like a realtor learning how to make engaging educational content for home buyers on Instagram and Tick Tock or a coffee startup learning how to share their founder story and add more personality to their content now as a content creator and a business 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yet you will in hindsight and I know that that's a very blanketed statement for a lot of things that can go wrong for a lot of rejections that can really really hurt so filter it through your own perspective by all means filter everything we ever talk about through your own perspective I held on to so many things in my past so many things that I felt I put so much energy or love or time into and I felt so confused when they didn't go according to my plan according to my books and I felt so hurt when I felt like I had to let go I felt like losing a limb of me even the idea of letting go of codes feels almost like losing a limb of me because it's something that is so it's become so integral it's become such a part of me you know that said with enough space and enough distance to really zoom out of your life and especially enough time if you can't do that yet you will see that every single pivot every single change every single time you've had to let go it has been in your best favor or it will be in your best favor and it's meant to happen for the right reason and if it's not working it's not yours if the door doesn't open it's not your door and that can be again a very empowering mindset to look at life through because it stops feeling like the world is rejecting you or that you're just not good enough and it starts allowing you to feel like this just wasn't for me there's something else that's for me though or if this has run its course and it's time to grow or do something new and the way to stop moving through life trying to avoid all of this rejection or all of these things that could go wrong is to stop altering yourself stop changing yourself into the person you think other people need you to be stop doing the things that you think people expect you to do because again although it's not time wasted and you might need to go through that chapter I know I definitely needed to go through that chapter of altering myself changing who I was being so complacent to being so easy going doing what I thought other people wanted me to do so that I could actually figure out like wow this doesn't work I feel hollow I feel empty I don't know who I am anymore and then got to rediscover myself got to redefine myself and it's happening all over again to me right now in a business aspect but it's it can be motivating it can be fun it can also be devastating it can come with a lot of grief but when you stop altering and changing yourself for other people if I do what my intuition is calling for what my heart is telling me to to do if I follow that path if I stay true to myself then anything that doesn't work for me was not meant for me Larissa one of my best friends sent me this really cool reel of a woman who was having this motivational speech and she it was just a little clip of it but it's something that has stuck with me since and she said when you want something you better run for that damn bus you don't walk to the bus or you're gonna miss the bus you run for the damn bus but if you still miss that bus then it wasn't your bus but you can't say that bus wasn't meant for me if I was just walking towards it as it was moving along but if I was doing everything in my power to make it to that bus stop in time to make it onto that bus and I still missed it it means that be it fake Universe God whatever you believe in or maybe just circumstance or coincidence if you don't believe in any of those things it wasn't my bus because otherwise I'd be on it and in running towards that bus and sprinting towards that bus and working so hard to make it to that bus I grew I learned I got stronger we walk because we're afraid to really try we're afraid of rejection we're afraid what's gonna happen if we don't make it to the bus then what do we do then when ultimately all of it is part of the project of who you are like even if you miss the bus that's part of the project failure is a part of life not getting what we want just shows us what we're not meant for and brings us closer to the things that we are and a lot of the times what we want has been filtered through so much that we don't even realize so much subconscious that we don't even realize we filter what we want through what Society tells us to want what's trending what somebody that we're inspired by or motivated has again when that noise gets so loud you can lose yourself chasing buses that aren't yours and when you get quiet when you slow down and even sometimes when you stop chasing random buses sit for a second in the park and think okay what bus do I actually really want to catch then you can really drive all of your soul focused energy and time into chasing the right bus and even if you don't make it it doesn't matter because it's all down to the project of you of who you are and another bus will come at a different time but it might come to that same spot or you might have to chase to a different bus stop but that's the game of life that's what we're here to do so the energy I want to leave you with today the energy that I'm really trying to hit home through your speakers or through your screen is you are the biggest project you are ever going to work on anything that you don't achieve is nothing against who you are it's part of the making of who you are you can work towards things and ultimately work on the project of yourself while also enjoying your life and don't sleep on yourself don't sleep on this time don't even sleep on the idea that during your rest time during your down time during your hard times that it's all still part of building character building who you are stop focusing on the projects other people are working on it's time to focus back on yourself it's time to Zone back into what calls to you the buses that are leaving the station that you want to get on and remember that everything that you do every bus you chase every hobby you take up every lesson you learn everything you say every connection you make every relationship you go through is all part of the project of you it's all part of the making of your life so harness that main character energy and not in the sense that there's only one movie be aware that everybody is a main character in their own lives but stop being just a supporting character in your life be the main character go for it and especially in this pocket of life I mean we're winding down to the end of the year November is always this weird month where there's not a whole lot going on unless you're in the states than it's U.S Thanksgiving but like realistically it always kind of feels like this weird lull between Halloween and fall and Christmas time now is the time to be focusing on the things you want to bring into your life in the new year now is the time to start brainstorming Now's the Time to think of the projects the buses you want to chase this is the part of the movie where you just gained all that inspiration you just gained all that motivation there's a song in the background and it's all motivating and it's fast clips of you working on everything and that's not actually how life is but that's the energy energy that you want to take with you while you go through all of the hard work while you take all the steps you need to to continue to be in your becoming I feel like lessons find you when they need to or when they're right for you and between stumbling across that quote the thing that Larissa had sent me all of the stuff going on more professionally in my life right now and the things going on in my life personally all of this change all of these transitions even just all of these decisions that i've been confronted with and i've had to sit with and be like what's the right decision to make what how do I stay true to myself and make the decision that's best for myself when I let go of all of my attachments and I look at my life through the perspective of the everything I do is working on who I am as a person and it's building my character what decision do I want to make through that lens what bus do I want to chase through that lens how do I want to move through my life how do I want to look at these obstacles in my life through that lens with the time and energy that I have and so that's what elicited this conversation today and I'd love to hear any thoughts that you know sparked in you from this conversation so feel free to come on over to youtube if you aren't here already and leave your thoughts down below other than that I am giving you guys so much love and so much energy as you continue to work on the projects of yourselves continue to be that main character in your own life and I will chat with all of you guys in our next Coffee Talk podcast episode bye everyone thank you [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] thank you.
Sumptuously Soulful Coaching Pie - The Secret Ingredients To Creating An Evergreen And Lemony Fresh High-End Transformational Coaching Practice That I Wish I'd Known Before Enrolling My First Client.: A Coaches Profound And Permanent Change, #1