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Watching porn with your partner: How to do it and why

Watching porn with your partner might seem taboo, but it can
enhance intimacy and foster communication. Set the mood and try it
out tonight.
By Quinn · January 30, 2024 · 6 min read

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If you've got a regular FWB or long-term partner, chances are you've got a
normal sex routine. While knowing what works and how to do it efficiently
can be satisfying, it can also be predictable — and some people find that a
little bit boring.

When you want to spice things up without trying new positions or sex toys,
watching porn with your partner is a great place to start. It's easily
accessible, affordable, and of course, sexy.

Finding porn to watch as a couple can be a sensitive topic, but openly

addressing it can lead to arousing discussions and super-hot sex. It's a
visual aid that helps you get in the mood and learn even more about each
other's sexual needs, wants, and kinks.

Is it okay to watch porn in a relationship?

Whether or not it’s okay to watch porn on your own while in a relationship is
up to you and your partner. Some people see porn use as infidelity, and
others don’t have a problem with it.

But do couples watch porn together? Some do, and it can actually
positively impact your connection. Research shows that couples who do it
are happier and more sexually satisfied.

Exploring pornography together can be a fun, arousing, and satisfying

activity — but how you do it matters. When you approach it together with
respect, mutual consent, and enthusiasm, including viewing ethical content,
it can positively impact your relationship in several ways:

It fosters communication

Learning how to safely watch porn together can encourage you and your

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Learning how to safely watch porn together can encourage you and your
partner to open up to each other and discuss personal preferences and
boundaries. This vulnerability can strengthen trust as you express your
thoughts and feelings without judgment. Communicating your needs —
from what you're comfortable viewing to how often you're comfortable
viewing it — encourages honesty and transparency in other areas of your
partnership.

It helps you explore sexual fantasies

Porn is a gateway to a diverse world of sexual scenarios, some of which

you've probably never considered. Watching porn as a couple is an
excellent way to think about and discuss your turn-ons, turn-offs, and what
resonates with you from on the screen, including fantasies you're interested
in trying out. It can help you get your feet wet before diving headfirst into
scenes you've never done or toys you've never used.

It turns you on

Porn is a powerful aphrodisiac. It stimulates desire directly and

immediately, creating a shared experience of arousal that can lead to more
passionate and satisfying sex. Porn's visual and auditory stimuli are a
valuable tool for the ebb and flow of many couples' sex lives, encouraging
experimentation and, of course, physical connection.

How to talk to your partner about watching porn

When you bring anything new into your sex life with your partner, watching
porn together starts with a conversation. These four methods, which
underscore the importance of respectful communication and
understanding, will start you off on the right foot:

1. Identify your intentions

Think about why you want to watch porn with your partner. What do you
want to achieve? Is it exploring fantasies, adding excitement, or simply
trying something new? What are you worried about? Set a straightforward,
honest tone for the conversation by knowing what your feelings are first.
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honest tone for the conversation by knowing what your feelings are first.

2. Establish a comfortable foundation

If you and your partner don't discuss your sex life regularly, start with a
more general conversation about intimacy. Ask them how they think your
sex life is going and if there's anything they'd like to change or try. This
gradual approach helps create a comfortable, non-overwhelming space for
both partners where the idea of watching porn together doesn’t come out of
the blue.

3. Respect their space and timing

Choose an appropriate, calm time to bring up the topic. Don't throw the
idea of watching porn together at your partner when you're having sex,
about to have sex, or during an emotionally charged moment. Respect your
partner's comfort and readiness to engage in the conversation and allow
them to respond without feeling pressure.

4. Engage in an open-ended dialogue

Ask your partner open-ended questions to understand their perspective. Be

attentive to their responses and show genuine interest instead of pushing
them toward a yes or a no. Instead of asking, “Why do you think we should
watch porn together?” you could say, “How do you think watching porn
could affect our sex life?”

How to watch porn with your partner

Watching porn together for the first time can be exciting and scary at the
same time. You don’t know how it’ll feel until you’re doing it — and that’s
intimidating.

To get the most out of the experience and help your partner feel
comfortable, try these four tips and tricks:

1. Set the mood

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Create a relaxed and intimate atmosphere to make the experience more

enjoyable. Set up a cozy space in the bedroom or living room with dim
lighting and comfortable seating, or light some candles and put on some
music to compliment the videos. The goal is for both of you to feel open, at
ease, and turned on.

2. Choose the content together

Choosing porn to consume together should be a joint decision. Think about

whether you prefer to view erotica or porn and which types of porn you
might explore together. Consider which themes and categories appeal to
you both, and aim for ethical sexual content that focuses on real pleasure
— not just the top videos on porn aggregate sites.

3. Make it a bonding activity

Watching porn together is a sensual way to connect and enjoy shared

desires intentionally — so make it an event. Discuss what you're watching,
including what arouses you and what makes you uncomfortable, and don't
hesitate to cuddle up to your partner. Use porn as foreplay or masturbate
together, but keep the focus on mutual connection and sexual intimacy
rather than just the visuals.

4. Create a safe space

Establish a judgment-free zone where you and your partner can share
anything and everything with each other. That means being open to
positive, negative, and indifferent reactions. Watching porn together can
bring up intense emotions, so check in with your partner before, during, and
after. It’s a good idea to create a safe word or other indicator that one of
you wants to stop.

Connect with your partner with Quinn

Quinn's ethical audio erotica is excellent for couples looking to explore.

You’ll find diverse categories of sexual content that spark connections
— and even arousal and orgasm.
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