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Relationship Red Flags: How do you know if your relationship is toxic? Watch for these red !ags.
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As many of you know, relationship red flags may be hard to identify. Because relationships
by nature are hard and require a lot of work, you may ask yourself sometimes “is this really
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“normal” amount of dysfunction and what is down right toxic.
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Here are some examples of relationship red !ags to watch out Why Do I Feel Guilty all the
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#1 Your partner never accepts accountability for their actions. Or if they do, they make sure
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to say “but I wouldn’t have done it if you hadn’t done X.”
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#2 You never feel heard/considered in the relationship. Partner

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#4 You’re afraid of your partner’s reactions/judgements, so much that you find yourself ARCHIVES
altering or censoring yourself often.
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#5 You struggle with being honest with your family/friends about your relationship. You
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may even start to isolate from people that were once close to you.
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#6 You start becoming someone you don’t
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recognize.
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#7 Your partner uses your vulnerabilities April 2021
against you.
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#8 You constantly feel like you’re in a power February 2021
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#9 Your partner directly or indirectly demands November 2020

things from you. There is no compromise in the October 2020

relationship. August 2020

#10 You had high self esteem until this July 2020
relationship. March 2020
“Is this really healthy?” February 2020
#11 You feel controlled.
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#12 You cannot see yourself as your own person. Your partner has become a part of your
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identity and you need their approval and love.
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#13 Arguments are volatile or abusive in any way.
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#14 You feel intimidated. March 2018

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#15 Your partner acts completely different around other people than they do when they are
with you. November 2017

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#16 You catch your partner in repeated lies. Even they are small.
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#17 Your partner is highly defensive and never shows their vulnerable side to you.
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#18 Your partner refuses to see other people’s perspectives in anything they don’t agree May 2017
with. March 2017

#19 You feel coerced in having sex. December 2016

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#20 Your partner calls/texts you constantly when you are away.
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#21 Your partner does not support you doing new things and acts threatened often.
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#22 Your partner threatens self harm in an attempt to cause a reaction out of you. April 2016

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#23 You and/or your partner is unwilling to go to therapy. (If you are too afraid, they are too
defensive). January 2016

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out, here’s what you can do. First, if you are in an abusive or threatening relationship it is
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important to have a safety plan in place, (protective factors such as a place to stay, access to
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authority, etc).
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It can also be incredibly helpful to have a safe, unbiased confidant like a relationship
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create and practice necessary boundaries to help you through the transition. Therapy can
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also help you connect any dots from past/childhood that may be impacting your current
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situation/feelings, which may help in healing any past traumas that are being impacted with
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de-personalizing the problem and getting you to see the reality of a toxic situation. Intimacy & Sex

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August 17, 2020 at 12:56 pm

My boyfriend of seven months (we live together in both of our houses; equal
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August 20, 2020 at 3:01 pm

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September 3, 2020 at 4:00 am

It may be good to seek professional help in a relationship when some of

those red flags are detected.
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September 7, 2020 at 11:51 pm

I have this 5 yrs relationship. And we dont progress into marriage because
of his petition. Lately, he is asking me to allow him and his girl bestfriend to
have drive in movie which we haven’t tried before. His reason is because he
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wants to try new things with other people. Im thinking of breaking up with
him because i dont think i can tolerate him with that kind of thoughts and
we cant progress with our relationship because still right now he is
indecisive with his future and cant make progress. Help me. Enlighten me
with my decision.

December 27, 2020 at 6:10 pm

Hello there Tifa Huck, Name is Lawrence. I’m sorry about the situation
you which find yourself, it’s very clear that his interest in the relationship
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has waned, even the blind could see it. someone who is indecisive about
his future after 5years of relationship, now he wants to try new things
with other people. that says it all. He doesn’t deserve your time at least
not anymore. i’d suggest you move on with your life, trust me, you’d be
better off without him. and come on!, stop crying.

September 8, 2020 at 10:01 am

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September 26, 2020 at 3:34 am

Lots of relationships are toxic, but people stay together cause of fear.

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September 29, 2020 at 10:56 am

Nice article, well detailed and thorough.

Giuseppe

November 10, 2020 at 4:37 am

I like the article. Staying in a toxic relationship is just like committing suicide.
We can never change a man if his pride is better than his love for a woman.
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Better to leave and learn to love yourself even more.
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