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Social Styles Questionnaire
Social Styles Questionnaire
• People who know how to listen well and convey their message to others
are almost always more confident than people who haven’t learned these
skills.
• Learning to communicate effectively can also
prevent misunderstandings.
C reating a mutual understanding for meanings being sent
among human elements.
Sender Message Receiver
Encoding Channel Decoding
Psycho
Physical Noise
logical
Lingual
Feedback Response
• Message
Feelings
Needs
Meaning
Message
Assumptions/Expectations
• A ssumption is a relation
between cause and effect
Assumptions
Self Widely
cause claimed effect cause accepted effect
relation relation
Behavior
Attitude/Traits/Knowledge
Genetic Phase
psychic Phase
SPOT OF
BEHAVIOR
BEHAVIOR
Attitude
• Self-Concept is the self-perception or view you have of yourself. It is
the person you think you are, formed in your beliefs and attitudes. It is
influence by how others see you, how you were in your past, are today,
and would like to be in the future.
• Real self – your “core” self; who you • Intellectual self – who you are as a
really are. student and a learner; the part of you
• Perceived self – who you see yourself to that acquires and uses knowledge.
be. • Emotional self – the part of you that
• Ideal self – who you want to be now or processes feelings.
in the future. • Physical self – who you are
• Public self – the self you freely disclose physically; including the concept of your
to others or in public situations. own body, athletic ability, gracefulness
• Private self – the self you do not share and coordination, level of attractiveness,
with others; who you are in private. physical health and well being.
• Professional self – who you are in your • Artistic self – the part of you that is
job or profession. creative or artistic.
• Social self – who you are when you
interact with other individuals, groups, in
society or social situations.
Factors that influence your self-concept:
• How you perceive that you are seen and treated by others.
• Your own expectations and the standards that you set for
yourself
• How you compare yourself to others
• Self-concept lays the foundation for your communication with
others one to one, in groups, or one-to-group.
Building a positive self-concept…
1 2
3 4
Not
Hidden Unknown Not
Known to It represents the things you Things that neither you nor Known to
others know or believe about yourself others know or acknowledge. others
but that you do not choose to It could be subconscious fears
share with others. or things you do not
remember.
• 1. Stay alert
• 2. Make conscious choices about what is important data.
• 3. Screen out distractions & noise that may interfere with
concentration.
• 4. Monitor the way you select data and improve your
weaknesses.
Third step in perception process
Genetic
Phase
Psychic
phase + Situation = Perception
Environ
mental
phase
• Two dimensions of behavior can explain
and predict how people behave:
Assertiveness الحزم
Responsiveness الحساسية
• Assertiveness:
o Being forceful and directive.
• Assertive people:
o Move, talk & decide fast.
• Responsive people:
o Express feelings openly.
Analytical Driver
Low High
Assertiveness
Analytical
• Cautious in decisions Driver
• Likes organization and • Decisive/quick decisions
structure • Likes control; dislikes
• Asks specific questions inaction
• Wants lots of data • Prefers
• Works slowly and alone freedom/independence
• Good problem solving skills • Cool, calm, and competitive
• Conservative dress • Low tolerance for warm-
fuzzy stuff
• Achievements on wall
• Good administrative skills
• No posters or slogans on
wall
Amiable Expressive
• Slow making decisions • Spontaneous
• Likes close personal rel. and • Exaggerates and generalizes
contact • Big dreamer/persuasive
• Dislikes conflict • Jumps from task to task
• Supportive/listens • Works quickly and excitedly
• Low motivation with others
• Seeks security and • Seeks esteem
identification from groups • Motivational slogans
• Casual – flashy dress • Disorganized desk
• Pictures of family/friends
1. Analytical: (↓ Assertive ↓ Responsive)
Emotionally reserved, rarely get
excited
Organized & attend to the small details
They crave data – the more the better
Systematically analyze facts
Rarely compliment others
Slow decision makers
Communicating with the Analytical
Level 3 Affiliation
Level 4
Security
Level 5 Physiological
MASLOW’S HIERARCHY OF
NEEDS
0% 100%
Degree of
Participative Self-Esteem
Authority
Exercised
Degree of
Diplomatic Employee Affiliation
Responsibility
Bureaucratic
Safety/Security
Autocratic
Physiological Needs
100% 0%
• It is the responsibility of
management to provide
a situation where need
expectations can be
achieved.
