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13parenting Styles and Family Structure
13parenting Styles and Family Structure
13parenting Styles and Family Structure
parent’s choice of
99% of all parents want to parenting style?
be good parents, and avoid 1. The way their parents
doing what they consider to raised them.
be a bad parent. Regardless
of their parenting abilities, 2. The family structure,
they love their child. whether it’s a nuclear
family, step-family,
single-parent family,
extended family, one or
both parents work
outside the home, etc.
3. Ethnic background
4. Individual parenting
skills and knowledge
All parents incorporate both love and limits in their style of parenting, with
the balance of love and limits determining a particular style. There are 4
parenting styles, and most parents use some combination of the 4. Each
style has strengths and/or weaknesses, but only the authoritative parenting
style combines both high love and high limits. It is considered the best style
in today’s society.
Authoritarian parents value Low love and high limits.
obedience, structure, and
respect. And they believe in a
family hierarchy, with dad
usually at the top, mom next,
and children last. They use
external control to teach right
from wrong, such as spanking,
and are quick to act on a
The parents make the rules, and the
discipline problem. Children in children obey them without question
these families would not or negotiation.
describe the relationship with If the young child asks “why should
their parents as close, warm, I?”, the parent responds “because I
said so” (often a legitimate answer).
and loving. The underlying
assumption in this style is that
“parents know best”.
Low love and high limits.
Giving orders
Many individuals or
couples are simply
not prepared for the
demands of good
parenting. Children
take time, money,
energy, effort, and
good parenting
skills.
A balance of freedom and High Love and High Limits.
responsibility. Sometimes called Giving choices
the democratic or balanced parenting style,
it relies on the principles of equality and
trust.
Parents and children are equal in terms of
their need for dignity and worth but not in
terms of responsibility and decision making.
Parents model right and wrong by their
words and deeds, and give reasons for
limits; discipline is used to teach and guide,
not punish or control.
Parents present expectations to gain a
child’s cooperation and respect, including
demands of maturity.
Children raised by this style learn to accept responsibility, make
wiser choices, cope with change, and are better equipped to
succeed in a work-force which relies on
cooperative problem-solving.
Model traits of men and how to treat Help protect children from the
women harshness and reality of real world
Encourage children to take chances, push Model traits of women and how to
limits treat men