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Radical self-trust and tuning into our own intuition

Leave a Comment / Accountability, Boundaries, Grace, Guest Post / By Sheridan
Cotrell / November 16, 2022

Trust is the root of everything and the foundation of any healthy

relationship. It is no di!erent with ourselves. In order to love ourselves, we
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 have to be able to trust ourselves, which often requires a lot of healing.

The reason why self trust is so hard is because trust is a need, deeply
rooted in all humans since infancy:

1) We all have a need to attach, which requires trusting a caregiver. As

infants, we are literally attached to our mothers in the womb and for
nourishment. We need mother figures as we grow, because we cannot
survive on our own and need to trust that someone else will take care and
provide for us as we grow. That need for a secure sense of attachment and
trust never goes away.

2) We all have a need for authenticity. Authenticity is actually being able to

be connected to our root feelings and trust our gut instinct.

Thinking back to the early caveman days, they had to survive in the wild by
being connected to their gut instincts and feelings. Early humans would
have died out long ago if they relied on their intelligence rather than their
instinct. In fact, intellect really didn’t come into play until much later and is
very much a modern thing. We’ve evolved. However, as we have been
conditioned to rely on intellect more than instinct, we have lost that
authenticity. We lost the ability to trust our instincts.

80-90% of what we believe about the world and ourselves is unconscious.

We need to ask ourselves:

Where did I learn this?

What is MY truth?

What do I choose to believe?

We don’t trust ourselves today not only because our society values intellect
over instinct, but as a child, all of us had an interaction with a caregiver
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 where we learned that in order to stay attached (a need) we needed to
abandon some core part of us. For some, it was learning to tamp down
anger because our caregiver couldn’t handle it. For others, it may be to play
a role in your family of origin, not shine to bright, or fade to the
background. We unconsciously learned this because as a child, it was life or
death for us. It became wired into our brain that in order to gain love from
a parent figure, we couldn’t be our true authentic self. We lost that ability to
trust ourselves and our instincts.

In order to heal this, we need to turn back to radical authenticity. We

need to re-learn how to trust ourselves, and that starts with learning how
to connect with both the light and dark parts within us. This starts with
reconnecting with your inner child. It’s bringing to light the part of yourself
that was abandoned, and choose embrace it today as an adult. Because the
truth is, YOU are a gift and the world needs what only YOU have. Embrace
what the world has told you is weird or di!erent.

Healing is restoring that connection to yourself first, and tuning into your
own intuition Start to rebuild trust with yourself today, the most
important relationship of all.

About the Author

Sheridan Cotrell is the CEO, founder, and owner of
Legacy Creative Consulting. She is the visionary
behind multiple six-figure businesses, and now
consults other entrepreneurs to do the same. In her
free time (and yes – she actually does have free
time), she is the mother to five beautiful children
and a husband she adores.
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