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Alone Together
Alone Together
Alone Together
Why we expect more from technology and less from each other.
By Sherry Turkle
phone.
● We as human are expecting more from our technology than from one
another
○ We expect the descendants of such primitive robots might
someday care for us
○ Many of the children she studied returned to empty homes after
school and wait for parents to come home from work
■ Often their babysitter is the television or a computer game
■ You program a robot- children from the study argue- that
they would more efficient than a human-more reliable and
could help with more practical matters
■ Can robots “double” for family members
● Grandparents
○ Considering these technology advances-embedding “human
emotions” is extraordinary- Sherry questions how far are humans
willing to give up to a robot.
Robot Connections
● There were discussions on how Cog and Kismet, interact with children and what children thought about the
robots
● Both adult and children are drawn to do whatever it takes to sustain a view of these robots as caring
● Robots can be used as a therapist and children are willing to work hard to win the robot’s affection
● Depending on the robots limitations, children also create narratives to explain why the robot cannot perform
certain tasks
● Children are desperate for attention, control, and a sense of connection, that is why they cling to the robot more
● There is a quote stating that “It is easy to become so immersed in technology that we ignore what we know
about life.”
Technology Replacement
● “Why do we believe that the next technology we dream up will be the first to prove not only redemptive, but
indestructible?”
● Studies are showing that some people seem to prefer a robot with simple demands to a person with more
complicated ones
● Technology (robots) is now being used to take care each other, instead of relying on our loved ones
● Twenty years ago, most people assumed that people would always be each other’s best companion, however,
● As we learn to get the most out of robots, we may lower our expectations of all relationships including those with
people
Robot and Human Interactions
● A robot’s gaze, face, and voice allow us to imagine a meeting of the minds
● They believe that such feelings will sustain people as they learn to collaborate with robots
● There is discussion on what is the difference between a robot and human connection to a pet and human
connection
○ Robots and pets fill the same void and bring the same amount of comfort
● We will evolve to love our tools; our tools will evolve to be lovable, ,
● The network prepares us for relationships with less than what robots provides
● With sociable robots we are alone but receive the signals that tell us that we are
together
● Networked, we are together, but become less willing to get out there and take a chance
● There are people who spend time on the virtual world and role playing games who say
their online identities make them feel more like themselves than they do in the physical
world
● There has been many changes where now multitasking is a crucial skill for successful
presentation?
● Adolescents are willing to risk their lives in order to stay connected with the people around them
○ Like texting and driving, falling down while looking at their phone
● Adolescents often feel that they are never alone and away from their parents
● However, they want to stay connected just not connected to their parents
● Teenagers often feel that they need to be connected in order to feel like themselves
● Creating social media profiles can be time consuming where they feel that they need to watch what they post or
like online or who they friend online because they are concerned about how others may see it
● They worry that if they are modest and do not put down all of their interest and accomplishments, they will be
● We can get consumed by what we post online and how we act online that we let it affect ourselves in the real
world
● We also find communication easier online, it is sometimes easier to apologize through a digital device instead of
saying it face-to-face
● “Looking to games for amusement is one thing, looking to them for a life is another” (P.224)
● Flow State: having clear expectations and attainable goals and a narrowed focus so that anxiety lessens. When we are
overstimulated, we are drawn to smaller worlds, like in online games, that may be tense in their challenges, but relaxing as the
stress of real life falls away.
True Confessions
● Confessional sites, like “Post Secret”, give users a place to anonymously speak out. Other readers may be cruel,
kind, or ignore your confessions. One user of the site says that it “offers the pretense of acceptance”.
● Another user of confessional sites states that they use it as a way to process through mistakes that they’ve made
and move on, without needing to apologize to the people their actions may hurt. This user points out that many
appear to use the sites this way, starting their posts with phrases like “I could never tell my husband but….”
● Some readers seem to attack various confessions, as they use them as a target for their own issues and
frustrations. One reader admitting that he felt extremely angered by a confession and attacked the poster for
ruining the relationship with her son, just as he was dealing with seeing his own son less often after divorce.
● Sherri points out that many people use these sites as a kind of therapy. However, in therapy, one learns new
ways to process old issues. Therapy also helps us to realize when we are projecting our own issues onto others.
On these sites, people are able to send their confessions to strangers and potentially receive encouragement but
do not get the insight of what is behind their confessions and struggles, nor have users built relationships of
sustaining support.
Anxiety
● Mobile communication eases feelings of separation and
isolation for kids. They are no longer completely cut off
from parents and safety when they leave the house. ● Various teenagers express concerns that
Having a cell phone means you are able to access their actions may be posted online without
information and loved ones in case of an emergency (the their permission. If they attend a party,
absence of the cell-phone talisman seems to cause a lot someone may take pictures and post them. If
of stress to those who were students during 9/11 and had they type something online, the conversations
no contact to family) may be copied and pasted, or even copied,
. edited, and pasted, and shared among
● Hannah, sixteen, dreams of one day meeting Ian, who she others.
has been talking to online since she was eleven. Although
she shares concerns that this person, whom she loves, ● When teens realizes that their data has been
may simply and easily one day disappear from her life. captured, they blame themselves for not
She also acknowledges that the internet can “bring out the being more careful. Some are sure to record
worst in people”, and often her online friends can be cruel. their most private thoughts in a physical
Originally, she hoped that having friends online would put notebook, where no one can access it.
her in control of her social life, but, rather, she has found Online, if they make a mistake, such as
that her online friends get angry if she has been too busy writing something rude on a friend’s
to spend time with them. Facebook, they can’t take it back.
The Nostalgia of the Young
● Many young people look fondly upon handwritten letters, the
privacy of payphones, and meeting people face to face, enjoying
the company of family or the beauty of nature. Commodities that
are rare for them.
Smart Phone Stress
● Texting comes with pressure. Many feel the need to be “on” and
“available” 24/7 and respond ASAP.
We project meaning onto robots, but forget to ask “What does the robot feel?”. Do we care?
ELIZA’s popularity revealed people’s reluctance to talk to other people.
We put aside the lack of actual understanding to continue the fantasy that there is an alternative to dealing with people.
Activity #3 For this activity, we left picture of memes on each
whiteboard.
to mind?
whiteboard.