THE SELF FROM VARIOUS

PERSPECTIVES
 TRUE SELF AND FALSE SELF
CONCEPTS INTRODUCE INTO PSYCHOANALYSIS IN 1960 BY DONALD
WINNICOTT
ACTIVITY :

1. WRITE 5 DESCRIPTION OF YOUR TRUE SELF AND 5 OF

YOUR FALSE SELF.
2. GROUP SHARING
3. EACH GROUP WILL MAKE A COLLAGE OF THE GROUP’S
TRUE SELF AND FALSE SELF
4. SYNTHESIS
 WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT YOURSELF?

• CHAR ED VIDEOS\AM I PRETTY ENOUGH_.MP4

 PROCESS QUESTIONS

• HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT YOURSELF DURING AND

AFTER THE ACTIVITY?
• WHAT HAVE YOU DISCOVERED ABOUT YOURSELF?
• WHAT ARE THE INSIGHTS YOU HAVE GAINED FROM OUR
ACTIVITY?
• WHAT ARE THE VALUES YOU CAN RELATE WITH IT?
• DO YOU HAVE SOME REALIZATIONS?
 THINK, SHARE

• WHAT COMES TO YOUR MIND WHEN YOU HEAR THE

WORD TRUE?
• WHAT COMES TO YOUR MIND WHEN YOU HEAR THE
WORD FALSE?
 Parenting
infancy

ROOT of the Formation of TRUE

SELF
And FALSE SELF

Can be taught

parents teachers
• REAL SELF
• AUTHENTIC SELF
• FEELING OF BEING ALIVE
• REAL NEEDS, DESIRES AND THOUGHTS
 A person is in her/his true self if s/he has a
sense of integrity and of connected wholeness.
 CHARACTERISTICS
TRUE SELF
• Like their bodies
• Appreciate their qualities
• Do not compare yourself with others
• Speak to yourself kindly
• Proactive
• Accept your emotions and know how to express
them
• Optimistic
• Welcome the praise of others
• Confident
• Look for challenge and adventure
• Live the present moment
EFFECTS: TRUE SELF
THE TRUE SELF AT THE CENTRE PROTECTED BY OUTER LAYERS
OF FALSE SELF.
As kids- attuned to parent’s feelings and
needs
 Unconsciously felt- need for parents’
approval and expectation
 The true self – the child’s real feelings,
needs, desires and thoughts – is pushed
further and further inside the onion

The false-self thought and behaviour

patterns we develop during childhood stay
with us as adults. While they used to be
helpful, they often become a hindrance as
we get older and gain more independence.
FALSE SELF

Repressed feelings
Pushed needs aside in
order to survive
 CHARACTERISTICS OF FALSE SELF
• PESSIMISTIC - REPRESS THEIR EMOTIONS
• TAKE NO RISKS - BLAMING
• HAPPY TO IMITATE OTHERS - FOCUS ON FAULTS
• CRITICAL OF THEMSELVES - SUSPICIOUS OF PRAISES
• LOOK DEFEATED AND DEPRESSED - NARCISSISTIC
• COMPARE THEMSELVES WITH OTHERS
• THINK THEY ARE IMPORTANT BECAUSE OF THEIR POSSESSIONS
 SELF-TALKS OF FALSE SELF

• IF I AM PRETTY, I WILL BE MORE LIKEABLE.

• IF I HAVE A LOT OF MONEY, I AM SUCCESSFUL.
• IF I WORK HARD/ACHIEVE MORE, I WILL HAVE MORE VALUE.
• ONE MORE GLASS OF WINE, AND I’LL START FEELING BETTER.
EFFECTS: FALSE SELF
When the person has to comply with external rules, such as being
polite or otherwise following social codes, then a false self is used.
The false self constantly seeks to anticipate demand of others in
order to maintain the relationship.
 HEALTHY FALSE SELF
we use our healthy false
The healthy false self is self: one that functions
described as one which There are times in our day- perfectly and allows us to
allows someone to be to-day lives when it would live our lives, but protects
functional in society. It be harmful for us to let our the true self, keeping it safe
enables politeness and true selves dominate until a time when we are
social courtesy, even when around people we know we
we may not feel like it. can trust.

A healthy false self is one that works with

Put simply, a major
component of the healthy
false self is an awareness of
personal boundaries.
and stays committed to the true self. It is
a form of useful self-protection, in that it
shields us at times when vulnerability
would not be appropriate, or might even
be harmful.
HOW TO LOVE AND DEVELOP YOUR TRUE SELF

1. GOD LOVES YOU

• GOD CREATED YOU IN A VERY SPECIAL WAY.
• HE SHAPED YOU, FASHIONED YOU, AND MOLDED YOU.
• GOD DESIGNED EVERY PART OF YOUR BEING.
• YOU CANNOT LOVE OTHERS IF YOU DON’T LOVE YOUR SELF
• YOU CAN’T BE SUCCESSFUL AND HAPPY IF YOU DON’T LOVE YOUR SELF
 2. ACCEPT YOUR SELF AS YOU ARE

• IN LIFE: THE MOST STRESSFUL THING FOR YOU TO DO IS TO BE

SOMEONE ELSE. AND THE EASIEST THING TO DO IN THE WORLD? TO
BE YOURSELF.
• AND THERE LIES YOUR GREATEST SUCCESS.
• AND YOUR GREATEST HAPPINESS.
• WHEN YOU BECOME YOURSELF, YOU DISCOVER THAT SUCCESS AND
HAPPINESS BECOMES ALMOST EFFORTLESS.
 3. FORGIVE YOURSELF

• DON’T BE IMPRISONED BY YOUR OWN WEAKNESSES

OR UGLINESS
 4. NURTURE YOURSELF

• BE SENSITIVE TO YOUR NEED

• FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF
• THINK OF YOUR BLESSINGS
• READ THE SCRIPTURES
• ENJOY YOURSELF, PAMPER YOURSELF
 5. SET BOUNDARIES

AVOID EMOTIONAL VAMPIRES

 6. AFFIRM YOURSELF

• I AM A GREAT PERSON
• I AM BEAUTIFUL
• I AM LOVED BY GOD

• THIS WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE!

CHALLENGE
 ASSIGNMENT

Go to this link and answer the quiz and make a reflection of the
result:

http://www.playbuzz.com/christynolan10/this-abstract-image-
test-will-reveal-your-true-self
 ASSESSMENT:1/2
MAKE 1 QUOTATION FOR TRUE SELF AND 1 FOR FALSE
SELF

RUBRIC:
POINTS 10 6
CONTENT The text is The text is less
striking and inspiring
inspiring
 ASSIGNMENT: JOURNAL WRITING

• USING PSALM 139 MAKE A PRAYER OF THANKSGIVING

ON HOW GOD FASHIONED YOU ACCORDING TO HIS
WILL.
 VIDEO

1. PINOY MILLENNIALS
CHAR ED VIDEOS\PINOY MILLENNIALS WHO ARE THEY AND WHAT THEY LIKE.MP4

2. PARABLE OF THE PENCILS

HTTPS://WWW.YOUTUBE.COM/WATCH?V=6KN9MESKY-O