FAMILY

Lesson 1:
COURTSHIP,
DATING, &
MARRIAGE

Infatuation
VS

Love

Infatuation
-is being carried away by an addictive
admiration for someone based on their
physical characteristics

Love

-is deep affection for someone and is based on a

true desire for the other persons best interests.

Infatuation/
crush

occurs almost
instantaneously

Love
develops gradually over
time

Powerful but short-lived

Can last for a long time

and becomes deeper and
more powerful over time

flourishes on perfection

accepts the whole person,

imperfections and all

focuses on the physical

attraction
(sexual attraction is central)

more than physical

attraction

COURTSHIP

"Mahal kita,
mahal kita,
hindi ito
bola."

Courtship
Is a stage of knowing each other and also
a test of compatibility between the two
persons.

Courtship
may be:
A. Informal and
private
matter
between two
people

B. formal or public
affair with family
approval

Different
Traditional
Practices of
Courtship in the
Philippines

Ilocos and
Tagalog
regions

Ilocos and Tagalog regions

TAPAT-serenading in front of the house
BALAGTASAN - suitor begins a romantic
song, then the courted lady responds by
singing too)

Bulacan
NANINILONG- serenading from UNDER the
house

Batangas
Serenading the woman
Men serve the womans family and relatives
by doing household chores.

Pangasinan

TAGA-AMO or tamer
- a form of love potion or charm

PALABAS or show drama

Cebu
BALAK serenading
Love letters, potions and other gifts

Leyte
PANGAGAD / PANINILBIHAN

MINDANAO
Knife is sent as a gift to the house of the
courted woman

Courtship Practices
at the Age of Technology

Why is it
important for
couples to
undergo a
courtship?

1. Courting gives time to know each other better.

2. It reveals ones interests, likes and dislikes
limitations, and other aspirations in life
3. It gives time to understand one another
and determine if you can get along with minimal
conflicts

DATING

Types of Dating

Types of Dating
STANDARD
-involves 2
people

DOUBLE
DATE

GROUP
DATE

-involves 2
couples on a
date at the same
time and place

-any number of
couple enjoying
a date

ENGAGEMENT
-

period of agreement
is entered between
two people in love in
order for them to
know each other
well

MARRIAGE

MARRIAGE
-

a lifelong partnership of a man and a

woman

Filipinos view marriage as a

sacrament and a lifelong
commitment

Factors Necessary to Consider

in Choosing a Lifetime
Partner

1. CHARACTER

2. . MATURITY

3. FIDELITY

4. COMMITMENT

5. LOVE

6. ECONOMIC READINESS

QUIZ

BULACAN BATANGAS ILOCOS&TAGALOG

PANGASINAN PALAWAN LEYTE
1. Naninilong
2. Taga-amo
3. Balagtasan
4. Love riddles
5. Paninilbihan

1. How is INFATUATION different from LOVE?

2. Is it important for couples to undergo courtship?
Why or why not?

PERFORMANCE
TASK