Expectancy Theory
2. One of your friends has just revealed in exasperation that you never
listen to any of her ideas.
3. Your manager has the habit of double-checking every set of figures you
submit, or everything you tell her.
4. You’ve done an informal survey to find out what people in jobs similar to
yours are being paid. You discover your rate is about 15 percent lower
than the industry norm. You’ve asked to see your manager.
5. Your manager is discussing your salary with you. You’ve presented some
facts that indicate you are being underpaid compared to the industry
norm. Your manager has asked you what you think you are worth.
RIGHTS RESPONSIBILITIES
1. You have the right to be treated 1. You have the responsibility to treat
with respect. others with respect.
2. You have the right to have and 2. You have the responsibility to listen to
express your own opinions. the opinions of others.
3. You have the right to ask for what 3. You have the responsibility to
you need and want in order to be acknowledge and address the needs
effective. of others.
4. You have the right to set 4. You have the responsibility to respect
reasonable limits. the limits and boundaries of others.
Passive Assertive Aggressive
Assertive Communication:
Direct, Honest, Respectful
Shift To Assertive Communicator
“An Assertive manager is not an Aggressive Manager and a Tolerant manager is
not a Passive manager”
A Adult
C Child
•Each Communication comes out of a certain P Parent
ego.
•There are three main egos for every A Adult
communication we make
C Child
How does it work?
P P
A A
C C
Shift to Adult Communication
P P P P
A A A A
C C C C
How to listen?
Listening
Humming…
Paraphrasing
Listening
• We listen for three main reasons:
– Pleasure
– Information
– Safety/Security
• What makes a person a good listener?
– Calm
– Alert
– Open
– Interested
Distractions From Good Listening
• Preconceptions about the subject or subordinate
• Talks too quickly or too slowly
• Lack of interest in the subject
• Prior knowledge of the subject
• Extraneous noise, activity or movement
• Day dreaming
• Comfortable
• Uncomfortable
• Presence of others
Steps of listening
Meaning
Message
feedback
• Constructive
VS
• Destructive
Answer
• First Panel: 1c, 2b, 3a, 4c
• Second Panel: 1b, 2a, 3c, 4a
• Third Panel: 1a, 2d, 3d, 4b
• Fourth: 1d, 2c, 3b, 4d
THE SKILLS OF CLARIFYING AND CONFIRMING
Introduction
• Interactive listening
Exercise
When Is Clarification
Needed?
It is needed . . . to clarify . . .
• If what the subordinate has
said to you is unclear WHAT
• If the reason for the subordinate's
comment is unclear WHY
• If you need more information to
determine the critical point WHAT/WHY
How To Clarify
• Constructive Criticism
• Managing Conflict
• Decision-Making
• Giving Praise
LACK OF AGREEMENT
BETWEEN TWO PEOPLE
When Does Conflict Exist?
• Cannot arrive at a
mutually acceptable
stance or position
• Needs, priorities or
attitudes are
incompatible with yours
Defining The Gap
• Clarify/confirm what
is important to the
other(s) and why
Barriers To Eliminating The
Gap
• Time
• Restrictions or restraints
Methods Of Eliminating The
Gap
Use DISCUSSION SKILLS to
explore ideas and find alternatives:
• Solicit the thoughts of the med
rep
• Ask for ideas; give feedback
• Draw a balanced picture
• Offer ideas of your own; accept
feedback
TERMINATING THE
PROCESS
• Unable to consider the alternatives
suggested
• Unable to reach a mutually acceptable
position
• When agreement has been reached
– Summarize what has been discussed
– Summarize agreement and action steps
resulting from the discussion
GIVING PRAISE
What Is Praise?
