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Personal Develoment 3
Personal Develoment 3
Personal Develoment 3
QUARTER
14. Keep the friendship or childhood
that survives in the adult
Nothing can replace the friendship of
childhood that survives into adult. This
one is made of steel for it has survived
the rest of the time.
15. Don’t allow distance to separate
you from friends
In friendship long distance
relationship works. Friendship is not
diminished by the friend’s absence.
16. When you find a good friend,
stick to him or her.
A good friend is someone who can tell you
what is wrong with you. Though he or she
may not seem such a good friend after
telling that, stick to such a friend. A friend
who lovingly says what is the mater with you
is made of dearer stuff than one who
supports in all your desires.
17. Don’t be hasty in considering
someone as your friend
For one thing he or she may not like you to
be his or her friend. Moreover, Aristotle
taught us “Wishing to be friends is quick work,
but friendship is a slow ripening fruit.”
18. Turn an enemy into a friend
1. Problem-Focused Approach
This strategy fundamentally involves focusing on
the source of the stress. This may include trying to
analyze the situation and making extra effort or
working harder to solve the problem. Confronting
or communicating with the direct source of stress is
also under this strategy
2. Emotion-Focused Strategy
This approach encompasses concentrating on one’s
feeling or emotion brought about by the stress instead of
facing the actual source of stress. A person subscribes to
this strategy when he or she accepts the stress but mopes
around, keeps on complaining, or blames herself/himself
or others for the stressful event. This approach may also
entail resorting to drinking alcohol, taking drugs, and other
forms of escaping the stressful situation. Evidently, this
strategy is not advisable
Other tips on
coping stress
1. Engaging in Physical Activities
This includes exercising, deep breathing,
and meditation. Some also suggest
yoga or taichi. Physical activities
improve our resistance and immunity
against the damages brought about by
stressors
2. Doing activities that are relaxing
Relaxation is a remedy to stress. During stressful
events, it helps when we learn to stop for a while,
give ourselves a break, or engage in activities that
bring relaxation. Relaxation bring us back to our
senses, produces calmness, and contributes to our
wellness. Calming activities include walking one’s
pet on the park, taking a warm bath, reading
good books, watching
3. Acquiring social support
In times of stress and crisis, our loved ones, relatives,
and friends can provide us helpful emotional
support. The assistance and encouragement they
provide can make stressful events easier to deal
with. It is thus advisable to build a strong support
system. When we are physically and emotionally
alone, we are prone to be vulnerable victims of
stresses.
4. Getting ample rest and sleep
The significance of getting enough rest and sleep is
known to many. As adolescents often stay up late
at night, it is advisable that they get enough sleep
whenever proper opportunity permits. Enough rest
and sleep help people not only to perform well in
activities but also to resist the damages caused by
stress.
5. Being realistic
Involves acknowledging and accepting our
weaknesses and limitations. Nobody is perfect and
no one is a superhero. If we need help for
something, we should not be ashamed to ask for
help. Some people are better than us at least in
some aspects.
6. Thinking Positively
Our outlook and attitudes in life have an impact on
the way we see things. Thinking with optimism helps
us to make the best out of stressful situations. We
have to embrace life and its crises and learn to
laugh at ourselves once in a while. Though easier
said than done, it will help to be hopeful and have
an optimistic mindset even in the midst of negative
events. As the philosopher William James once
said, “The greatest weapon against stress is our
ability to choose one thought over another”
(William James)
7. Learning the art of resilience
There are people who are quick to recover
from stressful events. They have learned the
art of being able to bounce back after
experiencing crises in life. We should learn
and practice the art of resiliency to be just
“cool” and tough, despite high levels of
stress.
7. Learning the art of resilience
There are people who are quick to recover
from stressful events. They have learned the
art of being able to bounce back after
experiencing crises in life. We should learn
and practice the art of resiliency to be just
“cool” and tough, despite high levels of
stress.
CHAPTER 6:
THE POWERS
OF MIND
The Lateralization of the Brain: The Left and Right Brain
Theory
The theory of brain lateralization was developed by
Nobel-Prize winner Roger Sperry and Robert Ornstein. This
theory states that each side of the brain has different
functions. While human use both sides, each one has a
dominant side which, according to the theory, explains
much about his or her behavior, interests, personality, and
mode of thinking. This led to coined terms left-brained or
right-brained individuals.
