PERSONALITY

Understanding Personality
Personality constituents
 Physical Traits
 Psychological Traits
Personality Constituents
 Physical Traits  Psychological Traits
• Physical Attractiveness • Attitudes ( dharnai)
• Height
• Beliefs (Manyantia)
• Weight
• Fat/Thin • Motivations
• Physical body structure • Learning
• Gender • Perception (nazaria)
• Muscle composition
• Habits (adatay)
• Black /White
• Colour of your hair,eyes
----etc
Determinants of Personality
 Heredity
 Environment
 Situation
Developing a +ve personality
 Sub-conscious programming
 Auto-suggestion & repetition
 Defensive Approach
 Image Anchoring
 Body Language Approach ( Allan Peas)
 Domino Effect (For it is better to be alone
than in bad company)
Traits for building a +ve
personality (gun)
 Accepting Responsibility
 Show consideration
 Think Win Win
 Choose your words carefully
 Never Criticize Complain or Condemn
 Always put +ve interpretation on other persons
behavior
Traits for building a +ve
personality (gun)
 Always have a pleasant Smile
 Be a good Listener
 Be Enthusiastic
 Give Honest & Sincere Appreciation
 Accept Mistakes
 Discuss and never argue
 Don’t Gossip or listen to it
 Turn promises to commitment (dependable)
Traits for building a +ve
personality (gun)
 Be grateful but don’t expect gratitude
 Avoid bearing grudges:
• John Kennedy once said “forgive the other person but don’t forget their name.”
Means “if one cheated me once it is his fault, but if cheats me twice then it is my fault.”
Don’t be cheated regularly to forgive.

 Be humble , honest and Sincere

 Practice curtsey
 Develop a sense of Humor
 Show empathy : be caring and understanding feeling of oneness with other
 Developing a +ve attitude for effective
personality

 “Greatest discovery of my generation is human beings

can alter there lives by altering their attitudes.”
 William James father of American psychology
 understanding attitude
 attitude - A predisposition of mind.
 Determinants of attitude
• Environment
• Experience - If we get reward / benefit - +ve attitude
• education - teaches us- how to make living - how to live
Traits of People With +Ve & -Ve Attitude

 +Ve Attitude
• Confidant
• Caring
• Patient & Humble
• High Expectations of Themselves & Others
• They Anticipate +Ve Outcomes
 -Ve Attitude
• No Friends
• Difficulty to Keep up With Relationships
 How to form +ve attitude

 Change Focus From -Ve to +Ve

 Make Habit of Doing It Now
 Always be Full of Gratitude - but Not Complancent
 Learn to Like Whatever You Do
 Star With +Ve Note Every Morning
 Inculcate Philosophy of Gita in You
• (Karam Kiye Ja, Phal Ki Ichha Na Kar)

‘Success is a matter of attitude’

7 Habits of Highly Successful People by Stephen R.
Covey (Best Selling Book on Personality Change)

 Proactive
 Begin With the End in Mind
 Put First in First
 Think Win Win
 Seek First to Understand Other & Then Understood by
Others
 Synergize: (Whole Is Greater Than the Sum of Its Parts)
 Sharpen the Saw
• Increase Knowledge, Keep Fit , Healthy,read, Write, Take Leisure,
Exercise, Play, love, meditate
For +Ve Personality Develop a High Self
Esteem

 Self Esteem - What Man Thinks of Himself

 If You Think Yourself Is a Great Person Whatever May Come in
Your Way You Will Keep +Ve Attitude Hence Pleasing Personality
 Attitudes Are by Product of Self Esteem
 Esteem Is Unconscious Drive That Shows in Your Behavior
 All Achievers Have High Self Esteem
 Traits of People Having High Esteem
• Optimistic
• Motivated
• Ambitious
• Very Sensitive