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Lesson 16: Gender-Based Violence: Power, Use of Force and Consent
Lesson 16: Gender-Based Violence: Power, Use of Force and Consent
• Abuser: • Victim:
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• The victim senses the abuser’s agitation
• The abuser becomes increasingly and has the feeling of walking on eggshells.
The victim will do anything to avoid the
agitated and aggressive. appending explosion.
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• Some behaviors include: • Some behaviors include:
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• Agreeable/rarely disagrees
• Crazy-Making • Attempting to calm/soothe
• Criticizing • Intense focus on keeping children quiet
• Displaying moody behavior • Excessive nurturing
• Drinking/drugs • Staying away from family and friends
• Trying to please abuser
• Nitpicking
• Trying to reason with abuser
Acute Explosion
• Abuser: • Victim:
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• The victim may feel the need to
• The abuser initiates aggressive, verbal protect themselves, escape, or call
or physical abuse, in attempt to for help.
control and oppress the victim. •
• • Some behaviors include:
• Some behaviors include: •
• • Leaving
• Destroying property • Police called by victim or witness
• Protecting self
• Hitting
• Trying to calm batterer
• Humiliating
• Trying to reason
• Imprisoning
Honeymoon Stage
• Abuser: • Victim:
• The abuser feels guilty for inflicting abusive •
behavior, primarily out of a concern of being • The victim feels relieved, cared about,
found guilty of abuse, shamed by others, or left and questions their responsibility for the
by the victim, rather than feelings of sympathy abuse. They are happy to be in a place of
for the victim. peace and the victim believes there is
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hope for the future of the relationship.
• Some behaviors include:
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• Some behaviors include:
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• Begging for forgiveness
• Agreeing to stay
• Crying
• Attempting to stop legal proceeding
• Declaring love
• Feeling happy and hopeful of change
• Enlisting family support
• Returning to taking back the abuser
• Initiating romance gestures
• Setting up counseling
• Promising to get help
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