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Vanessa+Xander-Foreplay
sexier than being able to get your partner off with your
hands or mouth!
Next up...
Why your partner isn’t giving
more foreplay.
👎 You turned them down in the past. Or it could be that you were
the one who turned your partner down in the past, leaving them with
the belief that you don’t actually want it.
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What NOT to do or say to your partner.
Use the Dream Scheme. Tell your partner something like, “I had the
most interesting dream last night! It’s a little embarrassing to admit
out loud, but you were just going down on me for the whole dream.
It was really hot, and now it’s got me thinking…” Of course, edit this
to fit your situation, and adjust the description of the dream based
on what you want. You can even add details like, “I know we’ve
never really done this before, but in the dream it was so sexy!” or “I
didn’t think I would like this, but the dream turned me on.”
Catch them in the moment. Does your partner already give you
some foreplay, but you find yourself wishing for more? Sometimes
people stop giving foreplay because they’re not getting enough
feedback in the moment, and they’re not sure if you want them to
continue! So the next time your partner is stimulating you, tell them
how good they’re making you feel. Say things like, “You’re making
me feel so good” or “Please don’t stop!”
Straight up ask. We’re big fans of coming out and asking for what
you want. The key is to do it in a positive way. Remember, we don’t
want you saying things like, “You never go down on me.” Instead,
keep it positive and make it sound sexy. Say something like, “You
know what sounds so hot? I’ve been fantasizing about your fingers
inside of me for days now. It’s got me feeling so excited I just had to
tell you, even though I feel a little shy!” If you’re nervous, text this to
your partner instead.
Be specific. Don’t just ask for “more foreplay.” That feels too vague,
and your partner isn’t going to know how to follow through. What,
specifically, do you want? Do you want a few minutes of fingering
before you switch to intercourse? A minimum of 10 minutes of
foreplay during every sexual interaction? Oral to completion on one
specific, special night?
Let your partner go first. Offer to give your partner their favorite
#1
kind of foreplay. After you finish, say in a sexy way, “My turn!”
The great news is that our Ultimate Foreplay Guides are one of the
most fun ways to bring more foreplay into your relationship. The
guides teach you our step-by-step techniques to blow your partner’s
mind with your hands and mouth. Simply buy the guides and share
them with your partner. Say something like, “You know Vanessa and
Xander, that account I follow on Instagram? Apparently their #1 best
seller is their Ultimate Foreplay Guides. I’ve seen so many
incredible reviews, so I decided to get them for us and see how
much fun we can have with them!” The key is to be light and upbeat
with your tone. If you sound excited, your partner will follow your
lead.
Here’s a bonus option –– get the guides, skip the conversation! Just
get our Ultimate Foreplay Guides on your own and use them on
your partner first, without telling them anything. After you blow their
mind, say something like, “I found something fun on the internet and
decided to surprise you! What did you think?” Then tell them,
“There’s another half that you can use on me…”