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When Forgiveness Seems Impossible
When Forgiveness Seems Impossible
When Forgiveness Seems Impossible
Impossible
So what does it mean to forgive?
Forgetting?
No more pain?
No more anger?
Letting someone off
the hook?
Injustice?
Unfairness?
DEFINITION
FORGIVENESS is the
loving, voluntary cancellation
of a debt.
FORGIVENESS is both a gift
and a process.
Luke 7:36-47
Luke 7:36-47
Luke 17:3-4
The Offense
The Confrontation
The Repentance
The Forgiveness
The Restoration
ONE: The Offense
Matthew 22:37-40
To REBUKE is to "to
honor," or "to give
due weight or
value." To hold
people accountable
for their actions is a
way of honoring
them.
THREE: The Repentance
To REPENT means
“to change one’s
mind”
2 Samuel 12:13-23
And David said to Nathan: I have sinned
against the Lord. And Nathan said to David:
The Lord also has taken away your sin: you
shall not die. Nevertheless, because you have
given occasion to the enemies of the Lord to
blaspheme, for this thing, the child that is born
to you, shall surely die. And Nathan returned
to his house. The Lord also struck the child
which the wife of Urias had borne to David,
and his life was despaired of. And David
besought the Lord for the child: and David
kept a fast, and going in by himself lay upon
the ground.
And the ancients of his house came, to make
him rise from the ground: but he would not,
neither did he eat meat with them. And it came
to pass on the seventh day that the child died:
and the servants of David feared to tell him,
that the child was dead. For they said: Behold
when the child was yet alive, we spoke to him,
and he would not hearken to our voice: how
much more will he afflict himself if we tell him
that the child is dead? But when David saw his
servants whispering, he understood that the
child was dead: and he said to his servants: Is
the child dead? They answered him He is
dead.
Then David arose from the ground, and washed and
anointed himself: and when he had changed his
apparel, he went into the house of the Lord: and
worshipped, and then he came into his own house,
and he called for bread, and ate. And his servants
said to him: What thing is this that you have done?
You fasted and wept for the child, while it was alive,
but when the child was dead, you rose up, and ate
bread. And he said: While the child was yet alive, I
fasted and wept for him: for I said: Who knows
whether the Lord may not give him to me, and the
child may live? But now that he is dead, why should I
fast? Shall I be able to bring him back any more? I
shall go to him rather: but he shall not return to me.
FOUR: The Forgiveness
1 Peter 3:18
Because Christ also died once for our sins,
the just for the unjust: that he might offer us
to God, being put to death indeed in the
flesh, but enlivened in the spirit,
The COST of FORGIVENESS
Romans 12:17-21
To no man rendering evil for evil. Providing good
things, not only in the sight of God but also in the
sight of all men. If it be possible, as much as is in
you, have peace with all men. Revenge not
yourselves, my dearly beloved; but give place unto
wrath, for it is written: Revenge is mine, I will
repay, says the Lord. But if the enemy be hungry,
give him to eat; if he thirst, give him to drink. For,
doing this, you shall heap coals of fire upon his
head. Be not overcome by evil: but overcome evil
by good.
When facing forgiveness, think
of it as the process of a lifetime
Matthew 18:21-22
Then came Peter unto him and said: Lord,
how often shall my brother offend against
me, and I forgive him? Till seven times?
Jesus said to him: I say not to you, till
seven times; but till seventy times seven
times.
When you are the offender, be
careful not to demand
forgiveness.
Psalm 51:19
A sacrifice to God is an afflicted spirit: a
contrite and humbled heart, O God, you will
not despise.
In anticipation of future hurts,
begin developing a heart of
forgiveness.