More emotional, swayed by feelings, and seem to
view things and events through feelings. They look
at visual references as a whole and then go
through details. They are intuitive, believers of
imaginations and fantasies, risk takers, creative,
and unpredictable. They tend to organized,
unable to make clear their priorities, and lack time
management.
Right – Brained
Individuals
These people are very organized, logical,
and detail-oriented. They process ideas in a
methodical step-by-step manner and this
enables them to commit less mistakes. They
favor rigid schedules and deadlines. They are
more auditory learners and are better at
using words to remember things rather than
visual aids.
Left – Brained
Individuals
The Theory’s Advantages and Disadvantages
The left and right brain lateralization theory,
despite criticism, seems to help in improving
one;s learning. For one thing, it gives us a
picture of how the two hemispheres of the
brain distinctly function. It also provides an
understanding of what areas an individual is
naturally good at and those on which he or
she needs to improve or focus.
Upon knowing the brain inclination or to
which brain a person is “affiliated’ he or she
could think of ways to boost strengths and
compensate for weaknesses. Understanding
one’s strength and weaknesses based on
brain side dominance may lead someone to
develop effective ways to learn and study.
For instance, a right-brained individual who
has difficulty in following verbal instructions in
classrooms may make extra efforts to study
more. He or she may think of ways such as
writing down the teacher’s lectures and
instructions or making visual reviewers
However, being stereotyped as left-brained
or a right-brained person may have a
negative effect or may even impede
learning when this results in a self-fulfilling
prophecy. A self-fulfilling prophecy is “a
prediction that directly or indirectly causes
itself to become true, by the very terms of the
prophecy itself, due to positive feedback
between belief and behavior
A student who has branded himself “right-
brained’ may no longer study hard since he
concludes that his inclination is more into arts
than in academics. In other words, the
theory, when used, improperly, may lead to
a person creating himself in accordance to
his
A student who has branded himself “right-
brained’ may no longer study hard since he
concludes that his inclination is more into arts
than in academics. In other words, the
theory, when used, improperly, may lead to
a person creating himself in accordance to
his
CHAPTER 7: MENTAL
HEALTH AND WELL-
BEING IN MIDDLE AND
LATE ADOLESCENCE
Mental Health
Is a level of psychological well-being, or an
absence of a mental disorder”. It includes
social, emotional, and psychological well-
being a d has an influence on how an
individual thinks, feels, and behaves.
Good mental health is essential at all periods
of an individual’s life time-childhood,
adolescence, and adulthood. Adolescents
with good mental health and wellbeing are
those who have no mental disorders and
manifest positivity, happiness, health
relationship with family and friends.
Psychological Well-being
Psychological well-being is commonly linked
to happiness. Carol Ryff on the other hand
defined it in a boarder sense. He viewed it as
an optimal psychological functioning that
involves several dimensionos such as
subjective, social and psychological
Dimensions of Psychological Well-Being
1. Self-Acceptance
This refers to accepting oneself and putting up
with one’s flaws, imperfections, and
weaknesses. It involves realistic understanding
and satisfaction in one’s self which lead to a
feeling of worth, self-acceptance can be
achieved by accepting the fact that no one is
perfect, avoiding unreasonable self-criticisms,
and looking for ways to fix one’s defects.
2. Personal Growth
This refers to developing one’s personality and
identity, cultivating abilities, and acquiring
helpful skills in order to achieve dreams and
goals. Usually, the persons who strive to attain
personal growth are believers of positive
change and thus make efforts to reach their
potentials. They endeavor to equip themselves
with new knowledge competences
3. Purpose in Life
Psychological well-being encompasses the
capacity to envision one’s life as having
meaning and purpose. This means that an
individual sees that his/her life and existence
have a sense, point, and significance and
he/she has a mission and function in the
world. It involves the outlook that one is not
living just for the sake of living.
4. Environmental Mastery
This aspect is basic and necessary to live a
healthful life. It comprises the knowledge and
skills to control and deal with the world the
surrounding environment without being by the
difficulties and stresses
5. Autonomy
This refers to independence, self-reliance and
the ability to think and decide for one’s self.
Individuals who display autonomy are not
threatened by pressures brought about by
other people such as their peers. They can
stand for their principles, are not affected by
what others think of them, and are not
pressured to conform to others.
6. Positive relations with others
This denotes the ability to build trusting
relationships with other people. Individuals
with positive relations with others have
concern to, empathy with, and affection of
other people. They are able to share
themselves with others are secured in their
pressure relationships. They have a feeling of
being loved, appreciated, and understood.
