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Unrequited Love- How to Get Over It
Unrequited Love- How to Get Over It
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Unrequited love isn't just for books and movies -- it's a reality that many
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people experience. When you develop romantic feelings for another now
person who doesn't feel them back, it's unrequited love. Whether you're
longing for your crush to make a move or you've told them how you feel
and are rejected, this kind of love remains one-sided.
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Unrequited love happens when the person you've fallen in love with doesn't feel the same way. (Photo credit:
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If the other person doesn't have romantic feelings like you do, there are
ways to move forward. At the same time, if someone expresses love for
you that you can't return, there are ways to address it.
Unreciprocated emotions
A study on the five types of unrequited love found that all kinds of these
relationships are less emotionally intense than "real" reciprocated love.
That might be why unrequited love is also found to be four times more
common than the love shared by two people.
Romantic feelings for a friend. Strong friendships that last over the
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years are prime opportunities for intimate feelings. Some people believe
good friendship is a foundation for romantic relationships. You may start
to see your friend as more than a friend over time.
Love interests due to shared hobbies. If you find someone who likes
the same things as you, you may see them as the perfect romantic
partner.
Excitement
Passion
Infatuation
Low self-esteem
Depression
Anxiety
If your love interest was already a friend, and they rejected your feelings,
here are some ways to try to maintain your friendship:
Give it time. Give yourself and them space to move past your
declaration of love. Start casually chatting again once you’re ready.
Reassure your friend. Let them know that you can accept their
feelings and still want to maintain the friendship. A#er the initial
conversation, try not to dwell on the rejection.
Keep it friendly. Tone down flirting or sexual jokes that may have
previously been part of your relationship. This will help keep you
both from feeling confused or uncomfortable.
If you’re struggling with overcoming the rejection, you may need to pull
back from your friendship. It may help to spend time with them only in
group settings. It's OK to need some space and time to heal a#er the
rejection. Your friend might also need space. If they're distant a#er
you’ve shared your feelings, they may feel guilty or sad and not want to
hurt you further.
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If you aren't on speaking terms with your love interest, you can still get
over unrequited love. Try these strategies:
Try meeting new people. When you feel ready, finding new people
to talk to or date could help you heal from the rejection.
Remember that it's OK to grieve this loss. Give yourself time to move
though and process your feelings.
Don’t avoid the other person. Without a response, the person may
keep trying to contact you.
Discuss things face to face. A text or phone call may not be enough
to get your point across. If you're worried about meeting in person,
bring a support person or meet in a public place.
Be clear about your feelings, and don't give false hope. Rejection
hurts, but you don't want to tip-toe around telling them that you're
not in love with them. It only delays the healing process.
Don’t apologize. You are not required to fall in love with someone
who falls in love with you. If the feeling isn't mutual, it's not meant
to be.
Get outside support when necessary. A therapist can help you deal
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with the emotions of rejecting the other person. If their behavior
ever makes you feel unsafe or puts you in immediate danger, call
911.
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