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Sex education and talking with children about sex 0-8 years
Sex education and talking with children about sex 0-8 years
Prepare yourself
You might feel embarrassed or uncomfortable talking about sexuality, or using words
like ‘penis’ or ‘vagina’ when talking about bodies. That’s OK.
It’s a good idea to prepare yourself by thinking about what you’re comfortable with
and building on that. For example, if you’re OK with talking about bottoms but not
breasts, try using the word ‘bottom’ in conversation to start with. Or you could practise
with another adult.
It’s important for children to know the difference between
touching that’s OK and touching that’s not OK. Make sure
your child knows that they can say ‘No!’ to any touching
that they don’t want and that it’s always OK to tell a
trusted adult about touch that’s not OK. You can start
talking about sexual abuse and talking about consent when
your child is young.
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You can use everyday moments to help your child learn Most children aged 2-3 years are very curious about
about bodies. For example, bath time or while you’re their own and other children’s bodies. They’ll also notice
helping your child get dressed are good times to introduce that different bodies have different body parts. Your
the names of body parts. child might ask you why or say, ‘What’s that?’ You can
These can also be good times to send messages about teach your child that every body part has a name and its
healthy, natural behaviour. For example, if your child
own ‘job’ to do. For example, ‘This is your vulva’ or ‘Your
touches their genitals while you’re changing their nappy,
penis is where wee comes out’.
that’s OK. When they’re older, you can talk about public
Looking at books with your child can help. You can use
and private behaviour.
the pictures to help your child learn the names for body
parts and understand that bodies are different.
How to talk about sex, sexuality and bodies: tips for all ages
You could also read a book together about where babies come from, like
Mummy laid an egg by Babette Cole.
It’s a good idea to start talking to your child about puberty and how
bodies change in puberty well before your child starts puberty. This
could be when your child is around 6-8 years old.
If your child comes across sexting or pornography, stay
calm. This can be an opportunity to talk with your
child about what is and isn’t OK for children to see.
And talking about these issues is one of the best ways
to keep your child safe online and promote respectful
online behaviour.
Thank you
very much