Mental Health Disorders
Biological factors, such as genes or
brain chemistry
Life Experiences, such as trauma or
abuse
Family history of mental health
problems
1. Depression
The most frequent illness related to mental health
among adolescents is Depression (Knopf, 20018).
Moreover, other studies state that it is the most
epidemic of the mental health disorders and that
one out of four high school students manifests mino
symptoms of depression (Murphey, 2013).
Symptoms of depression include excessive
moodiness, weeping, changing in eating and
sleeping habits, hopelessness, worthlessness, and
expressions of wanting to hurt oneself.
2. Anxiety disorders
These disorders are disturbances in the brain
mechanisms that intended to protect an individual
from harm. Examples are phobias, post-traumatic
disorders (PTSD), panic disorder and obsessive
compulsive disorder (OCD). According to studies,
an estimate of 10 percent of adolescents possess
anxiety disorders with OCD being the most
common (Murphey)
3. Psychotic Disorders
There are interruptions in thinking perception,
and behavior, These mental diseases are
relatively sever. Schizophrenia and Delusional
Disorder fall under this category.
4. Eating Disorders
Many Adolescents have these disorders as they
are normally conscious of their looks and image.
Being excessively conscious of one’s body figure
can result in unhealthy weight loss. An example of
eating disorder is Anorexia, which refers to
changes in eating habits marked by conscious
avoidance of food. Another disorder is Bulimia, an
illness involving forced vomiting after eating. In
bulimia, considerable weight loss happens without
changes in eating habits
5. Developmental Disorders
These are disorders in brain
development Developmental disorders
Include, Autism, Attention-
deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD_),
and Learning Disorder.
6. Behavioral Disorders
These are defects in the anticipated
behaviors of individuals, especially the
adolescents. Behavioral disorders
include oppositional Defiant Disorder
and Conduct Disorder
STAYING MENTALLY
HEALTHY
1. Acknowledge your emotions.
Instead of acknowledging one’s emotions
people tend to deny, hide or avoid them.
Others even resort to various behaviors such
as overeating, drinking alcohol, taking drugs,
or sleeping excessively. By accepting one’s
emotions and letting ourselves experience
them, we would be able to understand them
in a clear picture and deal with them and
their causes appropriately.
2. Build a strong support system.
Establish and preserve strong
relationships with people from whom
you can get loving support. Our
relationship with others has a
tremendous impact on our overall
wellbeing.
3. Watch over your physical health
When we take care of ourselves by
eating right, engaging in physical
activities, preventing illness, getting
enough sleep and rest, we normally feel
good and function well. Physical
wellbeing is correlated with good mental
health, hence it is essential for us to
maintain a healthy body.
4. Do not be ashamed to seek for help.
Asking for help does not mean that you are a
loser. It only means that you accept your
limitations and weaknesses and the fact that
you need the help of others to survive. Be
helpful to others too
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CHAPTER 8
EMOTIONAL
INTELLIGENCE
.
Plutchik’s Wheel
of Emotions
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1. Intensity of emotions
The strength of emotions varies from very mild
to intensity of emotions may also correspond
to the degree by which an emotion affects
one’s behaviors
.
2. Types of Emotions
Robert Plutchik, the creator of wheel of
emotions, believes that there are just eight
basic or primary emotions such as joy
sadness, fear, anger, anticipation, surprise,
disgust, and trust. For him, each emotion has
corresponding opposites.
.
2. Types of Emotions
Robert Plutchik, the creator of wheel of
emotions, believes that there are just eight
basic or primary emotions such as joy
sadness, fear, anger, anticipation, surprise,
disgust, and trust. For him, each emotion has
corresponding opposites.
The Eight Basics Emotions
.
1. Joy
It is the feeling of happiness. It is synonymous
to gladness, delight, and bliss. Intense forms
are ecstasy, elation, and euphoria
2. Sadness
The feeling of being unhappy, gloomy, or
lonely. Its synonyms are grief, sorrow,
desolation, and melancholy
3. Fear
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NEGATIVE
EMOTIONS
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Personal
Relationship
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1. Identity Crush
Identity crushes are formed when an
adolescent finds someone he/she admires,
wants to imitate, or wishes to follow as his/her
leader. These often last long because the
admirer is using his/her “crush” in shaping
his/her values, ideals, personality, and
development.
.
2. Romantic Crush
Romantic crushes are formed when an adolescent
finds someone as attractive and feelis the desire to
be around or spend a lot of time with him/her.
