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Parenting - Saying No Without Hate
Parenting - Saying No Without Hate
Introduction
A young man, 24, recalled in therapy telling his mother, If you had slapped me when I, when just 17, took to smoking and drinking for the first time, I would have been different and without problems. Parenting - one of the most difficult things, no training Now, however, more acceptance and readiness to seek information, help and talk Parents groups informal self-help groups, more formal counseling Many difficulties, sacrifices, and yet want to be parents Parent-child relationship is real, no place for sentimentality, pep-talk, children hate it Two major problems as below
Illustrations
A girl,16 yrs., a very private person, with incessant crying, blankness, confusion Caught in being different than her loving mothers anxiety in not wanting her daughter to be quick tempered, angry person like her A hardworking, rational, panicky,17 yrs., boy: insomniac, worrying, unforgivable bad thoughts about sister, mother. Caught in to give up or not telling everything to mother
Conclusion
Difficulties yes But one is constantly becoming, handling children and adolescents Overcoming fears with insight in oneself, talking over with empathic friends or other significant family persons Counseling, therapy