“Will you marry me?

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perso f growing
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“grow y be hen a
n up” d e scrib

rity
matu e
re, or , an adult, d as
Matu  “Christ of age.
inten ian” whe
d in g n the
and t to ma perso
ake a ke de n
based ction cision
o n th does s
princ e per so
iples spect
faith, o f th e ive an
assist Chris d
ed by tian
grace
.
 Grow
th &
Matu
rity  Not simply two human person
e : relationship and loving each
tian
rity
rtanc
Chris other
Matu > Christian husband and wife to
Impo

be Christian parents

To ensure a satisfying marriage

1. Improve one’s personality (be
matured)
2. Look to Christ and His grace
 Grow
th &
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rity 1. Heredity
rs
g
2. Environment
th
Facto
encin
Grow 3. Education
4. Christian Education
Influ

The gift of grace

 Moved by grace…
Sanctifying grace… infused
by the Holy Spirit
 Grow
th &
Matu
rity

What now?
God’s purpose for his
children is maturity
in all ways  (Eph.
4:15)
 THE TOTAL MAN,
THE TOTAL WOMAN
 Total
Total Man,
Wom
an
ting H ties
uman
ality
 Media
Reali

Sexu
Most powerful means of
shaping minds, norms, and
attitudes.
affec

(images, sounds, and

programs)
 Total
Total Man,
Wom
an
ign:
n
al i t y
a
Hum
s De s

Sexu  Sex is a gift from God

and therefore sacred.
God ’
 Total
Total Man,
Wom ORIGINAL SOLITUDE:
an
ign:
n
“It is not good that man should be

al i t y
a alone, I will make him a
Hum
s De s

Sexu helpmate.”
God ’

Pope John Paul II

He is unique, alone & has
exclusive relationship with God.
Thus, he felt lacking something
fundamental.
 Total
Total Man,
Wom
an f  The 2 nd
aspect of creation
tion o
,
o ma n
on o f
ns
“Yahweh made man fall into

P e rs o
deep sleep. And while he slept, he
Crea
W
muni
took one of his ribs and enclosed
it in flesh. Yahweh God built the
rib he had taken from the man
Co m

and made it into a woman, and

brought her to the man. This is to
be called woman, for this was
taken from man.”
(Gen. 2:21-24)
 Total
Total Man,
Wom
an f  Thus, woman is an aid to the
tion o
,
o ma n
on o f
humanity of man.

ns
 profoundly reveals his humanity
P e rs o
Crea
W
muni
 fulfills the creation of the human
person
Co m

 Without the woman, the work of

creation is not finished, because the
man remains enveloped in his
holiness and has no possibility for
communion and gift.
 Total
Total Man, “This is why a man leaves his
Wom father and mother and joins
an f himself to his wife, and they
tion o
,
o ma n
on o f
ns
become one body”

P e rs o
Gen. 2:24
Crea
W
muni

Pope John Paul II:

Co m

affirms that this passage represents

the summit of the whole account
of creation, that man and woman
are made for the intimate
communion of persons in the
reciprocity of the gift each makes
to the other.
 Total  Real purpose of human sexuality can be
Total Man, truly achieved according to God’s plan:
Wom always open to the gifts of love and life
an f
tion o
,
o ma n
on o f
ns
 For human beings:
P e rs o Sexuality should never be separated
Crea
W
muni
from the elements of love and life.
 Sex in not a shameful thing, but only if
Co m

it’s in the service of and for the sake of

eternal values.

 God gave man and woman an equal

personal dignity. Each of the sexes is an
image of the power and tenderness of
God, with equal dignity though in a
different way (CCC 2335).
Right Approach to
Sex & Human
Sexuality
Righ
t App Sex
roach  Biologically based need that is naturally
oriented towards the generation of new
te:
n
life although not exclusively.

ality
a
re n t i a
H um  Gender/Sexual Identity
Se x u  Immediate Aim: genital activity
 Purpose :procreation and committed
Diffe
rom

love between man and woman.

Se x f

Human sexuality
 Totality of one’s personality, physical,
spiritual, emotional, or psychological
characteristics that makes man distinct
from a woman and a woman from a
man.
Righ
t App Sexual : everything that makes a man,
roach man; and a woman, woman.

te: Sexual relationship: being with other

n
ality
a
sexual beings due to the need to “relate
re n t i a
H um with other human beings”, to
Se x u communicate and commune with them
Diffe

Sexual maturity: the emotional and

rom

physically satisfying capacity to form a

stable relationship with the opposite sex;
Se x f

in contrast with sexual deviant behavior

Sexual health: the integration of the
somatic, emotional, intellectual, and
social aspects of sexual well-being, in
ways that are positively enriching and
that enhance personality, communication
and love (WHO)
 Righ
Diffe
Se x f re n t i a
rom te:
H um
t App

Se x u a n
ality
roach

Sex
inseparable
Righ Male&Female
t App
roach
Differences

COMPLEMENTARITY
Righ 1. General Sexual Attraction
t App consists of an intriguing interest in
roach
the opposite sex as a whole;

x u al
generally happens at the onset of

ct i on
puberty
2. Special Sexual Attraction
s: Se
Attra
plays a role in God’s plan for
Ki n d

marriage;
only those who are eligible for
marriage should foster such
attraction;
being exclusive where the presence
of a third party is resented and
oneness which manifests itself in
the desire for togetherness.
Educ
ation
in C h
astity
  Virtue by which we learn to
control and regulate our own sex

Y
drives
STIT virtue that frees love from selfishness
and aggressiveness, enriched by
grace
C HA

 The Pope urges you to commit

yourselves to this spiritual resolution of
purity of mind and heart. Let Christ’s
redemption bear fruit in you. The
contemporary world needs this kind of
revolution.” (John Paul II, 1993)
 Educ
ation
to C h
astity

CHASTITY AS
A CHALLENGE
 Educ
ation
to C h
astity
Y OF
ITAL
Pre-marital sex

SEX
 sin of fornication
ALIT

 a carnal union between a couple

MAR

who are both unmarried.

 a grave scandal when there is the
M OR
PRE-

corruption of the young

 All sexual activities among the
unmarried are considered morally
evil and seriously wrong.
 Educ
ation Engaged couples break their engagement
to C h
astity after having sexual intercourse to end in
divorce
Y OF
ITAL
1. Many young men lose the desire
SEX
to marry girls who have been
ALIT

easy with them.

MAR

2. The man loses respect for the

girl. For any form of relationship,
M OR
PRE-

if it is to last, should be founded

on mutual respect, and
3. Unfaithfulness to one’s fiancé
before marriage can lay the
groundwork for unfaithfulness of
another kind after marriage.
 Educ
ation
to C h
astity
Fo r G
od di
d not c
allus to
be im
to liv pure,
e a ho but
1 The ly l if
ssalo e.
nians
4: 7

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