Islamic

Parenting:
An Introduction
AbuSamihah Sirajul
Islam
12/29/15

What is Parenting
Parenting or child rearing is the process of
promoting and supporting the physical, emotional,
social, financial, and intellectual development of a
child from infancy to adulthood. Parenting refers to
the aspects of raising a child aside from the
biological relationship.
Davies, Martin (2000). The Blackwell encyclopedia of social
work. Wiley-Blackwell. p.245. ISBN978-0-631-21451-9.

This does not mean to be only biological parents of

children.

What is Islamic Parenting

In Islam parenting would mean to
understand the roles and
responsibilities as fathers/mothers
and raise children in a way that would
make them good servants of Allah, by
being physically, emotionally,
morally, ethically & religiously sound.

Goal of Islamic
Parenting
Raising Children to be Good Slaves of
Allah Who will be Upholding the
Words of Allah High and Benefactors
of Humanity by Carrying Out the
Mission of the Ummah Commanding
What is Good & Forbidding What is
Evil.

Challen
ges
Faced
by The
Muslim
Parents
in the
West

Challenges are MultiDimensional

Parenting Styles

Challenges
Understanding Your Role and Responsibility
Allah has assigned tremendous
responsibilities on you as a parent.
We need to save our families from hell fire:
O you who have believed, protect yourselves
and your families from a Fire whose fuel is
people and stones, over which are [appointed]
angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey
Allah in what He commands them but do what
they are commanded. [66:6]

Challenges
Understanding Your Role and Responsibility
Your children are amanat
Indeed, Allah commands you to render trusts to whom they
are due. [4:58]

Children are a trial

And know ye that your possessions and your progeny are but a
trial; and that it is Allah with Whom lies your highest reward.
8:28

Children will be of no benefit unless.

Never will your relatives or your children benefit you; the
Day of Resurrection He will judge between you. And Allah, of
what you do, is Seeing. [60:3]

Challenges
Understanding Your Children
Your children develop
differently at different
stages of their life.
Parents enjoy a very respectable
position in their childrens life.
That is reason enough to be
close, to try to know, to try to
understand what it feels like to
be a child or a teenager

Challenges
Understanding the
Surroundings
Western Society and Culture
Role of media & technology
The evil they are exposed to
Societal demand for them to
succeed materially
Islamophobic pressure upon them

Challenges
Your knowledge of your Deen
How well versed are you in your deen and
its practical implication in the society as a
living way of life.

Challenges
Being able to
overcome cultural
bias
Are you able to
distinguish between
your culture and
the actual ruling of
the religion?

Some
Genera
l
Advises
to
Parents

Train Them to Think

You have been given an honorable position,
train them to think right not to think the
way you want
Your esteemed position allows you only
to bring your children closer to Allah(SWT)
and straighten their morals not to make
them slaves of society and culture..
And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his parents: in travail upon
travail did his mother bear him, and in years twain was his weaning: (hear the
command), "Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents: to Me is (thy final) Goal.
(Surah Luqman 31:14)

Nurturing Them
Parents are to children what gardeners are
to flowers. The flower has to blossom one
day to beautify the gardenbut it does
need that gentle touch of love and care you
know
Allahs Messenger said, When night falls (or it is evening),
keep your children close to you for the devils spread out at
that time. But when an hour of the night elapses, you can let
them free. Close the doors and mention the Name of Allah,
for Shaytaan (Satan) does not open a closed door.Bukhari
4:523, Narrated Jabir bin Abdullah

Providing Best
Education

Put in the best effort

and give them the
best in education and
the best in
discipline...

Aspire and strive to

give the best rather
than having your
aspirations fulfilled
through them.

Dont Enforce
Ideology
Not to enforce
your ideologies,
aspirations or
traditions.they
will only thwart
your childs love
for you.

Be Ready to Learn
Though we parents
are chosen by God
to teach their
children, there are
times when they
have to learn
themselves even if
it be from their
children..

Practice What You

Preach
Some things are not taught,
but are inspired and most
things are learnt through
inspirationSo try to
practice what you preach,
even if your children are not
watching you

Abu Hurayrah (May Allah be pleased with

him) once saw two men. He asked one of
them, How is this man related to you?
He replied, He is my father. Abu
Hurayrah said, Do not call him by his
name, do not walk in front of him and do
not sit before he does Bukhari