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We live in societies in which most men and women have lost their sense of modesty, women are In Islam we have a concept of Gheerah. Gheerah is obsessed with their appearances and wear clothes to an Arabic word which means protectiveness or be seen by others and to attract the attention of other Men are not a good type of jealousy, their wives are jealousy. It is even embarrassed whenlike when a man men even if they are married! They have lost their dressed up and attract the attentionwife or sisters and feels jealous or protective over his of other men, they sense of shame. Marriage is often looked upon as olddont mind if another man sees, chats, laughs and other-womenfolk and doesnt like other men to look at fashioned and short term affairs and frivolous even dancesnatural inbuilt feeling Allah if they do mind, them. It is a with their womenfolk and has given men relationships are the norm, everyone waiting to attract they are told not to be so possessive! and women. The Prophet (SAW) had the most a better partner and feeling totally justified to dump Gheerah for his wives and all of the companions were one partner for another at the drop of a hat. Feminism known for their Gheerah. too has reached its peak and men and women are told to suppress their natural emotions.

All Muslim men should have a collective sense of protectiveness for Muslim women as Allah says in the Quran:

The meaning of which is: The Men are the protectors and maintainers of women,
[because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means]

(Surah An-Nisaa, Ayah 34)

Men who do not care about how their women behave and appear in front of other men and dont enforce hijaab upon their wives or women-folk are called Dayyooth. Being a Dayyooth is a major sin and a detailed description of this evil characteristic can be found in adh-Dhahabees book of Major Sins (Kitaab ul-Kabaair).

A story of Gheerah I Look at the sense of dignity and modesty of Asmaa! came to az-Zubair and said: The Messenger of Allah (SAW) metas I was Asmaaqualitydate-stonesupon can Seefurther understand the relates: Gheerah,uponmy was carrying of careful To how she felt shy in frontthe men? See howwe my One day, me as I carrying of date-stones she washappened to was me, himhadthe daughter nor When Iaz-Zubayr married withfeelings? She knew that head, an and her husbands he Messenger his of look head incident that Asmaa (RA)group of land at about there meet Allahs a neither (SAW), her husband group of of Companions.of Aisha want Companions. He so the and sister He very hard wealthwithAs-Siddeeqhis Gheerah to kneeldidnt(RA), along nor a had a toldAsmaa hadso she so thatme Abu Bakr slave lot (RA) camel to work called I could mount bybut I sit downBakrremembered help to upset dough, going farAbu so was wealthy kneading the camel tofelt shy and Ithat he (SAW)make andrelates aboutacceptingoff toProphetsa could Iyour told him it, herself. the get water. And used Gheerah. andAsmaa Ideclinedthego withmade stones even though head, felthis to purest men by the tome ride behind him. she wasdaughterAsmaaand I merchant Sothe Prophet continues, the of men and carry on my he married shy the offer date to the Prophet (SAW).meant bringing hardship Messenger even though of Az-Zubayr ibn al-Awwam he who remembered az-Zubair and az-Zubair said: By Allah, a great companion Upon this his Gheerah and herself! from the land it az-Zubair which Allahs on(RA)was And look atendowed him anddate-stones he had two the having the most(RA), it ofthough upon of one was athought of you carryingeven The Messengeraof (SAW)very poor man but a man was a distance your man had az-Zubair Gheerah. great piety and lot of ofAllah (SAW)didntwho were on me than you riding head is more severe from Madeenah. Gheerah, he miles a burden promised andhis wife. the companions want tomy shyness Paradise. understood inconvenience left. What a beautiful relationship they had! with him. (related in Saheeh Bukhari)

Nurturing our sense of Gheerah

He knows what men can be like more than you do and Sometimes Muslim women dont understand if their so never try and suppress his Gheerah in these types men folk want them to you allow faces or or sister to And Brothers! How can cover theiryour wife if they ask of matters. And his concern for you should incite your them to change something about the way they dress walk around attracting the attentions and evil-thoughts It sense the men to enforce these man in able own is uponof honour! Why should anythingsbe their to ofor speak in public,can you not mindmen are being other men? How thinking that the if she smiles as homes and you cannot use indecent thoughts about see your beauty and think the excuse that your wife over-protective. But my dear sisters! If right to enjoy she talks to other men. Nobody has theyour husband didnt want must nurture our own and our men guiding you? We to. Women need a firm, balanced, folks asks her company but you and her Maharim men. her andyou not to wear a certain colour of khimaar hand from their men, so with wisdom you must sense of Gheerah by behaving and dressing modestly because not being overbearing ifof your eyes, or if he You are it brings out the beauty you first encourage enforce hijaab in your home. You are valid opinions. ourselves and paying attention to theira shepard and wants you to cover yourhijaab on your womenfolk and then enforce the face by Allah, be thankful! are responsible for from them We expect certain behaviour your flock! and they Be proud of the fact that your husbandon the sense of because YOU will be asked about it has a Day of expect it of us. And besides, if our husband asks us to Gheerah for you and that he valuessin upon YOU! for Judgment and it is also a major you and cares do something that it not Haraam [forbidden], we must your hereafter. do it.

Allah reminds us all in the Quran:

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The meaning of which is: Oh you who believe, Protect yourselves and your families from a fire whose fuel is men and stones, [over
which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allah, but do that which they are commanded]

(At-Tahreem, Aayah 6)

There is a big difference between how Islam values and protects women and how cheaply women are treated outside of Islam! As Muslims we have to be careful that our Hayaa (sense of modesty and shame) and Gheerah dont wear out in a society in which people have lost it.

WHAT WILL YOU DO ABOUT IT?

THE LEAST YOU CAN DO IS LET OTHERS KNOW

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