• The recognition of
performance that is
important to the Manager
• To be effective, give
feedback to the
subordinate specific to the
activity which is being
recognized.
• Accuracy is the key
WHO SHOULD RECEIVE
PRAISE?
Whom Do You Praise?
When someone:
• performed at a level not
usually reached by that
individual
• performed constantly at
an acceptable level
• reaches a level of
excellence by comparison
THE PRAISE STATEMENT
The cost of not listening is staggering, but the truth is, we can all
learn to listen better, if we follow some key guidelines.
Listening for Answers
We all experience common listening problems
• Closed questions are those that can be answered by either “yes” or “no”
or with a specific bit of data
S Smile
O Open Posture
F Forward Lean
T Touch
E Eye Contact
N Nod
•Completeness Provide all necessary information. Answer all questions
asked. Give something extra, when desirable.
•Conciseness Eliminate wordy expressions. Include only relevant
material. Avoid unnecessary repetition.
•Consideration Focus on ‘you’ instead of ‘I’ or ‘we’. Show audience
benefit or interest in receiver. Emphasize positive ,pleasant facts.
•Concreteness Use specific facts and figures. Put actions in your verbs.
Choose vivid, image building words.
•Clarity Choose precise, concrete and familiar words. Construct effective
sentences, and paragraph.
•Courtesy Be sincerely tactful, thoughtful, and appreciative. Use
expressions that show respect. Choose non discriminatory expressions.
•Correctness Use the right level of language. Check accuracy of figures,
facts and words. Maintain acceptable writing mechanics.
Communication Window
We see the world through many windows: These can
sometimes be a barrier to good communication. How?
Experience Emotions
Background Attitudes
Culture Subject Knowledge
Prejudice Mood
Wording Education
Noise Level Ambiguity
Perceptions Non-verbal message
Hearing difficulties
• What are some of the things we can do to help us communicate
better IN MY ORGANIZATION?
• Which of these things are physical and which of them are mental?
• Get information
• Focus conversations
• Solicit opinions
• Gain consensus
Probing
When you probe, you:
When you use probes, you help improve communication on both sides
of the table.
Types of Probes
There are five probes that help you draw out information and ideas
from candidates.
• open probes
• pauses
• reflective statements/echoes
• summary probes
• fact-finding questions, and
• closed questions
Caution: Fact-finding Probes That Become
Leading
ACKNOWLEDGE FEELINGS
ENCOURAGE
ACKNOWLEDGE IDEAS
QUESTION
INFORM
DIRECT
CRITICIZE
Exercise: Building Trust
Facial Expressions
Frown Displeasure, unhappiness
Smile Friendliness, happiness
Raised eyebrows Disbelief, amazement
Narrowed eyes Anger
Blushing Embarrassment
Eye Contact
Glancing Lack of interest
Steady Active listening, interest, seduction
Hand Arm Gestures
Pointing finger Authority, displeasure, lecturing
Folded arms Not open to change, preparing to speak
Arms at side Open to suggestions, relaxed
Hands uplifted outward Disbelief, puzzlement, uncertainty
Body Postures
Fidgeting, doodling Boredom
Hands on hips Anger, defensiveness
Shrugging shoulders Indifference
Squared stance or shoulders Problem-solving, concern, listening
Biting lip, shifting, jingling money Nervousness
Sitting on edge of chair Listening, great concern
Slouching in chair Boredom, lack of interest
Clothing
Business dress Authoritative, conservative
Sloppy attire Disrespect, lack of responsibility
Casual clothes Relaxation
Proxemics (Physical Space)
From physical contact to 18 inches Intimate space
From 18 inches to 4 feet Personal space
From 4 feet to 8 feet Social space
From 8 feet outward Public space
Voice Characteristics
Speaking loudly, quickly, and with clipped
Anger
enunciation
Monotone and downward inflection Boredom
High pitch, fast rate, loud volume, and
Joy
upward Inflection
Status Symbols
Rare or expensive possessions High status
Prestigious titles High status
Voice: Qualities of a Good Voice