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Transactional Analysis Final
Transactional Analysis Final
Transactional Analysis Final
Purpose While it is used for psychotherapy, we will focus on its use as a communication tool to improve our relationships. Useful when ever people have to deal with people.
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LECTURING, CRITICIZING, MANY OUGHTS, SHOULD &DONTS CONSOLING, TAKING CARE OF OTHERS, SYMPATHY OBJECTIVE, RATIONAL, ORIENTED TOWARD PROBLEM SOLVING, DEEMPHASIZE EMOTION MODIFIED BEHAVIOUR TO CONFORM TO ADULT EXPECTATIONS, MANUPULATIVE, SUMBISSIVE PLAYFUL, IMPULSIVE, NATULRALLY CURIOUS &CREATIVE, FUN LOVING, REBELLIOUS
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IM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU LET ME CLEAN UP THAT DESK FOR YOU, MR. SMITH YOUVE DONE A SWELL JOB, TOM. WHAT ARE THE ALTERNATIVES? CANT WE REACH SOME SORT OF COMPROMISE? WHAT CONSEQUENCES WILL THIS ACTION HAVE? ANYTHING YOU SAY, SIR! SORRY, ILL TRY TO IMPROVE. WHY DO YOU ALWAYS PICK ON ME THE OTHERS WERE IN ON THIS TOO! LET ME SEE HOW THIS GADGET WORKS. WONDER WHAT HAPPENS IF WE DO IT THIS WAY? LETS KNOCK OFF FOR TODAY! WHO WANTS TO WORK ON A FRIDAY AFTERNOON ANYWAY? 5
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Complementary Transactions
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Youre three hours late, I want an explanation.
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EMPLOYEE
Im really sorry, I slept through the alarm, it wont happen again, I promise.
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ADULT TO ADULT TRANSACTION
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EMPLOYEE: WHY DONT YOU COME OVER HERE? ITS JUST AS FAR!
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Angular Transaction
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SALES PERSON
Thats the latest iPod and theres 50% off at the moment, if you are interested
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CUSTOMER
Wow, thats amazing Ill take one!
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STROKING
THE TYPES OF STROKES YOU SEEK DEPEND ON YOUR OKAYNESS
POSITIVE STROKES
NEGATIVE STROKES
CONDITIONAL STROKES
PRAISE COMPLEMENTS RECOGNITION AFFECTION REWARDS SYMPATHY CONSOLATION SELF-SATISFACTION FROM JOB WELL DONE
PUT-DOWNS CRITICISM
DEGRADING
RIDICULE SCOLDING PUNISHMENT DISCOUNTING (1) (2)
STROKES GIVEN FOR WHAT YOU DO, RATHER THAN FOR WHAT YOU ARE:
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1. IM OK; YOURE OK
THE WINNER, HEALTH, OPTIMISTIC, USUALLY ADULTTO-ADULT EGO STATE. IDEAL LIFE POSITION ON & OFF THE JOB.
2. RESCUER (FAVORITE GAMES: IM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU, WHAT WOULD YOU DO
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EMPLOYEE: IVE GOT A PROBLEM WITH RESCUER MANAGER: DONT WORRY, ILL TAKE CARE OF IT FOR YOU.
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The Games
1.Yes, but
2. Im only trying to help
How often do these games appear in your life? What can you do to change these patterns?
How I see them: Boss: Critical parent Peers: Nurturing parents Subordinates: Most natural children, some adapted children, few adults
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Transactional Analysis
Back to the 80/20 rule: This rule also says that your job environment is functional when 80 percent of your relationships at work are based on the I am OK you're OK principle. If the opposite is the case than your job is dysfunctional.
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Transactional Analysis
Keep in mind that the 80/20 rule can still be in your favor but you could still have major problems. Why? Because having an I am not OK your not OK relationship with your driver is irrelevant having this relationship with your boss is relevant. Keep this in mind for your home situation as well.
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Boss: I have a few comments on your performance -- I think you say yes too often to me, I think you try to be non confrontational with others in the work place. You know what, I dont think these are good qualities of a senior manager.
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Boss: The report you gave me had some strong points but it needs polishing. Lets give it to Ms. X to finish it for you. Good job.
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Peer: You really have to watch out, Mr. X really has it in for you. You should hear what I hear about you or what he says about you. Just dont tell him you heard it from me.
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Peer: Honestly, I dont think you were being very professional when you promised the client a delivery for next week. You should have consulted me first. I will speak to the boss about this because you are always doing it.
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Transactional Analysis
Your people management skills are your key to success For example, I try to keep my adult mode active for as long as possible during the day I seldom achieve this and but I know when I have ventured away from adult mode In most instances you succeed because of you, or you fail because of you In most instances you reap what you sow.
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Transactional Analysis:
Understanding your relationships with others relates to gold stamps and gray stamps Whether we like it or not we accrue gold stamps for situations we handle well and gray stamps for situations we handle badly This is what defines our okayness with other people For some one gray stamp is enough to put you in the category of I am OK you are not OK For others a ton of gold stamps may not do much at all
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USING T.A. MORE ON OTHERS THAN ON SELF DESIRE FOR CHANGING ONESELF MUST COME FROM THE INDIVIDUAL HIMSELF, NOT THE ORGANIZATION T.A. TRAINING MUST HAVE SPECIFIC OBJECTIVES
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