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P L E A S I N G
People Pleasing
Workbook
E n d t h e i n t e r n a l s t r u g g l e of p e o p l e p l e a s i n g w i t h a w a r e n e s s ,
c o m p a s s i o n , and t e l l i n g the l o v i n g, t r u t h !
Think of others before yourself. You evolve into your authentic, loving,
fabulous self!
Thinking in this manner sounds altruistic and
very loving, but it isn’t, and it isn’t every single When you can be in the presence of your
time. thoughts and not judge yourself, you will get
to know who you are.
Immediately our minds go to the opposite of
people pleasing. You think that you would You understand that if you choose to give, it
become selfish and that selfishness is wrong! will be with abundance.
You may think IF you are selfish, you will turn The opposite is giving out of obligation and
into a very "me, me, I, I, and myself" type of duty. Giving out of fear, obligation, or guilt is
person! the people-pleasing type of giving, which is
manipulation.
I am not referring to this type of mentality in
the least.
2.Society
You feel terrified to speak up, or you will lose all You have to start telling yourself the truth first.
your family and friends.
Telling the truth takes courage.
Or you become super aggressive.
Admitting you've spent years lying to get
Exclusion from the pack is your primal brain approval or fit in isn't easy.
biggest fear!
Start telling the truth to yourself about what do
Remember Sally? you genuinely like, want, feel, and think?
That a harrowing memory that your mind You will instantly go to the thought, "Who knows?
remembers and is trying to protect you from a I'm confused!".
painful situation like that again!
If you can truly master this skill, your entire life
So, now you go through the motions trying to will change!
avoid that intense emotional pain or anything
similar. Your happiness and fulfillment are on the other
side of "No!".
You feel like your needs don't get met or you
feel out of integrity with yourself because you In this works h e e t you will do a daily exercise
are lying to both yourself and everyone else! get to know yourself.
You're doing things you don't want to This daily practice is a massive step toward
do to please people you don't like! awareness and may take a little digging around!
When you do this long-term, your relationships You will practice telling the truth, first to yourself,
erode because they are based on your fear of then to the people in your life.
rejection and not on love and truth.
Your resentment keeps building because you
haven't told your friends, family or spouse the
truth.
Now what.
Here comes the rage!
Use the anger fuel to make a fierce commitment to protect yourself and stand up for yourself from this
moment forward.
Use the anger fuel to draw a line in the sand & end the
lying!
"I will not do this to myself ever, ever, ever again!"
D A Y
W h a t do I lik e + h o n e s t l y
wa n t ? W h a t do I pr e f er ? W h a t do I w an t f or m y
f u t u r e?
H o w w i l l y o u s t a y s t r o n g t o a v o i d g o i n g b a c k i nt o t h e " s a f et y " o f p e o p l e p l e a s i n g ?
Ar e y ou w i l l i n g t o f e e l s u p e r u n c om f o r t a b l e on p u r p o s e ? Ar e y ou r e a d y t o t e l l t h e t r u t h ?
W h a t d o e s a r ec o v er ed p e o p l e p l e a s e r l o o k l i k e a n d w h a t is t h e pr oc e s s o f ge t t i n g t o
t h e p l a c e o f s e l f -c o m p a s s i o n ?
You do not need everyone's support and What or who you genuinely like and don't like.
approval!
You will soon realize it's so amazing to give and
Your job is to support and approve of yourself! serve when you've taken care of your needs
first!
Commitmen t o f the day:
W h e n it ge t s u n c om f o r t a b l e , do I s m o o th t h e s i t u a t i o n o v er , a n d p e o p l e p l e a s e or s t i c k
to m y c o m m i t m e n t ?
Wh y do y ou t h i n k i t ' s e a s i e r t o g i v e in a n d a g r e e ?
Wh y ar e y ou u n c om f o r t a b l e w i t h d i s a g r e e i n g ?
W h a t is t h e w or st t h a t c o u l d h a p p e n ?