Most romantic crushes are short-lived because
there is a tendency for the “magic” of the “crush”
to wear off. However, having a romantic crush
may give an awareness to an adolescent that
he/she is capable of having a “romantic love” in
the future.
.
2. Romantic Crush
Romantic crushes are formed when an adolescent
finds someone as attractive and feelis the desire to
be around or spend a lot of time with him/her.
Most romantic crushes are short-lived because
there is a tendency for the “magic” of the “crush”
to wear off. However, having a romantic crush
may give an awareness to an adolescent that
he/she is capable of having a “romantic love” in
the future.
.
1. MOTIVATION
2. GIVING
.
2. Romantic Crush
Romantic crushes are formed when an adolescent
finds someone as attractive and feelis the desire to
be around or spend a lot of time with him/her.
Most romantic crushes are short-lived because
there is a tendency for the “magic” of the “crush”
to wear off. However, having a romantic crush
may give an awareness to an adolescent that
he/she is capable of having a “romantic love” in
the future.
.
1. Dating
This is a process which offers opportunity for an
individual to know more about another person and
have a friendly association or enjoyable time with
him/her. Usual activities in dating are eating out in
restaurants, mailing, engaging in games together
and watching movies or concerts.
.
2. Selective stage
After dating, a person decides whether or not to
continue “seeing: a certain individual. In this stage,
a person also starts selecting the individual who will
be his or her “Steady”, that is, the person with
whom he/she wants to have a romantic
relationship
.
3. Going “Steady”
This is the stage where a sort of romantic
relationship is made official. This is marked by the
presence of “mutual understanding” between two
persons. This stage involves some sort of
agreement, such as exclusively dating each other
and the intention to probably proceed to
marriage in the future.
.
4. Engagement Period
This is the part where the couple is formally known
as “engaged.” This encompasses a sort of contract
and promise that on a set date, the engaged
couple will marry each other. This also entails
setting things for the wedding.
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Love
Love, truly, is something which cannot be fully
captured in any single definition. As it is subjectively
defined, there could be as many definitions of the
concept as there are many people defining it.
Indeed, love can really be many splendored thing.
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Intimacy.
Passion.
Commitment.
.
Nonlove
Where the three components of love are absent
this kind of love refers to the most common
relationship humans make such as informal
interactions or acquaintances.
.
Liking/Friendship
Characterized by feelings of closeness without
passion and commitment.
Infatuated Love
There is experience of passionate excitement but
intimacy and decision/commitment are missing.
When the feelings do not continue to grow with
intimacy and commitment, this kind of love may
suddenly fade
.
Empty Love
Just as the name implies. There is no love or passion
but only commitment. Examples of this are the
fixed marriages. However, a couple may begin
with empty love and develop into other forms of
love.
.
Romantic Love
The components intimacy and passion are present.
There is physical and emotion bond but
commitment is missing.
Companionate love
Can be considered as stronger than friendship
because of the presence of intimacy. There is no
passion but long-term commitment exists. This kind
of love is what we observe in young-standing
marriages and in the love among family members
.
Fatuous love
Concrete examples of this are whirlwind romances.
There is passion which resulted to commitment. But
since there was a rush decision to commit, there
was no opportunity for intimacy
.
Consummate Love
The perfect and ideal form of love everybody
desires to achieve. The loving relationship persists
and survives difficulties. The couples’ romantic
activities may go beyond years.
.
Commitment
Commitment in a relationship is a promise, pledge,
or decision to stick by each other through the ups
and downs of the relationship.
1. Commitment as an attraction or the “want to”
aspect
2. Commitment as an attraction or the “ought to”
aspect
3. Commitment as an attraction or the “have to”
aspect
.
Unacceptable and Acceptable Epxressions of
attraction
Adolescents, especially the ones who are new to
relationships, are commonly very impulsive. They
want to spend almost every minute with their
respective source of love or attraction. Unaware,
some may be displaying unacceptable
expressions of attraction
Acceptable
1. . Glancing at teach other
2. Verbal Communication Smiling
3. Writing letters
4. Phone calls or chatting
5. Giving presents
6. Showing attraction through social media (with
limitations
7. Holding hands
8. Walking arm in arm
9. Kiss on the cheeks or “beso-beso” in some occasions
10. Going out.
Unacceptable
.
1. Kissing/Cuddling/Holding in public
2. Flirting
3. Invading personal space
4. Intimate activities
5. Back
rubbing/Massaging/Caressing/Stroking