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Assertive Communication: DR Shilpee A Dasgupta
Assertive Communication: DR Shilpee A Dasgupta
Assertive Communication: DR Shilpee A Dasgupta
Dr Shilpee A Dasgupta
Introductio
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• “Today we are faced with the pre-eminent fact that, if
civilization is to survive, we must cultivate the science of
human relationships.”
- Roosevelt, F. D., 1945
Verbal
Apologetic words, hidden Statement of wants, needs, Loaded words, accusations,
meaning, hedging, failure desires, honest statement of subjective terms,
to come to the point, feelings, objective words, commanding, dominant,
disconnected, at a loss for direct statements which say superior words; blame or
words, failure to say what what one means (I put-down (you message).
one really means. message).
Non-Verbal
a) General
Actions instead of words, Attentive, listening, Exaggerated show of
hoping someone will guess generally assured manner, strength, flippant, sarcastic
what you want, looking as communication of caring style, an air of superiority.
if you don’t mean what one and strength.
says.
Comparison between the three communication styles
b) Specific
Weak, hesitant, safe, Open, frank, direct eye Voice is tense, shrill, loud,
sometimes wavering voice, contact. shaky, cold, “deadly quiet”,
eyes are averted downcast, demanding and authoritarian.
teary, pledging, posture is Posture is stiff and rigid.
stopped; there is excessive
head nodding and tilting.
Hands are fidget and fluttery.
Feelings
Hurt, anxious, disappointed Confidence, self-respect, Angry, then righteous,
in self at the time and feels good about self at the superior, possibly guilty
possibly later. time and later. later.
Outcome
Does not achieve desired Achieves goals both long and Achieves desired goal by
goal, does not get needs met, short-term. Improves self- hurting, alienating and
accumulates anger, and feels confidence, needs are met, intimidating others.
The three basic styles:
• Passive style: Crippled display
• Aggressive style: Uninhibited display
• Assertive style: Tactful self-disclosure
The assertive communication style enables
a person to
express his/her opinions and thoughts in a direct way without
attacking others
refuse an unreasonable request without feeling guilty, give
people “constructive feedback” instead of “criticism”
give recognition and praise to people at the right time and
create a motivational climate
deliver a firm message by asking “questions” through a clever
approach or ask effective questions to probe for facts and
provoke for ideas
trust people
create a collaborative and congenial working environment
make long term relationships
Thank You