Interpersonal style questionnaire

For each of the following 18 pair of statements distribute three points between the two alternative A and B, based on how you usually interact with others in everyday situation. Although some pairs of statements may seem equally true for you behavior most of the time. If A is very characteristic of you and B is very uncharacteristic, write 1 next to A and 0 next to B. If A is more characteristic of you and B, but you engage in A sometimes write 2 next to B and 1 next to B. If B is more characteristic of you and A , but you engage in B sometimes write 2 next to A and 1 next to A. If B is very characteristic of you and A is very uncharacteristic write 3 next to B and 0 next to A.

Be sure that the numbers of you assign to each pair of statements in the space provided add up to three. SL # A 1 B A 2 B A 3 B A 4 B 5 A I am usually open to other people's use of my time. I usually introduce myself at social gatherings. I usually wait for others to introduce themselves to me at social gathering I usually focus my conversation on the interests of the parties involved even if this means that the conversations stray from the business or subject at hand ITEM I am usually open to getting to know people personally and establishing relationship with them I am usually open to getting to know people personally and establishing relationship with them I usually react slowly and deliberately. I usually react quickly and spontaneously. I am usually guarded about other people use of my time

B A 6 B A 7 B A 8 B A 9 B A 10 B A 11 B A 12 B A 13 B A 14 B 15 A

I am usually focus my conversation on the tasks issue business or subject at hand. I am usually not assertive and I can be patient with a slow space I am usually assertive and at time I can be patient with a slow space I usually make decision based on fact or evidence I usually make decision based on feelings, experiences, relationships I usually contribute frequently to group conversations I usually contribute infrequently to group conversations I usually prefer to work with and through others, providing support when possible I usually prefer to work independently or dictate the conditions in terms of problem solving I usually ask questions or speak more tentatively and indirectly I usually make empathetic statements or directly express opinions. I usually focus primarily on the idea, concept, or results. I usually focus primarily on the person, interaction and feelings. I usually use gestures, facial expressions, and voice intonation to emphasize points I usually do not use gestures, facial expressions and voice intonation to emphasize points I usually accept others' point of you (ideas, feelings and concerns) I usually do not accept others' point of you (ideas, feelings and concerns) I usually respond to risk and change in a cautious or predictable manner I usually respond to risk and change in a dynamic and predictable manner I usually prefer to keep my personal feeling and thought to myself sharing only when I wish to do so.

B A 16 B A 17 B 18 A B

I usually find it natural and easy to share and discuss my feeling with others. I usually seek out new or different experiences and situations I usually chose known or similar situation and relationships. I am usually responsive to others agendas interests and concerns. I am usually directed toward my own agendas interceders and concerns. I usually respond to conflict slowly and indirectly. I usually respond to conflict quickly and directly.

We develop habitual ways of relating to others based on what behavior was reinforced when we were growing up. A behavioral habit is something we do when we interact with others without even thinking about it. Our predominant behavioral habits can be understood by looking at how open or self contained we are and how direct or indirect we are. In first dimension O stands for open and S stands for self contained. An open person is relationship-oriented supportive of others needs and share feeling readily. A self contained person is task oriented aloof and not prone to share feelings. The letter you circled (O or S) indicate were on this continuum your tendencies lie. Item 1 to 9 measures those dimensions. Based on your answers count the score given for As and Bs (self contained) and indicate which is higher open or self contained. One the second dimension, D stands for direct and I stands for indirect. Direct people are extroverted and express their thought and feeling quite forcefully. Indirect people hold back and appear more introverted. Direct people can be thought of as ranging from highly assertive to aggressive. Based on your answers count the score given you for As (indirect) Bs (direct) and indicate which is higher D or I. Interpretation Four different behavioral style or habit of relating to others can be discerned by how direct and open you are. If your score are highest on open and direct, you are an assertive and relationshiporiented socialize. If your scores are highest on self contained and direct you are an assertive and task oriented director. If you score are highest on In- direct and self contained you are a task oriented and low assertive thinker. If your scores are highest on indirect and open you are a low assertive and Relationship oriented relater

Item 1-9 Your score Item 10-18 Your score

A (open) A (indirect)

B (SELF CONTAINED) B (Direct)