UNPACKING THE SELF

UNDERSTANDING THE SELF

Prof. Jemabel G. Sidayen, RPsy, RPm, LPT

  STAGES IN THE LIFE SPAN
 PRENATAL (FERTILIZATION) TO LATE ADULTHOOD
PHYSICAL SELF (DEATH)
TO KEEP THE BODY IN GOOD  BODY IMAGE – ENDOMORPHIC, ECTOMORPHIC,
HEALTH IS A DUTY… MESOMORPHIC
OTHERWISE WE SHALL NOT
 BODY FLUIDS – MELANCHOLIC, SANGUINE, CHOLERIC,
BE ABLE TO KEEP OUR MIND
STRONG AND CLEAR - PHLEGMATIC
BUDDHA  CONCEPT AND IMPORTANCE OF BEAUTY
 BODY IMAGE AND SELF - ESTEEM
  REPRODUCTIVE SYSTEM
SEXUAL SELF
LOVE IS A VERY PERSONAL,
INTIMATE GIFT. SOME PART OF
MYSELF MUST BE GIVE – OR MY
ACT IS NOT AN ACT OF LOVE AT
ALL - SULLIVAN
 PRIMARY AND SECONDARY SEX CHARACTERISITCS
 MALE AND FEMALE REPRODUCTIVE ORGAN
 PHASES OF SEXUAL RESPONSE – EXCITEMENT,
PLATEAU, ORGASMIC, RESOLUTION
 ATTRACTION, LOVE, AND ATTACHMENT – INTIMACY,
PASSION, COMMITMENT (STAGES OF LOVE BY ROBERT
STERNBERG)
 SEXUAL ORIENTATION
 USE OF CONTRACEPTIVE METHODS
 ABNORMAL BEHAVIOR
  ROLE OF MATERIAL POSSESSIONS ON THE SENSE OF
MATERIAL SELF SELF AND IDENTITY
I BELIEVE THAT A SIMPLE AND  CONSUMERISM – CONSUMPTION OF MATERIAL
UNASSUMING MANNER OF GOODS AND SERVICES IN EXCESS OF ONE’S BASIC
LIFE IS BEST FOR EVERYONE,
BEST FOR BODY AND MIND - NEEDS
EINSTEIN  NEEDS VS WANTS
  MAN SEARCH FOR MEANING (VICTOR FRANKL)
SPIRITUAL  LOGOTHERAPY
SELF  ASSUMPTIONS – MIND, BODY, SPIRIT
JUST AS A CANDLE  MEANING.
CANNOT BURN  WILL,
WITHOUT FIRE, MEN  FREEDOM,
CANNOT LIVE WITHOUT  QUALITY,
SPIRITUAL LIFE -
 UNIQUENESS
BUDDHA
  THEORY OF POLITICAL PARTICIPATION
 CITIZENSHIP
 CITIZEN’S ACTIONS OR ACTIVITIES ANCHORED IN
POLITICAL SELF POLITICS
It is a useless life that is not  FILIPINO TRAITS
consecrated to a great ideal. It is like  POSITIVE – Bayanihan, Religiosity, Close Family Ties
a stone wasted on the field without  NEGATIVE – Crab Mentality, Ningas Kugon, Colonial Mentality,
becoming a part of any edifice – Mañana Habit, Corruption
Jose Rizal
  SELF – PRESENTATION:
 Self is heavily influenced by feedback of others.

DIGITAL  The process of controlling how one is perceived by other people

SELF  IMPRESSION MANAGEMENT

How can we expect another  IMPACT OF ONLINE INTERACTIONS ON THE SELF

to keep our secret if we  DATA PRIVACY ACT of 2012
cannot keep it ourselves –  Protects the fundamental human right of privacy, of
de la Rochefoucald communication while ensuring free flow of information to
promote innovation and growth
  METACOGNITION
MANAGING  KNOW YOUR LIMITS

AND CARING  MODIFY YOUR APPROACH

 SKIMMING
FOR THE  REHEARSING
SELF  SELF-TEST
  ALBERT BANDURA’S SELF-EFFICACY THEORY
 SELF –EFFICACY
 PEOPLE’S BELIEFS ABOUT THEIR CAPABILITIES TO
PRODUCE DESIGNATED LEVELS OF PERFORMANCE
THAT EXERCISE INFLUENCE OVER EVENTS THAT
MANAGING AFFECT HEIR LIVES

AND CARE  People with high self – assurance

 Difficult tasks as challenges

FOR  Sustain efforts despite setbacks

 Take responsibility for failure
ONESELF  Exercise control over difficult situations
 People who doubt their capabilities
 Shy away from tasks
 Low aspirations and weak commitments
 Dwell on deficiencies and slow to recover
 Victims of stress and depression
  Carol Dweck’s Fixed and Growth Mindset
 Fixed Mindset
MANAGING  Emphasizes the belief that intelligence and talents are fixed traits

AND CARE  Growth Mindset

 Highlights the belief that talents and abilities can be developed
FOR through effort, good teaching, and persistence

ONESELF
  GOAL SETTING THEORY (EDWIN A. LOCKE)
 GOAL ATTRIBUTES
 INTERNAL – IDEAS REFERRED TO OUR DESIRED ENDS
 EXTERNAL – OBJECTS ASPIRED FOR

 MOTIVATION THROUGH CONSCIOUS GOAL SETTING

MANAGING  RESEARCH FINDINGS

AND CARE  DIFFICULT GOALS = GREATER ACHIEVEMENT

 SPECIFIC GOALS = PRECISE REGULATION OF
FOR PERFORMANCE

ONESELF  SPECIFIC + DIFFICULT GOALS – HIGHEST

PERFORMANCE
 COMMITMENT TO SPECIFIC AND DIFFICULT GOALS
 GOAL IS IMPORTANT + ATTAINABLE = HIGH
COMMITMENT
  MOTIVATION THROUGH CONSCIOUS GOAL SETTING
 CHOICE OF GOAL DIFFICULTY + COMMITMENT + TASK
STRATEGY = SELF EFFICACY
 FEEDBACK ABOUT PROGRESS IS KEY TO GOAL
MANAGING ATTAINMENT

AND CARE  GOALS LEAD ACTIONS TO SPECIFIC DIRECTION

 GOALS STIMULATE PLANNING
FOR  TRAINING AND EXPERIENCE IS KEY TO OVERCOME

ONESELF COMPLEX TASKS

 SELF – REGULATION AND SLEF – MANAGEMENT IS
IMPORTANT
 THANK YOU &
- THE END - GOD BLESS YOU
ALL