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PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
Objectives:
LOVE
ATTRACTION INTIMACY
ATTACHMENT
“Our succeeding relationships in the future are all shaped to
a large extent by our attachment to our parents.”
― JOHN BOWLBY
• Attachments are usually formed starting from the time a baby is in the
wom b of one’s mother.
• This kind of attachment is one dependency, and continues until such
time that the baby has grown to b e more independent.
THREEATTACHMENT STYLES:
1. Secure attachment
2. Avoidant attachment
3. Anxious-ambivalent attachment
Attachment Styles
1. Secure Attachment
• happens when the primary caregiver provides full-time
presence and attention to an infant.
• when all the emotional needs of an infant are met, provides
a sense of security to the infant.
• a child who is exposed to this style of attachment will grow up
to have more secure and stable relationships.
Attachment Styles
2. Avoidant Attachment
• happens when the primary caregiver is cold and detached,
and unresponsive to a child’s need.
• the child senses rejection and often leads to premature
detachment and self-reliance.
• person given this style of attachment will usually avoid getting
into meaningful relationships when they reach adulthood,
leads to isolation.
Attachment Styles
3. Anxious-ambivalent Attachment
• When the primary caregiver is not consistent in terms of
presence, and in meeting a child’s emotional needs.
• Often, experienced separation anxieties with a loved one.
• May have mixed feelings between hesitancy and
commitment when entering into meaningful relationships.
ATTRACTION
“ILIKEYOU”: The Magnet ofAttraction
Similarities
Differences
LOVE
“WHATISLOVE?”
A. BIBLICAL DEFINITION
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is
not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not
easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not
delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always
trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
LOVE
B. SCIENTIFICDEFINITION
Love is a powerful drive that excites the brain and sets neurological
condition, such that neurotransmitters release different chemicals
in the body.
Stage 1: LUST
This is driven by sex hormones; testosterone and estrogen
Stage 2: ATTRACTION
Dopamine, norepinephrine (adrenalin), and serotonin are chemicals in
the body that gives the feeling of being exhilarated, one gets this
feeling of being temporarily “insane”
Stage 3: ATTACHMENT
When a deeper relationship is developed which leads to a long, serious
commitment, there are distinct hormones which play an important part
especially when building a family and raising children; oxytocin and
vasopressin.
LOVE
C. PHILOSOPHICAL FORMULATIONS
Friends…
a c c e p t each other
confide in each other
trust one another to keep confidences
undisclosed
understand and provide emotional
support to each other
share significant interests
expect the relationship to endure
TYPESOF FRIENDSHIP
ACQUAINTANCES
Type of friendship whom you just join only once in a while or
occasionally such as fellow members of choir or school
organizations
COMPANIONS
Type of friendship where you share same interests through
regular interactions such as team mates in basketball team.
INTIMATES
Type of friendship where you give and receive opinions and
support. You find ways to regularly communicate through text
messages, telephone calls, or social media.
COMMITMENT
4. Be Tolerant
Do not expect perfectionism, d o
not b e idealistic and d o not try to
mold your partner into your box of
how things "should" be. These are
all relationship killers.
Every one has shortcomings, and
you need to let some of these g o
unless there is a pattern that is truly
damaging, harmful, or neglectful
to you or the relationship.
COMMITMENT