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Getting Others To Listen To You: Chapter Six
Getting Others To Listen To You: Chapter Six
Getting Others To Listen To You: Chapter Six
LISTEN TO YOU
CHAPTER SIX
Nonverbal Listening
Approach
Assume a leveling posture. This includes looking
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
Attitude
Fault -Finding
Empathetic
Level 2 or 3 listening
Level 1 listening
Judgmental
Descriptive
Unaware
Aware
Superiority
Equality
Formulates rebuttals
Opinionated
Thoughtful
Restrained
Spontaneous
Control oriented
Problem-solving oriented
Secure Understanding
Different people have different understanding.
When someone talks over a persons head, it
can be taken as a put down by the listener, and
the talker is often labeled as putting on airs.
On the other hand talking below a persons
understanding can also be perceived as a
putdown, because the listener feels talkeddown-to.
Thus, it is crucial to use appropriate language.
Start with an agreement and relate with
previous experience.
Aid Retention
Encourage Feedback
People tend to overestimate their accuracy
as listeners.
Without feedback, we often think we
understood when in fact we havent.
Thus, it is useful for the listener to ask
questions about what is being said.
To encourage feedback, ask for ideas and
suggestions. Stop from time to time to ask
questions and allow listener to respond.
Sample Questions
Could you elaborate on what you
mean by psychological barriers
to listening?
Statement of Assumption
Approaches certainty
Limited number
Unlimited number
Leads to agreement
Leads to disagreement
Describing Behavior
Discuss the performance of the other
person such as performance appraisals, onthe-job training, discipline, making criticism,
and expressing negative feelings.
Do not label them, therefore word choice is
very important.
Describing Behavior
Dos
Donts
The Shortcomings of
Praise
Praise can be used to attract listeners.
However, sometimes the listener interprets
praise as negative.
Some believe that praises are threats,
something they need to defend against.
Praise could also mean criticism.
Therefore, the best response is to give
positive feedback and nonjudgmental
response.
The Shortcomings of
Praise
Nonjudgmental, Positive
Feedback
Praise
Rings true
QUESTIONS
Name 3 positive nonverbal behaviours.
Name 3 negative nonverbal behaviours.
There are 6 guidelines for talkers, name all.
What the advantages of stating facts and
not assumptions?
Why is describing behaviour better than
judging and blaming?