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Assertive Communication: DR Shilpee A Dasgupta
Assertive Communication: DR Shilpee A Dasgupta
Dr Shilpee A Dasgupta
Communication
Communication is multidimensional and takes place at two
Communication Style
Communication style is the way one verbally, non-verbally,
Passive
Soft voice
Communication
Overly agreeable, no point of view expressed
Avoidance
Withdrawn body language
Sound unsure
Beat around the bush
Sound hopeless or helpless
Passive-Aggressive
Communication
Appears to agree but really does not agree
Tells others but not the source of the
concern
Makes subtle digs and sarcastic remarks
Keeps score, sets conditions
Nonverbal message contradicts the verbal
message
Holds back expressing concerns or
providing assistance
Criticizes after the fact
Some Passive/Aggressive
Messages
I knew that wouldnt work.
If thats the way you want it
How could you even think that?
When was the last time you helped me?
Aggressive
Communication
Blaming, accusing
Intimidating body language
Demanding, ordering
Raised voice
Harsh, personal language
Verbal browbeating
Some Aggressive
You must
Messages
Because I said so.
You idiot!
You always
You never
Who screwed this up?
Assertive Communication
Takes responsibility
Takes initiative
Listens actively
Speaks up, is direct and constructive
Shows sincerity
Is solutions focused
Assumes a confident voice and body language
Addresses concerns directly to the source
Requests needs
Some Assertive
Messages
Yes, that was my mistake.
As I understand your point
Let me explain why I disagree with that point.
Lets define the issue and then explore some
options to help resolve it.
Please hear me out and then work with me to
resolve my concern.
Some Assertive
Messages
Yes, that was my mistake.
As I understand your point
Let me explain why I disagree with that point.
Lets define the issue and then explore some
options to help resolve it.
Assertive
Direct
Firm in tone
Collaborates on
solutions
Speaks up, yet hears
others opinions
Two-way
conversation flow
Assertive
Aggressive
Verbal
Apologetic words, hidden
meaning, hedging, failure
to come to the point,
disconnected, at a loss for
words, failure to say what
one really means.
Non-Verbal
a) General
Actions instead of words,
hoping someone will guess
what you want, looking as
if you dont mean what one
says.
Attentive,
listening, Exaggerated
show
of
generally assured manner, strength, flippant, sarcastic
communication of caring style, an air of superiority.
and strength.
direct
Feelings
Hurt, anxious, disappointed Confidence,
self-respect, Angry,
then
righteous,
in self at the time and feels good about self at the superior, possibly guilty
possibly later.
time and later.
later.
Outcome
Does not achieve desired
goal, does not get needs met,
accumulates anger, and feels
non- valued.
Thank You